Ibn al Jawzi (rahimahullah) wrote: The intelligent ones acknowledge the rights of their parents and are greatful for their efforts.
Unfortunately its common nowadays to hear children being disrespectful to their parents. Some even go as far as cursing them! We seek Allaah's help and protection from all type of (foolish and disgusting) insolence!
I have personally heard statements such as:
• "What have they ever done for me?"
• "My father did not spend any time with me while I was young."
• "My parents did not spend any money on me"
• "My parents have not done anything for me"
(and the like)
In some cases parents do indeed neglect or mistreat their children.
Despite this, there is no justification for children to pay back their parents with hurt or throw back abuse!
Children have rights, but the rights of their parents are far, far greater.
📚[At Their Feet: Piety Towards Parents, Ibn al-Jawzi (rahimahullah), pg. 12]
Unfortunately its common nowadays to hear children being disrespectful to their parents. Some even go as far as cursing them! We seek Allaah's help and protection from all type of (foolish and disgusting) insolence!
I have personally heard statements such as:
• "What have they ever done for me?"
• "My father did not spend any time with me while I was young."
• "My parents did not spend any money on me"
• "My parents have not done anything for me"
(and the like)
In some cases parents do indeed neglect or mistreat their children.
Despite this, there is no justification for children to pay back their parents with hurt or throw back abuse!
Children have rights, but the rights of their parents are far, far greater.
📚[At Their Feet: Piety Towards Parents, Ibn al-Jawzi (rahimahullah), pg. 12]
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WISDOM FOR PARENTING
1- Avoid Giving your child everything he asks for. He will grow up believing that he has the right to get everything he wants.
2-Avoid laughing when your child speaks insúlting words. He will grow up thinking that dísréspect is entertainment.
3-Avoid remaining insénsitive to bâd behavior that he can display without scølding him for his bâd behavior. He will grow up thinking that there are no rules in society.
4- Avoid picking up anything that your child mésses up. He will grow up believing that others must take responsibility for his méss.
5- Avoid letting him watch any program on TV. He will grow up thinking that there is no difference between being a child and being an adult.
6- Avoid giving your child all the money he asks for. He will grow up thinking that getting money is easy and will not hesitate to stëal for it.
7- Always avoid putting yourself on his side when he is wrøng against the neighbors, his teachers, the police. He will grow up thinking that everything he does is right, it is the others who are wrøn and he can always get away with everything.
8- Avoid leaving him alone at home when you go to the place of worship, otherwise he will grow up thinking that God does not exíst.
1- Avoid Giving your child everything he asks for. He will grow up believing that he has the right to get everything he wants.
2-Avoid laughing when your child speaks insúlting words. He will grow up thinking that dísréspect is entertainment.
3-Avoid remaining insénsitive to bâd behavior that he can display without scølding him for his bâd behavior. He will grow up thinking that there are no rules in society.
4- Avoid picking up anything that your child mésses up. He will grow up believing that others must take responsibility for his méss.
5- Avoid letting him watch any program on TV. He will grow up thinking that there is no difference between being a child and being an adult.
6- Avoid giving your child all the money he asks for. He will grow up thinking that getting money is easy and will not hesitate to stëal for it.
7- Always avoid putting yourself on his side when he is wrøng against the neighbors, his teachers, the police. He will grow up thinking that everything he does is right, it is the others who are wrøn and he can always get away with everything.
8- Avoid leaving him alone at home when you go to the place of worship, otherwise he will grow up thinking that God does not exíst.
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Hasan Al-Basrī رحمه الله said:
“Looking at the face of the mother is an act of worship!
So how about obeying her?”
[Musnad Ibn Mubārak: 146]
#mother #obedience
“Looking at the face of the mother is an act of worship!
So how about obeying her?”
[Musnad Ibn Mubārak: 146]
#mother #obedience
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Advice To The One Who Has Been Cut Off By Their Mother – Shaykh Muhammad Bazmul
Questioner
My mother cut me off and I have tried time and time again to speak to her but she refuses to meet me. What advice do you have for me? May Allāh bless you.
Shaykh Muḥammad Bāzmūl
The advice I have for her is that she should continue to try, that she should pray for her mother, that she try to keep her filial duty to her and never be the one to cut ties, because Allāh gave parents a tremendous right, even when they are unbelievers, so can you think of how much greater it is when she is a Muslim? Her right would be that much more deserved. She should also think well of her mother and not carry bad memories of her and she should avoid anything that would lead to ties being severed.
She should also exercise patience and tolerance, continue to try to connect with her mother, pray for her and maintain her filial obligation towards her through acts of charity as well as through other means. We ask Allāh to help us and help her towards sources of good, righteousness and guidance.
https://dusunnah.com/video/advice-to-the-one-who-has-been-cut-off-by-their-mother-shaykh-muhammad-bazmul/
Questioner
My mother cut me off and I have tried time and time again to speak to her but she refuses to meet me. What advice do you have for me? May Allāh bless you.
Shaykh Muḥammad Bāzmūl
The advice I have for her is that she should continue to try, that she should pray for her mother, that she try to keep her filial duty to her and never be the one to cut ties, because Allāh gave parents a tremendous right, even when they are unbelievers, so can you think of how much greater it is when she is a Muslim? Her right would be that much more deserved. She should also think well of her mother and not carry bad memories of her and she should avoid anything that would lead to ties being severed.
She should also exercise patience and tolerance, continue to try to connect with her mother, pray for her and maintain her filial obligation towards her through acts of charity as well as through other means. We ask Allāh to help us and help her towards sources of good, righteousness and guidance.
https://dusunnah.com/video/advice-to-the-one-who-has-been-cut-off-by-their-mother-shaykh-muhammad-bazmul/
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Advice To The One Who Has Been Cut Off By Their Mother – Shaykh Muhammad Bazmul | Masjid Daar us Sunnah
Questioner My mother cut me off and I have tried time and time again to speak to her but she refuses to meet me. What advice do you have for me? May Allāh bless you. Shaykh Muḥammad Bāzmūl The advice I have for her is that she should continue to try, that…
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حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْمُثَنَّى، حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، عَنْ هِشَامٍ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي أَبِي، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَضَعَ صَبِيًّا فِي حِجْرِهِ يُحَنِّكُهُ، فَبَالَ عَلَيْهِ، فَدَعَا بِمَاءٍ فَأَتْبَعَهُ.
Narrated `Aisha: The Prophet (ﷺ) took a child in his lap for Tahnik (i.e. he chewed a date in his mouth and put its juice in the mouth of the child). The child urinated on him, so he asked for water and poured it over the place of the urine.
Sahih al-Bukhari 6002
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6002
Narrated `Aisha: The Prophet (ﷺ) took a child in his lap for Tahnik (i.e. he chewed a date in his mouth and put its juice in the mouth of the child). The child urinated on him, so he asked for water and poured it over the place of the urine.
Sahih al-Bukhari 6002
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:6002
#Honouring_the_parents
قال الشيخ عبد المحسن بن حمد البدر حفظه الله، " بر الوالدين، من أسباب إجابة الدعاء "
[درس صحيح البخاري/ السبت ٩ ربيع الأول ١٤٤٠هـ / كتاب الأدب]
Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin bin Hamad al-'Badr (may Allāh preserve him) said,
“Honoring one's parents, is from the reasons the supplication is answered.”
[Dars Sahīh al-Bukhārī / Saturday 9th Rabī’ al-Awwal 1440 Hijrī / Kitāb al-Adab]
قال الشيخ عبد المحسن بن حمد البدر حفظه الله، " بر الوالدين، من أسباب إجابة الدعاء "
[درس صحيح البخاري/ السبت ٩ ربيع الأول ١٤٤٠هـ / كتاب الأدب]
Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin bin Hamad al-'Badr (may Allāh preserve him) said,
“Honoring one's parents, is from the reasons the supplication is answered.”
[Dars Sahīh al-Bukhārī / Saturday 9th Rabī’ al-Awwal 1440 Hijrī / Kitāb al-Adab]
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📺 Allāh will ask us about our children!|| Abu Anwar An Naijiriy (May Allah assist him)
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A woman asked Mufti: What should I do to my kids to wake them up for Fajr due to their heavy sleep?
He said: What will you do if there's a fire in the house and they are sleeping?
She said: I will wake them up.
The Mufti said: But there sleep is heavy.
The woman said: By Allah I will wake them up or drag them by their necks.
Then he is said : If this is what you are going to do to save them from the fire of the Dunya then do the same to save them from the blazing fire of the Jannamah 🔥
He said: What will you do if there's a fire in the house and they are sleeping?
She said: I will wake them up.
The Mufti said: But there sleep is heavy.
The woman said: By Allah I will wake them up or drag them by their necks.
Then he is said : If this is what you are going to do to save them from the fire of the Dunya then do the same to save them from the blazing fire of the Jannamah 🔥
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Siblings can grow up in the same home, but have completely different experiences of their childhood and their parents.
When a child is born, they're born into a set of emotional circumstances.
Here's why :
These emotional circumstances are created by: the relationship between parents, the ages of parents (and where they're at in their own growth), economic factors, career factors, etc.
For example: one sibling is born to parents at 26 years old, right after their marriage. The couple faces financial pressure and the pressures of learning to navigate life together.
Their first child is the center of their universe.
But, one parent is heavily invested in establishing their career path.
4 years later, with an established career and at a very different stage in their relationship, this couple has their second child.
This child has a completely different perspective on their parents. Financial circumstances have changed, and the parent's relationship is more stable and secure.
The parent who feels they missed much of their first child's life is heavily involved.
Forming a different bond with the second born child.
3 years later, a third child is born. The parents (at this stage in their relationship) are emotionally disconnected.
And distant with each other.
The child senses this disconnection right away. Unconsciously, the 3rd born child seeks attachment stability to cope with the felt emotional disconnect.
Meaning: the 3rd child is "overly needy" of one parent's affection.
That parent feels loved and needed, but this puts more of a strain on the marriage.
The other parent is emotionally triggered by the child's desire of closeness.
They feel rejected or abandoned by that child.
They then direct their affection to the first born child of the "golden child" of the home.
Each child experiences the parent differently and each child brings out different aspects of each parent.
For example:
- one sibling is stubborn or head strong and this triggers the parent who grew up in a with a stubborn father they had a conflicted relationship with
- one sibling is highly emotionally sensitive and this creates a deep bond with their parent who is also highly emotionally sensitive
Ultimately, each child meets different parts of each parent.
At different seasons and stages of their lives.
No siblings will view their parents in the same way, because their parents become different people throughout the years.
With different: needs, goals, agendas, and desires.
Dr. Nicole Lepera
When a child is born, they're born into a set of emotional circumstances.
Here's why :
These emotional circumstances are created by: the relationship between parents, the ages of parents (and where they're at in their own growth), economic factors, career factors, etc.
For example: one sibling is born to parents at 26 years old, right after their marriage. The couple faces financial pressure and the pressures of learning to navigate life together.
Their first child is the center of their universe.
But, one parent is heavily invested in establishing their career path.
4 years later, with an established career and at a very different stage in their relationship, this couple has their second child.
This child has a completely different perspective on their parents. Financial circumstances have changed, and the parent's relationship is more stable and secure.
The parent who feels they missed much of their first child's life is heavily involved.
Forming a different bond with the second born child.
3 years later, a third child is born. The parents (at this stage in their relationship) are emotionally disconnected.
And distant with each other.
The child senses this disconnection right away. Unconsciously, the 3rd born child seeks attachment stability to cope with the felt emotional disconnect.
Meaning: the 3rd child is "overly needy" of one parent's affection.
That parent feels loved and needed, but this puts more of a strain on the marriage.
The other parent is emotionally triggered by the child's desire of closeness.
They feel rejected or abandoned by that child.
They then direct their affection to the first born child of the "golden child" of the home.
Each child experiences the parent differently and each child brings out different aspects of each parent.
For example:
- one sibling is stubborn or head strong and this triggers the parent who grew up in a with a stubborn father they had a conflicted relationship with
- one sibling is highly emotionally sensitive and this creates a deep bond with their parent who is also highly emotionally sensitive
Ultimately, each child meets different parts of each parent.
At different seasons and stages of their lives.
No siblings will view their parents in the same way, because their parents become different people throughout the years.
With different: needs, goals, agendas, and desires.
Dr. Nicole Lepera
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The Mother’s rights over her child
The mother has many major rights over her child. These rights are innumerable, Abu Hurayrah (may ALLAH be pleased with him) said: “A man came to the Messenger of ALLAH (ﷺ) and said, ‘O Messenger of ALLAH (ﷺ) who among the people is most deserving of my good companionship?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ The man asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Your father.’”
ALLAHﷻ says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship…” [Qur'an, al-Ahqaaf 46:15]
Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas (may Allaah be pleased with them both) said: “A man came to the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) and asked him for permission to participate in jihaad. The Messenger of ALLAH (ﷺ) said to him, ‘Are your parents alive?’ He said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘Then your jihaad is with them.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2842; Muslim, 2549)
Obeying her when she tells you to do something good. But if she tells you to do something bad, such as shirk, then there should be no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience to the Creator.
ALLAHﷻ says (interpretation of the meaning):
“But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly” [Qur'an, Luqmaan 31:15]
The mother has many major rights over her child. These rights are innumerable, Abu Hurayrah (may ALLAH be pleased with him) said: “A man came to the Messenger of ALLAH (ﷺ) and said, ‘O Messenger of ALLAH (ﷺ) who among the people is most deserving of my good companionship?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ The man asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, then who?’ He said, ‘Your mother.’ He asked, ‘Then who?’ He said, ‘Your father.’”
ALLAHﷻ says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents. His mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship…” [Qur'an, al-Ahqaaf 46:15]
Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas (may Allaah be pleased with them both) said: “A man came to the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) and asked him for permission to participate in jihaad. The Messenger of ALLAH (ﷺ) said to him, ‘Are your parents alive?’ He said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘Then your jihaad is with them.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 2842; Muslim, 2549)
Obeying her when she tells you to do something good. But if she tells you to do something bad, such as shirk, then there should be no obedience to any created being if it involves disobedience to the Creator.
ALLAHﷻ says (interpretation of the meaning):
“But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly” [Qur'an, Luqmaan 31:15]
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Muslim Children Tips
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I want to secure my children's future!
Abdul Rahman bin Qasim, may Allah have mercy on him, entered upon al-Mansur, may Allah have mercy on him, on the day he was pledged for the caliphate. Al-Mansour said to him:
Advise me, O Abdul Rahman.
He said: Should I advise you based on what I saw or what I heard?
He said: Rather, according to what you saw.
He said: O Commander of the Momineen! Umar bin Abdul Aziz gave birth to eleven children and left behind eighteen dinars. He was shrouded for five dinars, a grave was bought for him for four dinars, and the rest was distributed among his children (that is, nine dinars remained for eleven children!!)
Hisham bin Abdul Malik gave birth to eleven children, and each son’s share of the estate was one thousand dinars (one million dinars each)
By Allah... O Commander of the Momineen:
One day, I saw one of Umar bin Abdulaziz’s sons give one hundred horses in charity for Jihad for the sake of Allah and saw one of Hisham's sons begging in the markets
People asked Umar bin Abdulaziz on his deathbed:
What did you leave for your children, Umar?
He said: “I left them the fear of Allah.”
If they are righteous, then Allah the Almighty takes care of the righteous.
If they are otherwise, I will not leave them what helps them to disobey Allah the Almighty
Consider, many people work hard and exert great effort to secure the future of their children, thinking that having money in their hands after their death is a security for them.
They overlooked the great security that Allah the Almighty mentioned in his book:
وَلْيَخْشَ الَّذِينَ لَوْ تَرَكُوا مِنْ خَلْفِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّةً ضِعَافًا خَافُوا عَلَيْهِمْ فَلْيَتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَلْيَقُولُوا قَوْلًا سَدِيدًا
And let those (executors and guardians) have the same fear in their minds as they would have for their own, if they had left weak offspring behind. So let them fear Allâh and speak right words
Surat An-Nisa (9).
Source: Biography of Umar bin Abdul Aziz by Ibn al-Jawzi (33)
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Abdul Rahman bin Qasim, may Allah have mercy on him, entered upon al-Mansur, may Allah have mercy on him, on the day he was pledged for the caliphate. Al-Mansour said to him:
Advise me, O Abdul Rahman.
He said: Should I advise you based on what I saw or what I heard?
He said: Rather, according to what you saw.
He said: O Commander of the Momineen! Umar bin Abdul Aziz gave birth to eleven children and left behind eighteen dinars. He was shrouded for five dinars, a grave was bought for him for four dinars, and the rest was distributed among his children (that is, nine dinars remained for eleven children!!)
Hisham bin Abdul Malik gave birth to eleven children, and each son’s share of the estate was one thousand dinars (one million dinars each)
By Allah... O Commander of the Momineen:
One day, I saw one of Umar bin Abdulaziz’s sons give one hundred horses in charity for Jihad for the sake of Allah and saw one of Hisham's sons begging in the markets
People asked Umar bin Abdulaziz on his deathbed:
What did you leave for your children, Umar?
He said: “I left them the fear of Allah.”
If they are righteous, then Allah the Almighty takes care of the righteous.
If they are otherwise, I will not leave them what helps them to disobey Allah the Almighty
Consider, many people work hard and exert great effort to secure the future of their children, thinking that having money in their hands after their death is a security for them.
They overlooked the great security that Allah the Almighty mentioned in his book:
وَلْيَخْشَ الَّذِينَ لَوْ تَرَكُوا مِنْ خَلْفِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّةً ضِعَافًا خَافُوا عَلَيْهِمْ فَلْيَتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَلْيَقُولُوا قَوْلًا سَدِيدًا
And let those (executors and guardians) have the same fear in their minds as they would have for their own, if they had left weak offspring behind. So let them fear Allâh and speak right words
Surat An-Nisa (9).
Source: Biography of Umar bin Abdul Aziz by Ibn al-Jawzi (33)
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