Your integrity is more important than your reputation.

Because your reputation depends on how others perceive you, and that cannot be trusted.

Sometimes, no matter how good you are, people will demonize you and negatively impact your reputation because it serves their interest.

But your integrity?

You live with that.

It's always there.

If you compromise on it, you will have a hard time looking at yourself in the mirror.

Youre integrity is sacred.

Preserve it at all costs.

And most importantly, do not compromise your integrity just to build a reputation.

You will hate yourself for it.

And hating yourself is the worst thing you can do.

Want to build a strong reputation?

Uphold your values, be the person you claim to be.

All the time.

Work on preserving and maintaining your integrity and your reputation will improve effortlessly.

Do the inner work, do not chase the external validation.

Focus on yourself not what people say and think of you.

Don't shy away from confrontation.
Don't be a coward.

Stand up for yourself, stand up for your ideas, stand up for the people you care about.

You're either brave or you're a coward.

There is not in-between.

Of course there are types of bravery and cowardice.

But if you don't stand up for yourself, whether you're brave or a coward is obvious.

Yes, not all battles are worth fighting.

But that doesn't mean you should be passive and be too tolerant.

By letting people step on your toes, you lose your own self-esteem.

It goes deeper than most people care to admit.

But the more often you fail to assert yourself, the more you will grow to resent yourself.

You don't want this.

Listen:

You will make mistakes.
You will make bad decisions.
You will stand up to stronger than you.

But from all of those, you will learn when to talk and when to shut up.
You will learn how and when to stand up for yourself and go for confrontation; you will also learn how and when to compromise and make concessions.

But unless you do go for confrontation and force yourself to speak your mind out, you will never get to learn these things.

If all you do is concede and let it slide, you will never know the other side of the coin.

Stop censoring yourself.
Start standing up for yourself, even if it seems foolish to do so.

Soon enough, you will have a strong enough character that most people don't even try to fuck with you.

Getting in a position of power makes you subject to even more critique.

Being the one that calls the shots exposes you to everyone to judge.

Fortunately, their thoughts are often worthless.

I'm at peace ever since I realized that resistance will always be there, opposition will always disagree so...

I just do my thing, reward whoever is on board and fight whoever stands in my way.

Forget about a conflict-less life.

Humans like conflict, avoiding it will bring you more of it.

Once you set it clear that you're open to take on whoever stands in your way, people will think twice before engaging against you.

Let it be known that nothing will stop you.

Don't fall for the trap of identifying with being either an introvert or extrovert.

Be both. You are supposed to be both.

Take the best of both worlds.

Your introvertive tendencies will help you sharpen your self-awareness and allow you to objectively analyze situations.

Your extravertive tendencies will help you find opportunities and seize them.

But both also have drawbacks.

Too much solitude leads to negative thinking and mental traps.
Too much socialization leads to codependence.

You need balance.
You need both.

Growing up, my father would always tell me:

"Son, you have to be like a knife.

Those who are on your good side have an unfair advantage.

Those who are against you are in danger.

Never get soft and blunt, keep getting sharper."

I never truly understood the whole meaning of it as a kid.

But as I get older, I grasp the full idea.

You see, where I come from, family is sacred.

The people who share your blood are a top priority.

No matter your differences and disagreements, you have to look out for them.

Of course, it doesn't have to be just for your family, close friends are also worth protecting.

But the idea is unless, you as a individual, get as sharp, powerful and dangerous as possible, you will not be able to help those you care about.

The best way to do that, is by empowering yourself.

Not just out of egocentric perspective, but also because there are people counting on you.

"Hide behind me while I clear the way"

Are you ready for 2023?

Happy new year Basedonia.

May this year bring joy, worthy memories, health and wealth.

Let's own 2023 together.

Much love to each and everyone ❤️

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STOP TAKING PERSONALITY TESTS

You'll take it and get your results and be thinking:

"Woaaah it's literally me!"

You idiot just gave them the answers.
You literally spoonfed the results, of course they'll feel relatable.

"But isn't that the point of a quiz? Synthesizing?"

Sure.

But the results are supposed to be absolute and correct forever.

Which they cannot be.

Personality quiz are based on your feeling and experiences at the moment you took the test.

It might be true for that specific moment, day, week and even months.

But the thing is, our personalities are shaped by the experiences we go through and how we react to them. Which can often be completely random.

It only takes one realization for your whole thought processes to change.

Your personalit keeps changing throughout time.

Haven't you ever met someone you thought you knew, but with time have become a completely different person.

Well that happens to all of us, we just don't realize it because it's not measurable.

And that, is exactly why personality tests are not reliable.

You cannot measure personality.

It might be useful for criminal profiling, makes the job easy.

But when it comes to enhancing your own self-awareness, do not count on external tools to tell you who you are.

You literally program yourself to be what you believe yourself to be.

You implant an idea of what you are in your mind and you try subconsciously to live up to that expectation every single moment.

That shit is far more impactful than you would think.

It's like in that movie Inception where they implant ideas in people's mind.

Well you do that to yourself constantly.

And looking to put yourself in a box (through personality tests or other ways) limits your potential and your ability to change and adapt.

Because that's what intelligence is, the ability to adapt.

And unless you accept that you are ever changing, you will forever limit yourself to whatever ideas you have accepted as true.

This is dangerous.

Adopt the growth mindset.

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I'm often asked:

"How can I become more confident"

"How do I become more resilient"

"How do I stand up for myself"

Or

"How do I stop freezing in conversations"

Funnily enough, the answer to all of those questions is, at the root, the same.

All of those highly depend on how you view and value yourself.

Do you think you deserve the best?

Who are you to yourself?

The thing is, with a strong self-image, you won't freeze, you will be confident and more resilient.

And you will also tolerate nobody's bullshit when it crosses your boundaries.

The answer is what is your relationship with yourself?

Because at the end of the day, that is exactly what each and everyone of us projects on a daily basis.

Fix your relationship with yourself and you will stop fucking up things.

Internalize this.

HOW TO BE IRRESISTIBLE

[read to learn how to get people you are meeting for the first time to do your bidding without developing a prior relationship]

STEP 1: Be calm at all times

The most seductive quality a man can have is calmness.
While the world burns to ashes you must not be moved by anything or anyone. You are the center of the universe, and nothing around you affects you. You alone are in control of your emotions.


If your friend stands up and insults you publicly, then walks away, say nothing and just have a quirky smile on your face that says “I don’t care.”
Your demeanor should draw people into you, not repel them. Calm, chilled demeanor but with a devilish gaze is extremely intriguing.

STEP 2: Always have a half smile

When someone says something funny, there is a stage just before you smile. That stage is where your lips are just about to widen, but your eyes are already lit up.
When you look at your interlocutor, have this look. But don’t smile.


You’ll have to learn how to do this one with constant practice to get it right.
This is to avoid being repulsive with a frowning or hostile expression, but yet not be constantly smiling like a total idiot. You’re neutral, with an inviting look, but a strong personality.


3 STEP 3: Make requests like they were demands

Don’t ask as if you expect to be turned down. Ask as if you’re just following due process but you know your request will be accepted.
Don’t say:
“Would you like to dance with me?”
Say:
“Dance with me.”


Don’t say:
“Bro, would you like to go grab some drinks?”
Say: [you guessed it]
“Let’s go grab some drinks, man.”


Easier to say “No thank you to the first request” than to the second one.
Turning down the second request seems a bit rude, even though it isn’t.
You want people to feel a heavy burden of responsibility when declining your requests.


STEP 4: Say less

Being verbose is perhaps the most unattractive trait a person can have when meeting new people.
Allow them to talk about themselves more and wonder about you. But don’t be so quiet that they actually have to start trying to get you to talk.


Every time they catch themselves saying too much their brain goes “oh shit, I really like this guy, otherwise why would I be saying so much to him”


STEP 5: Always appear impeccable

You could appear like trash and still manage to be super-intriguing, but I’m sure you wouldn’t want that.
Don’t even appear mid. Your dressing should be a little over, every single time. Better to be slightly overdressed than underdressed for the occasion.


Your dressing, hair and facial expression will 10X your charm every single time.
I don’t need to explain this one as you already know it and if you didn’t; now you do.
So ensure you’re never dressed terribly when meeting new people.

A healthy ego does not need external validation.

What people call a "big" ego is in fact a weak one, an unhealthy one.

If you feel the need to show off and expose yourself, you might have to fix some deep insecurities you have.

Having high self-esteem and healthy ego don't mean that you constantly brag and play power games with everyone.

It simply means you value yourself, know your worth and are confident in your abilities.

That's just half the point.

The other half is that your privacy is priceless.

As they say: "The less they know, the less they can ruin."


Dont be naive or insecure to the point of exposing yourself.

Know your priorities.

GM, what's the highlight of your week?

CREATE ORDER OUT OF CHAOS

As a human, one of your core functions and “raison d’être” is to create Order out of Chaos. We’ve been doing this for tens of thousands of years at a large scale. But this is particularly important at the individual level.

Truth is, without this in mind, you will keep navigating life blindly, do activities you don’t enjoy, keep living a life you hate.

That’s not how it’s supposed to be.

You’re not supposed to snooze your alarm in the morning and hate yourself while you wash your face to start doing tasks that don’t fulfill you.

This is the reality for most people on this Earth.

They hate their lives, and they have no idea where they’re going with this shit.

When you fail to create order at a personal level, you become a mess and that’s no way to live.

Now, the question that begs for an answer here is:

How do you create order from chaos?

Or even what does it mean to do so?

Well for starters, let’s do a small definition.

Let’s consider chaos as the uncertainty and doubt while order represents clarity and intention.

You might feel like your life is ordered and you have it figured out.

But the right question to ask is whether or not you CHOSE that order or if it was IMPOSED on you.

To cut things down to the actionable part:

What do you want from life?

How do you get there?

What’s the next step?

When we talk about order being clarity and intention, it means that you wake up every day with a clear vision in mind to build and a specific task list that will help you make this day one more building block in the future you’re building.

When every day is a step of your plan, life starts to take all its meaning.

When all you do is wake up and survive, you get depressed, hate yourself and embrace the chaos.

Your lifetime is not supposed to build someone else’s vision.

Are you WORTHY ENOUGH OF BUILDING YOUR OWN VISION?

Or do you not value yourself to the point where you accept being a tool in the elite’s vision of the world.

What can you do every day to break free of this.

All of this might sound like nothing but rambling and ranting, or even abstract concepts.

But the thing is that you need to ask yourself the right questions if you want to get to the right answers. All the right questions are mentioned above if you know how to read between the lines.

And if you can’t, then simply ask yourself:

What do I want and what am I doing to get it?

The answer must not be vague.

You don’t just want to “get rich” or “make it”.

You want to define specific and measurable goals so you can reverse engineer a plan to reach them.

Getting rich, everyone wants that.

How about: I want to make 10 million dollars within the next 5 years.

What are steps I can follow and milestones I should reach in order to get to those goals.

As you start breaking it all down from the end result to the daily recurring tasks to do every day, you start having a stronger vision and determination.

And you know what you start feeling then?

That bitch ass motivation you’ve been seeking for so long.

Because now it has reason to exist.

Motivation does not exist in chaos.

Motivation needs clarity. It needs order.

The nature of psychological compulsion is such that those who act under constraint remain under the impression that they are acting on their own initiative. The victim of mind-manipulation does not know that he is a victim. To him the walls of his prison are invisible, and he believes himself to be free. That he is not free is apparent only to other people. His servitude is strictly objective.

Aldous Huxley, Brave New World.

Read it before its too late.