PARENTS DON'T DO THIS MISTAKE WITH YOUR CHILDREN

From the means by which a Jinn can overpower and possess the children

A very important point

Shaikh Ibn al-`Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:

❝Some of the foolish, ignorant people, lacking intelligence, scare their small innocent children and frighten them by saying: so-and-so will come (and take you), or so-and-so will (do such-and-such to you). So the child gets scared and this fear and anxiety remains in his heart, and this becomes permanent in his heart so that he is constantly in anxiety, fear and distress.

Sometimes it is the father who scares his son and sometimes it is the mother who scares her son and daughter.

But the most foolish ones are those who tell us that the when a child does something wrong (then as punishment) he should be locked inside his room, alone. And even when he shouts and screams they do not feel sorry for him nor do they open the door.

And this is one of the means by which a Jinn overpowers (and possesses) the child. This was conveyed by one of the Jinns who had possessed a child and said that he entered in him when his father had locked him inside the room, and he began to shout and scream, and that's when he possessed him.

So we should be alert and take precautions from the things which can become a means for the Jinn to overpower us.❞

📚 Source:

[ " بيان حقيقة صرع الجن للإنس ؛ مواعظ عامة ومواضيع متفرقة للشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين رحمه الله تعالى " ]

Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal رحمه الله said about his mother,

"My mother made me memorise the Qur'an when I was only ten years old. She used to wake me up before fajar salaah and would heat up water for my wudu in the cold nights of Baghdad.

وكانت أمي تلبسني اللباس، وكانت تختمر وتتغطى بحجابها وتذهب معه إلى المسجد؛ لأن المسجد بعيد؛ ولأن الطريق مظلمة

Then, after dressing me up, she would cover herself fully in her hijab and go with me to the masjid as it was far away from our house and the way to the masjid was very dark"

▪️Shaykh Ahmad bin Yahya an-Najmi, [may Allāh bestow mercy upon him], said:

“Extend kindness towards your mother, maintain patience, refrain from expressing any discontent, and rest assured that Allāh will undoubtedly reward you for both your financial support and devoted service to her.”

Fath ur-Rabb il-Wadūd fi al-Fatāwa wa Rasā’il wa Radūd, 2/372 📙

Translation: Authentic Quotes

Being Fair Between Children

‘Aamir narrated:
I heard Al-Nu‘maan ibn Basheer (may Allah be pleased with him) on the pulpit saying, "My father gave me a gift but ‘Amrah bint Rawaahah (my mother) said that she would not agree to it unless he made Allah's Messengerﷺ as a witness to it. So, my father went to Allah's Messengerﷺ and said, 'I have given a gift to my son from ‘Amrah bint Rawaahah, but she ordered me to make you as a witness to it, O Allah's Messengerﷺ!' Allah's Messenger ﷺ asked, 'Have you given (the like of it) to everyone of your children?' He replied in the negative. Allah's Messengerﷺ said, ‘Fear Allah, and be just to all your children (i.e., treat them all on an equal footing).' My father then returned and took back his gift." [Bukhari]

The aim of such a command was to foster mutual accord and affection between siblings, eliminating the causes of discord and hatred, and helping them show the enjoined dutifulness towards their father. Basheer (may Allah be pleased with him) obeyed the Prophet’s ﷺcommand, returned, and took back his gift to establish equality between all his children.

Imaam An-Nawwawee (r) said: “From this Hadeeth we
understand that it is obligatory for him to be equal in donating to
his children and that he gives to every one of them that which he
gave to the others, and that he not prefer one over the other and
that he must be equal between boys and girls.”

Sh. Ṣāliḥ al-Luḥaydān Hafiẓahullāh:

“Whilst in your Sujūd (prostration) increase in your Du'ā (supplication) for your parents, do not forget them for indeed Prophet (Ṣallallāhu-'Alaihi Wa Sallam) mentioned that the deed which does not cut off is the supplication of a righteous child for his parent.”

● [فريضة الصيام]

Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān [may Allāh preserve him] said:

“Trials and tribulations are rife now, do not become heedless regarding your children and womenfolk.”

Sharh Ighāthat ul-Lahfān | 17-06-1437H | Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān [may Allāh preserve him]

IMPORTANCE OF BEING A RIGHTEOUS FATHER.

■ Abdullah ibn Mas'ud رضا الله عنه used to pray at night and would see his small child sleeping. He would then say, "this is for your bright future" and whilst crying he recited: "And their father was righteous" [Al Qurʾān 18:82]

■ Abdullah Ibn Abbas رضا الله عنه said: "They were protected by the righteousness of their father."

■ Said Ibn al Musayb رحمه الله said: "I pray, then when I remember my child, I increase in my prayers." [Tafsir al Baghawi v. 5 p. 196]

A father should be close to his daughter...

Shaykh ul-Islām ibn Taymiyyah, [may Allāh bestow mercy upon him], said:

“It is imperative to educate Muslim children with that which Allāh has commanded them to be taught with, ensuring their upbringing is rooted in obedience to Allāh and His Messenger صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ.

The Messenger of Allāh, صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ, said:

‘Instruct your children in prayer at the age of seven, and smack them lightly if they neglect prayer by the time they are ten. Additionally, make separate sleeping arrangements for them.’” - Sunan Abi Dawūd 495

Majmū‘ al-Fatāwa, 11/504 | Shaykh ul-Islām ibn Taymiyyah, [may Allāh have mercy on him].

Al-Imām ibn Qudāmah al-Maqdasi, [may Allāh bestow mercy upon him], said:

“Instilling discipline and guidance in children involves encouraging consistent prayer habits, ensuring they grow accustomed to it. This practice aims to make prayer a natural part of their routine, fostering a lifelong commitment that extends beyond adolescence.”

Al-Mughni | Volume 1, Page 357 | Al-Imām ibn Qudāmah al-Maqdasi, [may Allāh have mercy on him].

Translation: Authentic Quotes

🌿Get married early

The Power of Istighfaar : What effect does it have on your life?

One of the righteous people said,

"Do not overthink rather do a lot of istighfaar, for Allah taala opens doors with istighfaar that are not opened by overthinking."

As much as raising children is a responsibility, it is also a skill, and among the affairs one pays attention to are:

- Teach them with your actions as well as your words, avoiding contradictions between advice and application.

- Ensure your criticism is gentle, and keep the religion your main focus.
- Share in their thoughts and interests.
- Be close, along with overlooking [some affairs], and beware of your closeness becoming bothersome, causing them to seek distance from you.

- Encourage craftsmanship, whether in learning or technical creativity.
- Get them used to being responsible, even if slowly and gradually, according to their ages.
- Do not label them with ugly labels such that it sticks with them for life.
- Share in their success and rejoice with them.
- Avoid discouraging remarks if they stumble.
- Inquire about and get to know their close friends.

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Daughters Are More Difficult To Raise Than Boys Today

Shaykh Sālih Ibn Fawzān Al-Fawzān حفظه الله said:

“The daughters today have become more difficult than the boys because they have started to go out to the schools, and go to the jobs and to the businesses. Therefore protect them when they go out. They should not go out while beautified. They should not go out uncovered. They should not go out unveiled and exposed. Regulate them with covering themselves, shyness and dignity. She should not ride alone with a driver who is not her close male relative because this is the impermissible seclusion. And how much has occurred due to the girls being with drivers, who are not their close male relatives? How much corruption and evil has occurred? Therefore fear Allāh, O slaves of Allāh. Protect your children - the males and females - because you will be questioned about them in front of Allāh. And their corruption is loss for you in this world and the hereafter. Thus fear Allāh, O slaves of Allāh. Protect your offspring. I seek refuge in Allāh from the accursed Shaytān.”

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Translated by Rasheed Ibn Estes Barbee

Raising The Children

Taking care of the child is the responsibility of both parents together. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) said:

"Each of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock. The man is a shepherd within his home and is responsible for his flock. The woman is a shepherdess within the home of her husband and is responsible for her flock." *

* Bukhārī (no. 853), Muslim (no. 1829)

Book: A Woman's Guide to Raising a Family
By Shaykh Sālih al-Fawzān حفظه الله
Translated by: Raha Batts
Published by: Hikmah Publications
Page: 43

💎 *Instilling righteousness and good character in your children are from the greatest of good deeds* 🌷

The companion Amr bin Al-‘Aas, may Allah be pleased with him, said:
ما نَحلَ والِدٌ ولدَهُ أفضلَ مِن أدَبٍ حَسنٍ
*“A parent does not bestow upon his child anything better than [instilling in him or her] good character.”* (Al-Jami’ Al-Saghir 8099)

The arabic verb َنَحل comes from the word نحلة which is a bee. It means to willingly give or bestow something sweet and beneficial like honey, from yourself to another. This shows us that, in order to instill in our children good character and manners, we need to first possess and display those characters and manners, so that we may then pass them on to our children. Good character and beautiful manners is taught first and foremost through actions — and not just words.

Shaykh Al-Sai’dee, may Allah have mercy on him, commented on this beautiful statement, saying:

_“The people who are most deserving of your good are your children. They are a trust which Allah gave you and He instructed you to give them a righteous upbringing that is good for their bodies and hearts._

_Anything you do in that regard (of raising them righteously), big or small, is a fulfillment of the obligation given to you and from the most virtuous things that brings you closer to Allah. So strive in that and expect the reward from Allah._

_Just as you are rewarded for fulfilling their rights when you feed, clothe and care for their physical health, you are also, and even more so, rewarded for nurturing their hearts and souls, when you teach them beneficial and truthful knowledge, guide them to the best of manners and warn them from what contradicts that._

_Instilling good character in your children is better for their present and future than giving them gold and silver and all sorts of materialistic goods, because with good manners and beautiful character they are elevated._

_With good manners and beautiful character they become (truly) happy and they are able to fulfill the rights of Allah and the rights of the creation. With good manners and beautiful character they are able to stay away from all types of evil and with it they fulfill good treatment of their parents._

_Neglecting to raise one’s children comes with great harm and danger. Imagine you had a garden which you cared for until its trees grew tall, its fruits ripened, and its flowers blossomed, and you then neglected it and did not protect it. You neither watered it nor removed harm from it, and you didn’t prepare it for growth at all times — wouldn’t that be the greatest type of ignorance and foolishness?_

_So how can you neglect your children who are from your own body, the fruit of your heart, a replication of your soul, and those who take your place while you are alive and when you die? They are those who, from their happiness, yours is fulfilled and from their success, you achieve great good:_ *“And none receive admonition except men of understanding.”* (Quran 3:7)

(Bahjat Quloob Al-Abrar)

Falsely attributing oneself to other than his own parents

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “Any man who knowingly attributes himself to someone other than his father has committed an act of kufr. Whoever claims to belong to a people to whom he does not belong, let him take his place in Hell.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3317) and Muslim (61).

Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (r) said:

This hadeeth shows that it is haraam to deny a parentage that is known and to claim to belong to someone else.

Fath al-Baari (10/308).

*💎 SEEKING ALLAH'S AID IN RAISING CHILDREN*

▪️In one of his tafseer lessons, Shaykh ‘Abd al-Razzaq al-Badr said:

*لا يمكن أن يصلح لك فرد من أفراد ذريتك إلا إذا أصلحه الله لك. مهما اجتهدت في تأديبه وتربيته وأطْرِهِ على الحق، والزامه بالاستقامة لا يمكن أن يستقيم ويَصلُح إلا إذا أصلحه الله لك. فالهادي هو الله، والموفق هو الله سبحانه وتعالى. ولهذا ينبغي على المسلم أن يَعْظُمَ رجاؤه بالله، وسؤاله لله، والحَاحُه على الله -سبحانه وتعالى- أن يصلح ذريته. فهاهو خليل الرحمن في دعائه يقول: {رَبَّنَا وَاجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُّسْلِمَةً لَّكَ}. ـ *

It is not possible for you to make any of your offspring upright unless Allah makes him upright for you.

No matter how hard you work to instill good manners in him, raise him right, make him receptive to the truth, and make him stick to upright behavior, it is not possible for him to be in good standing and upright unless Allah makes him upright for you.

For Allah is the guide. Allah is the One who gives success.

That is why a Muslim ought to give importance to placing his hopes on Allah, asking Allah, and his own reliance on Allah in making his offspring upright. That is why Khalil al-Rahman – Ibrahim عليه السلام – said in his supplication:

*رَبَّنَا وَاجْعَلْنَا مُسْلِمَيْنِ لَكَ وَمِن ذُرِّيَّتِنَا أُمَّةً مُّسْلِمَةً لَّكَ*

O our Lord, and make us both those who submit to you, and make out of our offspring a nation that submits to you [2:128]

[Class #8 of the sheikh’s explanation of the book Tafsir Ayaat al-Qur’an al-Kareem of Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Abd al-Wahhab] 📙

There remains a warning, which Ash-Shaykh Mustafaa mention in his valuable book Understanding Child Raising in which he states,

"A child makes a mistake and is in need of chastisement so he mother comes and chastises him. Then the unwise husband forbids the mother from chastising the child. The child hears the father telling the mother this, which has an effect on him. As a result, the respect for the mother is gone. Therefore, do not forbid the mother to chastise her child while the child can hear the conversation Speak soothingly to her and give her a proper level of awe and respect. For example, if you see the child does not deserve to be hit, ask Allaah to forgive him this time, you forgive him this time, and if he does it again, you and I will punish him together.

Verily, if a father hits the mother or forbids her from chastising their children while the children can hear him, he sends a clear message to the children and affects the condition of their souls. The children may express anger and hatred towards the mother and some may carry the memory inside of them. Perhaps the next time they make a mistake and their mother admonishes them, the child will say to her, 'I will tell my father to hit you and do this and that to you. This will have the negative effect of splitting the house."

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KINDLY READ THE HADITH CAREFULLY & ITLL BREAK YOUR HEART

that why no one should be a Merciful human beings in this world toward thier children except there parents!

Abū ʿAlī b. Muḥammad b. Aḥmad al-Ṭūmārī reported that Abū Bakr b. ʿAbd al-Khāliq al-Warrāq said:

I had a daughter who was tested with a disability and she was like this for around ten years.


I once said, “I wished she just died” and then she (actually) died.


I then saw her in my sleep (ie: dream after she passed away),
as if she was standing in front of him and the Day of Judgement was taking place.


She stood up (as if) she was one of those children who would take the hand of her parent and lead them to al-Jannah (ie: Paradise).
،

So I said to my daughter, “Take my hand and lead me to al-Jannah.”قَة،

She said to me, “No, you wished for my death.”

al-Khaṭīb al-Baġdādī, Tārīkh Baġdād 6
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