Make use of this while you have him alive. This blessing is not permanent. This shade is not everlasting. So is nothing in this world. May Allaah forgive us and our parents and all the believers on the Day of Judgement.
Rabbir hamhumaa kamaa Rabbayaanee Sagheerah. Aameen.
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Rabbir hamhumaa kamaa Rabbayaanee Sagheerah. Aameen.
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Islaam taught us to be dutiful to our parents after the worship of Allaah, there are parents who are being harsh to their sons or daughters but still it taught us to be good to them make dua'a for them for their wellbeing, todays generation few children are being thankful and showing gratitude to their parents even their parents are being patience with their disobedience and neglectful to them, they are attached and inclined towards colleagues and friends let alone Haram relationships, than their own parents.
By the will of Allaah our parents are the reason of our existence in this world and upon us is to give their rights.
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By the will of Allaah our parents are the reason of our existence in this world and upon us is to give their rights.
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Technology is causing a huge family divide because we just can’t put down our phones. Parents & children spend hours on mobile devices hence cutting down the time for face to face interaction. Make an effort to reduce the use of your devices & start building healthy relationship.
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Make good duas always. Never make bad duas especially for yourself or your family members or your provisions.
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Conditions that must be fulfilled before striking a child | Sheikh Uthaymeen rahimahullah
1 – أنْ يكونَ الصغيرُ قابلًا للتأديب، فلا يضرب مَنْ لا يعرف المراد بالضرب.
1- That the young one is capable of being disciplined, so do not strike those who do not know the purpose of the striking.
2 – أنْ يكونَ التأديب ممَّنْ له ولايةٌ عليه.
2- That the disciplinary action is taken by those who are responsible over the child.
3 – أن لا يسرف في ذلك كميةً أو كيفيةً أو نوعًا أو موضعًا إلى غير ذلك.
3- That it does not become excessive in amount, manner, form, position etc.
4 – أنْ يقع من الصغير ما يستحق التأديب عليه.
4- That which requires disciplinary action has taken place from the child.
5 – أنْ يقصد تأديبَهُ لا الانتقام لنفسه، فإن قصد الانتقام لم يكنْ مؤدبًا، بل منتصراً.
5- That he seeks to discipline (the child) - not to take revenge for oneself; because if he seeks to take revenge then he is not acting as a discipliner, rather he is seeking vengeance.
[Al-Qawl al-Mufīd ‘alā Kitāb at-Tawhīd by Shaykh Muḥammad bin Ṣāliḥ al-ʿUthaymīn rahimahullāh, P. 671]
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1 – أنْ يكونَ الصغيرُ قابلًا للتأديب، فلا يضرب مَنْ لا يعرف المراد بالضرب.
1- That the young one is capable of being disciplined, so do not strike those who do not know the purpose of the striking.
2 – أنْ يكونَ التأديب ممَّنْ له ولايةٌ عليه.
2- That the disciplinary action is taken by those who are responsible over the child.
3 – أن لا يسرف في ذلك كميةً أو كيفيةً أو نوعًا أو موضعًا إلى غير ذلك.
3- That it does not become excessive in amount, manner, form, position etc.
4 – أنْ يقع من الصغير ما يستحق التأديب عليه.
4- That which requires disciplinary action has taken place from the child.
5 – أنْ يقصد تأديبَهُ لا الانتقام لنفسه، فإن قصد الانتقام لم يكنْ مؤدبًا، بل منتصراً.
5- That he seeks to discipline (the child) - not to take revenge for oneself; because if he seeks to take revenge then he is not acting as a discipliner, rather he is seeking vengeance.
[Al-Qawl al-Mufīd ‘alā Kitāb at-Tawhīd by Shaykh Muḥammad bin Ṣāliḥ al-ʿUthaymīn rahimahullāh, P. 671]
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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No matter how old we are, even if there are children who care and love us, the love of a parent is still different. May Allah grant our parents the highest level of paradise. Aameen❤️
Al-Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله said:
“Have dinner with your mother, be kind to her, sit with her so that her eyes find comfort by way of you.
All of this is more beloved to me than making a (recommended) Hajj.”
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Al-Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله said:
“Have dinner with your mother, be kind to her, sit with her so that her eyes find comfort by way of you.
All of this is more beloved to me than making a (recommended) Hajj.”
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Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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WHEN PARENTS GET OLD ...
Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow ...
let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child ...
let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win ...
let them enjoy their friends just as they let you …
let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them ...
let them enjoy living among the objects that have accompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away ...
let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarrass you by correcting you ...
LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!
(“Honor your mother and father and your LIFE will be full of Blessings..")
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Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow ...
let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child ...
let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win ...
let them enjoy their friends just as they let you …
let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them ...
let them enjoy living among the objects that have accompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away ...
let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarrass you by correcting you ...
LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!
(“Honor your mother and father and your LIFE will be full of Blessings..")
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Some notes regarding television
Research has found that children spend an average of three to four hours watching television each day. In a 65-year lifespan, that means s/he will have spent nine of those years in front of a box. With these statistics, we realize that children spend significant amounts of time in the fictional world, engaging with this virtual world often more than they do in the real world. It suddenly becomes worrisome when you begin to realize this fact and understand its implications. Television viewing is harmful to the intellectual, psychological, and social development of children. Even more frightening is that children may be harming their souls at a very young age; often never to recover their purity and wholesomeness again.
Dangers to intellectual, psychological, and social development
When a child is born, s/he possesses all of the brain cells (or neutrons) that s/he will have for his or her lifetime, although these cells are not yet fully developed. This progression occurs early in life though interaction with others, stimulation from the outside world, and love and care of a parent. Television has actually been found to be harmful for the process, not allowing the brain to complete its full development. This is because television viewing is a passive activity, not an active one. The American Academy of Pediatrics has itself provided a warning that children under two years of age should not be allowed to watch any television, primarily for this reason. Much of the development occurs early in childhood, but it does continue into adolescence, so this applies to children of all ages.
Nurturing Eeman in Children by Dr. Aisha Utz (formerly Hamdan); pg. 199
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Research has found that children spend an average of three to four hours watching television each day. In a 65-year lifespan, that means s/he will have spent nine of those years in front of a box. With these statistics, we realize that children spend significant amounts of time in the fictional world, engaging with this virtual world often more than they do in the real world. It suddenly becomes worrisome when you begin to realize this fact and understand its implications. Television viewing is harmful to the intellectual, psychological, and social development of children. Even more frightening is that children may be harming their souls at a very young age; often never to recover their purity and wholesomeness again.
Dangers to intellectual, psychological, and social development
When a child is born, s/he possesses all of the brain cells (or neutrons) that s/he will have for his or her lifetime, although these cells are not yet fully developed. This progression occurs early in life though interaction with others, stimulation from the outside world, and love and care of a parent. Television has actually been found to be harmful for the process, not allowing the brain to complete its full development. This is because television viewing is a passive activity, not an active one. The American Academy of Pediatrics has itself provided a warning that children under two years of age should not be allowed to watch any television, primarily for this reason. Much of the development occurs early in childhood, but it does continue into adolescence, so this applies to children of all ages.
Nurturing Eeman in Children by Dr. Aisha Utz (formerly Hamdan); pg. 199
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The Father's Role in Selecting a Good Name for his Child
One of the first responsibilities of the father when he has a child is to give him or her a proper name. A good name has a nice meaning and bears dignity. The Prophet (ﷺ) urged us to give the newborn a good name and instructed us to avoid a bad name that might have an improper meaning [and reflect badly on the child].
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The Father's Role in Selecting a Good Name for his Child
One of the first responsibilities of the father when he has a child is to give him or her a proper name. A good name has a nice meaning and bears dignity. The Prophet (ﷺ) urged us to give the newborn a good name and instructed us to avoid a bad name that might have an improper meaning [and reflect badly on the child].
Book: Reviving the Spirit of the Youth
By Shaykh Salih Al-Fawzan حفظه الله
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"Between you and Allāh is your prayer, and between you and people is your Akhlaq"
That's how we should raise our children.
That's how we should raise our children.
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For you my son!:
These rakaat (units of prayer) can save the future of one’s children!
For Abdullah ibn Masud used to pray during the night while his little son was sleeping, and he would look at him and say:
“For your sake, my son!”
And he would cry and recite His words, exalted and high:
وكان أبوهما صالحاً…
“And their father was a righteous man…”
(Quran 18:82)
These rakaat (units of prayer) can save the future of one’s children!
For Abdullah ibn Masud used to pray during the night while his little son was sleeping, and he would look at him and say:
“For your sake, my son!”
And he would cry and recite His words, exalted and high:
وكان أبوهما صالحاً…
“And their father was a righteous man…”
(Quran 18:82)
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A child who is obedient and on deen is a GIFT FROM ALLAH. Give gratitude where it's due. It's not your parenting. Many excellent and exemplary parents are tested with disobedient and harsh children. Children who have no rehma for their parents or guardians.
If your children are a coolness of your eyes - it's Allah's gift.
Alhumdulillah!
Reflect on the story of Nuh (aleyhi salaam). I don't want to undermine efforts of good Muslim parents but don't let the blessings of good children make you arrogant or judgy about someone else's parenting.
Majority of Muslim parents are trying their best.
And as Allah says, sometimes children are a test.
And know that your properties and your children are but a trial and that Allah has with Him a great reward.
{Surah Al-'Anfāl 8: Verse 28}
Parents who are being tested with children, don't blame yourself. Continue to guide with kindness, love and make dua. <3
If your children are a coolness of your eyes - it's Allah's gift.
Alhumdulillah!
Reflect on the story of Nuh (aleyhi salaam). I don't want to undermine efforts of good Muslim parents but don't let the blessings of good children make you arrogant or judgy about someone else's parenting.
Majority of Muslim parents are trying their best.
And as Allah says, sometimes children are a test.
And know that your properties and your children are but a trial and that Allah has with Him a great reward.
{Surah Al-'Anfāl 8: Verse 28}
Parents who are being tested with children, don't blame yourself. Continue to guide with kindness, love and make dua. <3
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Uphold the Rights of your Father not just on Father's Day but every day!
The Rights Of The Father Upon His Son
Shaykh Hammād Al-Ansārī رحمه الله narrated that Al-Layth Ibn Sa'ad رحمه الله said:
"The father has ten rights over his son:
1. When he needs food, he feeds him.
2. When he needs clothing, he clothes him if he is able to and this is some of the explanation of Allāh’s statement, 'Behave with them kindly in the world.' [31:15].
3. When one of his parents needs his service, he serves them.
4. When he calls him, he replies and attends to him.
5. When he commands him to do an affair, he obeys him as long as it is not an act of disobedience to Allāh or backbiting.
6. To speak with him with kind and lenient speech.
7. To not address him by his name.
8. To walk behind him.
9. To love for him what he loves for himself and dislike for him what he dislikes upon himself.
10. To supplicate for mercy for him.”
[Mukhtasar Al-Huqūq, pg.216-217. @MuSunnah]
The Rights Of The Father Upon His Son
Shaykh Hammād Al-Ansārī رحمه الله narrated that Al-Layth Ibn Sa'ad رحمه الله said:
"The father has ten rights over his son:
1. When he needs food, he feeds him.
2. When he needs clothing, he clothes him if he is able to and this is some of the explanation of Allāh’s statement, 'Behave with them kindly in the world.' [31:15].
3. When one of his parents needs his service, he serves them.
4. When he calls him, he replies and attends to him.
5. When he commands him to do an affair, he obeys him as long as it is not an act of disobedience to Allāh or backbiting.
6. To speak with him with kind and lenient speech.
7. To not address him by his name.
8. To walk behind him.
9. To love for him what he loves for himself and dislike for him what he dislikes upon himself.
10. To supplicate for mercy for him.”
[Mukhtasar Al-Huqūq, pg.216-217. @MuSunnah]
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TEN THINGS YOU MUST NOT DO WITH YOUR CHILD
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1. Screaming
Some say its worst than beating, and leaves one with long-term mental and emotional scars. Remember, the Prophet ﷺ never raised his voice on a child, women, a friend or otherwise.
2. Blaming
Blaming weakens relations, lowers self-esteem and prompts children to be on the defense, even when they haven’t done something wrong. Anas b. Malik, then a 10 year old child, said: “I served the Prophet ﷺ for nine years. He never said about anything I did, why I did that, or about anything I didn’t do, why didn’t you.”
3. Nonstop Orders
Orders and instructions, without without first convincing or persuading, turn the child into a robot and this is not healthy. When growing up, they blindly emulate and obey any authority, regardless of its values.
4. Threatening
Threatening is used because it’s a quick fix for resistance, but not a solution in the long run. Any attitude driven by [just] fear is hypocritical, and does not indicate real change.
5. Sarcasm
Making fun of a child is an unacceptable behavior in Islam: “O you who believe let not a group scoff at another group… “(49:11). Mocking a child hurts their sense of worth and self-esteem.
6. Cursing
Cursing teaches the child cursing, which he will use against others, including relatives, friends and parents. The hadith says: “A believer is never a defamer nor a curser nor coarse nor obscene.”
7. Comparing
Never compare your child to anyone, especially siblings. Comparing creates jealousy, anger and [puts them] on the defense.
8. Continuous Advising
The normal attention span is 3 to 5 minutes per year of a child’s age. Therefore, a 2-year-old should be able to concentrate on a particular task for at least 6 minutes, and a child entering kindergarten should be able to concentrate for at least 15 minutes. In the hadith “The Prophet used to take care of us by preaching during [some] days [and not others] fearing that we may get bored.”
9. Mistrust
Not giving the child the benefit of doubt weakens mutual trust, shuts frank communication and hurts self-confidence.
10. Beating
In most cases, beating a child is about parents venting anger than wisely and calmly wanting to improve a behavior. Beating, similar to a pain killer, is a temporary fix only for the parent, not a cure for the child. It creates trauma and a coward personality, which will continue to do bad things as long as “nobody is watching”.
Dr. Hesham Al-Awadi, author of "Children Around the Prophet: How Muhammad ﷺ Raised the Young Companions"
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1. Screaming
Some say its worst than beating, and leaves one with long-term mental and emotional scars. Remember, the Prophet ﷺ never raised his voice on a child, women, a friend or otherwise.
2. Blaming
Blaming weakens relations, lowers self-esteem and prompts children to be on the defense, even when they haven’t done something wrong. Anas b. Malik, then a 10 year old child, said: “I served the Prophet ﷺ for nine years. He never said about anything I did, why I did that, or about anything I didn’t do, why didn’t you.”
3. Nonstop Orders
Orders and instructions, without without first convincing or persuading, turn the child into a robot and this is not healthy. When growing up, they blindly emulate and obey any authority, regardless of its values.
4. Threatening
Threatening is used because it’s a quick fix for resistance, but not a solution in the long run. Any attitude driven by [just] fear is hypocritical, and does not indicate real change.
5. Sarcasm
Making fun of a child is an unacceptable behavior in Islam: “O you who believe let not a group scoff at another group… “(49:11). Mocking a child hurts their sense of worth and self-esteem.
6. Cursing
Cursing teaches the child cursing, which he will use against others, including relatives, friends and parents. The hadith says: “A believer is never a defamer nor a curser nor coarse nor obscene.”
7. Comparing
Never compare your child to anyone, especially siblings. Comparing creates jealousy, anger and [puts them] on the defense.
8. Continuous Advising
The normal attention span is 3 to 5 minutes per year of a child’s age. Therefore, a 2-year-old should be able to concentrate on a particular task for at least 6 minutes, and a child entering kindergarten should be able to concentrate for at least 15 minutes. In the hadith “The Prophet used to take care of us by preaching during [some] days [and not others] fearing that we may get bored.”
9. Mistrust
Not giving the child the benefit of doubt weakens mutual trust, shuts frank communication and hurts self-confidence.
10. Beating
In most cases, beating a child is about parents venting anger than wisely and calmly wanting to improve a behavior. Beating, similar to a pain killer, is a temporary fix only for the parent, not a cure for the child. It creates trauma and a coward personality, which will continue to do bad things as long as “nobody is watching”.
Dr. Hesham Al-Awadi, author of "Children Around the Prophet: How Muhammad ﷺ Raised the Young Companions"
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