📌 Heart Touching
A mother was asked "which of your children do you love more"?
She replied: "I love the one who is sick till he/she gets well; and the one who is not present till he/she returns; the young ones till they grow up; and I love all of them till I die".
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A beautiful answer showing that she loves all of her children equally.
Read again the last part "... all of them till I die". This is how parents are in general, mothers in particular, that they would wish to die before their children because they can not handle it the other way around.
If you asked the children about the parents, generally the answer would not be so loving or merciful.
رب ارحمهما كما ربياني صغيرا... 🍂
A mother was asked "which of your children do you love more"?
She replied: "I love the one who is sick till he/she gets well; and the one who is not present till he/she returns; the young ones till they grow up; and I love all of them till I die".
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A beautiful answer showing that she loves all of her children equally.
Read again the last part "... all of them till I die". This is how parents are in general, mothers in particular, that they would wish to die before their children because they can not handle it the other way around.
If you asked the children about the parents, generally the answer would not be so loving or merciful.
رب ارحمهما كما ربياني صغيرا... 🍂
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TAKE YOUR TRUST!
On one occasion, while Sayyiduna ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) was attending to the people, a man walked past while carrying his son on his shoulders.
When Sayyiduna ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) saw them, he was astonished and commented, “I have not seen a crow which resembles another crow more than this person (i.e. the son) resembles this person (i.e. the father).”
Hearing this, the father responded, “O Ameerul Mu-mineen! By Allah, his mother had given birth to him while she had already passed away.”
Sayyiduna ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) astonishingly remarked, “Woe unto you! How is that so?”
The man then went on to relate his story. He explained that he had left his home for a certain expedition while his wife was expecting a child.
Before leaving, he said to her, “I entrust what is in your womb to Allah.”
However, when he returned from the journey, he found out that she had passed away.
One night while he was sitting in Jannatul Baqee’, the graveyard of Madeenah Munawwarah, with a few of his cousins, he noticed a light by the graves, which looked like a lamp.
He asked his cousins in amazement: “What is this?”
They replied that they did not know what it was but they have been seeing this light every night by a certain woman’s grave.
This person thus went towards the grave holding an axe.
On reaching there, he saw the grave open and noticed this child in the lap of his mother.
When he drew closer to the grave, he heard a voice saying, “O the one who entrusted his Rabb (with a trust), take your trust! Had you entrusted his mother to Him (i.e. Allah Ta‘ala), you would have found her (alive as well).”
He thus took the child and the grave closed.
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(Man‘Aasha ba’dal Maut - Ibnu Abid Dunya #19)
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Lessons:
1. If a person places his trust and reliance on Allah Ta‘ala, though Allah Ta‘ala’s help may not come to him in such a dramatic manner as in this incident, however he will definitely enjoy the protection and assistance of Allah Ta‘ala in some way or the other.
Allah Ta‘ala says in the Quraan Majeed, “Whosoever places his trust on Allah Ta‘ala, He will be sufficient for him.” (Surah Talaaq v3)
2. When this person entrusted his unborn child to Allah Ta‘ala, it is even more important and imperative in these challenging times that together with making the necessary effort on the upbringing of our children, we entrust them to Allah Ta‘ala.
Just as Allah Ta‘ala protected his child in this amazing way, He will also take care of our children and protect them.
On one occasion, while Sayyiduna ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) was attending to the people, a man walked past while carrying his son on his shoulders.
When Sayyiduna ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) saw them, he was astonished and commented, “I have not seen a crow which resembles another crow more than this person (i.e. the son) resembles this person (i.e. the father).”
Hearing this, the father responded, “O Ameerul Mu-mineen! By Allah, his mother had given birth to him while she had already passed away.”
Sayyiduna ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) astonishingly remarked, “Woe unto you! How is that so?”
The man then went on to relate his story. He explained that he had left his home for a certain expedition while his wife was expecting a child.
Before leaving, he said to her, “I entrust what is in your womb to Allah.”
However, when he returned from the journey, he found out that she had passed away.
One night while he was sitting in Jannatul Baqee’, the graveyard of Madeenah Munawwarah, with a few of his cousins, he noticed a light by the graves, which looked like a lamp.
He asked his cousins in amazement: “What is this?”
They replied that they did not know what it was but they have been seeing this light every night by a certain woman’s grave.
This person thus went towards the grave holding an axe.
On reaching there, he saw the grave open and noticed this child in the lap of his mother.
When he drew closer to the grave, he heard a voice saying, “O the one who entrusted his Rabb (with a trust), take your trust! Had you entrusted his mother to Him (i.e. Allah Ta‘ala), you would have found her (alive as well).”
He thus took the child and the grave closed.
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(Man‘Aasha ba’dal Maut - Ibnu Abid Dunya #19)
۔۔۔
Lessons:
1. If a person places his trust and reliance on Allah Ta‘ala, though Allah Ta‘ala’s help may not come to him in such a dramatic manner as in this incident, however he will definitely enjoy the protection and assistance of Allah Ta‘ala in some way or the other.
Allah Ta‘ala says in the Quraan Majeed, “Whosoever places his trust on Allah Ta‘ala, He will be sufficient for him.” (Surah Talaaq v3)
2. When this person entrusted his unborn child to Allah Ta‘ala, it is even more important and imperative in these challenging times that together with making the necessary effort on the upbringing of our children, we entrust them to Allah Ta‘ala.
Just as Allah Ta‘ala protected his child in this amazing way, He will also take care of our children and protect them.
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*Training Children for Worship*
Al-Rubay’ bint Mu’awwidh رضي الله عنها said while describing how the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم told them to fast ‘Āshūrā:
We used to make toys out of dyed wool for the children and keep them with us so if the children asked us for food we would give them the toys to distract them until they completed their fast.
Sahīh Muslim. A similar narration is also in Sahīh Al-Bukhārī.
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Al-Nawawī states in his commentary on Sahīh Muslim:
In this narration we are shown that children should be trained to do acts of obedience and made used to doing worship; although they are not legally bound....
Al-Rubay’ bint Mu’awwidh رضي الله عنها said while describing how the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم told them to fast ‘Āshūrā:
We used to make toys out of dyed wool for the children and keep them with us so if the children asked us for food we would give them the toys to distract them until they completed their fast.
Sahīh Muslim. A similar narration is also in Sahīh Al-Bukhārī.
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Al-Nawawī states in his commentary on Sahīh Muslim:
In this narration we are shown that children should be trained to do acts of obedience and made used to doing worship; although they are not legally bound....
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Know Your Heroes
People talk about how Aragorn from LoTR in the Battle of Mordor or Jon Snow in Game of Thrones stood to fight against the enemy single-handedly. They led the charge when others were retreating.
We really need to know our true heroes so we come out of this inferiority complex.
Al Bara’ said: “When the Prophet ﷺ fought the pagans in the battle of Hunain, the Muslims retreated but the Prophet ﷺ came down from his mule and walked towards the enemy on foot." [Abu Dawud]
This is no fictional tale. This is a true leader leading from the front. He knew that Allah doesn't let down those that have complete faith in him. You don't need to summon the Army of the Dead like in the story books when all Allah asks us to do is have good intentions, strive purely for Allah, put in the work and Allah will send down armies of Angels to aid us.
What was the tarbiyah of the sahaba and the golden generations? The blessed Seerah of our beloved Messenger ﷺ.
Ali ibn al-Husayn-the great-grandson of the Prophet ﷺ said, "We would teach our children the expeditions of the Prophet just like we would teach them the Qur'an. [al-Jami' li Akhlaq al-Rawi]
#DontWait_Illuminate #Tarbiyah #LeaveALegacy #KnowYourHeroes
People talk about how Aragorn from LoTR in the Battle of Mordor or Jon Snow in Game of Thrones stood to fight against the enemy single-handedly. They led the charge when others were retreating.
We really need to know our true heroes so we come out of this inferiority complex.
Al Bara’ said: “When the Prophet ﷺ fought the pagans in the battle of Hunain, the Muslims retreated but the Prophet ﷺ came down from his mule and walked towards the enemy on foot." [Abu Dawud]
This is no fictional tale. This is a true leader leading from the front. He knew that Allah doesn't let down those that have complete faith in him. You don't need to summon the Army of the Dead like in the story books when all Allah asks us to do is have good intentions, strive purely for Allah, put in the work and Allah will send down armies of Angels to aid us.
What was the tarbiyah of the sahaba and the golden generations? The blessed Seerah of our beloved Messenger ﷺ.
Ali ibn al-Husayn-the great-grandson of the Prophet ﷺ said, "We would teach our children the expeditions of the Prophet just like we would teach them the Qur'an. [al-Jami' li Akhlaq al-Rawi]
#DontWait_Illuminate #Tarbiyah #LeaveALegacy #KnowYourHeroes
The reality is that the youth of today did not live their childhood peacefully; social media disrupted their lives and took them away from their families. By the time a three-year-old opened their eyes, they had exceeded the age of ten and beyond.
They live in a virtual world, detached from their actual realities, which, as a result has adversely affected them psychologically, physically, and in their way of thinking. What made matters worse was a busy father and a mother who does not care.
So, let us salvage what can be saved, for Allah will question us about what He entrusted us with.
(The Prophet said) “All of you are shepherds, and each of you is responsible for his flock.”
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #ulama #tarbiyah #culitvation #muslim #islam
They live in a virtual world, detached from their actual realities, which, as a result has adversely affected them psychologically, physically, and in their way of thinking. What made matters worse was a busy father and a mother who does not care.
So, let us salvage what can be saved, for Allah will question us about what He entrusted us with.
(The Prophet said) “All of you are shepherds, and each of you is responsible for his flock.”
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #ulama #tarbiyah #culitvation #muslim #islam
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'Refrain from Getting Skimpy & Short Clothes for Your Daughters'
Shaykh Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
"I think that people should not dress their daughters in these clothes when they are young because if the girl gets used to them she will continue to wear them and take the matter lightly. But if she gets used to modesty from an early age, she will remain modest when she grows up.
What I advise my Muslim sisters to do is to forsake the clothing of foreigners and enemies of Islam, and make their daughters get used to wearing concealing clothes and to modesty, for it is part of faith."
[Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen in al-Da’wah magazine, issue no. 1709, p. 35]
Shaykh Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
"I think that people should not dress their daughters in these clothes when they are young because if the girl gets used to them she will continue to wear them and take the matter lightly. But if she gets used to modesty from an early age, she will remain modest when she grows up.
What I advise my Muslim sisters to do is to forsake the clothing of foreigners and enemies of Islam, and make their daughters get used to wearing concealing clothes and to modesty, for it is part of faith."
[Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen in al-Da’wah magazine, issue no. 1709, p. 35]
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Leaving your children to be "educated" alone in institutions that are owned and noscripted by those without faith, and without consistently guiding them with knowledge of the truth, is the most reckless and dangerous thing that you can do for them as a parent (and person of faith).
We are witnesses ourselves of the destruction that such negligence creates within society.
The Qur'an, Surah At-Tahrim, Verse 6:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ
𝗢 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗱, 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮 𝗙𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗲𝗹 𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀.
We are witnesses ourselves of the destruction that such negligence creates within society.
The Qur'an, Surah At-Tahrim, Verse 6:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ
𝗢 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗱, 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮 𝗙𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗲𝗹 𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀.
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Camel Hump Hijaabs
Women should NOT wear tight-fitting clothes and thin materials outside the home (dressed yet naked)―or have humps like camels on their heads, nor call other women to their sins.
Abu Hurayrah narrated that Allah’s Messenger (salallāhu ‘alaihi wasallam صِنْفَانِ مِنْ أَهْلِ النمَسِيرَةِ كَذَا وَ
“There are two categories of people of Hell whom I have not yet seen: a group having whips like the tails of oxen with which they will beat people. And women who will be dressed but appear to be naked―they will incline to evil and make others incline to it. Their heads will be like the humps of a two-humped camel inclined to one side. They will not enter Paradise and they will not smell its fragrance even though its fragrance can be smelled from such-and-such a far distance.” [Reported by Muslim, no. 2128]
https://abukhadeejah.com/women-tight-thin-clothes-camel-humps-on-heads-naked-dressed/
Women should NOT wear tight-fitting clothes and thin materials outside the home (dressed yet naked)―or have humps like camels on their heads, nor call other women to their sins.
Abu Hurayrah narrated that Allah’s Messenger (salallāhu ‘alaihi wasallam صِنْفَانِ مِنْ أَهْلِ النمَسِيرَةِ كَذَا وَ
“There are two categories of people of Hell whom I have not yet seen: a group having whips like the tails of oxen with which they will beat people. And women who will be dressed but appear to be naked―they will incline to evil and make others incline to it. Their heads will be like the humps of a two-humped camel inclined to one side. They will not enter Paradise and they will not smell its fragrance even though its fragrance can be smelled from such-and-such a far distance.” [Reported by Muslim, no. 2128]
https://abukhadeejah.com/women-tight-thin-clothes-camel-humps-on-heads-naked-dressed/
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Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah(رحمه الله)🤔
Most Muslims are born to two Muslim parents, essentially becoming Muslims by name, without there being any actual faith on their part.
Then, when they reach puberty, from them are those that are blessed with actual faith, performing their obligations. Likewise, from them are those who perform these acts out of ingrained habit, and just to go along with his relatives, the people of the land in which he lives, etc.
For example, he gives Zakah simply because it is a habitual tradition that the ruler collects tax, and not because he realizes either the generality or specifics of the obligation to pay it. So, in his eyes, there is no difference between the innovated tax and the legislated Zakah.
Such is the case with the inhabitant of Makkah who goes out to ‘Arafat every year simply because this is the way it is done, without realizing the generality or specifics of this being an act of worship of Allah.
So, the acts of worship performed by such people is invalid, without a doubt. In fact, the texts of the Qur’an and Sunnah, as well as the consensus of the Ummah, are clear in the ruling that these actions do not fulfill the obligation placed upon their doer…
So, the Islam of most people is by name, only. Rather, it (faith) only enters into their hearts during the course of the matter (i.e., later in their lives), if it enters at all.
So, were this intention not to be obligatory upon them, they would not at all attempt to have it, and their hearts would be empty of it, and they would essentially be hypocrites, carrying out their actions out of habit and imitation, as is the case with many people.
[‘Majmu’ al-Fatawa’; 26/32]
Most Muslims are born to two Muslim parents, essentially becoming Muslims by name, without there being any actual faith on their part.
Then, when they reach puberty, from them are those that are blessed with actual faith, performing their obligations. Likewise, from them are those who perform these acts out of ingrained habit, and just to go along with his relatives, the people of the land in which he lives, etc.
For example, he gives Zakah simply because it is a habitual tradition that the ruler collects tax, and not because he realizes either the generality or specifics of the obligation to pay it. So, in his eyes, there is no difference between the innovated tax and the legislated Zakah.
Such is the case with the inhabitant of Makkah who goes out to ‘Arafat every year simply because this is the way it is done, without realizing the generality or specifics of this being an act of worship of Allah.
So, the acts of worship performed by such people is invalid, without a doubt. In fact, the texts of the Qur’an and Sunnah, as well as the consensus of the Ummah, are clear in the ruling that these actions do not fulfill the obligation placed upon their doer…
So, the Islam of most people is by name, only. Rather, it (faith) only enters into their hearts during the course of the matter (i.e., later in their lives), if it enters at all.
So, were this intention not to be obligatory upon them, they would not at all attempt to have it, and their hearts would be empty of it, and they would essentially be hypocrites, carrying out their actions out of habit and imitation, as is the case with many people.
[‘Majmu’ al-Fatawa’; 26/32]
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"My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, ‘You’re tearing up the grass.’ ‘We’re not raising grass,’ Dad would reply. ‘We’re raising boys.’”
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The Prophet said to one of his companions:
وإن لولدك عليك حقاً
“𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘂𝗽𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂.”
[‘Sahih Muslim 1159c].
https://sunnah.com/muslim:1159c
But when you go to the mosque, 99% of the time, the elder preacher is complaining about bad children, rarely do they talk about bad parenting.
Most of the time, children clash with their parents because their parents lack basic parenting skills, they demand respect but don’t give the same respect and rights back to their children.
The blame gets shifted to the children: the children are always wrong, the parents are always right.
This mentality leads to conflict and broken homes.
وإن لولدك عليك حقاً
“𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘂𝗽𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂.”
[‘Sahih Muslim 1159c].
https://sunnah.com/muslim:1159c
But when you go to the mosque, 99% of the time, the elder preacher is complaining about bad children, rarely do they talk about bad parenting.
Most of the time, children clash with their parents because their parents lack basic parenting skills, they demand respect but don’t give the same respect and rights back to their children.
The blame gets shifted to the children: the children are always wrong, the parents are always right.
This mentality leads to conflict and broken homes.
Sunnah
Sahih Muslim 1159c - The Book of Fasting - كتاب الصيام - Sunnah.com - Sayings and Teachings of Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه…
Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (saws) in English and Arabic
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One of the most prevalent problem among muslims :
Examples of Toxic Behaviours from Parents :
- Forcing the child to study a certain degree.
- Forcing the child to marry from a certain race, tribe or social class.
- Emotionally manipulating the child to doing what they want.
- Verbally abusive towards the child
- Restricting their movement or interaction for no reason.
- Being unreasonably emotionally and financially dependent.
- Physically abusive towards the child.
- Passive aggressiveness.
- Not giving the child room to grow and discover themselves.
These behaviours are unfortunately quite common amongst Muslim families and may cause a rift between children and their parents.
Examples of Toxic Behaviours from Parents :
- Forcing the child to study a certain degree.
- Forcing the child to marry from a certain race, tribe or social class.
- Emotionally manipulating the child to doing what they want.
- Verbally abusive towards the child
- Restricting their movement or interaction for no reason.
- Being unreasonably emotionally and financially dependent.
- Physically abusive towards the child.
- Passive aggressiveness.
- Not giving the child room to grow and discover themselves.
These behaviours are unfortunately quite common amongst Muslim families and may cause a rift between children and their parents.
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✒ The Right Of A Father
Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said:
رضا الرب في رضا الوالد وسخط الرب في سخط الوالد
“The Pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of the father and the Anger of the Lord is in the anger of the father.”
● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير برقم ٣٥٠٦ ، حسنه الألباني]
al-ʿAllāmah aṣ-Ṣanʿānee Raḥimahullāh said in its Sharḥ:
“This is because it is Allāh Who has Commanded that the father be honored and obeyed, so whoever holds onto the Command of Allāh then He's Pleased with him and whosoever opposes His Command then He's Angry with him!!”
● [التنوير شرح الجامع الصغير ٦/٢٥٧]
Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said:
رضا الرب في رضا الوالد وسخط الرب في سخط الوالد
“The Pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of the father and the Anger of the Lord is in the anger of the father.”
● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير برقم ٣٥٠٦ ، حسنه الألباني]
al-ʿAllāmah aṣ-Ṣanʿānee Raḥimahullāh said in its Sharḥ:
“This is because it is Allāh Who has Commanded that the father be honored and obeyed, so whoever holds onto the Command of Allāh then He's Pleased with him and whosoever opposes His Command then He's Angry with him!!”
● [التنوير شرح الجامع الصغير ٦/٢٥٧]
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🗣️Brothers need to do better! Y’all marry us- treat us badly and make us single moms in the end! If you love your kids! Treat their mothers better! Ittaquillah! A broken woman cannot raise your cubs correctly! Quit breaking us!
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Strengthening The Family
The relationship between the children&their parents is a special one,strive to make it a relationship which is built upon love, compassion, knowledge & understanding.Give them memories which they will cherish for the rest of their lives so they can pass it on to future generations.
The relationship between the children&their parents is a special one,strive to make it a relationship which is built upon love, compassion, knowledge & understanding.Give them memories which they will cherish for the rest of their lives so they can pass it on to future generations.
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HEALING BROKEN FATHERHOOD
God gave us the gift of family. But when a father’s heart is not turned toward his children, that gift becomes distorted.
His family suffers a loss that is difficult to overcome. For some, it is devastating.
And the pain often carries into the next generations….
https://homeschooladventure.com/blog/healing-broken-fatherhood/
God gave us the gift of family. But when a father’s heart is not turned toward his children, that gift becomes distorted.
His family suffers a loss that is difficult to overcome. For some, it is devastating.
And the pain often carries into the next generations….
https://homeschooladventure.com/blog/healing-broken-fatherhood/
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