Aim high in both spiritual and worldly matters. Do dhikr (remembrance of Allah) and call on Allah for Help. Don't just ask that He make your kids into good Muslims; ask Him to make your kids from amongst the best and most virtuous of all Muslims ever. Trust in Him to answer your duas. Nothing is impossible for Allah.“
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Normalize telling your daughters that the best job in the world is a stay-at-home mom.
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This might split hairs but I have to say it, because as someone who is probably older and wiser, I have insight that you can benefit from, insha’Allah 🖤
Stop giving children your mobile phone to keep them quiet…
You’re setting yourself and your children up for failure handing over your mobile phone to keep them distracted and silent so you can attend the masjid, or push them without a fuss in the stroller or keep them in one place at home…
You wouldn’t feed them candy and chocolate for dinner because it will rot their teeth and stunt their development…
The mobile device you’re handing them….
Rots their brain and stunts their development
Once you begin using the mobile, it becomes an addiction, not just for your child but also for you, because you don’t know how to distract them and keep them quiet without one…
Young children absolutely are physically exhausting and it IS hard work that requires great effort 💯
But….the mobile you use to pacify them will only lead to behaviour challenges and stunted growth
Instead, when you’re visiting the masjid pack a small bag for your toddler or preschooler with a colouring book and mess free crayons, ask them to take a small quiet toy with them and a favourite book.
Take a few extra colouring sheets or papers for the other kids who will want to join in who’s muma didn’t think to pack them something and encourage your child to share 🖤
At home, give them an activity or sensory toys that will hold their attention a short time so that you can take a breather!
You have to think outside the box here…
If you don’t use the mobile, your children won’t crave it and they will be ➡️satisfied with simple things
If you use it, nothing will settle them other than the glare of your screen and while they may be quiet holding onto it between their tiny little hands, you have bigger problems than a noisy child coming
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Stop giving children your mobile phone to keep them quiet…
You’re setting yourself and your children up for failure handing over your mobile phone to keep them distracted and silent so you can attend the masjid, or push them without a fuss in the stroller or keep them in one place at home…
You wouldn’t feed them candy and chocolate for dinner because it will rot their teeth and stunt their development…
The mobile device you’re handing them….
Rots their brain and stunts their development
Once you begin using the mobile, it becomes an addiction, not just for your child but also for you, because you don’t know how to distract them and keep them quiet without one…
Young children absolutely are physically exhausting and it IS hard work that requires great effort 💯
But….the mobile you use to pacify them will only lead to behaviour challenges and stunted growth
Instead, when you’re visiting the masjid pack a small bag for your toddler or preschooler with a colouring book and mess free crayons, ask them to take a small quiet toy with them and a favourite book.
Take a few extra colouring sheets or papers for the other kids who will want to join in who’s muma didn’t think to pack them something and encourage your child to share 🖤
At home, give them an activity or sensory toys that will hold their attention a short time so that you can take a breather!
You have to think outside the box here…
If you don’t use the mobile, your children won’t crave it and they will be ➡️satisfied with simple things
If you use it, nothing will settle them other than the glare of your screen and while they may be quiet holding onto it between their tiny little hands, you have bigger problems than a noisy child coming
▶️Need more help?
Learn how you can get it here
🫶 www.mumsunstuck.com
Umm Khadeeja 🖤
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HOW THE RIGHTEOUS PEOPLE OF THE PAST USED TO RAISE THEIR CHILDREN
Sufyan Al-Thawri said:
"It is proper for a man to force his child to acquire knowledge because he will be asked about this."
Al-Siyar (7/273)
Book: The Structure of the Muslim Family By Shaykh Muhammad Amān al-Jamī Translated by Hassan Somali
P. 39
Sufyan Al-Thawri said:
"It is proper for a man to force his child to acquire knowledge because he will be asked about this."
Al-Siyar (7/273)
Book: The Structure of the Muslim Family By Shaykh Muhammad Amān al-Jamī Translated by Hassan Somali
P. 39
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PARENTS DON'T DO THIS MISTAKE WITH YOUR CHILDREN
From the means by which a Jinn can overpower and possess the children
A very important point
Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
❝Some of the foolish, ignorant people, lacking intelligence, scare their small innocent children and frighten them by saying: so-and-so will come (and take you), or so-and-so will (do such-and-such to you). So the child gets scared and this fear and anxiety remains in his heart, and this becomes permanent in his heart so that he is constantly in anxiety, fear and distress.
Sometimes it is the father who scares his son and sometimes it is the mother who scares her son and daughter.
But the most foolish ones are those who tell us that the when a child does something wrong (then as punishment) he should be locked inside his room, alone. And even when he shouts and screams they do not feel sorry for him nor do they open the door.
And this is one of the means by which a Jinn overpowers (and possesses) the child. This was conveyed by one of the Jinns who had possessed a child and said that he entered in him when his father had locked him inside the room, and he began to shout and scream, and that's when he possessed him.
So we should be alert and take precautions from the things which can become a means for the Jinn to overpower us.❞
📚 Source:
[ " بيان حقيقة صرع الجن للإنس ؛ مواعظ عامة ومواضيع متفرقة للشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين رحمه الله تعالى " ]
From the means by which a Jinn can overpower and possess the children
A very important point
Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:
❝Some of the foolish, ignorant people, lacking intelligence, scare their small innocent children and frighten them by saying: so-and-so will come (and take you), or so-and-so will (do such-and-such to you). So the child gets scared and this fear and anxiety remains in his heart, and this becomes permanent in his heart so that he is constantly in anxiety, fear and distress.
Sometimes it is the father who scares his son and sometimes it is the mother who scares her son and daughter.
But the most foolish ones are those who tell us that the when a child does something wrong (then as punishment) he should be locked inside his room, alone. And even when he shouts and screams they do not feel sorry for him nor do they open the door.
And this is one of the means by which a Jinn overpowers (and possesses) the child. This was conveyed by one of the Jinns who had possessed a child and said that he entered in him when his father had locked him inside the room, and he began to shout and scream, and that's when he possessed him.
So we should be alert and take precautions from the things which can become a means for the Jinn to overpower us.❞
📚 Source:
[ " بيان حقيقة صرع الجن للإنس ؛ مواعظ عامة ومواضيع متفرقة للشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين رحمه الله تعالى " ]
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Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal رحمه الله said about his mother,
"My mother made me memorise the Qur'an when I was only ten years old. She used to wake me up before fajar salaah and would heat up water for my wudu in the cold nights of Baghdad.
وكانت أمي تلبسني اللباس، وكانت تختمر وتتغطى بحجابها وتذهب معه إلى المسجد؛ لأن المسجد بعيد؛ ولأن الطريق مظلمة
Then, after dressing me up, she would cover herself fully in her hijab and go with me to the masjid as it was far away from our house and the way to the masjid was very dark"
"My mother made me memorise the Qur'an when I was only ten years old. She used to wake me up before fajar salaah and would heat up water for my wudu in the cold nights of Baghdad.
وكانت أمي تلبسني اللباس، وكانت تختمر وتتغطى بحجابها وتذهب معه إلى المسجد؛ لأن المسجد بعيد؛ ولأن الطريق مظلمة
Then, after dressing me up, she would cover herself fully in her hijab and go with me to the masjid as it was far away from our house and the way to the masjid was very dark"
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▪️Shaykh Ahmad bin Yahya an-Najmi, [may Allāh bestow mercy upon him], said:
“Extend kindness towards your mother, maintain patience, refrain from expressing any discontent, and rest assured that Allāh will undoubtedly reward you for both your financial support and devoted service to her.”
Fath ur-Rabb il-Wadūd fi al-Fatāwa wa Rasā’il wa Radūd, 2/372 📙
Translation: Authentic Quotes
“Extend kindness towards your mother, maintain patience, refrain from expressing any discontent, and rest assured that Allāh will undoubtedly reward you for both your financial support and devoted service to her.”
Fath ur-Rabb il-Wadūd fi al-Fatāwa wa Rasā’il wa Radūd, 2/372 📙
Translation: Authentic Quotes
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Being Fair Between Children
‘Aamir narrated:
I heard Al-Nu‘maan ibn Basheer (may Allah be pleased with him) on the pulpit saying, "My father gave me a gift but ‘Amrah bint Rawaahah (my mother) said that she would not agree to it unless he made Allah's Messengerﷺ as a witness to it. So, my father went to Allah's Messengerﷺ and said, 'I have given a gift to my son from ‘Amrah bint Rawaahah, but she ordered me to make you as a witness to it, O Allah's Messengerﷺ!' Allah's Messenger ﷺ asked, 'Have you given (the like of it) to everyone of your children?' He replied in the negative. Allah's Messengerﷺ said, ‘Fear Allah, and be just to all your children (i.e., treat them all on an equal footing).' My father then returned and took back his gift." [Bukhari]
The aim of such a command was to foster mutual accord and affection between siblings, eliminating the causes of discord and hatred, and helping them show the enjoined dutifulness towards their father. Basheer (may Allah be pleased with him) obeyed the Prophet’s ﷺcommand, returned, and took back his gift to establish equality between all his children.
Imaam An-Nawwawee (r) said: “From this Hadeeth we
understand that it is obligatory for him to be equal in donating to
his children and that he gives to every one of them that which he
gave to the others, and that he not prefer one over the other and
that he must be equal between boys and girls.”
‘Aamir narrated:
I heard Al-Nu‘maan ibn Basheer (may Allah be pleased with him) on the pulpit saying, "My father gave me a gift but ‘Amrah bint Rawaahah (my mother) said that she would not agree to it unless he made Allah's Messengerﷺ as a witness to it. So, my father went to Allah's Messengerﷺ and said, 'I have given a gift to my son from ‘Amrah bint Rawaahah, but she ordered me to make you as a witness to it, O Allah's Messengerﷺ!' Allah's Messenger ﷺ asked, 'Have you given (the like of it) to everyone of your children?' He replied in the negative. Allah's Messengerﷺ said, ‘Fear Allah, and be just to all your children (i.e., treat them all on an equal footing).' My father then returned and took back his gift." [Bukhari]
The aim of such a command was to foster mutual accord and affection between siblings, eliminating the causes of discord and hatred, and helping them show the enjoined dutifulness towards their father. Basheer (may Allah be pleased with him) obeyed the Prophet’s ﷺcommand, returned, and took back his gift to establish equality between all his children.
Imaam An-Nawwawee (r) said: “From this Hadeeth we
understand that it is obligatory for him to be equal in donating to
his children and that he gives to every one of them that which he
gave to the others, and that he not prefer one over the other and
that he must be equal between boys and girls.”
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Sh. Ṣāliḥ al-Luḥaydān Hafiẓahullāh:
“Whilst in your Sujūd (prostration) increase in your Du'ā (supplication) for your parents, do not forget them for indeed Prophet (Ṣallallāhu-'Alaihi Wa Sallam) mentioned that the deed which does not cut off is the supplication of a righteous child for his parent.”
● [فريضة الصيام]
“Whilst in your Sujūd (prostration) increase in your Du'ā (supplication) for your parents, do not forget them for indeed Prophet (Ṣallallāhu-'Alaihi Wa Sallam) mentioned that the deed which does not cut off is the supplication of a righteous child for his parent.”
● [فريضة الصيام]
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Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān [may Allāh preserve him] said:
“Trials and tribulations are rife now, do not become heedless regarding your children and womenfolk.”
Sharh Ighāthat ul-Lahfān | 17-06-1437H | Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān [may Allāh preserve him]
“Trials and tribulations are rife now, do not become heedless regarding your children and womenfolk.”
Sharh Ighāthat ul-Lahfān | 17-06-1437H | Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān [may Allāh preserve him]
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IMPORTANCE OF BEING A RIGHTEOUS FATHER.
■ Abdullah ibn Mas'ud رضا الله عنه used to pray at night and would see his small child sleeping. He would then say, "this is for your bright future" and whilst crying he recited: "And their father was righteous" [Al Qurʾān 18:82]
■ Abdullah Ibn Abbas رضا الله عنه said: "They were protected by the righteousness of their father."
■ Said Ibn al Musayb رحمه الله said: "I pray, then when I remember my child, I increase in my prayers." [Tafsir al Baghawi v. 5 p. 196]
■ Abdullah ibn Mas'ud رضا الله عنه used to pray at night and would see his small child sleeping. He would then say, "this is for your bright future" and whilst crying he recited: "And their father was righteous" [Al Qurʾān 18:82]
■ Abdullah Ibn Abbas رضا الله عنه said: "They were protected by the righteousness of their father."
■ Said Ibn al Musayb رحمه الله said: "I pray, then when I remember my child, I increase in my prayers." [Tafsir al Baghawi v. 5 p. 196]
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Shaykh ul-Islām ibn Taymiyyah, [may Allāh bestow mercy upon him], said:
“It is imperative to educate Muslim children with that which Allāh has commanded them to be taught with, ensuring their upbringing is rooted in obedience to Allāh and His Messenger صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ.
The Messenger of Allāh, صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ, said:
‘Instruct your children in prayer at the age of seven, and smack them lightly if they neglect prayer by the time they are ten. Additionally, make separate sleeping arrangements for them.’” - Sunan Abi Dawūd 495
Majmū‘ al-Fatāwa, 11/504 | Shaykh ul-Islām ibn Taymiyyah, [may Allāh have mercy on him].
Al-Imām ibn Qudāmah al-Maqdasi, [may Allāh bestow mercy upon him], said:
“Instilling discipline and guidance in children involves encouraging consistent prayer habits, ensuring they grow accustomed to it. This practice aims to make prayer a natural part of their routine, fostering a lifelong commitment that extends beyond adolescence.”
Al-Mughni | Volume 1, Page 357 | Al-Imām ibn Qudāmah al-Maqdasi, [may Allāh have mercy on him].
Translation: Authentic Quotes
“It is imperative to educate Muslim children with that which Allāh has commanded them to be taught with, ensuring their upbringing is rooted in obedience to Allāh and His Messenger صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ.
The Messenger of Allāh, صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ, said:
‘Instruct your children in prayer at the age of seven, and smack them lightly if they neglect prayer by the time they are ten. Additionally, make separate sleeping arrangements for them.’” - Sunan Abi Dawūd 495
Majmū‘ al-Fatāwa, 11/504 | Shaykh ul-Islām ibn Taymiyyah, [may Allāh have mercy on him].
Al-Imām ibn Qudāmah al-Maqdasi, [may Allāh bestow mercy upon him], said:
“Instilling discipline and guidance in children involves encouraging consistent prayer habits, ensuring they grow accustomed to it. This practice aims to make prayer a natural part of their routine, fostering a lifelong commitment that extends beyond adolescence.”
Al-Mughni | Volume 1, Page 357 | Al-Imām ibn Qudāmah al-Maqdasi, [may Allāh have mercy on him].
Translation: Authentic Quotes
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The Power of Istighfaar : What effect does it have on your life?
One of the righteous people said,
"Do not overthink rather do a lot of istighfaar, for Allah taala opens doors with istighfaar that are not opened by overthinking."
One of the righteous people said,
"Do not overthink rather do a lot of istighfaar, for Allah taala opens doors with istighfaar that are not opened by overthinking."
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As much as raising children is a responsibility, it is also a skill, and among the affairs one pays attention to are:
- Teach them with your actions as well as your words, avoiding contradictions between advice and application.
- Ensure your criticism is gentle, and keep the religion your main focus.
- Share in their thoughts and interests.
- Be close, along with overlooking [some affairs], and beware of your closeness becoming bothersome, causing them to seek distance from you.
- Encourage craftsmanship, whether in learning or technical creativity.
- Get them used to being responsible, even if slowly and gradually, according to their ages.
- Do not label them with ugly labels such that it sticks with them for life.
- Share in their success and rejoice with them.
- Avoid discouraging remarks if they stumble.
- Inquire about and get to know their close friends.
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- Teach them with your actions as well as your words, avoiding contradictions between advice and application.
- Ensure your criticism is gentle, and keep the religion your main focus.
- Share in their thoughts and interests.
- Be close, along with overlooking [some affairs], and beware of your closeness becoming bothersome, causing them to seek distance from you.
- Encourage craftsmanship, whether in learning or technical creativity.
- Get them used to being responsible, even if slowly and gradually, according to their ages.
- Do not label them with ugly labels such that it sticks with them for life.
- Share in their success and rejoice with them.
- Avoid discouraging remarks if they stumble.
- Inquire about and get to know their close friends.
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As much as raising children is a responsibility, it is also a skill, and among the affairs one pays attention to are:
- Teach them with your actions as well as your words, avoiding contradictions between advice and application.
- Teach them with your actions as well as your words, avoiding contradictions between advice and application.
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Daughters Are More Difficult To Raise Than Boys Today
Shaykh Sālih Ibn Fawzān Al-Fawzān حفظه الله said:
“The daughters today have become more difficult than the boys because they have started to go out to the schools, and go to the jobs and to the businesses. Therefore protect them when they go out. They should not go out while beautified. They should not go out uncovered. They should not go out unveiled and exposed. Regulate them with covering themselves, shyness and dignity. She should not ride alone with a driver who is not her close male relative because this is the impermissible seclusion. And how much has occurred due to the girls being with drivers, who are not their close male relatives? How much corruption and evil has occurred? Therefore fear Allāh, O slaves of Allāh. Protect your children - the males and females - because you will be questioned about them in front of Allāh. And their corruption is loss for you in this world and the hereafter. Thus fear Allāh, O slaves of Allāh. Protect your offspring. I seek refuge in Allāh from the accursed Shaytān.”
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Translated by Rasheed Ibn Estes Barbee
Shaykh Sālih Ibn Fawzān Al-Fawzān حفظه الله said:
“The daughters today have become more difficult than the boys because they have started to go out to the schools, and go to the jobs and to the businesses. Therefore protect them when they go out. They should not go out while beautified. They should not go out uncovered. They should not go out unveiled and exposed. Regulate them with covering themselves, shyness and dignity. She should not ride alone with a driver who is not her close male relative because this is the impermissible seclusion. And how much has occurred due to the girls being with drivers, who are not their close male relatives? How much corruption and evil has occurred? Therefore fear Allāh, O slaves of Allāh. Protect your children - the males and females - because you will be questioned about them in front of Allāh. And their corruption is loss for you in this world and the hereafter. Thus fear Allāh, O slaves of Allāh. Protect your offspring. I seek refuge in Allāh from the accursed Shaytān.”
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Translated by Rasheed Ibn Estes Barbee
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Raising The Children
Taking care of the child is the responsibility of both parents together. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said:
"Each of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock. The man is a shepherd within his home and is responsible for his flock. The woman is a shepherdess within the home of her husband and is responsible for her flock." *
* Bukhārī (no. 853), Muslim (no. 1829)
Book: A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family
By Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān حفظه الله
Translated by: Raha Batts
Published by: Hikmah Publications
Page: 43
Taking care of the child is the responsibility of both parents together. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said:
"Each of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock. The man is a shepherd within his home and is responsible for his flock. The woman is a shepherdess within the home of her husband and is responsible for her flock." *
* Bukhārī (no. 853), Muslim (no. 1829)
Book: A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family
By Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān حفظه الله
Translated by: Raha Batts
Published by: Hikmah Publications
Page: 43
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