📌 Duā for your parents…

The Prophet ﷺ said:

"A man’s status will be raised in Paradise and he will ask,

‘How did I get here?’

He will be told,:

‘By your son’s du’aa’s (prayers) for forgiveness for you."

[Ibn Maajah | No. 3660]

We all have to face reality. It does not mean being pessimistic. Rather, facing reality is essential. Reality is harsh and tough, full of struggle. And if accepting this makes me pessimistic, then it's better than living your life in continuous fantasy. Fantasy is not just thinking big; it means your aim in life may not be so big or flashy, but at the same time, you are seeking to achieve a status that is continuously fueled by your ignorance. It means you keep ignoring or making yourself forget the harshness of this world; you actually cannot even address it as "harshness" or "tough"; this is what it is. This world can make you forget the remembrance of your Lord. This very world can make you forget who you are and what your true purpose is. This very world is to test you. So, do you think the one who is deluded in these worldly desires thinks this world is harsh or nothing but delusion? No, he is the same parasite; this is what he wants. So, he does whatever it takes for him to get power, wealth, money. He wants this so that he can make other people feel worthless.

So what makes "pessimistic"? Me denying this worldview? Or not aiming as that parasite? You have to face reality without sugarcoating it, without thinking this world will ever give you anything. Living for the sake of Allah is what makes you human. We can argue about what is right or wrong; it's all just a waste of time. There is no right or wrong except what Allah has declared as right or wrong.

These words are especially for men. Many now fantasize about marriage way too much than it is. Trust me; nothing is wrong with getting married. Wallahi, I do know. Having a righteous wife or wives is one of the greatest blessings you can have in this dunya. No doubt, they bring sukun and calmness. But realize, this is not life. If you give all your love to your wife and go extreme in loving her, trust me, I have seen many who love their wives madly, and they leave haqq just because "his wife does not want that." Stay away from this level; this is a trial. Trust me, akhi; no one loves you without conditions. As Allah said in the Quran,

"O believers! Do not let your wealth or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. For whoever does so, it is they who are the true losers." (Quran 63:9)

"O believers! Indeed, some of your spouses and children are enemies to you...." (Quran 64:14)

"Your wealth and your children are but a trial, and Allah has with Him a great reward." (Quran 64:15)

Father - The Most Influential Person to his Child

A child - without a doubt - is influenced by his father, influenced by his behavior, manners, interaction [with people] and religion; he is the most influenced by his father as was said: "A youngster from the youth will grow up amongst us based upon what his father accustomed him to."

From the matters that aid in raising children is keeping them away from all affairs that would ruin their good character. We keep them away from hearing illicit and immoral music and viewing impermissible things, women, debased films, and foul magazines - these are matters that we should protect our children against. However, if the father is the one who brings these things and puts them in front of his child, it will pave a path (and refuge is sought with Allaah) that leads to lewdness and the committing of forbidden acts.

So it is mandatory upon the father to protect his child against every matter that will cause him to fall into what Allaah has forbidden, into what displeases the Lord of the universe, like listening to music, watching filthy movies, reading lowly magazines, and what is similar to that. He must protect his children against these matters and keep it as far from them as possible.

Extracted from the book, Raising Children In Islam by Shaykh Abdur Razzaaq bin Abdul Muhsin al-Badr

Narrated 'Amir: I heard An-Numan bin Bashir on the pulpit saying, My father gave me a gift but Amra bint Rawaha (my mother) said that she would not agree to it unless he made ALLAH's Messenger (ﷺ) as a witness to it. So, my father went to ALLAH's Messenger(ﷺ) and said, 'I have given a gift to my son from `Amra bint Rawaha, but she ordered me to make you as a witness to it, O ALLAH's Messenger(ﷺ)!' ALLAH's Messenger(ﷺ) asked, 'Have you given (the like of it) to everyone of your children?' He replied in the negative. ALLAH's Messenger(ﷺ) said, 'Be afraid of ALLAH, and be just to your children.' My father then returned and took back his gift. (Sahih Al-Bukhari : 2587)

If your parents raised you to not celebrate Christmas because you're Muslim, that's enough reason to be grateful to them.

When I was a kid, I saw a lot of so-called Muslim families decorate their homes for Christmas. Now, the children of those families have grown up and they all celebrate Christmas and have Christmas trees in their homes.

What an evil practice their parents introduced to the family! They will continue to gain sins for generations to come. We seek refuge with Allah!

The Prophet ﷺ said: "He who introduced some evil practice in Islam which had been followed subsequently (by others), he would be required to bear the burden like that of one who followed this (evil practice) without their's being diminished in any respect." (Sahih Muslim)

THERE IS NO LOSS LIKE THE LOSS OF YOUR PARENTS
A PAIN THAT DOESNT GO AWAY WITH TIME…..🥺

INNA LILLAHI WA INNA ILAYHI RAJIOON….

Thawban reported:
The Messenger of Allah صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said, “Nothing extends one's life span but Birr (being dutiful to parents, maintaining family ties), nothing averts the Divine Decree but Du’a (supplication), and nothing deprives a man of provision but the sin that he commits.”

Source: Sunan Ibn Majah 90

Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Albani

عَنْ ثَوْبَانَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏ لاَ يَزِيدُ فِي الْعُمْرِ إِلاَّ الْبِرُّ وَلاَ يَرُدُّ الْقَدَرَ إِلاَّ الدُّعَاءُ وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيُحْرَمُ الرِّزْقَ لِلْخَطِيئَةِ يَعْمَلُهَا

90 سنن ابن ماجه كتاب المقدمة

73 المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث حسن في صحيح ابن ماجه

Tarbiyaah of Children.

Our children seem like they never listen to what we are saying but they sure are watching everything we do.

Indeed the woman is the backbone of the family, as it is said:

“Behind every great person there is a woman in whose home they were raised.”

[A Woman’s Guide to Raising a Family by Shaykh Sālih Al-Fawzān pg. 19]

LOOK AT THE FIQH OF OUR SALAF?

Ibn Sireen (rahimahullah) and his mother.

Muhammad Ibn Sireen (rahimahullah) said "one night I was massaging my mother's feet and my brother was praying the night prayer. Then he asked his students " who deserves more reward"? He answered his question and said I. "Looking after the needs of the mother is Wajib and observing the night prayer is Sunnah"

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Teach your kids to aim high in life , our elders used to say:

‎!لوړ پرواز دعقاب نښه ده
‘𝗙𝗹𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗰𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗲𝗮𝗴𝗹𝗲𝘀!’

Don’t teach them to nibble on insects on the floor like a chicken, teach them to spread their wings and soar the skies like an eagle!

Don’t make them aim to buy bread , let them aim to own the bakery!

Inspire confidence in them, make them fearless and brave. Teach them discipline and the art of self confidence and public speaking.

It’s better to live 1 day like a lion than 100 years as a jackal.

Muhammad ibn Hatib reported:

A boiling pot was spilled on my hand, so my mother went with me to the residence of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.

The Prophet spoke these words over it,

“Take away the pain, O Lord of the people. Heal it, for You are the Healer.”

Source: Musnad Aḥmad 15452
Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut

عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ حَاطِبٍ قَالَ انْصَبَّتْ عَلَى يَدِي مِنْ قِدْرٍ فَذَهَبَتْ بِي أُمِّي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَهُوَ فِي مَكَانٍ فَقَالَ كَلَامًا فِيهِ أَذْهِبِ الْبَأْسَ رَبَّ النَّاسْ اشْفِ أَنْتَ الشَّافِي

15452 مسند أحمد بن حنبل

24/190 المحدث شعيب الأرناؤوط خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في تخريج المسند لشعيب

Choose friends who are obedient and dutiful to their parents and this will rub off on u as well

Fatima Bint Muhammad ﷺ

Fatimah was the fifth child of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and Khadijah.

She was about five years old when The Prophet received revelation so scholars say “she grew up in Islam.”

One of her nicknames was Ummu Abeeha (Her Father’s Mother), due to the fact that she was always in his company and ready to defend him, just like a mother would do for her child. Once she saw her father while he was in sujood, and Uqbah ibn Abi Muayt came and placed the guts of a dead animal on the Prophet’s back while he was praying. Fatima ran to her father and removed the filth from his back while she was crying. The Prophet ﷺ saw her crying and said, “Don’t cry my daughter, for indeed Allah will make your father victorious”.

She adopted so many characteristics from her father, that Aisha says, “I have not seen anyone who resembled the Holy Prophet ﷺ more in manners, habits, character and in the method of sitting and standing than Fatimah.” (Tirmidhi)

The Prophet ﷺ had so much love for her that if he would be seated and Fatima would enter he would get up and kiss her between her eyes, all the time.

When Ali and Fatima got married the Prophet ﷺ was involved in their life. Once the Prophet ﷺ went to visit them and found Fatima at home alone, he asked where Ali was, she told him that they were upset with each other and that Ali has left the house.

The Prophet ﷺ went to look for Ali and found him sleeping in the masjid covered in dust. The Prophet ﷺ woke him while wiping away the dust saying, “get up the father of dust”. He did not even ask them what they fought about and instead told Ali, “O Ali come back to your home with me”.

Even though Fatima and Ali were poor they still had a happy marriage. The Prophetﷺ would go to visit them and he would hear their laughter from outside. They had four children, Hasan, Hussayn, Muhsin (who died very shortly after birth) and Umm-Kulthoom.

Fatima was only 28 years old when her father died. She went through a very hard time. She entered upon the Prophet ﷺ when he fell ill, but he was unable to get up to kiss her, as he usually does. So she sat to the right of the Prophet ﷺ while she was crying. The Prophet ﷺ said “bring your ear closer to me O Fatima”, so he whispered something in her ear, so she cried. The Prophet ﷺ again said “bring your ear closer to me O Fatima” and he whispered something else in her ear, and so she laughed. Aisha later asked her after the death of the Prophet ﷺ, please tell me what he whispered to you, she said, “firstly he said “O Fatima I am going to die tonight,” and so I cried, and when he saw me crying he said, “will you not be satisfied that you will be the first from amongst my family to follow me and that you will be the leader of the women of Paradise”, and so I laughed”.

Fatimah died six months after the Prophet ﷺ, and she instructed Ali, “When you bury me to cover me properly, I don’t want anyone to see anything of me, and bury me during the night for I am embarrassed from the multitude of people attending.”.

Ali was very upset by her death and cried a lot. He said, “I have never been more exhausted from anything more than I was as a result of the death of the Prophet and Fatimah within six months of each other”.

Fatimah was the highest example of chastity, honor, modesty, and piousness for all Muslim women.

May Allah make us able to follow her footsteps!

Raising your child with love, teaching them deen in every aspect of their lives is Ibadah

One day, by the mercy of Allah, some will be parents, and some have already become parents.

Kindly take care of your son. A boy is not like a girl, nor should you treat a boy as you would a girl. If you have both a son and a daughter by the mercy of Allah, do not treat your son like your daughter.

When a boy reaches puberty, he has no one with him. I am a guy, and I know that even though the father is always there, there will always be an invisible awkwardness between a father and son, especially in this era. A mother is a mother, no matter how close the son is to her; she will not become a person to whom he can open up.

So, learn before you get married because if the parents are not there, no matter how many friends and buddies he gets, it won't work. Learn how to raise a son.

There is a perfect scenario as an example. There is a game called "Three-Legged Race" (this classic game involves tying two people's inner ankles together and having them race to a finish line while hopping or running side-by-side). Do you know what happens when you put two different kinds of people together in this game? One is very fast and strong, and the other is slow and not so active. When they run together, the slower one always makes the faster one slow like him, and this happens all the time. What happens when they play like this for a week?

The faster one no longer stays faster anymore; he adopts and becomes like the slower one. This is exactly what happens when you treat your son and raise him like a daughter, and this is a major problem in this time. When you say a boy and a girl are equal, you push the daughter to become more like a boy. Do you think a girl will become a boy? No, she becomes a mixture.

The same happens when you are raising a daughter and a son together. The son is already a boy, so the parents push their daughter to lose her haya, push her bit by bit to change her fitrah. At the same time, you condition the son, keep dominating him, changing his psychology bit by bit, enforcing him to become more feminine. This is how the son and daughter become equal.

What we get is a daughter who is a mixture and a boy who is also a mixture. The girl suffers, but the majority gets their fitrah destroyed, so they become more like a man. The boy gets destroyed both physically and mentally, becomes weak and coward. Do you know what this way of raising your son does to him?

I have not seen many talking about this, but it's becoming more and more common that children at the age of 6-8 have such low levels of testosterone that their penises get small. If this is not noticed by the parents, and if the boy reaches the age of 10-12 (the age of puberty) with that low testosterone, and due to low testosterone gets a micro penis, this child will forever stay like that. He becomes infertile, and so many small boys are having this; you cannot imagine this number. Wallahi, so many you cannot imagine.

I myself have encountered three children this year (2023). One of them is my relative, and this issue is so hidden that if a child stays silent, there is very little chance anyone will know this. You can say this is genetic and blah blah, but it's not genetic. The majority suffer from this due to the way they are brought up in their household, the way they get treated by their parents. Heavily dominated, being in an environment where his mother acts like his father, where he continuously gets an environment of feminist ideology, this environment causes his body to stop producing testosterone.

You can research about this, read about this, but the core message is to treat your son as a man.