socialization
"everyone everywhere has always had a concept of "the last straw" or "death by a thousand cuts" or "the tipping point" and yet when people tried to coin the very reasonable term "microaggression" for how even "small" forms of discrimination build up and can ruin someone's life, it got mocked and sneered at it so hard that the term fizzled and died and now there's no convenient way to explain what its like for someone to experience an insidiously slow burn of hostile or ignorant treatment without it summoning the 4chan meme brigade"
"everyone everywhere has always had a concept of "the last straw" or "death by a thousand cuts" or "the tipping point" and yet when people tried to coin the very reasonable term "microaggression" for how even "small" forms of discrimination build up and can ruin someone's life, it got mocked and sneered at it so hard that the term fizzled and died and now there's no convenient way to explain what its like for someone to experience an insidiously slow burn of hostile or ignorant treatment without it summoning the 4chan meme brigade"
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self compassion, impostor syndrome
"-i've been so frustrated
+why
-it just feels like i'll never be good enough
-i work hard
-i try so hard
-but i'll never be pretty enough
-or creative enough
-or good enough
+have you ever asked yourself the question
+what - or who - are you not good enough for
-now that you mention it... i have no idea"
"-i've been so frustrated
+why
-it just feels like i'll never be good enough
-i work hard
-i try so hard
-but i'll never be pretty enough
-or creative enough
-or good enough
+have you ever asked yourself the question
+what - or who - are you not good enough for
-now that you mention it... i have no idea"
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unscheduled message
about a week ago, an informational text about "aspire before injecting" was posted in this channel. since then, a number of people who seem informed on the issue have warned that it is not really true, with one providing an explanation of "it doesnt really matter, and it is needlessly alarmist"
admin acknowledges that posting medical advice without at least asking any professional was reckless and a bad idea, and will try to refrain from making such a mistake again
the post will now be removed from the channel. thanks for the criticism
about a week ago, an informational text about "aspire before injecting" was posted in this channel. since then, a number of people who seem informed on the issue have warned that it is not really true, with one providing an explanation of "it doesnt really matter, and it is needlessly alarmist"
admin acknowledges that posting medical advice without at least asking any professional was reckless and a bad idea, and will try to refrain from making such a mistake again
the post will now be removed from the channel. thanks for the criticism
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self compassion, socialization, relationships, parenting
"im not sure if this will come out right but:
being loved is NOT a reward for being beneficial or useful in any way.
you dont become less deserving of being loved if you arent productive for a day or if you have a bad day and cant get out of bed
i promise. being loved has nothing to do with how you "help" the world or those around you"
"im not sure if this will come out right but:
being loved is NOT a reward for being beneficial or useful in any way.
you dont become less deserving of being loved if you arent productive for a day or if you have a bad day and cant get out of bed
i promise. being loved has nothing to do with how you "help" the world or those around you"
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impostor syndrome, intrusive thoughts
"Being a good person is a choice. Don’t let people fool you into believing that truly good people never have bad thoughts, are never tempted by the easier path, by the low road, never mess up or act out selfishly. Never believe a person can be good without making a conscious effort.
Every single time you do something good, you’ve made a decision to make the world a little brighter.
Goodness is not an inherent trait, it is a choice. Keep making it! I see you, I’m proud of you, and I’m rooting for you!"
"Being a good person is a choice. Don’t let people fool you into believing that truly good people never have bad thoughts, are never tempted by the easier path, by the low road, never mess up or act out selfishly. Never believe a person can be good without making a conscious effort.
Every single time you do something good, you’ve made a decision to make the world a little brighter.
Goodness is not an inherent trait, it is a choice. Keep making it! I see you, I’m proud of you, and I’m rooting for you!"
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mental health, language
"honestly i think one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to separate your negative qualities from your identity
instead of saying "im lazy", saying "i've made a habit of not doing work unless its absolutely necessary". instead of saying "im a bad friend", saying "i havent communicated as much as i should with people i care about"
by being specific about your problems, and by framing it as an action that you are consciously either working on or ignoring rather than an unchangeable part of who you are, you allow yourself to accept your mistakes and work constructively on them instead of pretending they didnt happen or wallowing in blaming yourself"
"honestly i think one of the most empowering things you can do for yourself is to separate your negative qualities from your identity
instead of saying "im lazy", saying "i've made a habit of not doing work unless its absolutely necessary". instead of saying "im a bad friend", saying "i havent communicated as much as i should with people i care about"
by being specific about your problems, and by framing it as an action that you are consciously either working on or ignoring rather than an unchangeable part of who you are, you allow yourself to accept your mistakes and work constructively on them instead of pretending they didnt happen or wallowing in blaming yourself"
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socialization, mental illness
"one day i said out loud, "when we're apart i think you must hate me" "
"one day i said out loud, "when we're apart i think you must hate me" "
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socialization, relationships, self compassion
"in therapy my therapist in i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said "you named things you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are" "
"in therapy my therapist in i were talking about my own feelings of self worth in relationships. and she asked me to say qualities about myself that someone else would be attracted to. so i named some things like compassionate, empathetic, etc. and she said "you named things you can give someone. ways you can serve, rather than ways that you are" "
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society
"calm down edgelords, the whole point of society is that its not survival of the fittest. literally the point is that we're leveraging our collective strenghts to lead to better outcomes for everyone. we've been doing it for a couple thousand years now
the survival strategy our species dumped all its points in is cooperation and community"
"calm down edgelords, the whole point of society is that its not survival of the fittest. literally the point is that we're leveraging our collective strenghts to lead to better outcomes for everyone. we've been doing it for a couple thousand years now
the survival strategy our species dumped all its points in is cooperation and community"
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self compassion
"kurt vonnegut wrote: "when i was 15, i spent a month working on an archeological dig. i was talking to one of the archeologists one day during our lunch break and he asked those kind of "getting to know you" questions you ask young people: do you play sports? what is your favorite subject? and i told him, no i dont play any sports. i do theater, im in choir, i play the violin and piano, i used to take art classes.
and he went wow. thats amazing! and i said, "ob no, but im not any good at any of them."
and he said something then that i will never forget and which absolutely blew my mind because no one had ever said anything like it to me before: "i dont think being good at things is the point of doing them. i think you've got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all theaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them." "
"kurt vonnegut wrote: "when i was 15, i spent a month working on an archeological dig. i was talking to one of the archeologists one day during our lunch break and he asked those kind of "getting to know you" questions you ask young people: do you play sports? what is your favorite subject? and i told him, no i dont play any sports. i do theater, im in choir, i play the violin and piano, i used to take art classes.
and he went wow. thats amazing! and i said, "ob no, but im not any good at any of them."
and he said something then that i will never forget and which absolutely blew my mind because no one had ever said anything like it to me before: "i dont think being good at things is the point of doing them. i think you've got all these wonderful experiences with different skills, and that all theaches you things and makes you an interesting person, no matter how well you do them." "
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