Kinda Sick of People in Aro/Ace Spaces Being Rude to Allos
Exactly as the noscript says
As an aroace enby, i love when people are happy and in love. Its so cute and it warms my heart seeing others experience joy.
Im sick of being in spaces where people are anti love, anti sex, sex negative, etc. and badmouth allos for simply existing. It doesn't feel good when we experience aphobia and arophobia*, so why should we flip it back on them? Two wrongs don't make a right. I understand that a select few allos are unhinged, but that doesn't represent them as a whole.
What happened to being happy for others? Just because aros(and aces for that matter) don't enjoy/experience some romantic, sexual, sensual, etc. forms of attraction and sometimes love, doesn't mean we can't be happy for those who do.(And for those who argue that they don't have to be happy for them, well, just leave them be!)
I love weddings, I love sappiness, I think (some) love songs are awesome, I love when people are comfortable and safe with their partners.
I used to hate it, it felt so gross, but its like: why should i care how strangers express their feelings? It doesn't make us superior or anything? I dont get it
I think more people should be respectful of allosexuals and alloromantics sometimes, they cant help that they're allo, just like aroaces cant help that they're aroace. Of course we should hold them accountable when they breach our boundaries, but we shouldn't yuck their yum.
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Exactly as the noscript says
As an aroace enby, i love when people are happy and in love. Its so cute and it warms my heart seeing others experience joy.
Im sick of being in spaces where people are anti love, anti sex, sex negative, etc. and badmouth allos for simply existing. It doesn't feel good when we experience aphobia and arophobia*, so why should we flip it back on them? Two wrongs don't make a right. I understand that a select few allos are unhinged, but that doesn't represent them as a whole.
What happened to being happy for others? Just because aros(and aces for that matter) don't enjoy/experience some romantic, sexual, sensual, etc. forms of attraction and sometimes love, doesn't mean we can't be happy for those who do.(And for those who argue that they don't have to be happy for them, well, just leave them be!)
I love weddings, I love sappiness, I think (some) love songs are awesome, I love when people are comfortable and safe with their partners.
I used to hate it, it felt so gross, but its like: why should i care how strangers express their feelings? It doesn't make us superior or anything? I dont get it
I think more people should be respectful of allosexuals and alloromantics sometimes, they cant help that they're allo, just like aroaces cant help that they're aroace. Of course we should hold them accountable when they breach our boundaries, but we shouldn't yuck their yum.
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I told my boyfriend I wan trans
So me 19(MTF transiting for a couple years) told my boyfriend of 2 years I was trans right before we were about to get intimate. I know I should’ve told him sooner but I was scared since he’s kind of really Christian.
When I told him he got up from my bed hugged me and said I’ll see u later. That was 2 weeks ago, he won’t awnser my call or texts. I don’t know y he’s doing any of this. I don’t know y he’s ghosting me it’s not like I’m a different person or anything. I feel likes he’s being a baby about this, but I also feel like I should’ve told him sooner.
I’m honestly not sure why he’s doing this. We’ve been together for two years and it’s not like that changes anything. We’ve had sex before(grand saved. I’ve told him that I’m saving most of myself for marriage and I never let him see me from the front) kissed, gone on dates. Ain’t no big deal
Does this make me a bad person? And any advice on what I should do?
UPDATE: So he hmu saying he’s sorry he ghosted me said his mom has died like 2 days after he left when he wanted me to tell me he wanted to talk. I didn’t believe him until I called his sister who confirmed it.
He ended up breaking up with be, he said he loved me still and supported me but he couldn’t date someone was male at one point and someone who he couldn’t have biological children with. We talked for about an hour. He apologized for everything said he was sorry, he said he felt a surge of emotions running through him that he couldn’t process, and I need to tell yall I never once felt danger or was scared of him.
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So me 19(MTF transiting for a couple years) told my boyfriend of 2 years I was trans right before we were about to get intimate. I know I should’ve told him sooner but I was scared since he’s kind of really Christian.
When I told him he got up from my bed hugged me and said I’ll see u later. That was 2 weeks ago, he won’t awnser my call or texts. I don’t know y he’s doing any of this. I don’t know y he’s ghosting me it’s not like I’m a different person or anything. I feel likes he’s being a baby about this, but I also feel like I should’ve told him sooner.
I’m honestly not sure why he’s doing this. We’ve been together for two years and it’s not like that changes anything. We’ve had sex before(grand saved. I’ve told him that I’m saving most of myself for marriage and I never let him see me from the front) kissed, gone on dates. Ain’t no big deal
Does this make me a bad person? And any advice on what I should do?
UPDATE: So he hmu saying he’s sorry he ghosted me said his mom has died like 2 days after he left when he wanted me to tell me he wanted to talk. I didn’t believe him until I called his sister who confirmed it.
He ended up breaking up with be, he said he loved me still and supported me but he couldn’t date someone was male at one point and someone who he couldn’t have biological children with. We talked for about an hour. He apologized for everything said he was sorry, he said he felt a surge of emotions running through him that he couldn’t process, and I need to tell yall I never once felt danger or was scared of him.
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Remember how Solid Snake is an LGBT Ally, and let Peach and Zelda know that girls could date and have sex with other girls? Look at how surprised Peach and Zelda were!
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The idea, especially the psychology behind it, is absolutely fascinating, but i dont actually care to do it. Anyone else relate?
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A grounding truth for my fellow bi men
If a woman is threatened by the idea that you’ve desired men before, she will eventually be threatened by:
your emotional depth
your friendships
your independence
and your sexuality in general.
Bisexuality just makes that visible sooner.
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If a woman is threatened by the idea that you’ve desired men before, she will eventually be threatened by:
your emotional depth
your friendships
your independence
and your sexuality in general.
Bisexuality just makes that visible sooner.
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Why aren't lesbian relationships taken seriously?
It's so annoying and upsetting when your own family and even friend doesn't take your relationship of almost 10 years serious. Like oh "name" is living with a friend, she's single and my daughter is actually a virgin since she didn't have a P inside of her. Love between 2 women isn't Serious since there isn't a peen involved. She is just disappointed in men, but one day she will meet "the one" and will have a Relationship, Real feelings, and get married.
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It's so annoying and upsetting when your own family and even friend doesn't take your relationship of almost 10 years serious. Like oh "name" is living with a friend, she's single and my daughter is actually a virgin since she didn't have a P inside of her. Love between 2 women isn't Serious since there isn't a peen involved. She is just disappointed in men, but one day she will meet "the one" and will have a Relationship, Real feelings, and get married.
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This is what it’s like to bottom (receive anal) from another man
I often get asked on this app when posting about my experiences “what does anal feel like, what’s it feel like to get fucked by a man?” So I’m going to do my best to describe it. Disclaimer: not all fucks are equal some suck but when done right it’s an amazing feeling. I’m going to describe what it feels like when done right.
The key to pleasurable anal is to be relaxed. And you won’t be relaxed if you do not clean out your hole properly. That way no accidents happen and you feel comfortable. So that’s #1. #2 is your prostate and colon/rectum can be stimulated. It can be done by getting fucked, fingered, dildo’d/toyed with, licked. When stimulated this adds extra pleasure. When your prostate is pushed on it creates a feeling like you need to pee and you feel it at the tip of your cock. It can create a “buzzing” feeling right inside your ass and/or at the base of your cock and sometimes even a tickle feeling inside. #3 your hole needs to be worked in before with fingers or small toys. This will ensure you aren’t in pain when the cock pushes thru the sphincter. These are keys to feeling pleasure not pain or just feeling stretched. When the rectum/colon is stimulated you will feel more of the man’s cock when it’s moving back and forth. Imagine you arm is numb and you tickle it with a feather. As your circulation returns to your arm the more intense the tickle gets. That’s what it’s like when your colon/rectum is stimulated.
When a man’s cock first pushes thru my sphincter it can be painful at first depending on how big. The pain eventually subsides and is replaced by the feeling of like when you take a real nice #2 on the toilet. Everyone here has probably taken a poop before and had that “ahhh” feeling. My hole and rectum feels stretched. At first it’s hard not to clench as the cock begins to move back and forth. It’s like a massage in my hole, but it’s not exactly pleasurable at this point yet, my hole just feels full. It takes some time for my body to adjust, pressure can start in the abdomen. Air can get pumped in and be uncomfortable. As the abdomen settles and air is released this is when comfort starts to set in. The clench of the sphincter goes away and relaxes creating the classic “gape” which is when I know things are going to start getting good.
The longer I’m getting fucked the more and more the pressure/stretched feelings subside until it goes away completely and gets to a point the man can pull his cock out and my hole stays open/gaped and he can easily put it back in, take it out again and easily put it back in, over and over as many times as he wants and there is no pain or stretch feeling at all. My hole has now adjusted to his cock girth as it comfortably grips around it like a warm slick sleeve.
As I’m getting fucked my colon starts to get stimulated. I’m able to feel more and more the skin/head of his cock moving along it back and forth like this “grainy” feeling inside. My mind to hole connection builds and builds as I focus more and more on what I’m feeling while his cock fucks me. At this point the anal starts to feel pleasurable and not just like pressure and being stretched.
As my colon gets stimulated so does my prostate. My prostate starts to swell so with every thrust and impact I begin to feel like I need to pee (even tho I don’t). A tickle feeling begins to develop about 3-4 inches in. My cock which has been soft this entire time goes hard. The tickle feeling spreads to the base of my cock and throughout my abdomen. I would describe the tickle feeling almost like when your leg falls asleep and starts to tickle a lot when you move it. I have had the tickle feeling spread to the point of being at my fingertips and toes before. (I’m beginning to have an anal/prostate orgasm). My once relaxed/gaped hole starts to pulsate around his cock as pleasure intensifies. If he were to pull out now my hole would be “blinking” at him over and over. My sphincter is no longer in my control. It tightens and releases around his cock over and
I often get asked on this app when posting about my experiences “what does anal feel like, what’s it feel like to get fucked by a man?” So I’m going to do my best to describe it. Disclaimer: not all fucks are equal some suck but when done right it’s an amazing feeling. I’m going to describe what it feels like when done right.
The key to pleasurable anal is to be relaxed. And you won’t be relaxed if you do not clean out your hole properly. That way no accidents happen and you feel comfortable. So that’s #1. #2 is your prostate and colon/rectum can be stimulated. It can be done by getting fucked, fingered, dildo’d/toyed with, licked. When stimulated this adds extra pleasure. When your prostate is pushed on it creates a feeling like you need to pee and you feel it at the tip of your cock. It can create a “buzzing” feeling right inside your ass and/or at the base of your cock and sometimes even a tickle feeling inside. #3 your hole needs to be worked in before with fingers or small toys. This will ensure you aren’t in pain when the cock pushes thru the sphincter. These are keys to feeling pleasure not pain or just feeling stretched. When the rectum/colon is stimulated you will feel more of the man’s cock when it’s moving back and forth. Imagine you arm is numb and you tickle it with a feather. As your circulation returns to your arm the more intense the tickle gets. That’s what it’s like when your colon/rectum is stimulated.
When a man’s cock first pushes thru my sphincter it can be painful at first depending on how big. The pain eventually subsides and is replaced by the feeling of like when you take a real nice #2 on the toilet. Everyone here has probably taken a poop before and had that “ahhh” feeling. My hole and rectum feels stretched. At first it’s hard not to clench as the cock begins to move back and forth. It’s like a massage in my hole, but it’s not exactly pleasurable at this point yet, my hole just feels full. It takes some time for my body to adjust, pressure can start in the abdomen. Air can get pumped in and be uncomfortable. As the abdomen settles and air is released this is when comfort starts to set in. The clench of the sphincter goes away and relaxes creating the classic “gape” which is when I know things are going to start getting good.
The longer I’m getting fucked the more and more the pressure/stretched feelings subside until it goes away completely and gets to a point the man can pull his cock out and my hole stays open/gaped and he can easily put it back in, take it out again and easily put it back in, over and over as many times as he wants and there is no pain or stretch feeling at all. My hole has now adjusted to his cock girth as it comfortably grips around it like a warm slick sleeve.
As I’m getting fucked my colon starts to get stimulated. I’m able to feel more and more the skin/head of his cock moving along it back and forth like this “grainy” feeling inside. My mind to hole connection builds and builds as I focus more and more on what I’m feeling while his cock fucks me. At this point the anal starts to feel pleasurable and not just like pressure and being stretched.
As my colon gets stimulated so does my prostate. My prostate starts to swell so with every thrust and impact I begin to feel like I need to pee (even tho I don’t). A tickle feeling begins to develop about 3-4 inches in. My cock which has been soft this entire time goes hard. The tickle feeling spreads to the base of my cock and throughout my abdomen. I would describe the tickle feeling almost like when your leg falls asleep and starts to tickle a lot when you move it. I have had the tickle feeling spread to the point of being at my fingertips and toes before. (I’m beginning to have an anal/prostate orgasm). My once relaxed/gaped hole starts to pulsate around his cock as pleasure intensifies. If he were to pull out now my hole would be “blinking” at him over and over. My sphincter is no longer in my control. It tightens and releases around his cock over and
over nonstop.
At this point I’m having a full blown anal/prostate orgasm. Which can come in waves. It’s possible it will feel like it’s going away only to come back again. If you are someone that doesn’t like to moan or anything, at this point you can throw that out the window, you cannot help but moan from the pleasure. Blood rushes to my colon making it feel like it’s swelling. My cock begins to leak strands of cum (I’ve also leaked pee as well). The last thing in the WORLD I want right now is for him to stop or slow down, if anything I want him to fuck me even harder.
At this point there is ZERO feelings of pressure in my hole or it being stretched. It is completely wide open able to take anything he throws at me. The pleasure will last as long as he fucks varying in intensity. I’ve had ass orgasms more intense and pleasurable than penis orgasms. The fun part is they last much longer too. When you aren’t stimulated the feeling is quite simple, you just feel an object in your ass just moving around back and forth and if it’s a big cock the stretched feeling can be overwhelming and intense to the point you are laying there wincing the entire time and moaning not from pleasure but as a response to being stretched so much. But when done correctly it’s an incredible feeling.
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At this point I’m having a full blown anal/prostate orgasm. Which can come in waves. It’s possible it will feel like it’s going away only to come back again. If you are someone that doesn’t like to moan or anything, at this point you can throw that out the window, you cannot help but moan from the pleasure. Blood rushes to my colon making it feel like it’s swelling. My cock begins to leak strands of cum (I’ve also leaked pee as well). The last thing in the WORLD I want right now is for him to stop or slow down, if anything I want him to fuck me even harder.
At this point there is ZERO feelings of pressure in my hole or it being stretched. It is completely wide open able to take anything he throws at me. The pleasure will last as long as he fucks varying in intensity. I’ve had ass orgasms more intense and pleasurable than penis orgasms. The fun part is they last much longer too. When you aren’t stimulated the feeling is quite simple, you just feel an object in your ass just moving around back and forth and if it’s a big cock the stretched feeling can be overwhelming and intense to the point you are laying there wincing the entire time and moaning not from pleasure but as a response to being stretched so much. But when done correctly it’s an incredible feeling.
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