*💎 SEEKING ALLAH'S AID IN RAISING CHILDREN*
▪️In one of his tafseer lessons, Shaykh ‘Abd al-Razzaq al-Badr said:
*لا يمكن أن يصلح لك فرد من أفراد ذريتك إلا إذا أصلحه الله لك. مهما اجتهدت في تأديبه وتربيته وأطْرِهِ على الحق، والزامه بالاستقامة لا يمكن أن يستقيم ويَصلُح إلا إذا أصلحه الله لك. فالهادي هو الله، والموفق هو الله سبحانه وتعالى. ولهذا ينبغي على المسلم أن يَعْظُمَ رجاؤه بالله، وسؤاله لله، والحَاحُه على الله -سبحانه وتعالى- أن يصلح ذريته. فهاهو خليل الرحمن في دعائه يقول: {رَبَّنَا وَاجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُّسْلِمَةً لَّكَ}. ـ *
It is not possible for you to make any of your offspring upright unless Allah makes him upright for you.
No matter how hard you work to instill good manners in him, raise him right, make him receptive to the truth, and make him stick to upright behavior, it is not possible for him to be in good standing and upright unless Allah makes him upright for you.
For Allah is the guide. Allah is the One who gives success.
That is why a Muslim ought to give importance to placing his hopes on Allah, asking Allah, and his own reliance on Allah in making his offspring upright. That is why Khalil al-Rahman – Ibrahim عليه السلام – said in his supplication:
*رَبَّنَا وَاجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُّسْلِمَةً لَّكَ*
O our Lord, and make us both those who submit to you, and make out of our offspring a nation that submits to you [2:128]
[Class #8 of the sheikh’s explanation of the book Tafsir Ayaat al-Qur’an al-Kareem of Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Abd al-Wahhab] 📙
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▪️In one of his tafseer lessons, Shaykh ‘Abd al-Razzaq al-Badr said:
*لا يمكن أن يصلح لك فرد من أفراد ذريتك إلا إذا أصلحه الله لك. مهما اجتهدت في تأديبه وتربيته وأطْرِهِ على الحق، والزامه بالاستقامة لا يمكن أن يستقيم ويَصلُح إلا إذا أصلحه الله لك. فالهادي هو الله، والموفق هو الله سبحانه وتعالى. ولهذا ينبغي على المسلم أن يَعْظُمَ رجاؤه بالله، وسؤاله لله، والحَاحُه على الله -سبحانه وتعالى- أن يصلح ذريته. فهاهو خليل الرحمن في دعائه يقول: {رَبَّنَا وَاجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُّسْلِمَةً لَّكَ}. ـ *
It is not possible for you to make any of your offspring upright unless Allah makes him upright for you.
No matter how hard you work to instill good manners in him, raise him right, make him receptive to the truth, and make him stick to upright behavior, it is not possible for him to be in good standing and upright unless Allah makes him upright for you.
For Allah is the guide. Allah is the One who gives success.
That is why a Muslim ought to give importance to placing his hopes on Allah, asking Allah, and his own reliance on Allah in making his offspring upright. That is why Khalil al-Rahman – Ibrahim عليه السلام – said in his supplication:
*رَبَّنَا وَاجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُّسْلِمَةً لَّكَ*
O our Lord, and make us both those who submit to you, and make out of our offspring a nation that submits to you [2:128]
[Class #8 of the sheikh’s explanation of the book Tafsir Ayaat al-Qur’an al-Kareem of Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Abd al-Wahhab] 📙
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MOTHERHOOD IS ONE OF THE GREATEST QUALITIES OF WOMEN
Motherhood is one of the greatest and prestigious qualities of women. Allāh ordained various rulings that stem from motherhood; rulings related to pregnancy, breastfeeding, kindness, mercy, and other matters of this sort that flow out of her heart. Not to mention her overwhelming emotions towards her children; she is the one who carries, breastfeed, educate them, and stay sleepless for the sake of their comfort. Accordingly, Allāh rewarded her with making Paradise under her feet.
Book: Contributions Of The Muslim Woman in Giving Sincere Advice
By Shaykh Doctor Ridā bin Khālid Būshāmah
Translated by Abdullah Omrān
Maktabatulirshad Publications
P. 23
Motherhood is one of the greatest and prestigious qualities of women. Allāh ordained various rulings that stem from motherhood; rulings related to pregnancy, breastfeeding, kindness, mercy, and other matters of this sort that flow out of her heart. Not to mention her overwhelming emotions towards her children; she is the one who carries, breastfeed, educate them, and stay sleepless for the sake of their comfort. Accordingly, Allāh rewarded her with making Paradise under her feet.
Book: Contributions Of The Muslim Woman in Giving Sincere Advice
By Shaykh Doctor Ridā bin Khālid Būshāmah
Translated by Abdullah Omrān
Maktabatulirshad Publications
P. 23
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We all have to face reality. It does not mean being pessimistic. Rather, facing reality is essential. Reality is harsh and tough, full of struggle. And if accepting this makes me pessimistic, then it's better than living your life in continuous fantasy. Fantasy is not just thinking big; it means your aim in life may not be so big or flashy, but at the same time, you are seeking to achieve a status that is continuously fueled by your ignorance. It means you keep ignoring or making yourself forget the harshness of this world; you actually cannot even address it as "harshness" or "tough"; this is what it is. This world can make you forget the remembrance of your Lord. This very world can make you forget who you are and what your true purpose is. This very world is to test you. So, do you think the one who is deluded in these worldly desires thinks this world is harsh or nothing but delusion? No, he is the same parasite; this is what he wants. So, he does whatever it takes for him to get power, wealth, money. He wants this so that he can make other people feel worthless.
So what makes "pessimistic"? Me denying this worldview? Or not aiming as that parasite? You have to face reality without sugarcoating it, without thinking this world will ever give you anything. Living for the sake of Allah is what makes you human. We can argue about what is right or wrong; it's all just a waste of time. There is no right or wrong except what Allah has declared as right or wrong.
These words are especially for men. Many now fantasize about marriage way too much than it is. Trust me; nothing is wrong with getting married. Wallahi, I do know. Having a righteous wife or wives is one of the greatest blessings you can have in this dunya. No doubt, they bring sukun and calmness. But realize, this is not life. If you give all your love to your wife and go extreme in loving her, trust me, I have seen many who love their wives madly, and they leave haqq just because "his wife does not want that." Stay away from this level; this is a trial. Trust me, akhi; no one loves you without conditions. As Allah said in the Quran,
"O believers! Do not let your wealth or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. For whoever does so, it is they who are the true losers." (Quran 63:9)
"O believers! Indeed, some of your spouses and children are enemies to you...." (Quran 64:14)
"Your wealth and your children are but a trial, and Allah has with Him a great reward." (Quran 64:15)
So what makes "pessimistic"? Me denying this worldview? Or not aiming as that parasite? You have to face reality without sugarcoating it, without thinking this world will ever give you anything. Living for the sake of Allah is what makes you human. We can argue about what is right or wrong; it's all just a waste of time. There is no right or wrong except what Allah has declared as right or wrong.
These words are especially for men. Many now fantasize about marriage way too much than it is. Trust me; nothing is wrong with getting married. Wallahi, I do know. Having a righteous wife or wives is one of the greatest blessings you can have in this dunya. No doubt, they bring sukun and calmness. But realize, this is not life. If you give all your love to your wife and go extreme in loving her, trust me, I have seen many who love their wives madly, and they leave haqq just because "his wife does not want that." Stay away from this level; this is a trial. Trust me, akhi; no one loves you without conditions. As Allah said in the Quran,
"O believers! Do not let your wealth or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. For whoever does so, it is they who are the true losers." (Quran 63:9)
"O believers! Indeed, some of your spouses and children are enemies to you...." (Quran 64:14)
"Your wealth and your children are but a trial, and Allah has with Him a great reward." (Quran 64:15)
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Father - The Most Influential Person to his Child
A child - without a doubt - is influenced by his father, influenced by his behavior, manners, interaction [with people] and religion; he is the most influenced by his father as was said: "A youngster from the youth will grow up amongst us based upon what his father accustomed him to."
From the matters that aid in raising children is keeping them away from all affairs that would ruin their good character. We keep them away from hearing illicit and immoral music and viewing impermissible things, women, debased films, and foul magazines - these are matters that we should protect our children against. However, if the father is the one who brings these things and puts them in front of his child, it will pave a path (and refuge is sought with Allaah) that leads to lewdness and the committing of forbidden acts.
So it is mandatory upon the father to protect his child against every matter that will cause him to fall into what Allaah has forbidden, into what displeases the Lord of the universe, like listening to music, watching filthy movies, reading lowly magazines, and what is similar to that. He must protect his children against these matters and keep it as far from them as possible.
Extracted from the book, Raising Children In Islam by Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq bin Abdul Muhsin al-Badr
A child - without a doubt - is influenced by his father, influenced by his behavior, manners, interaction [with people] and religion; he is the most influenced by his father as was said: "A youngster from the youth will grow up amongst us based upon what his father accustomed him to."
From the matters that aid in raising children is keeping them away from all affairs that would ruin their good character. We keep them away from hearing illicit and immoral music and viewing impermissible things, women, debased films, and foul magazines - these are matters that we should protect our children against. However, if the father is the one who brings these things and puts them in front of his child, it will pave a path (and refuge is sought with Allaah) that leads to lewdness and the committing of forbidden acts.
So it is mandatory upon the father to protect his child against every matter that will cause him to fall into what Allaah has forbidden, into what displeases the Lord of the universe, like listening to music, watching filthy movies, reading lowly magazines, and what is similar to that. He must protect his children against these matters and keep it as far from them as possible.
Extracted from the book, Raising Children In Islam by Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq bin Abdul Muhsin al-Badr
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Narrated 'Amir: I heard An-Nu
man bin Bashir on the pulpit saying, My father gave me a gift but Amra bint Rawaha (my mother) said that she would not agree to it unless he made ALLAH's Messenger (ﷺ) as a witness to it. So, my father went to ALLAH's Messenger(ﷺ) and said, 'I have given a gift to my son from `Amra bint Rawaha, but she ordered me to make you as a witness to it, O ALLAH's Messenger(ﷺ)!' ALLAH's Messenger(ﷺ) asked, 'Have you given (the like of it) to everyone of your children?' He replied in the negative. ALLAH's Messenger(ﷺ) said, 'Be afraid of ALLAH, and be just to your children.' My father then returned and took back his gift. (Sahih Al-Bukhari : 2587)👍4
If your parents raised you to not celebrate Christmas because you're Muslim, that's enough reason to be grateful to them.
When I was a kid, I saw a lot of so-called Muslim families decorate their homes for Christmas. Now, the children of those families have grown up and they all celebrate Christmas and have Christmas trees in their homes.
What an evil practice their parents introduced to the family! They will continue to gain sins for generations to come. We seek refuge with Allah!
The Prophet ﷺ said: "He who introduced some evil practice in Islam which had been followed subsequently (by others), he would be required to bear the burden like that of one who followed this (evil practice) without their's being diminished in any respect." (Sahih Muslim)
When I was a kid, I saw a lot of so-called Muslim families decorate their homes for Christmas. Now, the children of those families have grown up and they all celebrate Christmas and have Christmas trees in their homes.
What an evil practice their parents introduced to the family! They will continue to gain sins for generations to come. We seek refuge with Allah!
The Prophet ﷺ said: "He who introduced some evil practice in Islam which had been followed subsequently (by others), he would be required to bear the burden like that of one who followed this (evil practice) without their's being diminished in any respect." (Sahih Muslim)
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Thawban reported:
The Messenger of Allah صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said, “Nothing extends one's life span but Birr (being dutiful to parents, maintaining family ties), nothing averts the Divine Decree but Du’a (supplication), and nothing deprives a man of provision but the sin that he commits.”
Source: Sunan Ibn Majah 90
Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Albani
عَنْ ثَوْبَانَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لاَ يَزِيدُ فِي الْعُمْرِ إِلاَّ الْبِرُّ وَلاَ يَرُدُّ الْقَدَرَ إِلاَّ الدُّعَاءُ وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيُحْرَمُ الرِّزْقَ لِلْخَطِيئَةِ يَعْمَلُهَا
90 سنن ابن ماجه كتاب المقدمة
73 المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث حسن في صحيح ابن ماجه
The Messenger of Allah صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said, “Nothing extends one's life span but Birr (being dutiful to parents, maintaining family ties), nothing averts the Divine Decree but Du’a (supplication), and nothing deprives a man of provision but the sin that he commits.”
Source: Sunan Ibn Majah 90
Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Albani
عَنْ ثَوْبَانَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لاَ يَزِيدُ فِي الْعُمْرِ إِلاَّ الْبِرُّ وَلاَ يَرُدُّ الْقَدَرَ إِلاَّ الدُّعَاءُ وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيُحْرَمُ الرِّزْقَ لِلْخَطِيئَةِ يَعْمَلُهَا
90 سنن ابن ماجه كتاب المقدمة
73 المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث حسن في صحيح ابن ماجه
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Indeed the woman is the backbone of the family, as it is said:
“Behind every great person there is a woman in whose home they were raised.”
[A Woman’s Guide to Raising a Family by Shaykh Sālih Al-Fawzān pg. 19]
“Behind every great person there is a woman in whose home they were raised.”
[A Woman’s Guide to Raising a Family by Shaykh Sālih Al-Fawzān pg. 19]
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LOOK AT THE FIQH OF OUR SALAF?
Ibn Sireen (rahimahullah) and his mother.
Muhammad Ibn Sireen (rahimahullah) said "one night I was massaging my mother's feet and my brother was praying the night prayer. Then he asked his students " who deserves more reward"? He answered his question and said I. "Looking after the needs of the mother is Wajib and observing the night prayer is Sunnah"
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Ibn Sireen (rahimahullah) and his mother.
Muhammad Ibn Sireen (rahimahullah) said "one night I was massaging my mother's feet and my brother was praying the night prayer. Then he asked his students " who deserves more reward"? He answered his question and said I. "Looking after the needs of the mother is Wajib and observing the night prayer is Sunnah"
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Teach your kids to aim high in life , our elders used to say:
!لوړ پرواز دعقاب نښه ده
‘𝗙𝗹𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗲𝗮𝗴𝗹𝗲𝘀!’
Don’t teach them to nibble on insects on the floor like a chicken, teach them to spread their wings and soar the skies like an eagle!
Don’t make them aim to buy bread , let them aim to own the bakery!
Inspire confidence in them, make them fearless and brave. Teach them discipline and the art of self confidence and public speaking.
It’s better to live 1 day like a lion than 100 years as a jackal.
!لوړ پرواز دعقاب نښه ده
‘𝗙𝗹𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗲𝗮𝗴𝗹𝗲𝘀!’
Don’t teach them to nibble on insects on the floor like a chicken, teach them to spread their wings and soar the skies like an eagle!
Don’t make them aim to buy bread , let them aim to own the bakery!
Inspire confidence in them, make them fearless and brave. Teach them discipline and the art of self confidence and public speaking.
It’s better to live 1 day like a lion than 100 years as a jackal.
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Muhammad ibn Hatib reported:
A boiling pot was spilled on my hand, so my mother went with me to the residence of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.
The Prophet spoke these words over it,
“Take away the pain, O Lord of the people. Heal it, for You are the Healer.”
Source: Musnad Aḥmad 15452
Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ حَاطِبٍ قَالَ انْصَبَّتْ عَلَى يَدِي مِنْ قِدْرٍ فَذَهَبَتْ بِي أُمِّي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَهُوَ فِي مَكَانٍ فَقَالَ كَلَامًا فِيهِ أَذْهِبِ الْبَأْسَ رَبَّ النَّاسْ اشْفِ أَنْتَ الشَّافِي
15452 مسند أحمد بن حنبل
24/190 المحدث شعيب الأرناؤوط خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في تخريج المسند لشعيب
A boiling pot was spilled on my hand, so my mother went with me to the residence of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.
The Prophet spoke these words over it,
“Take away the pain, O Lord of the people. Heal it, for You are the Healer.”
Source: Musnad Aḥmad 15452
Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ حَاطِبٍ قَالَ انْصَبَّتْ عَلَى يَدِي مِنْ قِدْرٍ فَذَهَبَتْ بِي أُمِّي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَهُوَ فِي مَكَانٍ فَقَالَ كَلَامًا فِيهِ أَذْهِبِ الْبَأْسَ رَبَّ النَّاسْ اشْفِ أَنْتَ الشَّافِي
15452 مسند أحمد بن حنبل
24/190 المحدث شعيب الأرناؤوط خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في تخريج المسند لشعيب
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Fatima Bint Muhammad ﷺ
Fatimah was the fifth child of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Khadijah.
She was about five years old when The Prophet received revelation so scholars say “she grew up in Islam.”
One of her nicknames was Ummu Abeeha (Her Father’s Mother), due to the fact that she was always in his company and ready to defend him, just like a mother would do for her child. Once she saw her father while he was in sujood, and
She adopted so many characteristics from her father, that Aisha says, “I have not seen anyone who resembled the Holy Prophet ﷺ more in manners, habits, character and in the method of sitting and standing than Fatimah.” (Tirmidhi)
The Prophet ﷺ had so much love for her that if he would be seated and Fatima would enter he would get up and kiss her between her eyes, all the time.
When Ali and Fatima got married the Prophet ﷺ was involved in their life. Once the Prophet ﷺ went to visit them and found Fatima at home alone, he asked where Ali was, she told him that they were upset with each other and that Ali has left the house.
The Prophet ﷺ went to look for Ali and found him sleeping in the masjid covered in dust. The Prophet ﷺ woke him while wiping away the dust saying, “get up the father of dust”. He did not even ask them what they fought about and instead told Ali, “O Ali come back to your home with me”.
Even though Fatima and Ali were poor they still had a happy marriage. The Prophetﷺ would go to visit them and he would hear their laughter from outside. They had four children, Hasan, Hussayn, Muhsin (who died very shortly after birth) and Umm-Kulthoom.
Fatima was only 28 years old when her father died. She went through a very hard time. She entered upon the Prophet ﷺ when he fell ill, but he was unable to get up to kiss her, as he usually does. So she sat to the right of the Prophet ﷺ while she was crying. The Prophet ﷺ said “bring your ear closer to me O Fatima”, so he whispered something in her ear, so she cried. The Prophet ﷺ again said “bring your ear closer to me O Fatima” and he whispered something else in her ear, and so she laughed. Aisha later asked her after the death of the Prophet ﷺ, please tell me what he whispered to you, she said, “firstly he said “O Fatima I am going to die tonight,” and so I cried, and when he saw me crying he said, “will you not be satisfied that you will be the first from amongst my family to follow me and that you will be the leader of the women of Paradise”, and so I laughed”.
Fatimah died six months after the Prophet ﷺ, and she instructed Ali, “When you bury me to cover me properly, I don’t want anyone to see anything of me, and bury me during the night for I am embarrassed from the multitude of people attending.”.
Ali was very upset by her death and cried a lot. He said, “I have never been more exhausted from anything more than I was as a result of the death of the Prophet and Fatimah within six months of each other”.
Fatimah was the highest example of chastity, honor, modesty, and piousness for all Muslim women.
May Allah make us able to follow her footsteps!
Fatimah was the fifth child of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Khadijah.
She was about five years old when The Prophet received revelation so scholars say “she grew up in Islam.”
One of her nicknames was Ummu Abeeha (Her Father’s Mother), due to the fact that she was always in his company and ready to defend him, just like a mother would do for her child. Once she saw her father while he was in sujood, and
Uqbah ibn Abi Muayt came and placed the guts of a dead animal on the Prophet’s back while he was praying. Fatima ran to her father and removed the filth from his back while she was crying. The Prophet ﷺ saw her crying and said, “Don’t cry my daughter, for indeed Allah will make your father victorious”.She adopted so many characteristics from her father, that Aisha says, “I have not seen anyone who resembled the Holy Prophet ﷺ more in manners, habits, character and in the method of sitting and standing than Fatimah.” (Tirmidhi)
The Prophet ﷺ had so much love for her that if he would be seated and Fatima would enter he would get up and kiss her between her eyes, all the time.
When Ali and Fatima got married the Prophet ﷺ was involved in their life. Once the Prophet ﷺ went to visit them and found Fatima at home alone, he asked where Ali was, she told him that they were upset with each other and that Ali has left the house.
The Prophet ﷺ went to look for Ali and found him sleeping in the masjid covered in dust. The Prophet ﷺ woke him while wiping away the dust saying, “get up the father of dust”. He did not even ask them what they fought about and instead told Ali, “O Ali come back to your home with me”.
Even though Fatima and Ali were poor they still had a happy marriage. The Prophetﷺ would go to visit them and he would hear their laughter from outside. They had four children, Hasan, Hussayn, Muhsin (who died very shortly after birth) and Umm-Kulthoom.
Fatima was only 28 years old when her father died. She went through a very hard time. She entered upon the Prophet ﷺ when he fell ill, but he was unable to get up to kiss her, as he usually does. So she sat to the right of the Prophet ﷺ while she was crying. The Prophet ﷺ said “bring your ear closer to me O Fatima”, so he whispered something in her ear, so she cried. The Prophet ﷺ again said “bring your ear closer to me O Fatima” and he whispered something else in her ear, and so she laughed. Aisha later asked her after the death of the Prophet ﷺ, please tell me what he whispered to you, she said, “firstly he said “O Fatima I am going to die tonight,” and so I cried, and when he saw me crying he said, “will you not be satisfied that you will be the first from amongst my family to follow me and that you will be the leader of the women of Paradise”, and so I laughed”.
Fatimah died six months after the Prophet ﷺ, and she instructed Ali, “When you bury me to cover me properly, I don’t want anyone to see anything of me, and bury me during the night for I am embarrassed from the multitude of people attending.”.
Ali was very upset by her death and cried a lot. He said, “I have never been more exhausted from anything more than I was as a result of the death of the Prophet and Fatimah within six months of each other”.
Fatimah was the highest example of chastity, honor, modesty, and piousness for all Muslim women.
May Allah make us able to follow her footsteps!
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