activism, politics, social, digital
"a little advice from someone studying extremist groups: if you're in a social media environment where the daily ubiquitous message is that you have no hope of any kind of future and you cant possibly achieve anything without a violent overthrow of society, you're being radicalized, and not in the good way.
if the solution to your problems sounds like "we need a blank slate" its a lie. there are no blank slates, and the closest approximation people can generally imagine is "burn it all down and let god/fate/history sort it out"
thats not problem solving. its barely catharsis, in practice. it doesnt just create more problems than it solves, it destroys more solutions than it creates.
put the apocalypse down, and back aways slowly.
real solutions to complex, systemic problems are not so easily reduced to "us good, them evil; kill them."
"a little advice from someone studying extremist groups: if you're in a social media environment where the daily ubiquitous message is that you have no hope of any kind of future and you cant possibly achieve anything without a violent overthrow of society, you're being radicalized, and not in the good way.
if the solution to your problems sounds like "we need a blank slate" its a lie. there are no blank slates, and the closest approximation people can generally imagine is "burn it all down and let god/fate/history sort it out"
thats not problem solving. its barely catharsis, in practice. it doesnt just create more problems than it solves, it destroys more solutions than it creates.
put the apocalypse down, and back aways slowly.
real solutions to complex, systemic problems are not so easily reduced to "us good, them evil; kill them."
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guilt, unrealistic age expectations, time
"my boyfriend didnt go to university until he was 28 because he didnt feel anywhere near ready when he was 18. he graduated with first class honours, went on to do a masters, and is now a history teacher. its so much more important to do things when you're able to fully commit to them and do them to the best of your ability than to rush to do them by an imaginary deadline"
"my boyfriend didnt go to university until he was 28 because he didnt feel anywhere near ready when he was 18. he graduated with first class honours, went on to do a masters, and is now a history teacher. its so much more important to do things when you're able to fully commit to them and do them to the best of your ability than to rush to do them by an imaginary deadline"
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digital, addictions, patterns, adhd
"my counselor once told me to make sure i wasnt doing things to distract myself from the boredom rather than try to sate it. i feel its one of the most important things he ever said to me.
when im distracting myself from the boredom, i read or game excessively so i dont feel the emptiness of boredom. its a short term thing, and it only staves the boredom as long as im doing the thing.
when im sating myself from the boredom, i pursue things i am genuinely interested in and so find myself being fulfilled and happier for a longer period of time. even if i stop doing it temporarily, i dont immediately fall apart as i would with the distraction"
"my counselor once told me to make sure i wasnt doing things to distract myself from the boredom rather than try to sate it. i feel its one of the most important things he ever said to me.
when im distracting myself from the boredom, i read or game excessively so i dont feel the emptiness of boredom. its a short term thing, and it only staves the boredom as long as im doing the thing.
when im sating myself from the boredom, i pursue things i am genuinely interested in and so find myself being fulfilled and happier for a longer period of time. even if i stop doing it temporarily, i dont immediately fall apart as i would with the distraction"
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impostor syndrome, self compassion, guilt, trauma
"yo does anyone else feel CONSTANTLY guilty? like you've always done something wrong but you dont know what it is?
yes, and i've spoken to my therapist about it, who offered an explanations:
she says that people who from a young age were made to feel like they keep doing things wrong - people who's parents had impossibly high standards for them, people who were bullied, people who have special needs, people who didnt develop crushes on the "right" people, people who didnt act like the "right" gender - basically ended up made to feel guilty so much that guilt became their default response to anything which the person didnt already have a set emotion for
people for whom guilt is the default emotional respones are also more likely to have low self-esteem, doubt their own experiences, and experience impostor syndrome. so, watch out for that too guys"
"yo does anyone else feel CONSTANTLY guilty? like you've always done something wrong but you dont know what it is?
yes, and i've spoken to my therapist about it, who offered an explanations:
she says that people who from a young age were made to feel like they keep doing things wrong - people who's parents had impossibly high standards for them, people who were bullied, people who have special needs, people who didnt develop crushes on the "right" people, people who didnt act like the "right" gender - basically ended up made to feel guilty so much that guilt became their default response to anything which the person didnt already have a set emotion for
people for whom guilt is the default emotional respones are also more likely to have low self-esteem, doubt their own experiences, and experience impostor syndrome. so, watch out for that too guys"
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politics, activism, community, guilt
"remember as you say punch nazis, wwii resistance heroes also smuggled and hid refugees, deleted refugee data, lied to cops, broke the law
hid art. made graffitti. smuggled out kids, hid people, preserved knowledge, and kept the truth out of the lies
not everyone is built to be a fighter. and thats okay. a war isnt won by the infantry alone. we need support in this trying time as the great beast called fascism rises. dont tolerate intolerance. stay angry. stay together. stay smart."
"remember as you say punch nazis, wwii resistance heroes also smuggled and hid refugees, deleted refugee data, lied to cops, broke the law
hid art. made graffitti. smuggled out kids, hid people, preserved knowledge, and kept the truth out of the lies
not everyone is built to be a fighter. and thats okay. a war isnt won by the infantry alone. we need support in this trying time as the great beast called fascism rises. dont tolerate intolerance. stay angry. stay together. stay smart."
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unscheduled post
due to current spambot waves, talking in italian in the chat has changed from disencouraged to automated instantaneousban.
if you ever want to reference an italian localism or otherwise use italian words, please keep this in mind
thank you
late edit: the automated action has been changed to instant deletion rather than instant ban for the time being
due to current spambot waves, talking in italian in the chat has changed from disencouraged to automated instantaneous
if you ever want to reference an italian localism or otherwise use italian words, please keep this in mind
thank you
late edit: the automated action has been changed to instant deletion rather than instant ban for the time being
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chronic illness, body, invisible problems, rest
"we need to stop thinking about disability as something that we either "allow" or "dont allow" to get in the way of shit
my disability does what it wants. and if it stops me from doing things, i cant help that
its got nothing to do with me "allowing" it to do anything"
"we need to stop thinking about disability as something that we either "allow" or "dont allow" to get in the way of shit
my disability does what it wants. and if it stops me from doing things, i cant help that
its got nothing to do with me "allowing" it to do anything"
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unrealistic age expectations, political, society, discussions
"«how would YOU fix the medical system then 😡» im 17 years old
like i dont need to be a carpenter to see that your ikea chair that impales everyone that sits on it and then shatters was put together wrong but that doesnt mean i know how to fix it"
"«how would YOU fix the medical system then 😡» im 17 years old
like i dont need to be a carpenter to see that your ikea chair that impales everyone that sits on it and then shatters was put together wrong but that doesnt mean i know how to fix it"
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invisible problems, neurodivergency
"ADHDers often feel like we "should" be able to do something because *we've done it before* or that our difficulty with focus/productivity isnt a real disability b/c sometimes we can do it just fine.
GUYS. LADIES. GENTLETHEMS.
THAT IS THE DISABILITY.
THE INCONSISTENCY."
"ADHDers often feel like we "should" be able to do something because *we've done it before* or that our difficulty with focus/productivity isnt a real disability b/c sometimes we can do it just fine.
GUYS. LADIES. GENTLETHEMS.
THAT IS THE DISABILITY.
THE INCONSISTENCY."
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socialization, relationships, boundaries, communication
"you're not actually a better friend for not articulating and respecting your own needs, limits and boundaries. your lack of communication and boundaries is not some impressive sacrifice. you're not doing anyone any favors by acting like you're okay with things you arent okay with. you're just building burnout and resentment that will eventually damage the relationship in question. and when you eventually snap and walk away because you silently overburdened yourself to be a "good friend", it wont be the other persons fault
highkey, this is how i lost my friends in high school. im being so serious. i know y'all are people pleaser, y'all have precious trauma or whatever to be that way, but im so serious when im telling y'all its time for that character development"
"you're not actually a better friend for not articulating and respecting your own needs, limits and boundaries. your lack of communication and boundaries is not some impressive sacrifice. you're not doing anyone any favors by acting like you're okay with things you arent okay with. you're just building burnout and resentment that will eventually damage the relationship in question. and when you eventually snap and walk away because you silently overburdened yourself to be a "good friend", it wont be the other persons fault
highkey, this is how i lost my friends in high school. im being so serious. i know y'all are people pleaser, y'all have precious trauma or whatever to be that way, but im so serious when im telling y'all its time for that character development"
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anxiety, depression, digital, political
"when i was a boy and i would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "look for the helpers. you will always find people who are helping." to this day, especially in times of "disaster", i remember my mother's words and i am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers - so many caring people in this world"
"when i was a boy and i would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "look for the helpers. you will always find people who are helping." to this day, especially in times of "disaster", i remember my mother's words and i am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers - so many caring people in this world"
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male loneliness crisis, society
"before you make that post about "the crisis facing men and boys" or "preventing redpill radicalization" stop and check in:
if your proposed solution
1.increased labor of women and girls
2.women and girls enduring more abuse for the benefit of men and boys
3.women and girls suppressing their emotions (fear, anger, resentment, etc,) and limiting their speech
4.blaming populations of women (e.g. trans women, women involved in sex trades, racialized women) for the actions of men and expecting those women to endure punishment for men
5.focusing on mantaining manhood and masculinity while reducing the discomfort men feel about holding this position, framing men's feelings of insecurity as the central issue to be addressed when it comes to violent misogyny
if so:
your "solution" to behavioral patterns emerging withing patriarchy is more patriarchy
instead:
try to imagine literally anything else"
"before you make that post about "the crisis facing men and boys" or "preventing redpill radicalization" stop and check in:
if your proposed solution
1.increased labor of women and girls
2.women and girls enduring more abuse for the benefit of men and boys
3.women and girls suppressing their emotions (fear, anger, resentment, etc,) and limiting their speech
4.blaming populations of women (e.g. trans women, women involved in sex trades, racialized women) for the actions of men and expecting those women to endure punishment for men
5.focusing on mantaining manhood and masculinity while reducing the discomfort men feel about holding this position, framing men's feelings of insecurity as the central issue to be addressed when it comes to violent misogyny
if so:
your "solution" to behavioral patterns emerging withing patriarchy is more patriarchy
instead:
try to imagine literally anything else"
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drugs, digital, rest
"learning that addiction is a progressive narrowing of the range of things that make one happy was kinda life changing for me. i apply it to everything not even just addiction i am always checking to ask if i am narrowing my range of happiness or widening it
always good to check whether your coping stragety has become something that needs its own coping strategies"
"learning that addiction is a progressive narrowing of the range of things that make one happy was kinda life changing for me. i apply it to everything not even just addiction i am always checking to ask if i am narrowing my range of happiness or widening it
always good to check whether your coping stragety has become something that needs its own coping strategies"
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art, rest
"3 easy ways to start drawing again
1- doodle
when i was a cashier i would fill up post-it notes with squiggles. like this [example] and then fill in the "background" with pencil or sharpie
here are some of my go-to doodles. everyone has their own. get the hand moving!
2-copy
drawings, movie stills, paintings, manga panels. anything you like. dont worry about it looking perfect
each imperfection and wobbly line gives the copy life. it becomes a new image
i like to color them in with no regard for the original. i also recommend doing all this while watching/listening to the junk media of your choice. ("ben quadrineros clearly was named after his podracer instead of the other way around. ben is")
3- draw together
a grade school classic. pass a notebook back and forth with a good friend. there's no pressure to make pretty pictures - i just want to make the other person laugh
(waiting patiently)
you can do this
--on an airplane!
--waiting for food at a restaurant!
--at the dmv!"
{art by junkworld}
"3 easy ways to start drawing again
1- doodle
when i was a cashier i would fill up post-it notes with squiggles. like this [example] and then fill in the "background" with pencil or sharpie
here are some of my go-to doodles. everyone has their own. get the hand moving!
2-copy
drawings, movie stills, paintings, manga panels. anything you like. dont worry about it looking perfect
each imperfection and wobbly line gives the copy life. it becomes a new image
i like to color them in with no regard for the original. i also recommend doing all this while watching/listening to the junk media of your choice. ("ben quadrineros clearly was named after his podracer instead of the other way around. ben is")
3- draw together
a grade school classic. pass a notebook back and forth with a good friend. there's no pressure to make pretty pictures - i just want to make the other person laugh
(waiting patiently)
you can do this
--on an airplane!
--waiting for food at a restaurant!
--at the dmv!"
{art by junkworld}
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