growth, healing, shame

"maturing is realizing you were toxic too

if you dont look back and cringe at your actions you probably havent been growing"

self compassion

"emotional regulation requires energy

when you're physically tired, emotional regulation is physiologically harder to achieve

so if you've used all your physical spoons and you start crying because you dropped a pen, remember its because your cells literally dont have enough ATP to coordinate the neurological processes that control your emotions. give yourself grace and rest and probably a snack"

boundaries, relationships, socialization

"its okay to need space
from people you love"

boundaries, abuse

"but there is something that happens when you are told you are Too Much
you begin to ask everyone, how small would you like me?"

{mary lambert, shame is an ocean i swim across, "you are with the wrong person"}

digital, emotional self harm, abuse, self compassion, rest

"you do not need to burn out to prove you care"

unscheduled post:

request for feedback on trannoscription, from those who make use of them. does it make a real difference to type "don't" instead of "dont" for screen readers? would it help to use «» instead of ""? anything else that is easier to deal with as a sender than as a receiver?

additionally, if there is a strong interest in using more formatting (E.G., embolden the first letter of every sentence), the possibility may be explored


this post has no expiration date and anyone can reply at any point, but please try to keep all the discussion to actual, real usecases, and dont chip in to add theories and fantasies born from maybes. emboldening letters only helps the reader if the reader is reading the post through the trannoscription and not the image.

feel free to provide illustrative links (especially for things like the aforementioned text formatting)

additionally, the majority of the post history of this channel has been transcribed now, and maybe about a quarter of the artists have been credited; but there are still posts that evaded the sieve

if anyone wants to contribute, the two main ways currently are:
-to reply #pending_trannoscription directly to the post, in its comments
-to locate the original artists in graphical posts, and reply to the post with their names, preferably but not necessarily with links

the latter is an arduous and demanding task to do for admin alone, especially with admin's technological setup, and any amount of help would go a long way :)

politics, society, fascism, free speech

"public service announcement: the right to free speech means the government cant arrest you for what you say

it doesnt mean that anyone else has to listen to your bullshit, or host you while you say it

the 1st amendment doesnt shield you from criticism or consequences

if you're yelled at, boycotted, have your show canceled, or get get banned from an internet community, your free speech rights arent being violated

its just that the people listening think you're an asshole

and they're showing you the door"

{xkcd, 2014}

afab, misogyny, society, invisible problems, menstruation

"on periods: lets put this shit to bed right now: women dont lose their minds when they have period-related irritability. it doesnt lower their ability to reason; it lowers their patience and, hence, tolerance for bullshit. if an issue comes up a lot during "that time of the month", that doesnt mean she only cares about it once a month; it means she's bothered by it all the time and lacks the capacity, once a month, to shove it down and bury it beneath six gulps of willful silence"

{shakesville: feminism 101}

body, society, feminism

"people asking "why is there hair there?" about other people's bodies is insane to me like. it GROWS there you fucking idiot. why else. move on

"but stomach hair isnt common" in what fucking universe. in what world."

self compassion, healing

"
"do i deserve this?" "am i worthy of this?"

so irrelevant. do you want it?"

body, disability, parenting, society

"instead of telling disabled kids "you can do anything you want if you put your mind to it", i think we should tell them, "the things you are capable of doing matter"

a person cant live on an increasingly strained hope that someday they'll be good enough, especially if all you ever do is tell them who they are and what they do now is worthless"

socialization, love

"platonic love is not a runner up to romantic love. platonic love isnt second place. platonic love isnt less real, less valid, or less powerful than romantic love. dont let your platonic love take a back seat to romantic love"

loneliness, society, socialization

"{1} it occurs to me that the reason our culture thinks people cant live without sex is that our culture thinks "living without sex" means living without any physical affection at all

{2} people really hear "living without sex" and think it means "no kisses, no hugs from friends and family, no cuddling, no hand-holding or looped arms," huh?

{3} probably because we are increasingly seeing those things specifically as precursors to sex, instead of inherently fulfilling actions on their own terms

{1} that specifically. there's an attitude that's views all physical affection as somehow connected to sex. hence, a social norm that you cant have those things in a nonsexual relationship"

platonic love, socialization, words

"casually tell your friends you love them, you cowards.

yes, all the time. its only kinda weird at first and then its normal, so suck it up"

'i love you!
i love you too!
love you too! ok later man
yes! its *chef's kiss
haha! ok gotta get some sleep
night! i love you!'


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boundaries, trauma, socializing

"a man saw a snake being burned to death and decided to take it out of the fire. when he did, the snake bit him causing excruciating pain. the man dropped the snake, and the reptile fell right back into the fire.

so, the man grabbed a metal pole, took the snake out of the fire and saved its life

someone who was watching approached the man and said: "that snake bit you. why are you still trying to save it?" the man replied: "the nature of the snake is to bite, but thats not gonna change my nature, which is to help". do not change your nature simply because someone harms you. do not lose your good heart, only learn to take precautions"

food, medical

"the flip side of 'cleanse diets dont do anything' is that if you tried a cleanse diet and you did experience a notable reduction in fatigue, joint pain, and general blarginess, you need to talk to an allergy specialist, because there's nearly a 100% chance that means you have an undiagnosed allergy to some component of your customary diet

this is an excellent point and i'd imagine there's a lot of quack diets that continue circulating and getting press based on this exact principle

absolutely - a great many diets of the "stop eating everything except there three foods" variety are 100% trading on the fact that they're practically guaranteed to generate some positive testimonials by virtue of coincidentally cutting somebody's undiagnosed food allergy out of their diet

cleanse diets are a fad, elimination diets are a diagnostic tool, and they often overlap in the foods you're told to stop eating. go see and allergist!!!"

anxiety, diogenes, mental health, cleaning

"the marie kondo "does this spark joy?" method of decluttering never worked for me, but an adhd tiktoker just changed my entire life by introducing "the poop rule: if this object had poop on it, would you wash it off, or throw it away?" "

"i was at a shitty crustpunk bar once getting an after-work. one of those shitholes where the bartenders clearly hate you. so the bartender and i were ignoring one another when someone sits next to me and he immediately says, "no. get out."

and the dude next to me say, "hey im not doing anything, im a paying customer". and the bartender reaches under the counter for a bat or something and says, "out. now." and the dude leaves, kind of yelling. and he was dressed in a punk uniform, i noticed

anyway, i asked what that was about and the bartender was like, "you didnt see his vest but it was all nazi shit. iron crosses and stuff. you get to recognize them."

and i was like, ohok and he continues

"you have to nip it in the bud immediately. these guys come in and its always a nice, polite one. and you serve them because you dont want to cause a scene. and then they become a regular and after awhile they bring a friend. and that dude is cool too.

and then THEY bring friends and the friends bring friends and they stop being cool and then you realize, oh shit, this is a nazi bar now. and its too late because they're entrenched and if you try to kick them out, they cause a PROBLEM. so you have to shut them down"

and i was like, 'oh damn.' and he said "yeah, you have to ignore their reasonable arguments because their end goal is to be terrible, awful people."

and then he went back to ignoring me. but i havent forgotten that at all."