Sometimes you have to let go of some friends for everyone's interest.
As much as we appreciate and care deeply for someone, it can happen that your personalities just do not match.
This can happen a lot with your childhood friends because the bond you created as kids was innocent and you can grow up to diverge in many ways.
As such, in your adult life, you will come to realize that you might b putting up with the bullshit of some people just because you've known them for a long time.
That's wrong.
What that does it accentuate said person's negative traits and negatively impact your peace of mind.
As a result, you nurture a harmful friendship that keeps you back.
But that's not just it.
You're not doing them a favor either.
Because you accepting their poor behavior encourages them to do it more often instead of working on it.
Of course, since you care about each other, walking away from them should not be the first thing you do.
You should try to talk sense into them.
Except.
Most people refuse to be reasoned with or corrected.
In which case, it is better for both of you to stop hanging around each other.
Maybe, a few weeks/months/years from now, they will realize their fault and try to fix it.
If not ?
Then did you really lose a friend?
Or did you get rid of a burden?
All of this to say:
Never consider that you have to be patient and understanding.
Never put your peace of mind last.
It should be your priority and when you deeply think about it:
You're doing them a favor too.
Maybe you're just not made to be friends.
Stop valuing people so much, learn to walk away.
As much as we appreciate and care deeply for someone, it can happen that your personalities just do not match.
This can happen a lot with your childhood friends because the bond you created as kids was innocent and you can grow up to diverge in many ways.
As such, in your adult life, you will come to realize that you might b putting up with the bullshit of some people just because you've known them for a long time.
That's wrong.
What that does it accentuate said person's negative traits and negatively impact your peace of mind.
As a result, you nurture a harmful friendship that keeps you back.
But that's not just it.
You're not doing them a favor either.
Because you accepting their poor behavior encourages them to do it more often instead of working on it.
Of course, since you care about each other, walking away from them should not be the first thing you do.
You should try to talk sense into them.
Except.
Most people refuse to be reasoned with or corrected.
In which case, it is better for both of you to stop hanging around each other.
Maybe, a few weeks/months/years from now, they will realize their fault and try to fix it.
If not ?
Then did you really lose a friend?
Or did you get rid of a burden?
All of this to say:
Never consider that you have to be patient and understanding.
Never put your peace of mind last.
It should be your priority and when you deeply think about it:
You're doing them a favor too.
Maybe you're just not made to be friends.
Stop valuing people so much, learn to walk away.
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Being likable isn’t the same as wanting to be liked.
Trying too hard or wanting too much to be liked can be especially unlikable.
Being charming isn’t the same as being witty or funny or outgoing.
In fact, some of the most charming people are relatively quiet and even shy.
This is a bit of a paradox because truly charming people may care about others and have empathy for others, but they do not put a lot of energy into worrying about what others think of them.
This doesn’t mean they are oblivious to how others perceive them.
They are very much aware of those who like them, and those who may not, but none of this causes them any angst.
Much like charisma, charm and likability may be hard to define, but
most of us know it when we experience it.
Trying too hard or wanting too much to be liked can be especially unlikable.
Being charming isn’t the same as being witty or funny or outgoing.
In fact, some of the most charming people are relatively quiet and even shy.
This is a bit of a paradox because truly charming people may care about others and have empathy for others, but they do not put a lot of energy into worrying about what others think of them.
This doesn’t mean they are oblivious to how others perceive them.
They are very much aware of those who like them, and those who may not, but none of this causes them any angst.
Much like charisma, charm and likability may be hard to define, but
most of us know it when we experience it.
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Adaptability.
That's the name of the game.
The more you're able to adapt to situations and figure out ways to make them play in your favor; the easier your life will be.
The ability to adapt your behavior to the situation at hand is immensely important.
As I always say:
You cannot afford to be a one-dimensional person.
That won't help you in delicate situations.
If you're a naturally shy person, it might be detrimental to you in situations where speaking your mind out is needed.
If you're a naturally talkative person, it might be beneficial to you to learn how to shut your mouth when needed.
Different situations call for different types of behavior.
You're not always going to have it your way.
You need to be able to understand the situation you're in and pick the right behavioral response.
Which cannot be done unless you improve your situational awareness.
And what better way to do it than to be aware of social dynamics and social codes?
As you learn more about those, you gradually start to know how to choose your responses and reactions.
This awareness of the situation and people around you is something many people lack.
Having this skill might just be the most important aspect of social settings.
There are two aspects to this:
Self-awareness: Knowing your qualities and position (the latter is important in a power dynamics context)
Situational Awareness: Realizing the context in which you are put and the position of the people involved.
Of course, there is no magic pill to improve these things, you will need to learn social codes and cues and then practice in real-life situations.
Something schools don't teach you.
If you didn't have parents that encouraged you to participate in socializing activities and gave you advice about it (assuming they're knowledgeable in the first place), you probably will have to go through the painful process of figuring it out on your own.
While I can't force you to practice, I can at the very least show you a set of essential concepts and codes that you can use to improve in this aspect.
The Secret Social Codes does exactly that, through its 22+ lessons, you can learn power dynamics, assertiveness, and specific strategies to use in specific situations.
You can check it out here.
That's the name of the game.
The more you're able to adapt to situations and figure out ways to make them play in your favor; the easier your life will be.
The ability to adapt your behavior to the situation at hand is immensely important.
As I always say:
You cannot afford to be a one-dimensional person.
That won't help you in delicate situations.
If you're a naturally shy person, it might be detrimental to you in situations where speaking your mind out is needed.
If you're a naturally talkative person, it might be beneficial to you to learn how to shut your mouth when needed.
Different situations call for different types of behavior.
You're not always going to have it your way.
You need to be able to understand the situation you're in and pick the right behavioral response.
Which cannot be done unless you improve your situational awareness.
And what better way to do it than to be aware of social dynamics and social codes?
As you learn more about those, you gradually start to know how to choose your responses and reactions.
This awareness of the situation and people around you is something many people lack.
Having this skill might just be the most important aspect of social settings.
There are two aspects to this:
Self-awareness: Knowing your qualities and position (the latter is important in a power dynamics context)
Situational Awareness: Realizing the context in which you are put and the position of the people involved.
Of course, there is no magic pill to improve these things, you will need to learn social codes and cues and then practice in real-life situations.
Something schools don't teach you.
If you didn't have parents that encouraged you to participate in socializing activities and gave you advice about it (assuming they're knowledgeable in the first place), you probably will have to go through the painful process of figuring it out on your own.
While I can't force you to practice, I can at the very least show you a set of essential concepts and codes that you can use to improve in this aspect.
The Secret Social Codes does exactly that, through its 22+ lessons, you can learn power dynamics, assertiveness, and specific strategies to use in specific situations.
You can check it out here.
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The realest people tend to be disagreeable.
You may clash with them.
You may disagree with them.
But you can be sure they’ll never sugarcoat it.
That’s the type of people I like to surround myself with.
Those who can call me out on my bullshit.
Not those who encourage me to stay on the wrong path…
Just because they want to avoid confrontation.
They’re not always the most pleasant and talking to them can be hard.
But having and keeping them around is of paramount of importance if you’re serious about growing in all aspects of life.
If your friends are always throwing compliments at you and telling you how great you are?
They’re deceiving you.
Get better friends.
Not cowards.
You may clash with them.
You may disagree with them.
But you can be sure they’ll never sugarcoat it.
That’s the type of people I like to surround myself with.
Those who can call me out on my bullshit.
Not those who encourage me to stay on the wrong path…
Just because they want to avoid confrontation.
They’re not always the most pleasant and talking to them can be hard.
But having and keeping them around is of paramount of importance if you’re serious about growing in all aspects of life.
If your friends are always throwing compliments at you and telling you how great you are?
They’re deceiving you.
Get better friends.
Not cowards.
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I learned it the hard way and I say it often.
For some you’re a genius
For others you’re an idiot
For some you’re a rare gem
For others you’re a waste of air
For some you’re everything
For others you’re nothing
But what matters is what you think of yourself.
That is the only metric that will ever matter.
The man in the mirror.
The thoughts in your head.
The value you believe yourself to have.
That’s the only thing that will drive you.
That’s the only thing that will take you where you deserve to be.
Everything else is tainted with the bias of whoever told you about it.
And none of those people will be there when you look back at your life.
None of them will be in your head seeing what you think about.
Everyone is too focused on themselves.
Don’t blame them for it.
Understand this.
And do the same.
Be aware of everyone’s biases.
Including your own.
But you won’t get this until you go through the painful lesson.
And some people will never get it.
And they’re not my responsibility.
Neither are they yours.
Focus on yourself.
Validate yourself.
Make peace with your ego.
That’s all you have.
For some you’re a genius
For others you’re an idiot
For some you’re a rare gem
For others you’re a waste of air
For some you’re everything
For others you’re nothing
But what matters is what you think of yourself.
That is the only metric that will ever matter.
The man in the mirror.
The thoughts in your head.
The value you believe yourself to have.
That’s the only thing that will drive you.
That’s the only thing that will take you where you deserve to be.
Everything else is tainted with the bias of whoever told you about it.
And none of those people will be there when you look back at your life.
None of them will be in your head seeing what you think about.
Everyone is too focused on themselves.
Don’t blame them for it.
Understand this.
And do the same.
Be aware of everyone’s biases.
Including your own.
But you won’t get this until you go through the painful lesson.
And some people will never get it.
And they’re not my responsibility.
Neither are they yours.
Focus on yourself.
Validate yourself.
Make peace with your ego.
That’s all you have.
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Link doenst work because the website is down.
Ill send the discord invite in a bit.
Ill send the discord invite in a bit.
Forwarded from Placide SOUWIN
I went through this and men, it's massive.
I believe this will definitely change lives.
And it would be ungrateful not to say a huge thank you to Ego.
You're a 💯🫵🤞.
I believe this will definitely change lives.
And it would be ungrateful not to say a huge thank you to Ego.
You're a 💯🫵🤞.
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Basedonia™ - By E-go
https://discord.com/invite/irrationaloptimists
Join before it’s too late.
It’s free and will always be; but access might be restricted and on application only in the near future.
I don’t want you to miss out on this.
It costs one click and you’re in forever.
It’s free and will always be; but access might be restricted and on application only in the near future.
I don’t want you to miss out on this.
It costs one click and you’re in forever.
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Never forget that most people are absolute pussies.
I said:
“Look at my wife the wrong way and I’ll end your whole fucking bloodline.
Some people have absolutely no clue who they can cross paths with.”
And Ive got answers from MEN who were not willing to even step up for the ones they love.
These are the type of people you dont want around you.
“Your wife is not special”
“Some people have guns”
“Catch a case then”
What type if spineless fuckers do you think these people are?
No sense of responsibility.
No sense of honor.
Do not be like this.
Be the fucking man.
Protect your people no matter what.
Don’t listen to these retards.
I said:
“Look at my wife the wrong way and I’ll end your whole fucking bloodline.
Some people have absolutely no clue who they can cross paths with.”
And Ive got answers from MEN who were not willing to even step up for the ones they love.
These are the type of people you dont want around you.
“Your wife is not special”
“Some people have guns”
“Catch a case then”
What type if spineless fuckers do you think these people are?
No sense of responsibility.
No sense of honor.
Do not be like this.
Be the fucking man.
Protect your people no matter what.
Don’t listen to these retards.
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If you agree with any of them, leave this channel.
We are not like you.
This is not a place for you.
Man. The. Fuck. Up.
We are not like you.
This is not a place for you.
Man. The. Fuck. Up.
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Funny how the women agreed with my post and men were so.. well… feminine.
If you cant fulfill your duties, you have no right to expect anything from her.
If you cant fulfill your duties, you have no right to expect anything from her.
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You do realize that life is short right?
You do understand that you do not have that much time.
You could die tomorrow.
And if that happens?
Would you be proud of yourself?
Are you ready to leave?
No?
Then you fucking need to change that.
You need to start enjoying every second of your life while building for a successful future.
You do not have time to spiral down.
Tomorrow is not guaranteed.
You need to make the best out of life TODAY.
Because that’s all you got.
Most people are either obsessively worried about the future
Or painfully stuck in the past.
But none of those things exist.
Think about it:
If you focus on the now, and make every moment count:
Both the past and the future and secured.
Obsess of the NOW.
That’s all you have.
You do understand that you do not have that much time.
You could die tomorrow.
And if that happens?
Would you be proud of yourself?
Are you ready to leave?
No?
Then you fucking need to change that.
You need to start enjoying every second of your life while building for a successful future.
You do not have time to spiral down.
Tomorrow is not guaranteed.
You need to make the best out of life TODAY.
Because that’s all you got.
Most people are either obsessively worried about the future
Or painfully stuck in the past.
But none of those things exist.
Think about it:
If you focus on the now, and make every moment count:
Both the past and the future and secured.
Obsess of the NOW.
That’s all you have.
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When you make a choice, don't hesitate.
Don't look back.
Make the choice, take responsibility of the consequences.
That's it.
Hesitating is nothing but a waste of time and mental space.
Action matters.
Pick an option.
Make everything for it to work out.
If you are going to cut ties with someone, block them from everywhere.
Don't give yourself the option to go back and fix things with them.
Done. Finished.
Move away, go on with your life.
Burn all the bridges.
Don't look back.
Make the choice, take responsibility of the consequences.
That's it.
Hesitating is nothing but a waste of time and mental space.
Action matters.
Pick an option.
Make everything for it to work out.
If you are going to cut ties with someone, block them from everywhere.
Don't give yourself the option to go back and fix things with them.
Done. Finished.
Move away, go on with your life.
Burn all the bridges.
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