Psych Evaluation (Ace Edition)
Hey friends, today I’m going to share with y’all the really fucked up aphobia in my psych eval. Consider that your content warning.
So, I had to get a psych eval for a job. Very standard for this particular job and this is a “ten full pages of analysis” kind of psych eval with a psychiatrist.
Everything was going along smoothly until we got to the sex part of the interview. She asks what my orientation is and I said “asexual”. She responds with the question “so, celibate?”. I sigh inwardly and launch into “Canned explanation of Asexuality #4: why asexuality is not celibacy”. I’m rather annoyed at this point because the APA recognizes asexuality and I really don’t feel like I should have to explain this to someone with a doctorate and license from the APA, but hey, we all have our growing edges. So we move on with the interview and I think everything is fine.
Fast forward to seeing the results (the job has a standing policy of letting applicants also see their results). This woman, no joke, spent a full page going on this wild rant about how my lack of sexual attraction was clearly the result of trauma that I suffered in my early teens that had paused my emotional development. That while I expressed a desire for a partner for “companionship, support, and affection” that I had no desire for a “mature, adult relationship and intimacy”. And that my desire for a relationship sans sex was “naive and unrealistic”. She then went on to heavily imply that I would need “close adult supervision around any children” as they would be “on about the same emotional level” and to prevent me from “finding my life partner in a child”. She was at least kind enough to follow that up with a line about how I had “NOT (her all caps) exhibited any warning signs of predatory behavior” so thanks for that I guess.
She then went on this whole thing about how I “refused to identify the genders of my previous romantic partners” which no? I think she was referencing the fact that I used the terms “partner” and “SO” instead of “boyfriend/girlfriend”. She definitely never asked their genders. But she said that I needed to continue therapy to “deal with my issues around my sexual orientation” so I’m pretty sure she was implying I’m gay and in denial or something.
So yeah, that’s how my day is going, how’re y’all doing?
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Hey friends, today I’m going to share with y’all the really fucked up aphobia in my psych eval. Consider that your content warning.
So, I had to get a psych eval for a job. Very standard for this particular job and this is a “ten full pages of analysis” kind of psych eval with a psychiatrist.
Everything was going along smoothly until we got to the sex part of the interview. She asks what my orientation is and I said “asexual”. She responds with the question “so, celibate?”. I sigh inwardly and launch into “Canned explanation of Asexuality #4: why asexuality is not celibacy”. I’m rather annoyed at this point because the APA recognizes asexuality and I really don’t feel like I should have to explain this to someone with a doctorate and license from the APA, but hey, we all have our growing edges. So we move on with the interview and I think everything is fine.
Fast forward to seeing the results (the job has a standing policy of letting applicants also see their results). This woman, no joke, spent a full page going on this wild rant about how my lack of sexual attraction was clearly the result of trauma that I suffered in my early teens that had paused my emotional development. That while I expressed a desire for a partner for “companionship, support, and affection” that I had no desire for a “mature, adult relationship and intimacy”. And that my desire for a relationship sans sex was “naive and unrealistic”. She then went on to heavily imply that I would need “close adult supervision around any children” as they would be “on about the same emotional level” and to prevent me from “finding my life partner in a child”. She was at least kind enough to follow that up with a line about how I had “NOT (her all caps) exhibited any warning signs of predatory behavior” so thanks for that I guess.
She then went on this whole thing about how I “refused to identify the genders of my previous romantic partners” which no? I think she was referencing the fact that I used the terms “partner” and “SO” instead of “boyfriend/girlfriend”. She definitely never asked their genders. But she said that I needed to continue therapy to “deal with my issues around my sexual orientation” so I’m pretty sure she was implying I’m gay and in denial or something.
So yeah, that’s how my day is going, how’re y’all doing?
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what hobbies have captivated you more than sex ever could?
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question?
okay okay SO. uhm, if i enjoy partaking in reading suggestive fanfiction in between two fictional characters, but i don't like it when it comes to myself, what am i? 😅😅😅
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okay okay SO. uhm, if i enjoy partaking in reading suggestive fanfiction in between two fictional characters, but i don't like it when it comes to myself, what am i? 😅😅😅
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an epiphany i had
hii! new member here. in short, i recently came to terms with my asexuality, so that's what made me join this sub. i hope you all welcome and support me <3
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hii! new member here. in short, i recently came to terms with my asexuality, so that's what made me join this sub. i hope you all welcome and support me <3
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I was rereading Clinic of Horrors on Webtoon and I found this!
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so sick of remembering sex as traumatic
most of the time we had sex it was normal consent, like on the scale of enthusiastic consent to coerced consent it was always in that middle of willing consent and sometimes unwilling consent. so like there’s nothing majorly bad going on there. I just kind of interpret it ‘wish that could’ve happened differently’. anyway. whenever I see sexual stuff it makes me feel panicky, it reminds me of sex like it’s a bad thing. I remember my ex in a good light in a bad situation. I remember my discomfort. but I consented. I feel like I’m in such a grey area here
sorry for my rambling, I’m about to sleep this panic off haha
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most of the time we had sex it was normal consent, like on the scale of enthusiastic consent to coerced consent it was always in that middle of willing consent and sometimes unwilling consent. so like there’s nothing majorly bad going on there. I just kind of interpret it ‘wish that could’ve happened differently’. anyway. whenever I see sexual stuff it makes me feel panicky, it reminds me of sex like it’s a bad thing. I remember my ex in a good light in a bad situation. I remember my discomfort. but I consented. I feel like I’m in such a grey area here
sorry for my rambling, I’m about to sleep this panic off haha
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Once again something I liked reminded someone else of sex and now it’s ruined for me…
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Anyone else annoyed by random out of the context sex scenes in movies?
Like dude, if I wanted to watch porn, I'd go watch Pornhub, not watch fukin' a horror movie. Most of the scenes are irrelevant and unnecessary fanservice and I don't need it.
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Like dude, if I wanted to watch porn, I'd go watch Pornhub, not watch fukin' a horror movie. Most of the scenes are irrelevant and unnecessary fanservice and I don't need it.
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