How do you quickly recognize a manipulative person?

✍🏻 They appears to be “too much caring “. If you are getting too much of attention from a stranger then take a pause often and evaluate

✍🏻 A standard technique they apply is : whenever you ask them anything which you find suspicious they will start blaming you. Blame Game is a great tool they use to divert questioning

✍🏻 To gain brownie points they will slowly instigate you against your closed ones . You start suspecting your closed ones.

✍🏻 Most of the manipulators are good communicators. Not the vice versa always though. They know how to extract your thoughts without revealing anything about others .

✍🏻 Most of the manipulators tell emotional stories which are often lie or fictional. You start empathizing and then you fall into trap. When someone tells you such stories from beginning then take a pause.

✍🏻 They will again and again say you “how close they are to you” even though you just met them few days ago or have interacted few times before . If you feel that superimposing vibe wait for a while

✍🏻 Most of the manipulators show their real colors only after a while and soon they will ask you for big favours.

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A man becomes dangerous when he triumphs over his guilty pleasures, finds his true purpose in life, and chases it with unwavering conviction knowing well enough that all he needs in this life is himself

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Don't make excuses.

☝🏻 A highly useful habit that I recommend you "get”.

A person who is overly dependent on public opinion tends to blame everyone else for his failures, but not himself. He is constantly looking for excuses...

Why?
It's not clear👐🏻
We need to get rid of this strange and unnecessary manner!

Successful people know that they are responsible for everything that happens in their personal and professional lives.
The point of making excuses for one's blunders is to pay MAXIMUM attention to them - it's the only way to become more productive.

The other extreme of "justifying oneself" is belief in fate and predestination.
I don't even want to comment here...
Believing in "predestination" is very convenient🙃

Friends, rely only on yourself and control your own destiny. Waiting for a miracle is unproductive.

HOW TO EMBRACE THE FACT THAT YOU SUCK:

- The fact is

It's important to embrace and truly understand that whenever we try something new that we haven't done before, we should expect to suck at it.

Because this is building up your discipline.

Disciple then manifests into momentum.

Momentum develops results.

It's important to know that everything we try and do in life requires time, persistence, and patience.

But I know we live in a bit of a society where success is fast, right?

• Success is not fast.

Luck is fast.

-When they realise overnight success is a myth.

Many quit 🚫

- Remember the old say

"Rome wasn't built in a day"

Stop trying to chase cheap dopamine hits.

Your dreams are finished when you lose your patience and you quit, and that sucks.

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It really pisses me off when people put themselves in the losing position.

It often manifests itself in these "harmless" phrases:
- I guess I just wasn't meant to be rich...
- How unlucky I have been in my life...
- What can I do about my situation?
- It's all "somewhere out there" far away, not with me.

"Well, what are you doing!" - I wanna scream at the top of my lungs😤
Aren't you sick of these excuses yourself?
Yeah, obviously, some people are just in catastrophic circumstances that many people wouldn't even dream of. But damn it, life is one - isn't it worth "floundering" for the sake of it?

A short cautionary tale (or parable🤔) came to mind - my mother used to tell me when I was a kid.

About two frogs who accidentally jumped into a jug of sour cream and started drowning. One gave up because she thought they had no chance. And the other one "floundered" so long that it made solid butter out of the sour cream, after which it got out of the jug safely.

The thought is simple, but I have returned to it more than once in my life - finding the motivation to "flounder."
After all, if you don't, then the moment of your voluntary surrender will be remembered for a lifetime and will be the most painful scar.

Drop 💯 if you think am right

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8 Habits for Success

1.Read every day
2. Focus on high-level tasks.
3. Make your health a priority.
4. Learn from people you admire.
5. Plan your day the night before.
6. Keep your goals in front of you.
7. Take action, even when it's scary.
8. Have a powerful & inspiring "why."

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8 Habits for a HEALTHIER Brain:

→Heart rate up for 30 min/day
→7-9 hrs/night of sleep
→Healthy dietary fats
→Intermittent fasting
→Cold exposure
→Daily sunlight
→Meditation
→Reading

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7 Come Back Steps After ‘Failure’:

1. Seek clarity. Understand what went wrong.
2. Identify what could be done differently.
3. Commit to doing what is required.
4. Invest time and effort.
5. Pursue optimal results.
6. Don't quit, don't give up.
7. Decide you are NOT a failure.

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DON'T BE SHY AT 4 THINGS:

1⃣ Old clothes because your clothes doesn't define your talent.

2⃣ Poor friends because there is no status in friendship.

3⃣ Old parents because what you are today is because of them.

4⃣ Simple living because success can't judge by appearance.

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When your mindset is closed:

• You avoid challenges
• You compare yourself to others
• You stay with your comfort zone

When your mindset is open:

• You embrace challenges
• Failure is seen as opportunity
• The success of others inspires you

Which mindset is yours?

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Self-love as an investment in the future

Since childhood we are taught to share and suppress any initiative to do something for ourselves. You're supposed to give, give and concede, but you're not allowed to refuse, take and ask.

So is that the norm? Nope, I'm not urging you to be rude to old people or take candy from children, BUT to have a certain benefit from every day you live, you have to. Simply because there is nothing more reliable than you.

I'll tell you one thing: Forget your inner critic. It makes you procrastinate and sting before solving your problems and showing yourself as a person.

🚫 You can dabble with affirmations, sit in meditation for hours, but it's all for naught if you're constantly berating and angry with yourself.

The more you invest in yourself, the more you love yourself. Invest in your knowledge, in your body, in your health, and in your appearance. This will give you a tremendous amount of motivation.

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Reminder:

1. Don’t apologize for your feelings.

2. A bad day doesn’t mean a bad life.

3. There’s always something to be grateful for.

4. Respect yourself if you want others to respect you.

5. It’s better to lose people than to lose yourself.

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Self-pity and self-criticism head to the trash

Why do I bring up failure so often? Cause the fear of them kills ANY desire to act.

And until you get that it takes a little patience and the ability to learn lessons, you won't move forward.

And most importantly, realize that self-criticism does no good.

Nah, I'm not saying that if you don't sing too well, but you really like it, you should go to some casting call and make yourself look like a total jerk, here it's more about objectively assessing your weaknesses and strengths, but about that later.

Notice and record your desire to complain, to criticize yourself. Find something positive about the situation. Think about how to fix it. Anything but complain🚫

Once you realize that criticism is not fruitful, but only takes away your self-confidence, the need for it disappears on its own.

🏆New thinking - new thoughts - new life!

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Your business won't grow until you grow yourself

A career as a government worker, a creative activity, a business...
It doesn't matter at all - this rule works EVERYWHERE. The current thinking of many of us keeps us in the shackles of old results, not allowing us to get new ones without changing the structure of our thoughts.

As long as you're applying old techniques, as long as you're solving all the problems alone, as long as you're going around in circles trying to fix things, it only gets worse.

If you can't do it the old way anymore:
- work like hell, not getting the results you want;
- can't carry everything on your back - no one can do it better than you;
- stomp in place, propping up the "glass ceiling".

So it's time to change your usual approach to business.
Or at least think about the reasons for these thoughts☝🏻

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Gestures of a confident man

I'm not gonna rant about it. I think it's clear to everyone that non-verbal communication will tell a lot more about you than your words. And it will tell you more truthfully. And it will tell you before you even open your mouth.

Let's set up and get used to showing confidence always.

1. Don't slouch.
Slouchy = tired for life. Keep your shoulders in a natural (not cock-and-turkey) straightened state. It will be hard to get used to at first. But in a couple of weeks you'll get the hang of it.

2. Say hello like a man.
The knuckleball does not lay on the interlocutor's hand from above. Nor does it come from underneath. Extend your hand evenly into the hand. And yes, don't squeeze the other person's palm in an attempt to show your strength. That unnaturalness in you will definitely be detected. You will appear, on the contrary, to be complex.

3. Smile more often.
But not nonstop, like a goofball. In conversation, periodically show your approval with a smile. Smiling at everyone and everything is a great trump card and an indicator of your inner confidence.

4. Look in the eyes.
They don't teach this in the army for nothing. You move your eyes sideways, you stare at your phone - then you're either not interested or you're afraid to run into a confident stare.

5. Don't cross your arms, legs and other limbs.
You're not a shy girl at the disco, are you? Choose any open position (when sitting at the table the "palms together" pose is perfect, for example).

Put it into practice to reinforce it.

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Acting on the ramp up

Motivation, of course, is nice, but you'll get tired of constantly searching for its source, but self-discipline will always save and back you up in any endeavors☝🏻

You, as a true male, want everything at once, but that's a losing tactic - and in order to learn self-discipline, and basically any quality, you need to leave your comfort zone ONLY in small steps🏆

Use your fears to cultivate a steel rod in yourself. Challenge yourself in small ways and it will show you that nothing is impossible!

A little discomfort won't make you suffer much, and later on you won't snap and keep building your strength!

I suggest the following exercise:

Put your favorite treat in a prominent place and during the day do not touch it once.

After that, all your problems will be a squeak😄

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Solving small things in bulk

Instead of getting distracted by small things, it's better to set aside a separate evening for them.

This easy rule will not only allow you to stay focused on the important stuff, but you won't have to worry about forgetting or missing something👌🏻

🔺Keep in mind: to get rid of piles of small things quickly, you should combine them into common blocks to "tackle them in bulk," spending no more than 3 hours to do so.

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Self-Development. Deadline.

Another amazing human characteristic is having time to do everything at the last moment. How many of your classmates started writing their thesis in September? And how many wrote the table of contents two weeks before the defense?

🔻No matter how far away the deadline is, many people will start a task at the very last moment because they are used to working in rush mode. Undoubtedly, sometimes it is very effective, but constant work in such a state only causes stress and accumulates fatigue.

🔻 If you are used to solving problems quickly and in one approach, then use artificial deadlines that will not allow you to engage in procrastination. The task needs to be solved in two days? Solve it by noon and move on to the next one. This method will not only free you from a long list of tasks, but will also show your best side to your colleagues.

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