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-An in-depth workbook featuring engaging exercises and worksheets

-Real-life examples and scenarios to bring the concepts to life

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-Practice the "3-Second Rule": When someone asks you for a favor or makes a request, pause for three seconds before responding. This short break allows you to assess your feelings and make a more thoughtful decision.

-Use "I understand" statements to acknowledge the other person's perspective, without necessarily agreeing with them. For example, "I understand that you want to get this done quickly, but I feel like we need to take more time to make sure it's done right."

-Use positive statements to show appreciation for the other person's input, while still asserting your own opinion. For example, "I appreciate your ideas, but I still think we should consider other options as well."

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Understand this:

Your gut is rarely wrong unless you're a total moron with zero experience.

The ZERO experience part:

I say this often and I'll never repeat it enough times:

You can't win (unless pure luck or genius) if you've never lost.

Most of us are neither extremely fortunate nor extremely gifted.

Hence the importance of losing a few teeth and growing stronger ones.

This is figurative speech if you didn't get it.


Lose, fail, hurt, learn, extrapolate then try again.

The gut part:

As you make mistakes your instinct and subconscious learn faster ways to make better decisions.

Today, I had yet again another proof of it.

I won't get into the details but, long story short:

Months ago I suspected a friend to lie about his activities and intentions.

I gave them the benefit of the doubt and as usual, totally ignored. As most thing that I don't really care about.

Today I had the confirmation that I was right.

Back to the first line.

Lose enough times to develop a stronger instinct.

While it is true most people’s views on life don’t match with reality, there are a few who only have difficulty articulating their points.

Very few though. And it is usually expected that if you wish to share your opinions on a matter you must learn how to communicate it well.


Failure to do so tells of intellectual laziness and then again, we’re back to the beginning.

If you’re intellectually lazy shouldn’t the base assumption be that most of your opinions would be inaccurate?

For the simple fact that we can assume they weren’t “well thought out”

This is why you being wrong is not the problem. How you communicate your opinions is what matters.

You can’t be right about everything.

The question is do you really care about understand it?

I know cognitive dissonance is a thing even for smart people who aren’t intellectually lazy.

But that’s just one obstacle you must overcome if you’re to make any progress in thinking.

If you run a business here is a negotiation tip for you:

Whenever you need to discuss your pricing, refuse and offer additional services instead.

The price of what you're selling isn't just about the cash your customers hand over for your product or service. It's actually about how they see the value of your offer.

You might think that cutting prices is a good way to attract customers, but that's not really gonna help your profit margin, and it's not what people are looking for when they're seeking value.

What customers really want is to feel like you've considered them and their needs, made them comfortable, and treated them the way they want to be treated. Throwing in some thoughtful extras with your services can actually go a long way in making customers happy and satisfied, more so than just dropping your prices for a bit.

So, focus on appealing to those hidden desires of your customers, and before you know it, you'll have "advocate" customers who see amazing value in your organization – and you won't have to give up a single cent of profit!

Your actions should serve one main purpose:

Proudly saying this is the life you chose.

Nothing worse than being imposed a role to play.

Nothing better than becoming the person you chose to be.

Your integrity is priceless and irreplaceable.

If you do not hold yourself to high standards, you have no right to expect people to hold high standards for you.

It's stupid but a minimum amount of decency goes a long way.

Guess what?

Most people are indecent.

They do not reciprocate and they abuse others any time they can.

But if you start doing the same, you're no different than the worst of them.

If you genuinely want to be surrounded by better people; start with yourself and make sure you're worth being around.

Nobody's going to hold you accountable for this.

But again, if you don't uphold your integrity, you will always feel like a fraud.

Nothing is worth internal peace of mind.

Be a person of honor and values.

Be simply different.

Whatever you do, do it for yourself.

Don’t expect congratulations.
Don’t expect apologies.
Don’t expect gratitude.

Stop listening to people, you’ll never see the end of it.

They’ll always talk shit anyway.

No matter how you look at it, you are in the best position to decide of your self-importance.

You know who you are better than anyone else.

When I was nothing, when I was taking repetitive Ls, making the worst choices and wasting some of the supposedly best years of my life away, nobody saw that.

When I had only God and myself to count on, I don’t remember anyone witnessing the internal pain I went through.

When I pulled myself out of that shit hole, I don’t remember anyone pulling me up.

When life humbled me, nobody saw that.

When I rebuilt myself, now people want to have an opinion on me?

Who the fuck are you to tell others who they are?

Most people have no idea of who you are, they haven’t been there and all they can do is guess.

People don’t want you to experience what they don’t understand.

It makes them feel like they failed.

Nobody’s going to help you get what you want.

And when you do get it, they’ll say you don’t deserve it.

And if you take credit for it, they’ll say you lack humility.

Ignore that shit.

I'm thrilled to announce that our much-awaited course, 'Assert Yourself', is now live and open for enrollment! If you've already pre-ordered the course, check your Gumroad library!

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We, Social Skills University, made 5 ready-to-use assertiveness templates you can start using TODAY.

We know that once you start trying to become more assertive, you'll be met with a load of horse shit telling you:

"Be confident!"

"Stand up for yourself!"

"Believe in yourself!"

And other vague statements that serve no real purpose.

Listen, we know that is not real advice.

That's why we avoid it.

We know that you want exact formulas that get rid of the headache of having to come up with answers faster.

But the risk is using the wrong one at the wrong time right?

Don't worry. We made sure to explain each one.

Each of these is suitable for a different context.

But the best part? You can literally just reuse them whenever you need to.

No more guessing.

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Formula 1: I need _____. How about _____? 

Explanation: This formula helps you clearly communicate what you need without apologizing or justifying yourself. It's a simple and direct way to assert your needs and boundaries. The second part makes it clear that it's about YOUR needs and not about the other person. Your willingness to meet at a later time shows that.

Clear, simple, and effective.

Example: "I need some alone time right now to recharge. How about we catch up later?"

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Formula 2: When you ____, it makes me feel ____. I would appreciate it if _____.

Explanation: This formula helps you express how someone's actions affect you without blaming them. It's a way to communicate assertively while still showing empathy and being considerate of the other person's feelings.

This is better used in a one-to-one conversation. As it may make people feel attacked if there is an audience to the conversation. Better say this privately.

Example: "When you interrupt me while I'm speaking, it makes me feel disrespected and undervalued. I would appreciate it if you could let me finish before responding."

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Formula 3: I appreciate your input, but ______. 

Explanation: This formula acknowledges the other person's input while asserting your autonomy and decision-making power. It's a way to politely decline someone's advice or suggestion without getting defensive or argumentative.

Example: "I appreciate your input, but I have made my decision. I feel confident in my choice and would like your support in moving forward."

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Formula 4: I understand your concern, but this is what's best for me.

Explanation: This formula shows empathy for the other person's concern while asserting your own autonomy and decision-making power. It's a way to respectfully decline someone's input or opinion without getting defensive or argumentative.

Example: "I understand your concern, but I have considered all the options and this is what's best for me. I appreciate your input, but I feel confident in my decision."

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Formula 5: That doesn't work for me. How about we try _____ instead? 

Explanation: This formula helps you assert your boundaries and offer an alternative solution. It's a way to communicate assertively while still being collaborative and finding a compromise.

Example: "That doesn't work for me. How about we try scheduling our meetings earlier in the day instead?"

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Social Skills University's new course, "Assert Yourself!" is designed to help you develop your assertiveness skills, so you can communicate more effectively and confidently.

This course will teach you how to:

-Develop a deeper understanding of negotiation & assertiveness

-Maintain Healthy Relationships while Standing up for yourself

-Learn to say NO guilt-free

-Use the ECC Formula (Empathy, Clarity, Conciseness)

BONUS: Worksheets and exercises for every chapter.

By the end of the course, you will have the knowledge and tools to create your own assertiveness formulas.

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5 Tips for Mastering the Art of Assertiveness

Assertiveness is a crucial skill that can help you communicate more effectively, establish healthy boundaries, and maintain self-confidence.

To help you navigate this delicate balance, here are five key strategies to enhance your assertiveness:

Keep Your Cool in Stressful Situations

A key aspect of being assertive is learning how to remain calm and composed under stress. When you're able to maintain a level-headed demeanor, you'll be better equipped to articulate your thoughts and needs clearly.

So, take a deep breath, stay focused on the issue at hand, and remember that you have every right to express yourself.

Learn to Make Requests Confidently

One of the foundations of assertiveness is knowing when and how to ask for what you want. When making a request, be clear and concise about what you need from the other person.

Remember that it's okay to ask for help or support, and you shouldn't feel guilty for doing so.

Harness the Power of Assertive Body Language

Your non-verbal communication can be just as important as the words you say when it comes to being assertive. Adopting assertive body language can help convey your message with confidence and authority.

Some key components of assertive body language include: Maintaining eye contact Standing or sitting up straight

Using open, relaxed gestures Speaking with a clear, confident tone

Project Confidence Through Your Body Language

Confident body language goes hand-in-hand with assertive communication. When you display signs of confidence, others are more likely to take you seriously and respect your boundaries.

Some ways to project confidence through your body language include:
Keeping your chin up and shoulders back
Taking up space by standing or sitting with a wide stance
Using purposeful, controlled gestures
Avoiding nervous habits, like fidgeting or touching your face

Disagree Respectfully and Make Your Case

Assertiveness involves standing up for your beliefs and opinions, even when they differ from those of others. When disagreeing, make sure to do so respectfully, while clearly stating your own case.

This can be done by:

Acknowledging the other person's point of view
Stating your disagreement with specific reasons or examples
Suggesting alternatives or solutions that align with your perspective

"Everyone's friend is nobody's friend" is simply wrong and misleading.

It implies that friendship is a zero-sum game, meaning the more friends we have, the less valuable each one becomes.

That's simply not true.

Of course, quality over quantity. In all things, not just friendships.

But the more friends you have, the more valuable your network is.

The more options you have and the more opportunities come to you.

Friendships also have degrees.

A close friend is not an acquaintance.

So it's not because your close friend knows someone you don't like that they won't be loyal to you if need be.

To this flawed proverb, I prefer:

"You cannot trust a man without enemies."

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Lack of power is bad for your health. To have power is to be in control. To lack it is to be at the mercy of arbitrary decisions, mood swings, the agenda of those who can say yes or no.

This is very unpleasant.

You have already felt this sense of injustice.

Perhaps it was a job interview, a request for promotion, the cancellation of a fine, obtaining financing or the signature of a client...

In any case, you were told no. But you had done your job. Your request cost you time, energy, courage...but “no”.

A definitive “no”, a “no” that you have no control over, a “no” that can set you on the wrong track.

A “no” is a blow to your morale. It will trigger anger, sadness, shame or indignation.

The worst thing is that if you let these emotions show, you are confirming the other person's decision: it is proof that your shoulders were not wide enough, that you were not stable enough, that you were not ready yet.

This experience, when repeated, produces doubt: what if they were right, what if I was mediocre, less good than the others? This doubt produces stress: what will become of me? will I ever make it?

Yes, you will.

Make your plans and let people adapt to them.

Don't budge.
Don't compromise.
Don't negotiate.

The more you indulge in explanation and allow discussion, the more time you waste and the more likely you are to concede and go out of your way.

The best way to avoid being influenced or manipulated is by simply sticking to the promises you made to yourself.

Saying "I don't have time for this." should never sound bitter in your mouth.

It should sound determine and categorical.

Be sharp in your decisions.
Be consistent in your execution.
Be intense in the pursuit of your goals.

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Ego is not arrogance.

Arrogance is a behavior.
Ego is an idea.

Ego simply means sense of identity.

Ego being symbolic of arrogance is a common misinterpretation of the concept and a mistake everyone makes.

Words have meanings, you cannot just assume and use it however you please.

Ego is essential to human psyche and functioning, denying it or antagonizing it can only result in severe mental problems.

Ego is central to consciousness.

And without it, no human being can function.

The idea of transcending your ego is a religious fairytale.

As a human being, you cannot and should not try to get rid of your ego.

Because if you defeat your ego, then who wins?

Understand this:

You cannot run away from yourself.