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Basic Fucking Kindness
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parenting, trauma, anger

"in my life, most things were fleeting

there was always not enough time
not enough money
because there was always not enough...
our house only knew how to speak one language too

the language was anger
there was always enough to go around
it was free and easy to give away
our house always had some in stock ready
my father was a steady supply
i saw my mother keep her's in a jar that's always never empty"

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"my brother and i got jars too, eventually
we didnt know what to do with it so we just copied them and filled it up slowly
by breaking things during arguments
saying only the most hurtful things you can come up with on the spot - like it was a contest

we were getting really good at it.
just like them

since being on my own i've been better
but sometimes i find small jars in my pocket
that i have to remind myself to throw away"
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discrimination, minorities, society

"so many folks talk about how they're being "forced to accept" things that go against their beliefs

you're not being forced to accept them

if you have a problem with people of color, with gay marriage, with trans people, with immigrants, with women of any race etc, then you're still welcome to feel however you want to feel about those people. you're just not allowed to make their lives harder because of your feelings. you're not allowed to turn their daily lives into a battle ground

no one is forcing you to "accept" a single thing. you're just not being allowed to terrorize people"
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socialization, discrimination, neurodivergency

"i know that "dont harass people for being weird, they might be autistic!" is a fairly popular take on here. but as a certified autist, i'd like to add that harassing allistic and/or neurotypical people for being weird is also bad, and should not be done"
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unscheduled post

channel recommendation: https://news.1rj.ru/str/oddly_motivational

there is no affiliation between that channel and this one, but it is nice enough to be worth checking
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depression, mental health

"my brother was diagnossed with depression years before i was, and because of that he started therapy years before i did

i still remember when i was a young teen and he was playing a nirvana song and he stopped it at this one line: "i miss the comfort of being sad"

he told me that when you start to get better, there's a part of you that misses being sad and that if you start feeling that way you have to be extra aware and careful because if you indulge in the feeling you'll go down a self-destructive spiral"
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anxiety, mental health

"having an anxiety disorder is like the moment when your chair almost slips or you miss a step going down the stairs but it never stops"
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unscheduled post

channel is going to be paused for a while after tomorrow's post

life is requiring more energy expenditure than its possible to recover (for simplicity, lets say a normal day requires six spoons and a normal night restores five) and life is being a bit too much lately

admin needs to recharge for a while, but the channel will return to activity after that

be well
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socialization

"if you wouldnt go to someone for advice, dont take their criticism either"
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[rescheduled until good fawn explanation]

trauma, self compassion

"if you experience guilt about how you responded during a traumatic indicent, remember that during a trauma your logical brain shuts down and your survival brain makes a split second decision to either fight, flee, freeze or fawn (befriend the threat). you did not get to choose. your survival brain did. and you made it out alive, which means it made a damn good choice"
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