Practice the pause. Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you’re about to react harshly and you’ll avoid doing and saying things you’ll later regret.

Let’s talk about a better way.
I’ve created a five-step process that can help you manage your mind, master your emotions, and feel more peace in the midst of conflict. When you feel overwhelming emotion and you’re tempted to react impulsively:
(1. Stop and pause.)
It also allows our logical brain to determine how we are perceiving the information or situation.

(2. Label the emotion.)
Breathe and allow yourself to feel the emotions triggered by your primitive brain. Then label or name the emotion. I’m feeling angry. I’m feeling anxious. I’m feeling impatient. This helps you to investigate the emotion more objectively and takes away some of its power.

(3. Lean in with curiosity.)
Next, investigate the emotions. Lean in with curiosity and non-judgment.
What is causing the most pain?
Ask yourself:
What are my thoughts about what is happening and why?
Could there be another explanation?
When we sit in a place of wonder and curiosity, we learn more about ourselves.

(4. Practice compassion.)
I was able to show compassion and use some positive self-talk as I began to use my frontal rational brain. Research has shown that when you talk to yourself in the third person you actually trigger the pathways in your brain that help you feel cared for, loved, and accepted. After we do this, we can move on to the next step.

(5. Practice acceptance.)
Learning to accept the things that are out of your control can bring you peace.
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If some one is truely in to you they will respond you back!
Do you really think that, that if someone is truely in to you ...
••● They are going to operate on the chance of you leaving or going somewhere else ?
You dont have to beg them to repond or communicate.
••●They will prioritize you instead of fitting you in to there priorities!

👉 One says : "YOU MATTER ALWAYS"
👉 One says : " YOU MATTER SOMETIMES "
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You know that when you try to be something other than your ordinary self, whatever you are attracting isn't real because it's not the real you.

"Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny."

Here are four questions that I have found to be extremely helpful in shining a light on this subject:

■ Where in your life do you feel like you are struggling to be extraordinary?

■ Where in your life do you want to apply the healing balm of normalcy?

■Where are you putting pressure on yourself to be extraordinary?

👉If you want to explore this area of your life, in a very human and grounded way, journaling around these questions might serve you, if you’re open to it. Put down the weight of extraordinary and be your beautiful, ordinary self.
Extraordinary people exist within people with the most ordinary lives.
We’re all unique in our own right and that’s the beauty of being human.
We’re all ordinary and we’re all extraordinary.
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We can't control other people and force them to meet our expectations. Be flexible and everyone will be a lot happier.
Three Ways to Let Go:

1. Have zero expectations about how anything is going to turn out in the end.
• Accepting the fact that people are not predictable, I am not attached to outcomes about how they “should” be.
2. Stop trying to control everything.
3.Be flexible and don’t be attached to outcomes.
• I choose to open my mind to all the possibilities.

We can’t control other people and situations. But we can choose to set expectations aside and not put so much emphasis on how things are going to end up. After all, it truly is about the journey. And the destination? Well, sometimes the most beautiful views are the ones that we stumble upon unexpectedly, while on the way to where we’re “supposed” to be
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■ When life gets hard, remember, there's a lot of beauty left to see, tons of adventures to be had, and more love than you ever thought possible, if you just hang on.
■ One day, you are going to hug your last hug, kiss your last kiss, and hear someone's voice for the last time, but you never know when the last time will be. Live every day as if it were the last time you will be with the person you love.
■ Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy; while giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful; and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted.
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If you don't feel excited or motivated, maybe life's been all work and no play for too long. Try something new, just for the fun of it. If you enjoy it and feel alive, it's not wasting time.
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Real change doesn’t happen from reading a quote or a new book. It doesn’t happen during meditation. It doesn’t happen after an, “I’m sorry.” Real change happens when you take action in a new way so many times that it becomes who you are. Trust action, not words.
If you want to get in shape… will you exercise and eat right?
If you want to publish a book… will you dedicate time to write?
If you want a new job… will you actually apply to new opportunities?
If you want to grow your business… will you work “on” your business today?
Actions do speak louder than words...!
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43. Understand Separate Realities: Like vast differences in cultures of different countries, differences among individuals is also very vast. When we expect to see things differently, when we take it as given that others will do things differently and react differently to the same stimuli, the compassion we have for all increases dramatically. This again brings peace.
44. Develop Your Own Helping Rituals: Think of something that seems effortless yet helpful. It’s fun, personally rewarding, and sets good example. Everybody wins.
👉👉👉41-42
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It is not enough to know the principles in The Secret – you must DO them, unceasingly, every day. You must LIVE the principles.
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HERE ARE 5 SIGNS YOU HAVE AN INTIMIDATING PERSONALITY.

1. SIMPLISTIC CONVERSATIONS ARE ANNOYING.
It isn’t surprising that strong people detest simple banter. They welcome conversations that invite intellectual curiosity, while they find small talk revolting.
2. IGNORANT ATTITUDES ARE REPULSIVE.
Generally speaking, strong people are well (often self) educated. They possess a wide breadth of knowledge. This open-minded attitude often invites curiosity and promotes acceptance.
3. OPPORTUNITIES ARE FORCEFULLY CREATED.
Strong people have a way of making opportunities without needing much assistance from others. This tremendous work ethic can intimidate the less motivated, which can invite hostility. Whether or not they’re viewed as intimidating for being ambitious is irrelevant to strong people. 
4. OTHERS’ ATTENTION IS NOT IMPORTANT.
In a society that craves attention, strong people couldn’t care less.
They won’t spend precious time and effort seeking attention.They epitomize the old axiom, “Your actions speak so loudly, I can’t hear what you’re saying.”
5. EXCUSES ARE NOT ACCEPTABLE
Strong people forge ahead–regardless of the fallout. It’s no surprise that
people who waste time whining and complaining about trivialities fail to interest them. As those who continuously strive to do their best, they quickly turn away those who try to use them as a sounding board for meaningless complaints and pointless banter.
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●The Road To Home

The bigest mistake we make is that we build our homes in other people.
We build those homes and we decorate them with a love and care and respect that make us feel safe at the end of the day.
We invest in other people, you give them the power to make you homeless.
When those people walk away those homes walk away with them and all of a sudden, we feel empty because everything that we had within us.
The emptiness we feel doesn't mean we have nothing within us. It's just that we built our home in the wrong place.
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