O Parents! Be Righteous!
Tafseer al-Baghawi (rahimahullah):
Abdullah ibn Mas’ood (radiyAllahu ‘anhu), used to pray at night (the night prayers) and (when he) would see his small child sleeping then he would say, “this is for your bright future” and whilst crying would recite:
وَكَانَ أَبُوهُمَا صَالِحًا
“And their father was righteous” Surat al-Kahf, 82
lbn Abbas (radiyAllahu ’anhu) said (commenting on this verse):
“They (the two orphans mentioned in Surah al-Kahf) were protected by the righteousness of their father.”
Saeed lbn Musayyib (radiyAllahu ‘anhu) said: “I worship, and then when I remember my child(ren), I increase in my worship"
[Tafseer al-Baghawee (rahimahullah), vol. 5, pg. 196]
The great Tabi’ee, Sa’eed Ibn Jubayr (radiyAllahu ‘anh) said:
I will increase my prayers for (the sake of) this son of mine.
Meaning: I will increase in my acts of worship of Allah so that He sets my children aright for me.
[al-Hilyah, 4/279]
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Being Righteous is a Reason for Your Children to be Protected by Allah
Imam as-Sa'dee (rahimahullah):
“Allah will protect the righteous servant himself and will safeguard his children.”
[Tayseer Al-Kareem Ar-Rahmaan fee Tafseer Kalaam Al-Mannan, 3/979, Imam as-Sa'dee (rahimahullah), Dar Ibn al-Jawzee print]
Tafseer al-Baghawi (rahimahullah):
Abdullah ibn Mas’ood (radiyAllahu ‘anhu), used to pray at night (the night prayers) and (when he) would see his small child sleeping then he would say, “this is for your bright future” and whilst crying would recite:
وَكَانَ أَبُوهُمَا صَالِحًا
“And their father was righteous” Surat al-Kahf, 82
lbn Abbas (radiyAllahu ’anhu) said (commenting on this verse):
“They (the two orphans mentioned in Surah al-Kahf) were protected by the righteousness of their father.”
Saeed lbn Musayyib (radiyAllahu ‘anhu) said: “I worship, and then when I remember my child(ren), I increase in my worship"
[Tafseer al-Baghawee (rahimahullah), vol. 5, pg. 196]
The great Tabi’ee, Sa’eed Ibn Jubayr (radiyAllahu ‘anh) said:
I will increase my prayers for (the sake of) this son of mine.
Meaning: I will increase in my acts of worship of Allah so that He sets my children aright for me.
[al-Hilyah, 4/279]
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Being Righteous is a Reason for Your Children to be Protected by Allah
Imam as-Sa'dee (rahimahullah):
“Allah will protect the righteous servant himself and will safeguard his children.”
[Tayseer Al-Kareem Ar-Rahmaan fee Tafseer Kalaam Al-Mannan, 3/979, Imam as-Sa'dee (rahimahullah), Dar Ibn al-Jawzee print]
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A good read…
WHEN PARENTS GET OLD ...
Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow ...
Let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child ...
Let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win ...
Let them enjoy their friends just as they let you …
Let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them ...
Let them enjoy living among the objects that have acompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away ...
Let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarass you by correcting you ...
LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!
Credit to Author Pervaiz Malik
WHEN PARENTS GET OLD ...
Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow ...
Let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child ...
Let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win ...
Let them enjoy their friends just as they let you …
Let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them ...
Let them enjoy living among the objects that have acompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away ...
Let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarass you by correcting you ...
LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!
Credit to Author Pervaiz Malik
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Don't treat your children as a retirement plan; instead, teach them birrul walidayn. As long as you give them love, they will return it to you without being asked.
✍🏼Ummu Salma
✍🏼Ummu Salma
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𝗕𝗘 𝗖𝗔𝗥𝗘𝗙𝗨𝗟 𝗪𝗜𝗧𝗛 𝗣𝗔𝗥𝗘𝗡𝗧𝗦
Sh Muqbil ibn hadi al wadi رحمه الله :
It is possible that a supplication from the parents may DESTROY a man and RUIN his Dunyā and also his Ākhirah due to a Duʿā made against him by his mother or his father.
[الرحلة الأخيرة صفحة ٢٤٠]
Sh Muqbil ibn hadi al wadi رحمه الله :
It is possible that a supplication from the parents may DESTROY a man and RUIN his Dunyā and also his Ākhirah due to a Duʿā made against him by his mother or his father.
[الرحلة الأخيرة صفحة ٢٤٠]
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Fathers of girls, be loving and affectionate with your daughters.
The importance of the father-daughter relationship cannot be overstated. In order for a young girl to grow up to be an upright, pious woman, she must be raised well by a strong and attentive father figure.
A father who is weak and incompetent, or absent and unprotective, or cold and undemonstrative, or overly authoritarian, or overly permissive--in these types of cases, many daughters grow up with a very skewed attitude toward men. Often, such girls will desperately and subconsciously seek out some type of a substitute for her father's love: *any* man's love.
Any man at all.
This is, in a nutshell, what we refer to as "daddy issues."
I was reminded of this reality as I read this passage in the book I'm currently reading, Gabor Maté's When the Body Says No:
"Gilda's relationship with her mother appears to have been intensely negative, and apparently marked by competition for her father's attention. Gilda maintained that her father had been "the love of my life." His death of brain cancer when she was 12 was an irreparable loss.
All her adult life, Gilda, out of sheer desperation, promiscuously sought male love and acceptance. "To a great extent, my life has been controlled by the men I loved," she wrote. She attempted to make herself into whatever woman she thought the man in her life preferred..."
The book is about a different, larger topic and not really about daddy issues, but these particular paragraphs caught my attention.
As is true for all children, both daughters and sons, childhood events deeply affect the trajectory of adult life. What happens in our childhood stays with us.
As parents now, our being healthy, attentive, responsive and responsible parents is absolutely essential. Our actions and inactions color not only our children's childhood, but their adulthood as well.
We must meet their physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs, and balance between love and discipline, mercy and justice.
Of course, there are different combinations that are all important: father-son, mother-son, and mother-daughter. But for today, let's zero in on the father-daughter relationship.
The best role model for us, in parenting and in all things, sayyidna Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم , brought up four blessed daughters beautifully.
Fatima, رضي الله عنها , never had to seek out a replacement for her father's love. She and her sisters were regularly shown paternal affection and attention. As busy as their father was in his massive responsibility as خاتم النبيين (the Seal of Prophets), he still made time for his daughters.
We all know that her father, صلى الله عليه وسلم, would stand up to welcome her, and kiss her on the forehead to greet her whenever she came to him. He would take her hand and sit her down right next to him in a gathering.
عن عائشة -رضي الله عنها- قالت: "ما رأيت أحدًا كان أشبه كلامًا وحديثًا برسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- من فاطمة، وكانت إذا دخلت عليه؛ قام إليها، وقبَّلها، ورحَّب بها، وأخذ بيدها، وأجلسها في مجلسه، وكانت هي إذا دخل عليها؛ قامت إليه، فقبَّلته، وأخذت بيده..."
Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: "I have never seen anyone more similar to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم in speech and mannerisms than Fatima. When she would enter his house, he would stand up for her, and kiss her, and welcome her warmly, and take her hand. He would seat her where he had been sitting. And she, whenever he would come visit her, would stand up for him, and kiss him, and take his hand..."
What a beautiful bond between father and daughter.
The importance of the father-daughter relationship cannot be overstated. In order for a young girl to grow up to be an upright, pious woman, she must be raised well by a strong and attentive father figure.
A father who is weak and incompetent, or absent and unprotective, or cold and undemonstrative, or overly authoritarian, or overly permissive--in these types of cases, many daughters grow up with a very skewed attitude toward men. Often, such girls will desperately and subconsciously seek out some type of a substitute for her father's love: *any* man's love.
Any man at all.
This is, in a nutshell, what we refer to as "daddy issues."
I was reminded of this reality as I read this passage in the book I'm currently reading, Gabor Maté's When the Body Says No:
"Gilda's relationship with her mother appears to have been intensely negative, and apparently marked by competition for her father's attention. Gilda maintained that her father had been "the love of my life." His death of brain cancer when she was 12 was an irreparable loss.
All her adult life, Gilda, out of sheer desperation, promiscuously sought male love and acceptance. "To a great extent, my life has been controlled by the men I loved," she wrote. She attempted to make herself into whatever woman she thought the man in her life preferred..."
The book is about a different, larger topic and not really about daddy issues, but these particular paragraphs caught my attention.
As is true for all children, both daughters and sons, childhood events deeply affect the trajectory of adult life. What happens in our childhood stays with us.
As parents now, our being healthy, attentive, responsive and responsible parents is absolutely essential. Our actions and inactions color not only our children's childhood, but their adulthood as well.
We must meet their physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs, and balance between love and discipline, mercy and justice.
Of course, there are different combinations that are all important: father-son, mother-son, and mother-daughter. But for today, let's zero in on the father-daughter relationship.
The best role model for us, in parenting and in all things, sayyidna Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم , brought up four blessed daughters beautifully.
Fatima, رضي الله عنها , never had to seek out a replacement for her father's love. She and her sisters were regularly shown paternal affection and attention. As busy as their father was in his massive responsibility as خاتم النبيين (the Seal of Prophets), he still made time for his daughters.
We all know that her father, صلى الله عليه وسلم, would stand up to welcome her, and kiss her on the forehead to greet her whenever she came to him. He would take her hand and sit her down right next to him in a gathering.
عن عائشة -رضي الله عنها- قالت: "ما رأيت أحدًا كان أشبه كلامًا وحديثًا برسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- من فاطمة، وكانت إذا دخلت عليه؛ قام إليها، وقبَّلها، ورحَّب بها، وأخذ بيدها، وأجلسها في مجلسه، وكانت هي إذا دخل عليها؛ قامت إليه، فقبَّلته، وأخذت بيده..."
Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: "I have never seen anyone more similar to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم in speech and mannerisms than Fatima. When she would enter his house, he would stand up for her, and kiss her, and welcome her warmly, and take her hand. He would seat her where he had been sitting. And she, whenever he would come visit her, would stand up for him, and kiss him, and take his hand..."
What a beautiful bond between father and daughter.
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📑Twelve Steps In Cultivating Our Children and Establishing a Pious Home
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Society is messed up because parents didn't teach us wisdom & life lessons. They left that to the schools & television.
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Dear fathers,
Don't wait until your daughter is in her late teens and tells you you no longer have authority over her with asking yourself where it all went wrong.
Take your responsibility while she’s young
and give her an islamic upbringing.
A father who loves his daughter does not neglect her to a point she becomes self-destructive.
Don't wait until your daughter is in her late teens and tells you you no longer have authority over her with asking yourself where it all went wrong.
Take your responsibility while she’s young
and give her an islamic upbringing.
A father who loves his daughter does not neglect her to a point she becomes self-destructive.
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Every Mother Is A Da’ee, By Ibn ‘Uthaymeen
A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…
A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners and dealings and good in the way she brings up her children, then those children will take after her and contribute positively to the betterment of society.
Every mother, then, must dedicate herself to training her children, and if she cannot undertake their training on her own, then their father or another guardian – for example, a brother or uncle, if their father is dead – should help her to raise them.
A woman should not yield to difficult circumstances, feeling that she cannot change her situation or her family’s situation for the better.
[The Islaamic Awakening, by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, Pp. 223 & 229]
A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…
A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners and dealings and good in the way she brings up her children, then those children will take after her and contribute positively to the betterment of society.
Every mother, then, must dedicate herself to training her children, and if she cannot undertake their training on her own, then their father or another guardian – for example, a brother or uncle, if their father is dead – should help her to raise them.
A woman should not yield to difficult circumstances, feeling that she cannot change her situation or her family’s situation for the better.
[The Islaamic Awakening, by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, Pp. 223 & 229]
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❝ The greatest need for this Ummah is that the women raise a generation that will take it ahead. ❞
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Seeking ‘Ilm and Motherhood
Abdul Latif Chalabi narrates: I saw in al-Haidarkhaneh Mosque in Baghdad a copy of Abu Nasr al-Jawhari's dictionary (as-Sahih fil-Lughah) copied by a woman named Maryam bint Abdul Qader (rahimhaAllah).”
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir (rahmatullah ’alayha) was a copywriter.
Women would work alongside men to scribe religious books and the Quran. (please take note that this does not mean free mixing, it means doing the same work as men in terms of scribing religious knowledge)
She is said to be one of the Alimat (women scholars) of the 6th Century after Hijri.
She worked on the copywriting of an Arabic dictionary.
“At the end of the work a poignant phrase was written.”
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir (rahmatullah ’alayha) said:
“Please forgive me if you find a mistake in this book, because when I was writing with my right hand I was rocking my son to sleep with my left"
[Reported in 1928 AD by an Iraqi writer and author Abdullatif Chalabi (1945), also Narrated by Abdul Wahid al-Marrakeshi from Andalusia (d. 647 AH)]
Akhawāt
Abdul Latif Chalabi narrates: I saw in al-Haidarkhaneh Mosque in Baghdad a copy of Abu Nasr al-Jawhari's dictionary (as-Sahih fil-Lughah) copied by a woman named Maryam bint Abdul Qader (rahimhaAllah).”
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir (rahmatullah ’alayha) was a copywriter.
Women would work alongside men to scribe religious books and the Quran. (please take note that this does not mean free mixing, it means doing the same work as men in terms of scribing religious knowledge)
She is said to be one of the Alimat (women scholars) of the 6th Century after Hijri.
She worked on the copywriting of an Arabic dictionary.
“At the end of the work a poignant phrase was written.”
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir (rahmatullah ’alayha) said:
“Please forgive me if you find a mistake in this book, because when I was writing with my right hand I was rocking my son to sleep with my left"
[Reported in 1928 AD by an Iraqi writer and author Abdullatif Chalabi (1945), also Narrated by Abdul Wahid al-Marrakeshi from Andalusia (d. 647 AH)]
Akhawāt
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"Value your future children's tarbiyah over momentary loneliness."
Meaning
... be careful who you marry. Take into consideration when looking for a spouse the future of your children. Good soil produces good fruits. Do not rush into marriage because of loneliness but really look into the person's deen and character.
Meaning
... be careful who you marry. Take into consideration when looking for a spouse the future of your children. Good soil produces good fruits. Do not rush into marriage because of loneliness but really look into the person's deen and character.
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Squatting to urinate is fast becoming a forgotten Sunnah especially in urban areas where toilet facilities are all of the sitting position WC type..
Some Muslim male children are fast growing up and they have never urinated while squatting, ever.
Being raised from pampers, then baby toilets to WC, leaves no room for squatting, especially since no one builds pit toilets at home thesedays...
Even if we live in houses where everything is automated, we still have to inculcate in our boys the Sunnah of squatting to urinate, as it's even the asl (original rule), while standing to urinate is only an occasional alternative..
Else our kids would grow up thinking that squatting is an "aboki culture", and Allah knows best.
Some Muslim male children are fast growing up and they have never urinated while squatting, ever.
Being raised from pampers, then baby toilets to WC, leaves no room for squatting, especially since no one builds pit toilets at home thesedays...
Even if we live in houses where everything is automated, we still have to inculcate in our boys the Sunnah of squatting to urinate, as it's even the asl (original rule), while standing to urinate is only an occasional alternative..
Else our kids would grow up thinking that squatting is an "aboki culture", and Allah knows best.
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Do you guys sometimes just look or stare at your mother/father/guardians (nana/nani/dada/dadi) and all your worries wash away. Like what am I chasing, why am I worrying when I have my parent/s so close to me.
The true value of parents hits you in your mid or late 20s.
There is no love like a parent's love. Cherish them. Spend time with them. Send them a text. Lower your wings of mercy for them.
Sa'īd ibn al-Musayib رحمه الله:
“The one who is dutiful and kind to his parents shall not die an evil death.”
[تاريخ ابن معين ٢/٢٢٨]
If you don't have parents may be a great spouse or child!
🤲May Allah bless our parents and grant them long, healthy lives on eeman - ameen!
The true value of parents hits you in your mid or late 20s.
There is no love like a parent's love. Cherish them. Spend time with them. Send them a text. Lower your wings of mercy for them.
Sa'īd ibn al-Musayib رحمه الله:
“The one who is dutiful and kind to his parents shall not die an evil death.”
[تاريخ ابن معين ٢/٢٢٨]
If you don't have parents may be a great spouse or child!
🤲May Allah bless our parents and grant them long, healthy lives on eeman - ameen!
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Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
There’s a massive reason why Allah has made the status of mothers to be the so high, knowing all the hardships they go through.
Oh Allah bless our #mothers with the best in this world and the akhira, ameen.
📖❝And We have commanded people to (honour) their parents. Their mothers bore them through hardship upon hardship, and their weaning takes two years.
So be grateful to Me and your parents. To Me is the final return.❞
[Quran 31:14]
Oh Allah bless our #mothers with the best in this world and the akhira, ameen.
📖❝And We have commanded people to (honour) their parents. Their mothers bore them through hardship upon hardship, and their weaning takes two years.
So be grateful to Me and your parents. To Me is the final return.❞
[Quran 31:14]
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Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
There should be a pre-marital islamic counselling school where would-be couples attend for 6 months or so to understand the rights of spouses intensively, it’s like a lot of us are ready for marriage financially and age wise but no sense or any knowledge of what marriage really entails. The moment we satisfy our lust, we start misbehaving. Too bad!
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