“There is nothing more important for our children than living and dying on Islam. No, not good grades, college degrees, noscripts, money, marriage, car, house, etc. These things are important, but not nearly as important as their iman.
If we prioritize these things over deen, then we have taught them to live and love the dunya over the akhirah. So then don't be surprised when they grow up and leave the akhirah for the dunya. However, the dunya is only temporal and the akhirah is eternal.
The greatest accomplishment is being together with our children in jannah. Otherwise, what is the real purpose of this life? It's more important that our children make dua for us at our graves, not just being able to pay for them.”
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If we prioritize these things over deen, then we have taught them to live and love the dunya over the akhirah. So then don't be surprised when they grow up and leave the akhirah for the dunya. However, the dunya is only temporal and the akhirah is eternal.
The greatest accomplishment is being together with our children in jannah. Otherwise, what is the real purpose of this life? It's more important that our children make dua for us at our graves, not just being able to pay for them.”
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Kids Discipline.
“Play with them for the first seven years (of their life); then teach them for the next seven years; then advise them for the next seven years (and after that)." Ali ibn Abi Taalib radiyallahu anha.
·First Seven Years
In the first seven years, your goal is to build a strong connection to your child. This is the foundation, the base from which your relationship with them grows. If this is rock solid, the remaining years will be much easier. If this foundation forms poorly, the next years will be more challenging. If you have young children, this (first seven years) is the time to roll up your sleeves and invest, heavily, in your and their future.
·Next Seven Years
This is the time to teach them everything — aqeedah, halaal and haraam, fiqh, all the things they need to know to survive throughout their life. Qur’an and seerah are also very important. This is the time they are sponges, ready to soak up anything and everything you tell them, teach them, show them, and do in front of them. If you built that solid foundation in ages 0-7, they are now more than willing and happy to learn from you.
Teach them sports, too; Rasulullah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Teach your children swimming, archery and horseback riding.” They gain many benefits from it, including physical fitness, learning teamwork, and sportsmanship.
·The Final Seven Years
Once your children hit 14, they are probably already mukallaf (full adults Islamically, and accountable for their actions) — this happens at puberty, or at age 15 at the latest.
At this age, you are mostly out of the picture. Children achieve independence; their personalities manifest; they look more to their peers than their parents and families. During these critical years, befriend them, advise them, and do what you can; understand that they are now full adults, and the choices are theirs to make, right or wrong.
If you worked hard during the last two periods of seven years, you will already be that trusted confidant, that advisor, that go-to person when they need help or advice. Be part of their lives, and advise them as best you can.
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“Play with them for the first seven years (of their life); then teach them for the next seven years; then advise them for the next seven years (and after that)." Ali ibn Abi Taalib radiyallahu anha.
·First Seven Years
In the first seven years, your goal is to build a strong connection to your child. This is the foundation, the base from which your relationship with them grows. If this is rock solid, the remaining years will be much easier. If this foundation forms poorly, the next years will be more challenging. If you have young children, this (first seven years) is the time to roll up your sleeves and invest, heavily, in your and their future.
·Next Seven Years
This is the time to teach them everything — aqeedah, halaal and haraam, fiqh, all the things they need to know to survive throughout their life. Qur’an and seerah are also very important. This is the time they are sponges, ready to soak up anything and everything you tell them, teach them, show them, and do in front of them. If you built that solid foundation in ages 0-7, they are now more than willing and happy to learn from you.
Teach them sports, too; Rasulullah (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Teach your children swimming, archery and horseback riding.” They gain many benefits from it, including physical fitness, learning teamwork, and sportsmanship.
·The Final Seven Years
Once your children hit 14, they are probably already mukallaf (full adults Islamically, and accountable for their actions) — this happens at puberty, or at age 15 at the latest.
At this age, you are mostly out of the picture. Children achieve independence; their personalities manifest; they look more to their peers than their parents and families. During these critical years, befriend them, advise them, and do what you can; understand that they are now full adults, and the choices are theirs to make, right or wrong.
If you worked hard during the last two periods of seven years, you will already be that trusted confidant, that advisor, that go-to person when they need help or advice. Be part of their lives, and advise them as best you can.
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Teach your daughters the value of modesty (haya) at an early age:
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked:
We often see in women’s gatherings girls and young girls, around the age of seven years, wearing short or tight clothes, or strange haircuts, or haircuts for small girls that look like haircuts for boys. If we speak to the mothers and try to advise them, they argue that the children are still small. We hope that you can give us clear advice about children’s clothing and haircuts, may Allah bless you.
He Rahimahullah replied:
It is well known that the individual is influenced by things in his childhood and will continue to be affected by them after he grows up. Hence the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) enjoined us to instruct our children to pray when they are seven years old, and to smack them (lightly) if they do not pray when they reach the age of ten, so that they will get used to it, as the child will follow that which he is used to. If a young girl gets used to wearing short clothes that only come to the knee, and short sleeves that only come to the elbow or shoulder, she will lose all modesty and will want to wear these clothes after she grows up. The same applies with regard to hair; a woman should have a hairstyle that is different from that of men; if she makes the hair like a man’s hair, she will be resembling men and the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) cursed women who resemble men.
It should be noted that the family is responsible for these children and their upbringing and education, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “A man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for his flock.” So beware of being heedless; the father should be serious about the upbringing of his sons and daughters, and he should care for them, so that Allah will guide them and they will become a delight to him.
[Source: Al-Liqa’ al-Shahri, 66/10]
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Teach your daughters the value of modesty (haya) at an early age:
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked:
We often see in women’s gatherings girls and young girls, around the age of seven years, wearing short or tight clothes, or strange haircuts, or haircuts for small girls that look like haircuts for boys. If we speak to the mothers and try to advise them, they argue that the children are still small. We hope that you can give us clear advice about children’s clothing and haircuts, may Allah bless you.
He Rahimahullah replied:
It is well known that the individual is influenced by things in his childhood and will continue to be affected by them after he grows up. Hence the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) enjoined us to instruct our children to pray when they are seven years old, and to smack them (lightly) if they do not pray when they reach the age of ten, so that they will get used to it, as the child will follow that which he is used to. If a young girl gets used to wearing short clothes that only come to the knee, and short sleeves that only come to the elbow or shoulder, she will lose all modesty and will want to wear these clothes after she grows up. The same applies with regard to hair; a woman should have a hairstyle that is different from that of men; if she makes the hair like a man’s hair, she will be resembling men and the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) cursed women who resemble men.
It should be noted that the family is responsible for these children and their upbringing and education, as the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “A man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for his flock.” So beware of being heedless; the father should be serious about the upbringing of his sons and daughters, and he should care for them, so that Allah will guide them and they will become a delight to him.
[Source: Al-Liqa’ al-Shahri, 66/10]
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🔹📖 The reward for being righteous and dutiful to our parents are great, both in this life and in the Hereafter...
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"LORD !!!: “What I Saw When I Checked My 14-Year-Old Sister’s Facebook Inbox Broke My Heart”
Published 1 day ago on 4th January 2020 By admin
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning
What I was scared of is finally happening…
I’ve a lot to say but let me try to be brief…
It’s been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.
There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed br*ast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about s*x, boyfriends, po*nography relationship, sex, everything in that area.
Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done…
Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in… What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send n*des to a guy and the guy was planning to have s*x with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid…
My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27…
So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again…
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys…
I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter"
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Sometimes I look at people with teenage daughters and wonder if they are as scared as I am!
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"LORD !!!: “What I Saw When I Checked My 14-Year-Old Sister’s Facebook Inbox Broke My Heart”
Published 1 day ago on 4th January 2020 By admin
I Am Planing To Seriously Beat My Kid Sister 2moro Morning
What I was scared of is finally happening…
I’ve a lot to say but let me try to be brief…
It’s been 4years+ since I last went home to see my mum and siblings. I really love my kid sister so much even more than my mum.
There is a lot to say but to cut the long story short, when I came back she had already developed br*ast but she is just 14 years.
Just today I talked to her about s*x, boyfriends, po*nography relationship, sex, everything in that area.
Recently she was using my phone for Facebook, then I asked her consent to read some of her messages which she agreed. As I was reading through she dragged the phone from my hand when I wanted to click a particular chat. I became inquisitive but respected her privacy. I then asked her to log out when she is done…
Just this night I wanted to login to my Facebook then I clicked the Facebook icon her account was still logged in… What I saw broke my heart, she was planning to send n*des to a guy and the guy was planning to have s*x with her this weekend, she kept on telling him that she was afraid, but he kept on telling her he will use condom, that she should not be afraid…
My problem is that she is a minor and this guy is 27…
So this is what I plan to do, Flog her thoroughly very early tomorrow, then later talk to her again…
Then that bastard beat him up in the evening with two other guys…
I really love this girl and Want the best for her pls parents preferably how should I handle this matter"
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Sometimes I look at people with teenage daughters and wonder if they are as scared as I am!
A. Haroun
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Make use of this while you have him alive. This blessing is not permanent. This shade is not everlasting. So is nothing in this world. May Allaah forgive us and our parents and all the believers on the Day of Judgement.
Rabbir hamhumaa kamaa Rabbayaanee Sagheerah. Aameen.
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Rabbir hamhumaa kamaa Rabbayaanee Sagheerah. Aameen.
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Islaam taught us to be dutiful to our parents after the worship of Allaah, there are parents who are being harsh to their sons or daughters but still it taught us to be good to them make dua'a for them for their wellbeing, todays generation few children are being thankful and showing gratitude to their parents even their parents are being patience with their disobedience and neglectful to them, they are attached and inclined towards colleagues and friends let alone Haram relationships, than their own parents.
By the will of Allaah our parents are the reason of our existence in this world and upon us is to give their rights.
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By the will of Allaah our parents are the reason of our existence in this world and upon us is to give their rights.
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Technology is causing a huge family divide because we just can’t put down our phones. Parents & children spend hours on mobile devices hence cutting down the time for face to face interaction. Make an effort to reduce the use of your devices & start building healthy relationship.
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Make good duas always. Never make bad duas especially for yourself or your family members or your provisions.
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Conditions that must be fulfilled before striking a child | Sheikh Uthaymeen rahimahullah
1 – أنْ يكونَ الصغيرُ قابلًا للتأديب، فلا يضرب مَنْ لا يعرف المراد بالضرب.
1- That the young one is capable of being disciplined, so do not strike those who do not know the purpose of the striking.
2 – أنْ يكونَ التأديب ممَّنْ له ولايةٌ عليه.
2- That the disciplinary action is taken by those who are responsible over the child.
3 – أن لا يسرف في ذلك كميةً أو كيفيةً أو نوعًا أو موضعًا إلى غير ذلك.
3- That it does not become excessive in amount, manner, form, position etc.
4 – أنْ يقع من الصغير ما يستحق التأديب عليه.
4- That which requires disciplinary action has taken place from the child.
5 – أنْ يقصد تأديبَهُ لا الانتقام لنفسه، فإن قصد الانتقام لم يكنْ مؤدبًا، بل منتصراً.
5- That he seeks to discipline (the child) - not to take revenge for oneself; because if he seeks to take revenge then he is not acting as a discipliner, rather he is seeking vengeance.
[Al-Qawl al-Mufīd ‘alā Kitāb at-Tawhīd by Shaykh Muḥammad bin Ṣāliḥ al-ʿUthaymīn rahimahullāh, P. 671]
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1 – أنْ يكونَ الصغيرُ قابلًا للتأديب، فلا يضرب مَنْ لا يعرف المراد بالضرب.
1- That the young one is capable of being disciplined, so do not strike those who do not know the purpose of the striking.
2 – أنْ يكونَ التأديب ممَّنْ له ولايةٌ عليه.
2- That the disciplinary action is taken by those who are responsible over the child.
3 – أن لا يسرف في ذلك كميةً أو كيفيةً أو نوعًا أو موضعًا إلى غير ذلك.
3- That it does not become excessive in amount, manner, form, position etc.
4 – أنْ يقع من الصغير ما يستحق التأديب عليه.
4- That which requires disciplinary action has taken place from the child.
5 – أنْ يقصد تأديبَهُ لا الانتقام لنفسه، فإن قصد الانتقام لم يكنْ مؤدبًا، بل منتصراً.
5- That he seeks to discipline (the child) - not to take revenge for oneself; because if he seeks to take revenge then he is not acting as a discipliner, rather he is seeking vengeance.
[Al-Qawl al-Mufīd ‘alā Kitāb at-Tawhīd by Shaykh Muḥammad bin Ṣāliḥ al-ʿUthaymīn rahimahullāh, P. 671]
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No matter how old we are, even if there are children who care and love us, the love of a parent is still different. May Allah grant our parents the highest level of paradise. Aameen❤️
Al-Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله said:
“Have dinner with your mother, be kind to her, sit with her so that her eyes find comfort by way of you.
All of this is more beloved to me than making a (recommended) Hajj.”
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Al-Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله said:
“Have dinner with your mother, be kind to her, sit with her so that her eyes find comfort by way of you.
All of this is more beloved to me than making a (recommended) Hajj.”
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WHEN PARENTS GET OLD ...
Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow ...
let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child ...
let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win ...
let them enjoy their friends just as they let you …
let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them ...
let them enjoy living among the objects that have accompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away ...
let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarrass you by correcting you ...
LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!
(“Honor your mother and father and your LIFE will be full of Blessings..")
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Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow ...
let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child ...
let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win ...
let them enjoy their friends just as they let you …
let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them ...
let them enjoy living among the objects that have accompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away ...
let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarrass you by correcting you ...
LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!
(“Honor your mother and father and your LIFE will be full of Blessings..")
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Some notes regarding television
Research has found that children spend an average of three to four hours watching television each day. In a 65-year lifespan, that means s/he will have spent nine of those years in front of a box. With these statistics, we realize that children spend significant amounts of time in the fictional world, engaging with this virtual world often more than they do in the real world. It suddenly becomes worrisome when you begin to realize this fact and understand its implications. Television viewing is harmful to the intellectual, psychological, and social development of children. Even more frightening is that children may be harming their souls at a very young age; often never to recover their purity and wholesomeness again.
Dangers to intellectual, psychological, and social development
When a child is born, s/he possesses all of the brain cells (or neutrons) that s/he will have for his or her lifetime, although these cells are not yet fully developed. This progression occurs early in life though interaction with others, stimulation from the outside world, and love and care of a parent. Television has actually been found to be harmful for the process, not allowing the brain to complete its full development. This is because television viewing is a passive activity, not an active one. The American Academy of Pediatrics has itself provided a warning that children under two years of age should not be allowed to watch any television, primarily for this reason. Much of the development occurs early in childhood, but it does continue into adolescence, so this applies to children of all ages.
Nurturing Eeman in Children by Dr. Aisha Utz (formerly Hamdan); pg. 199
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Research has found that children spend an average of three to four hours watching television each day. In a 65-year lifespan, that means s/he will have spent nine of those years in front of a box. With these statistics, we realize that children spend significant amounts of time in the fictional world, engaging with this virtual world often more than they do in the real world. It suddenly becomes worrisome when you begin to realize this fact and understand its implications. Television viewing is harmful to the intellectual, psychological, and social development of children. Even more frightening is that children may be harming their souls at a very young age; often never to recover their purity and wholesomeness again.
Dangers to intellectual, psychological, and social development
When a child is born, s/he possesses all of the brain cells (or neutrons) that s/he will have for his or her lifetime, although these cells are not yet fully developed. This progression occurs early in life though interaction with others, stimulation from the outside world, and love and care of a parent. Television has actually been found to be harmful for the process, not allowing the brain to complete its full development. This is because television viewing is a passive activity, not an active one. The American Academy of Pediatrics has itself provided a warning that children under two years of age should not be allowed to watch any television, primarily for this reason. Much of the development occurs early in childhood, but it does continue into adolescence, so this applies to children of all ages.
Nurturing Eeman in Children by Dr. Aisha Utz (formerly Hamdan); pg. 199
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The Father's Role in Selecting a Good Name for his Child
One of the first responsibilities of the father when he has a child is to give him or her a proper name. A good name has a nice meaning and bears dignity. The Prophet (ﷺ) urged us to give the newborn a good name and instructed us to avoid a bad name that might have an improper meaning [and reflect badly on the child].
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The Father's Role in Selecting a Good Name for his Child
One of the first responsibilities of the father when he has a child is to give him or her a proper name. A good name has a nice meaning and bears dignity. The Prophet (ﷺ) urged us to give the newborn a good name and instructed us to avoid a bad name that might have an improper meaning [and reflect badly on the child].
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