socialization, self compassion

"if you want to say thank you dont say sorry"

labels, lgbt, neurodivergency

"
1. labels exist to help people understand things about themselves and others
2. you arent obligated to use labels you dont find comfortable or helpful, even if others try to press them on you"

body

"reasons to hit the gym that arent patriarchal beauty standards:"

boundaries, self compassion

"you are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm"

self compassion, mental health

"the version of you right now is deserving of love"

nature

"treated with neonicotinoids
[...]
do not buy plants treated with neoniconoids. bees take the pollen back to the hive and feed it to the brood"

unscheduled reminder for those who use binders: you are supposed to have at least one day every week of not wearing it, at all. here is a reminder, also, that the moment where it starts to hurt should be the moment you take it off and let your body rest for a few hours

activism

"look at how nasty humanity is, we're not worth saving, mother nature is trying to wipe us out

i love how apathetic observes enable my preventable violence"

self compassion, socialization, boundaries

"breakups are ok. starting over is ok. moving on is ok. what is not ok is staying somewhere where you are not happy, valued, or appreciated. thats not ok."

society

" "well in my day..." shut up. in your day black people had separate water fountains and gays were thrown in jail. this is OUR day now and you will embrace change or die on the wrong side of history"

society

"i think part of the issue is people assuming that everyone MUST want to move upwards. like... its the next logical step for a person to want to move up the chain from worker to manager, to district manager, eventually owner.

but i always think of growth like plants.

aspens grow tall to reach the sun, for sure. but dandelions grow deep, understanding themselves fully so that if some misguided fool tries to uproot them they'll have to try damn hard. and then there's thyme and other creeping plants, which spread themselves out so much that if you try to chop a part of it off it roots wherever it can find dirt to root in

its okay not to have lofty dreams. you know what kind of plant you are better than anyone else"

self compassion, drugs, chronic illness, tumblr werewolves

"easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car
[...]
look, everyone's going to tell you not to do drugs. they're going to say it over and over again. and its like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you're going to think of a white elephant. but the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon
[...]
the thing you practice is the thing you get good at
you may not intentionally be practicing "being grumpy" but"

parenting

"when people say "you were such a good kid growing up" it means "you expressed no needs and did as you were told" "

growth, socialization

"how to forgive

forgiveness is
taking the knife out of your back
and not using it
to hurt anyone else"

growth, healing

"you've changed.
i'd hope so."

socialization, relationships

"i think we subconsciously undervalue platonic love and intimacy from our friends bc society puts so much emphasis on finding and having romantic love. like idk about you but i wouldnt be shit without the unending love and support of my friends"

self compassion, mental health

" "diamonds are formed under pressure"

and bread dough rises when you let it rest
[...]
the same boiling water that softens the potato will harden the egg"

self compassion

"forgive yourself for what you did in survival mode"

socialization, feelings, relationships, parenting,

"just because your feelings are valid, this doesnt mean that every possible reaction to them is"

lgbt, self compassion, impostor syndrome, labels

"idk what ace person needs to hear this but

having intrusive thoughts about sexual things does not mean you are faking it ir "secretely allosexual".

intrusive thoughts are intrusive thoughts because they are stressful and unwanted. allosexual people arent tortured by their normal sexual thoughts"

["ace" being short for "asexual". can also be applied to things other than sexualities]

lgbt

"idk what young transmasc needs to hear this but you're allowed to transition to look like a feminine man"