boundaries, trauma, socializing

"a man saw a snake being burned to death and decided to take it out of the fire. when he did, the snake bit him causing excruciating pain. the man dropped the snake, and the reptile fell right back into the fire.

so, the man grabbed a metal pole, took the snake out of the fire and saved its life

someone who was watching approached the man and said: "that snake bit you. why are you still trying to save it?" the man replied: "the nature of the snake is to bite, but thats not gonna change my nature, which is to help". do not change your nature simply because someone harms you. do not lose your good heart, only learn to take precautions"

food, medical

"the flip side of 'cleanse diets dont do anything' is that if you tried a cleanse diet and you did experience a notable reduction in fatigue, joint pain, and general blarginess, you need to talk to an allergy specialist, because there's nearly a 100% chance that means you have an undiagnosed allergy to some component of your customary diet

this is an excellent point and i'd imagine there's a lot of quack diets that continue circulating and getting press based on this exact principle

absolutely - a great many diets of the "stop eating everything except there three foods" variety are 100% trading on the fact that they're practically guaranteed to generate some positive testimonials by virtue of coincidentally cutting somebody's undiagnosed food allergy out of their diet

cleanse diets are a fad, elimination diets are a diagnostic tool, and they often overlap in the foods you're told to stop eating. go see and allergist!!!"

anxiety, diogenes, mental health, cleaning

"the marie kondo "does this spark joy?" method of decluttering never worked for me, but an adhd tiktoker just changed my entire life by introducing "the poop rule: if this object had poop on it, would you wash it off, or throw it away?" "

"i was at a shitty crustpunk bar once getting an after-work. one of those shitholes where the bartenders clearly hate you. so the bartender and i were ignoring one another when someone sits next to me and he immediately says, "no. get out."

and the dude next to me say, "hey im not doing anything, im a paying customer". and the bartender reaches under the counter for a bat or something and says, "out. now." and the dude leaves, kind of yelling. and he was dressed in a punk uniform, i noticed

anyway, i asked what that was about and the bartender was like, "you didnt see his vest but it was all nazi shit. iron crosses and stuff. you get to recognize them."

and i was like, ohok and he continues

"you have to nip it in the bud immediately. these guys come in and its always a nice, polite one. and you serve them because you dont want to cause a scene. and then they become a regular and after awhile they bring a friend. and that dude is cool too.

and then THEY bring friends and the friends bring friends and they stop being cool and then you realize, oh shit, this is a nazi bar now. and its too late because they're entrenched and if you try to kick them out, they cause a PROBLEM. so you have to shut them down"

and i was like, 'oh damn.' and he said "yeah, you have to ignore their reasonable arguments because their end goal is to be terrible, awful people."

and then he went back to ignoring me. but i havent forgotten that at all."

digital, emotional self harm, communities

"{1} sometimes your owns against homo/transphobes arent funny enough to warrant consciously reminding me of that people hate me for immutable characteristics about myself

{2} i love opening up twitter and its just this over and over again

[simplified image]
trans person or cis ally @ transgood
NUH UH
horrific transphobe @ trannygenocider
*disgustingly transphobic text and/or disturbing imagery*"

society, mental health

"you cant change the people around you,
but
you can change the people around you"

self compassion, art, frustration tolerance

"you'll be surprised by the many talents hidden within you if you gave yourself the permission to be a beginner"

unscheduled post:

potentially useful link for usamericans
https://www.feedingamerica.org/find-your-local-foodbank

math, general life advice, statistics, media manipulation

"heres the thing you gotta understand about statistics.

"increases your chances by 80%" does not mean "there is now an 80% chance".

if your chances were previously 10%, your chances are now 18%, not 90%

if your chances were roughly 1%, they're now just slightly less than 2%

thats how that works

verbiage used when describing statistics is often manipulated to prey on a target audiences ignorance. i think it's important to understand these basic concepts"

invisible problems, executive dysfunction, disabilities

"its a lot healthier to go for a daily walk than to sign up for a gym membership you wont be using because you hate that kind of exercise. its a lot healthier to eat a frozen meal than to skip a meal because you were too tired to cook something healthy. its a lot healthier to take a quick shower than to procrastinate an elaborate routine for days. dont aim so high that you wont be hitting anything!"

boundaries, socialization

"its impossible to please everyone. the question is whether you're disappointing the right people.

part of setting healthy boundaries is deciding who you're willing to let down - and who has the right to make you feel guilty.

not everyone deserves power over your emotions."

growth, healing

"sometimes you need a "stop doing" list as badly as you do a "to do" list"

minorities, oppression, society

"equal rights for other doesnt mean fewer rights for you. its not pie."

digital, socialization, neurodivergency

"lets talk about the sarcasm switch aka /s

-adding /s to the end of a statement is used in many online communities to denote sarcasm
-this is useful to people who have trouble reading the tone of a statement without verbal indicators
-this especially helps include neurodiverse folks in the conversation!
-this type of slang is based on html syntax, and there's more:
-/s - sarcastic
-/j - joking
-/srs - serious
-/hj - half joking

and more besides! like emojis, html tone indicators provide important context & clarification to written communication. you can include a wider audience by using them, and autistic readers like me will really appreciate it!"

your life is not an optimization problem

"as in you'll never achieve the perfect daily routine, sleep schedule, coping mechanisms, mannerisms, fashion sense etc. even after years and years of healing and improvement and self discovery. you will never be so good at life that you manage to utilize every walking moment. its great to be productive and all but sometimes you'll suck ass. sometimes you'll take eight hours to be done with a twenty minute job. you'll prioritize the wrong thing. you'll sleep for 12 hrs just to avoid being awake. you'll relapse. and you'll relapse again. you'll forget to turn in the assignment. you'll order too little food. life is far too large and complex for you to even experience it completely, much less try to make sense of and control it. you cant. please give up on that and be at peace with the hours you lose. they are not separate from your life"

self compassion, arts, growth

"every time you say "this is new for me" instead of "im bad at this", you allow your brain space to learn instead of shut down. that's neuroplasticity in real time"

digital, socialization, spoons

"{1}people who dont reply until days later, why?"

{2} its a relatively (very) new phenomenon that basically anyone in your life gets access to you at all times. it was only 20 years ago that if you left the house for the day you were actually gone. you'd return messages when you came back hours or even days later"

digital, activism, privacy, socialization

"{1} did u go protest today?

{2} good morning officer

{3} dont tell social media if you went to protests or not (especially if you didnt), dont give cops an easy way to track down protesters, punk life advice"

sonic, mental health

"new rule: never trust how you feel about your life after 9pm"