*Training Children for Worship*
Al-Rubay’ bint Mu’awwidh رضي الله عنها said while describing how the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم told them to fast ‘Āshūrā:
We used to make toys out of dyed wool for the children and keep them with us so if the children asked us for food we would give them the toys to distract them until they completed their fast.
Sahīh Muslim. A similar narration is also in Sahīh Al-Bukhārī.
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Al-Nawawī states in his commentary on Sahīh Muslim:
In this narration we are shown that children should be trained to do acts of obedience and made used to doing worship; although they are not legally bound....
Al-Rubay’ bint Mu’awwidh رضي الله عنها said while describing how the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم told them to fast ‘Āshūrā:
We used to make toys out of dyed wool for the children and keep them with us so if the children asked us for food we would give them the toys to distract them until they completed their fast.
Sahīh Muslim. A similar narration is also in Sahīh Al-Bukhārī.
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Al-Nawawī states in his commentary on Sahīh Muslim:
In this narration we are shown that children should be trained to do acts of obedience and made used to doing worship; although they are not legally bound....
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Know Your Heroes
People talk about how Aragorn from LoTR in the Battle of Mordor or Jon Snow in Game of Thrones stood to fight against the enemy single-handedly. They led the charge when others were retreating.
We really need to know our true heroes so we come out of this inferiority complex.
Al Bara’ said: “When the Prophet ﷺ fought the pagans in the battle of Hunain, the Muslims retreated but the Prophet ﷺ came down from his mule and walked towards the enemy on foot." [Abu Dawud]
This is no fictional tale. This is a true leader leading from the front. He knew that Allah doesn't let down those that have complete faith in him. You don't need to summon the Army of the Dead like in the story books when all Allah asks us to do is have good intentions, strive purely for Allah, put in the work and Allah will send down armies of Angels to aid us.
What was the tarbiyah of the sahaba and the golden generations? The blessed Seerah of our beloved Messenger ﷺ.
Ali ibn al-Husayn-the great-grandson of the Prophet ﷺ said, "We would teach our children the expeditions of the Prophet just like we would teach them the Qur'an. [al-Jami' li Akhlaq al-Rawi]
#DontWait_Illuminate #Tarbiyah #LeaveALegacy #KnowYourHeroes
People talk about how Aragorn from LoTR in the Battle of Mordor or Jon Snow in Game of Thrones stood to fight against the enemy single-handedly. They led the charge when others were retreating.
We really need to know our true heroes so we come out of this inferiority complex.
Al Bara’ said: “When the Prophet ﷺ fought the pagans in the battle of Hunain, the Muslims retreated but the Prophet ﷺ came down from his mule and walked towards the enemy on foot." [Abu Dawud]
This is no fictional tale. This is a true leader leading from the front. He knew that Allah doesn't let down those that have complete faith in him. You don't need to summon the Army of the Dead like in the story books when all Allah asks us to do is have good intentions, strive purely for Allah, put in the work and Allah will send down armies of Angels to aid us.
What was the tarbiyah of the sahaba and the golden generations? The blessed Seerah of our beloved Messenger ﷺ.
Ali ibn al-Husayn-the great-grandson of the Prophet ﷺ said, "We would teach our children the expeditions of the Prophet just like we would teach them the Qur'an. [al-Jami' li Akhlaq al-Rawi]
#DontWait_Illuminate #Tarbiyah #LeaveALegacy #KnowYourHeroes
The reality is that the youth of today did not live their childhood peacefully; social media disrupted their lives and took them away from their families. By the time a three-year-old opened their eyes, they had exceeded the age of ten and beyond.
They live in a virtual world, detached from their actual realities, which, as a result has adversely affected them psychologically, physically, and in their way of thinking. What made matters worse was a busy father and a mother who does not care.
So, let us salvage what can be saved, for Allah will question us about what He entrusted us with.
(The Prophet said) “All of you are shepherds, and each of you is responsible for his flock.”
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #ulama #tarbiyah #culitvation #muslim #islam
They live in a virtual world, detached from their actual realities, which, as a result has adversely affected them psychologically, physically, and in their way of thinking. What made matters worse was a busy father and a mother who does not care.
So, let us salvage what can be saved, for Allah will question us about what He entrusted us with.
(The Prophet said) “All of you are shepherds, and each of you is responsible for his flock.”
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #ulama #tarbiyah #culitvation #muslim #islam
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'Refrain from Getting Skimpy & Short Clothes for Your Daughters'
Shaykh Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
"I think that people should not dress their daughters in these clothes when they are young because if the girl gets used to them she will continue to wear them and take the matter lightly. But if she gets used to modesty from an early age, she will remain modest when she grows up.
What I advise my Muslim sisters to do is to forsake the clothing of foreigners and enemies of Islam, and make their daughters get used to wearing concealing clothes and to modesty, for it is part of faith."
[Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen in al-Da’wah magazine, issue no. 1709, p. 35]
Shaykh Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
"I think that people should not dress their daughters in these clothes when they are young because if the girl gets used to them she will continue to wear them and take the matter lightly. But if she gets used to modesty from an early age, she will remain modest when she grows up.
What I advise my Muslim sisters to do is to forsake the clothing of foreigners and enemies of Islam, and make their daughters get used to wearing concealing clothes and to modesty, for it is part of faith."
[Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen in al-Da’wah magazine, issue no. 1709, p. 35]
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Leaving your children to be "educated" alone in institutions that are owned and noscripted by those without faith, and without consistently guiding them with knowledge of the truth, is the most reckless and dangerous thing that you can do for them as a parent (and person of faith).
We are witnesses ourselves of the destruction that such negligence creates within society.
The Qur'an, Surah At-Tahrim, Verse 6:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ
𝗢 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗱, 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮 𝗙𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗲𝗹 𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀.
We are witnesses ourselves of the destruction that such negligence creates within society.
The Qur'an, Surah At-Tahrim, Verse 6:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ
𝗢 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗱, 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗳𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗮 𝗙𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗲𝗹 𝗶𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀.
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Camel Hump Hijaabs
Women should NOT wear tight-fitting clothes and thin materials outside the home (dressed yet naked)―or have humps like camels on their heads, nor call other women to their sins.
Abu Hurayrah narrated that Allah’s Messenger (salallāhu ‘alaihi wasallam صِنْفَانِ مِنْ أَهْلِ النمَسِيرَةِ كَذَا وَ
“There are two categories of people of Hell whom I have not yet seen: a group having whips like the tails of oxen with which they will beat people. And women who will be dressed but appear to be naked―they will incline to evil and make others incline to it. Their heads will be like the humps of a two-humped camel inclined to one side. They will not enter Paradise and they will not smell its fragrance even though its fragrance can be smelled from such-and-such a far distance.” [Reported by Muslim, no. 2128]
https://abukhadeejah.com/women-tight-thin-clothes-camel-humps-on-heads-naked-dressed/
Women should NOT wear tight-fitting clothes and thin materials outside the home (dressed yet naked)―or have humps like camels on their heads, nor call other women to their sins.
Abu Hurayrah narrated that Allah’s Messenger (salallāhu ‘alaihi wasallam صِنْفَانِ مِنْ أَهْلِ النمَسِيرَةِ كَذَا وَ
“There are two categories of people of Hell whom I have not yet seen: a group having whips like the tails of oxen with which they will beat people. And women who will be dressed but appear to be naked―they will incline to evil and make others incline to it. Their heads will be like the humps of a two-humped camel inclined to one side. They will not enter Paradise and they will not smell its fragrance even though its fragrance can be smelled from such-and-such a far distance.” [Reported by Muslim, no. 2128]
https://abukhadeejah.com/women-tight-thin-clothes-camel-humps-on-heads-naked-dressed/
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Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah(رحمه الله)🤔
Most Muslims are born to two Muslim parents, essentially becoming Muslims by name, without there being any actual faith on their part.
Then, when they reach puberty, from them are those that are blessed with actual faith, performing their obligations. Likewise, from them are those who perform these acts out of ingrained habit, and just to go along with his relatives, the people of the land in which he lives, etc.
For example, he gives Zakah simply because it is a habitual tradition that the ruler collects tax, and not because he realizes either the generality or specifics of the obligation to pay it. So, in his eyes, there is no difference between the innovated tax and the legislated Zakah.
Such is the case with the inhabitant of Makkah who goes out to ‘Arafat every year simply because this is the way it is done, without realizing the generality or specifics of this being an act of worship of Allah.
So, the acts of worship performed by such people is invalid, without a doubt. In fact, the texts of the Qur’an and Sunnah, as well as the consensus of the Ummah, are clear in the ruling that these actions do not fulfill the obligation placed upon their doer…
So, the Islam of most people is by name, only. Rather, it (faith) only enters into their hearts during the course of the matter (i.e., later in their lives), if it enters at all.
So, were this intention not to be obligatory upon them, they would not at all attempt to have it, and their hearts would be empty of it, and they would essentially be hypocrites, carrying out their actions out of habit and imitation, as is the case with many people.
[‘Majmu’ al-Fatawa’; 26/32]
Most Muslims are born to two Muslim parents, essentially becoming Muslims by name, without there being any actual faith on their part.
Then, when they reach puberty, from them are those that are blessed with actual faith, performing their obligations. Likewise, from them are those who perform these acts out of ingrained habit, and just to go along with his relatives, the people of the land in which he lives, etc.
For example, he gives Zakah simply because it is a habitual tradition that the ruler collects tax, and not because he realizes either the generality or specifics of the obligation to pay it. So, in his eyes, there is no difference between the innovated tax and the legislated Zakah.
Such is the case with the inhabitant of Makkah who goes out to ‘Arafat every year simply because this is the way it is done, without realizing the generality or specifics of this being an act of worship of Allah.
So, the acts of worship performed by such people is invalid, without a doubt. In fact, the texts of the Qur’an and Sunnah, as well as the consensus of the Ummah, are clear in the ruling that these actions do not fulfill the obligation placed upon their doer…
So, the Islam of most people is by name, only. Rather, it (faith) only enters into their hearts during the course of the matter (i.e., later in their lives), if it enters at all.
So, were this intention not to be obligatory upon them, they would not at all attempt to have it, and their hearts would be empty of it, and they would essentially be hypocrites, carrying out their actions out of habit and imitation, as is the case with many people.
[‘Majmu’ al-Fatawa’; 26/32]
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"My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, ‘You’re tearing up the grass.’ ‘We’re not raising grass,’ Dad would reply. ‘We’re raising boys.’”
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The Prophet said to one of his companions:
وإن لولدك عليك حقاً
“𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘂𝗽𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂.”
[‘Sahih Muslim 1159c].
https://sunnah.com/muslim:1159c
But when you go to the mosque, 99% of the time, the elder preacher is complaining about bad children, rarely do they talk about bad parenting.
Most of the time, children clash with their parents because their parents lack basic parenting skills, they demand respect but don’t give the same respect and rights back to their children.
The blame gets shifted to the children: the children are always wrong, the parents are always right.
This mentality leads to conflict and broken homes.
وإن لولدك عليك حقاً
“𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘂𝗽𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂.”
[‘Sahih Muslim 1159c].
https://sunnah.com/muslim:1159c
But when you go to the mosque, 99% of the time, the elder preacher is complaining about bad children, rarely do they talk about bad parenting.
Most of the time, children clash with their parents because their parents lack basic parenting skills, they demand respect but don’t give the same respect and rights back to their children.
The blame gets shifted to the children: the children are always wrong, the parents are always right.
This mentality leads to conflict and broken homes.
Sunnah
Sahih Muslim 1159c - The Book of Fasting - كتاب الصيام - Sunnah.com - Sayings and Teachings of Prophet Muhammad (صلى الله عليه…
Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad (saws) in English and Arabic
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One of the most prevalent problem among muslims :
Examples of Toxic Behaviours from Parents :
- Forcing the child to study a certain degree.
- Forcing the child to marry from a certain race, tribe or social class.
- Emotionally manipulating the child to doing what they want.
- Verbally abusive towards the child
- Restricting their movement or interaction for no reason.
- Being unreasonably emotionally and financially dependent.
- Physically abusive towards the child.
- Passive aggressiveness.
- Not giving the child room to grow and discover themselves.
These behaviours are unfortunately quite common amongst Muslim families and may cause a rift between children and their parents.
Examples of Toxic Behaviours from Parents :
- Forcing the child to study a certain degree.
- Forcing the child to marry from a certain race, tribe or social class.
- Emotionally manipulating the child to doing what they want.
- Verbally abusive towards the child
- Restricting their movement or interaction for no reason.
- Being unreasonably emotionally and financially dependent.
- Physically abusive towards the child.
- Passive aggressiveness.
- Not giving the child room to grow and discover themselves.
These behaviours are unfortunately quite common amongst Muslim families and may cause a rift between children and their parents.
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✒ The Right Of A Father
Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said:
رضا الرب في رضا الوالد وسخط الرب في سخط الوالد
“The Pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of the father and the Anger of the Lord is in the anger of the father.”
● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير برقم ٣٥٠٦ ، حسنه الألباني]
al-ʿAllāmah aṣ-Ṣanʿānee Raḥimahullāh said in its Sharḥ:
“This is because it is Allāh Who has Commanded that the father be honored and obeyed, so whoever holds onto the Command of Allāh then He's Pleased with him and whosoever opposes His Command then He's Angry with him!!”
● [التنوير شرح الجامع الصغير ٦/٢٥٧]
Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said:
رضا الرب في رضا الوالد وسخط الرب في سخط الوالد
“The Pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of the father and the Anger of the Lord is in the anger of the father.”
● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير برقم ٣٥٠٦ ، حسنه الألباني]
al-ʿAllāmah aṣ-Ṣanʿānee Raḥimahullāh said in its Sharḥ:
“This is because it is Allāh Who has Commanded that the father be honored and obeyed, so whoever holds onto the Command of Allāh then He's Pleased with him and whosoever opposes His Command then He's Angry with him!!”
● [التنوير شرح الجامع الصغير ٦/٢٥٧]
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🗣️Brothers need to do better! Y’all marry us- treat us badly and make us single moms in the end! If you love your kids! Treat their mothers better! Ittaquillah! A broken woman cannot raise your cubs correctly! Quit breaking us!
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Strengthening The Family
The relationship between the children&their parents is a special one,strive to make it a relationship which is built upon love, compassion, knowledge & understanding.Give them memories which they will cherish for the rest of their lives so they can pass it on to future generations.
The relationship between the children&their parents is a special one,strive to make it a relationship which is built upon love, compassion, knowledge & understanding.Give them memories which they will cherish for the rest of their lives so they can pass it on to future generations.
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HEALING BROKEN FATHERHOOD
God gave us the gift of family. But when a father’s heart is not turned toward his children, that gift becomes distorted.
His family suffers a loss that is difficult to overcome. For some, it is devastating.
And the pain often carries into the next generations….
https://homeschooladventure.com/blog/healing-broken-fatherhood/
God gave us the gift of family. But when a father’s heart is not turned toward his children, that gift becomes distorted.
His family suffers a loss that is difficult to overcome. For some, it is devastating.
And the pain often carries into the next generations….
https://homeschooladventure.com/blog/healing-broken-fatherhood/
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Mothers: Producers of Heroes
“…Mothers play a great role in building a generation. The better a mother is at raising her children, the more successfully the Ummah is built and the more successful it is at producing heroes. You hardly ever see a great man except that a great woman is behind him who left some of her traits in his personality by way of the milk from which he was fed and the warm embrace in which he sought refuge.
Most men find it hard to remove these shining images from their minds that they retain of their mothers. These outstanding images that ran through his veins from a young age remain engraved in his mind, and he cannot help but remember them with veneration and pride. He recalls the simple, clear words that his mother left his spirit with, and these words grow to become milestones on his path and guiding lights on his quest.
He cannot help but place himself under the vast shade that his mother provided for him throughout the long course of his life, nurtured by pleasant emotions and mixed with the eternal days of his life. These realities grow in his spirit and become an inseparable part of his personality that he cannot let go of without letting go of his humanity.
This is why preserving this affection and repaying this kindness with kindness is an obligation in Islam that is directly partnered with Tawhid: {“…and your Lord ordained that you worship only Him, and that you treat your parents with excellence…”} [al-Isra’; 23] And disobedience to them is directly partnered with kufr.
Respect for mothers occupies a very high position on the ladder of Islam, and is very heavy in its scales. It is reported in the ‘Sahih’ that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و سلم) and said: “O Messenger of Allah, who is most deserving of my kind treatment?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked again: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked again: “Then who?” He replied: “Your father.”
I once said to Ibrahim al-Akhdar – the imam of the Haram in Makkah – “Why do you prevent your sweet voice from being heard by the Muslims who come from everywhere to hear it? How can you request to return to Madinah when some people say that hearing you recite the Qur’an is like hearing it descending fresh from the heavens?”
So, he replied: “My treasures in this world are my grandmother and mother, and I must fulfill my responsibilities to them and treat them well. Nobody can do this but me.”
I said: “Why don’t you bring your grandmother here?”
He said: “She refuses to leave Madinah out of fear that she might die outside of it, and her greatest wish is to be buried in the graveyard of al-Baqi’.”
And indeed, Ibrahim actually left the Haram in Makkah and went back to leading a small mosque in Madinah, sticking to the Paradise that is at the foot of his mother and grandmother…”
[‘Majallat al-Jihad’; #36, Rabi’ al-Awwal 1408]
“…Mothers play a great role in building a generation. The better a mother is at raising her children, the more successfully the Ummah is built and the more successful it is at producing heroes. You hardly ever see a great man except that a great woman is behind him who left some of her traits in his personality by way of the milk from which he was fed and the warm embrace in which he sought refuge.
Most men find it hard to remove these shining images from their minds that they retain of their mothers. These outstanding images that ran through his veins from a young age remain engraved in his mind, and he cannot help but remember them with veneration and pride. He recalls the simple, clear words that his mother left his spirit with, and these words grow to become milestones on his path and guiding lights on his quest.
He cannot help but place himself under the vast shade that his mother provided for him throughout the long course of his life, nurtured by pleasant emotions and mixed with the eternal days of his life. These realities grow in his spirit and become an inseparable part of his personality that he cannot let go of without letting go of his humanity.
This is why preserving this affection and repaying this kindness with kindness is an obligation in Islam that is directly partnered with Tawhid: {“…and your Lord ordained that you worship only Him, and that you treat your parents with excellence…”} [al-Isra’; 23] And disobedience to them is directly partnered with kufr.
Respect for mothers occupies a very high position on the ladder of Islam, and is very heavy in its scales. It is reported in the ‘Sahih’ that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و سلم) and said: “O Messenger of Allah, who is most deserving of my kind treatment?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked again: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked again: “Then who?” He replied: “Your father.”
I once said to Ibrahim al-Akhdar – the imam of the Haram in Makkah – “Why do you prevent your sweet voice from being heard by the Muslims who come from everywhere to hear it? How can you request to return to Madinah when some people say that hearing you recite the Qur’an is like hearing it descending fresh from the heavens?”
So, he replied: “My treasures in this world are my grandmother and mother, and I must fulfill my responsibilities to them and treat them well. Nobody can do this but me.”
I said: “Why don’t you bring your grandmother here?”
He said: “She refuses to leave Madinah out of fear that she might die outside of it, and her greatest wish is to be buried in the graveyard of al-Baqi’.”
And indeed, Ibrahim actually left the Haram in Makkah and went back to leading a small mosque in Madinah, sticking to the Paradise that is at the foot of his mother and grandmother…”
[‘Majallat al-Jihad’; #36, Rabi’ al-Awwal 1408]
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#Your_response_matters.*
Every broken egg, a pair of eyes, and your response.
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A 5-year old loves to put eggs in the fridge. Once in a while, an egg breaks and she looks at you (her mommy) for a response.
A 6-year old is trying to set the dinner table, breaks a plate of your favorite dinner set, and then those two little eyes seek your sympathy.
A 7-year old is trying to help you get the grocery out of the car, something slips and there you see the honey and the glass pieces. The kid has already covered his cheeks with both his hands.
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Your response matters. My response matters. You see, all these things can be replaced, but our responses can never be. Every time you say, "#It's_OK,_carry on",
you boost the self esteem, helping them to grow as powerful individuals, less prone to depression, anxiety and self esteem issues. Every time you smack them, you instill a simple lesson "materialistic stuff is more worthy than their dignity".
Every broken egg, a pair of eyes, and your response.
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A 5-year old loves to put eggs in the fridge. Once in a while, an egg breaks and she looks at you (her mommy) for a response.
A 6-year old is trying to set the dinner table, breaks a plate of your favorite dinner set, and then those two little eyes seek your sympathy.
A 7-year old is trying to help you get the grocery out of the car, something slips and there you see the honey and the glass pieces. The kid has already covered his cheeks with both his hands.
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Your response matters. My response matters. You see, all these things can be replaced, but our responses can never be. Every time you say, "#It's_OK,_carry on",
you boost the self esteem, helping them to grow as powerful individuals, less prone to depression, anxiety and self esteem issues. Every time you smack them, you instill a simple lesson "materialistic stuff is more worthy than their dignity".