Adaptability.

That's the name of the game.

The more you're able to adapt to situations and figure out ways to make them play in your favor; the easier your life will be.

The ability to adapt your behavior to the situation at hand is immensely important.

As I always say:

You cannot afford to be a one-dimensional person.

That won't help you in delicate situations.

If you're a naturally shy person, it might be detrimental to you in situations where speaking your mind out is needed.

If you're a naturally talkative person, it might be beneficial to you to learn how to shut your mouth when needed.

Different situations call for different types of behavior.

You're not always going to have it your way.

You need to be able to understand the situation you're in and pick the right behavioral response.

Which cannot be done unless you improve your situational awareness.

And what better way to do it than to be aware of social dynamics and social codes?

As you learn more about those, you gradually start to know how to choose your responses and reactions.

This awareness of the situation and people around you is something many people lack.

Having this skill might just be the most important aspect of social settings.

There are two aspects to this:

Self-awareness: Knowing your qualities and position (the latter is important in a power dynamics context)

Situational Awareness: Realizing the context in which you are put and the position of the people involved.

Of course, there is no magic pill to improve these things, you will need to learn social codes and cues and then practice in real-life situations.

Something schools don't teach you.

If you didn't have parents that encouraged you to participate in socializing activities and gave you advice about it (assuming they're knowledgeable in the first place), you probably will have to go through the painful process of figuring it out on your own.

While I can't force you to practice, I can at the very least show you a set of essential concepts and codes that you can use to improve in this aspect.

The Secret Social Codes does exactly that, through its 22+ lessons, you can learn power dynamics, assertiveness, and specific strategies to use in specific situations.

You can check it out here.

The realest people tend to be disagreeable.

You may clash with them.
You may disagree with them.

But you can be sure they’ll never sugarcoat it.

That’s the type of people I like to surround myself with.

Those who can call me out on my bullshit.

Not those who encourage me to stay on the wrong path…

Just because they want to avoid confrontation.

They’re not always the most pleasant and talking to them can be hard.

But having and keeping them around is of paramount of importance if you’re serious about growing in all aspects of life.

If your friends are always throwing compliments at you and telling you how great you are?

They’re deceiving you.

Get better friends.

Not cowards.

I learned it the hard way and I say it often.

For some you’re a genius
For others you’re an idiot
For some you’re a rare gem
For others you’re a waste of air
For some you’re everything
For others you’re nothing

But what matters is what you think of yourself.

That is the only metric that will ever matter.

The man in the mirror.
The thoughts in your head.
The value you believe yourself to have.

That’s the only thing that will drive you.

That’s the only thing that will take you where you deserve to be.

Everything else is tainted with the bias of whoever told you about it.

And none of those people will be there when you look back at your life.

None of them will be in your head seeing what you think about.

Everyone is too focused on themselves.

Don’t blame them for it.

Understand this.

And do the same.

Be aware of everyone’s biases.

Including your own.

But you won’t get this until you go through the painful lesson.

And some people will never get it.

And they’re not my responsibility.

Neither are they yours.

Focus on yourself.

Validate yourself.

Make peace with your ego.

That’s all you have.

If you love my shit, this is the community you wanna be part of:

Irrationaloptimists

Link doenst work because the website is down.

Ill send the discord invite in a bit.

I went through this and men, it's massive.

I believe this will definitely change lives.

And it would be ungrateful not to say a huge thank you to Ego.

You're a 💯🫵🤞.

Join before it’s too late.

It’s free and will always be; but access might be restricted and on application only in the near future.

I don’t want you to miss out on this.

It costs one click and you’re in forever.

Never forget that most people are absolute pussies.

I said:

“Look at my wife the wrong way and I’ll end your whole fucking bloodline.

Some people have absolutely no clue who they can cross paths with.”

And Ive got answers from MEN who were not willing to even step up for the ones they love.

These are the type of people you dont want around you.

“Your wife is not special”
“Some people have guns”
“Catch a case then”

What type if spineless fuckers do you think these people are?

No sense of responsibility.
No sense of honor.

Do not be like this.

Be the fucking man.

Protect your people no matter what.

Don’t listen to these retards.

If you agree with any of them, leave this channel.

We are not like you.

This is not a place for you.

Man. The. Fuck. Up.

Funny how the women agreed with my post and men were so.. well… feminine.

If you cant fulfill your duties, you have no right to expect anything from her.

Read ☝️

Check this out:

https://x.com/jakeyngblood/status/1844114735668789500

You do realize that life is short right?

You do understand that you do not have that much time.

You could die tomorrow.

And if that happens?

Would you be proud of yourself?

Are you ready to leave?

No?

Then you fucking need to change that.

You need to start enjoying every second of your life while building for a successful future.

You do not have time to spiral down.

Tomorrow is not guaranteed.

You need to make the best out of life TODAY.

Because that’s all you got.

Most people are either obsessively worried about the future

Or painfully stuck in the past.

But none of those things exist.

Think about it:

If you focus on the now, and make every moment count:

Both the past and the future and secured.

Obsess of the NOW.

That’s all you have.

When you make a choice, don't hesitate.

Don't look back.

Make the choice, take responsibility of the consequences.

That's it.

Hesitating is nothing but a waste of time and mental space.

Action matters.

Pick an option.
Make everything for it to work out.

If you are going to cut ties with someone, block them from everywhere.

Don't give yourself the option to go back and fix things with them.

Done. Finished.

Move away, go on with your life.

Burn all the bridges.

You literally just have to decide that your life isn't shit for it to start feeling like a dream.

You think your life is shit because you gave up control of it.

If you simply started acting like everything is under control?

Everything will be exactly that way.

Understand this:

Everything happens as it should.

Worrying, complaining or blaming the world will never fix your shit.

What will fix it is trusting that you have what it takes to turn things around.

Then do whatever it takes to prove yourself right.

Whatever it takes.

Your choices should be based on whether you will be proud of yourself or not.

Having that as the only metric makes life much more enjoyable.

Anything else poisons your life.
Anything else holds you back.

Project yourself in the future and look back at what you're doing now...

Would your future self be proud of it?

Keep doing it.

Would your future self be disappointed?

Stop doing it.

This is the only rule you need to judge your behavior.

Not what people tell you.

By living up to other people's expectations; you forget to live up to your own.

And on your deathbed, all those motherfuckers won't be there.

Live your life for the sole purpose of being good with who you are and who you were before you pass away.

It's simple really.

If your life feels monotonous and boring, there is only one solution.

And it's not self-pity.
And it's not complaining.

Nope, it's not even "having more fun".

The answer is quite simple but most people are unwilling to do it.

Because it's scary.

The only solution is to seek even harder challenges.

It's going for things that make you feel uncomfortable and going for things that you have never done before.

It's picking the counterintuitive choice.

Going against your current tendencies.

It sounds rational and simple.

But when you're stuck in a loop, it does get hard to break out of it.

Yet the only solution to breaking out of it is to be abrupt about it.

Not gradual change.

Because it doesn't last.

The solution is increasing the difficulty not decreasing it.

Because seeking to decrease it is what got you there in the first place.

And that cannot be the solution.

You must take more risks.

No other way around it.

Get excited again.
Get stressed again.

Stimulate your mind so that you can start thinking out of the box again.

Life is way more fun that way.

If you expect people to understand you and "feel your pain", you are a complete idiot.

Because that fixes nothing.

All it will do is give leverage to people over you.

Which can never end well.

At best it gives you a fake sense of comfort.

But it's not real.

Don't seek understanding, nobody can put themselves in your shoes.

Nobody can be you.

All they do is guess and most of the time they'll be wrong.

The only understanding you should seek is your own.

Absolute mastery of yourself.

That's where it's at.

Nobody needs to know or understand.

Fix your shit on your own.
Rely on yourself and no one else.

Seek self-sufficiency.
Strengthen your ego.

Don't depend on people to feel better about yourself.

You'll be standing on an unstable pedestal.

The only person that truly has your back is yourself.