𝗕𝗘 𝗖𝗔𝗥𝗘𝗙𝗨𝗟 𝗪𝗜𝗧𝗛 𝗣𝗔𝗥𝗘𝗡𝗧𝗦
Sh Muqbil ibn hadi al wadi رحمه الله :
It is possible that a supplication from the parents may DESTROY a man and RUIN his Dunyā and also his Ākhirah due to a Duʿā made against him by his mother or his father.
[الرحلة الأخيرة صفحة ٢٤٠]
Sh Muqbil ibn hadi al wadi رحمه الله :
It is possible that a supplication from the parents may DESTROY a man and RUIN his Dunyā and also his Ākhirah due to a Duʿā made against him by his mother or his father.
[الرحلة الأخيرة صفحة ٢٤٠]
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Fathers of girls, be loving and affectionate with your daughters.
The importance of the father-daughter relationship cannot be overstated. In order for a young girl to grow up to be an upright, pious woman, she must be raised well by a strong and attentive father figure.
A father who is weak and incompetent, or absent and unprotective, or cold and undemonstrative, or overly authoritarian, or overly permissive--in these types of cases, many daughters grow up with a very skewed attitude toward men. Often, such girls will desperately and subconsciously seek out some type of a substitute for her father's love: *any* man's love.
Any man at all.
This is, in a nutshell, what we refer to as "daddy issues."
I was reminded of this reality as I read this passage in the book I'm currently reading, Gabor Maté's When the Body Says No:
"Gilda's relationship with her mother appears to have been intensely negative, and apparently marked by competition for her father's attention. Gilda maintained that her father had been "the love of my life." His death of brain cancer when she was 12 was an irreparable loss.
All her adult life, Gilda, out of sheer desperation, promiscuously sought male love and acceptance. "To a great extent, my life has been controlled by the men I loved," she wrote. She attempted to make herself into whatever woman she thought the man in her life preferred..."
The book is about a different, larger topic and not really about daddy issues, but these particular paragraphs caught my attention.
As is true for all children, both daughters and sons, childhood events deeply affect the trajectory of adult life. What happens in our childhood stays with us.
As parents now, our being healthy, attentive, responsive and responsible parents is absolutely essential. Our actions and inactions color not only our children's childhood, but their adulthood as well.
We must meet their physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs, and balance between love and discipline, mercy and justice.
Of course, there are different combinations that are all important: father-son, mother-son, and mother-daughter. But for today, let's zero in on the father-daughter relationship.
The best role model for us, in parenting and in all things, sayyidna Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم , brought up four blessed daughters beautifully.
Fatima, رضي الله عنها , never had to seek out a replacement for her father's love. She and her sisters were regularly shown paternal affection and attention. As busy as their father was in his massive responsibility as خاتم النبيين (the Seal of Prophets), he still made time for his daughters.
We all know that her father, صلى الله عليه وسلم, would stand up to welcome her, and kiss her on the forehead to greet her whenever she came to him. He would take her hand and sit her down right next to him in a gathering.
عن عائشة -رضي الله عنها- قالت: "ما رأيت أحدًا كان أشبه كلامًا وحديثًا برسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- من فاطمة، وكانت إذا دخلت عليه؛ قام إليها، وقبَّلها، ورحَّب بها، وأخذ بيدها، وأجلسها في مجلسه، وكانت هي إذا دخل عليها؛ قامت إليه، فقبَّلته، وأخذت بيده..."
Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: "I have never seen anyone more similar to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم in speech and mannerisms than Fatima. When she would enter his house, he would stand up for her, and kiss her, and welcome her warmly, and take her hand. He would seat her where he had been sitting. And she, whenever he would come visit her, would stand up for him, and kiss him, and take his hand..."
What a beautiful bond between father and daughter.
The importance of the father-daughter relationship cannot be overstated. In order for a young girl to grow up to be an upright, pious woman, she must be raised well by a strong and attentive father figure.
A father who is weak and incompetent, or absent and unprotective, or cold and undemonstrative, or overly authoritarian, or overly permissive--in these types of cases, many daughters grow up with a very skewed attitude toward men. Often, such girls will desperately and subconsciously seek out some type of a substitute for her father's love: *any* man's love.
Any man at all.
This is, in a nutshell, what we refer to as "daddy issues."
I was reminded of this reality as I read this passage in the book I'm currently reading, Gabor Maté's When the Body Says No:
"Gilda's relationship with her mother appears to have been intensely negative, and apparently marked by competition for her father's attention. Gilda maintained that her father had been "the love of my life." His death of brain cancer when she was 12 was an irreparable loss.
All her adult life, Gilda, out of sheer desperation, promiscuously sought male love and acceptance. "To a great extent, my life has been controlled by the men I loved," she wrote. She attempted to make herself into whatever woman she thought the man in her life preferred..."
The book is about a different, larger topic and not really about daddy issues, but these particular paragraphs caught my attention.
As is true for all children, both daughters and sons, childhood events deeply affect the trajectory of adult life. What happens in our childhood stays with us.
As parents now, our being healthy, attentive, responsive and responsible parents is absolutely essential. Our actions and inactions color not only our children's childhood, but their adulthood as well.
We must meet their physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual needs, and balance between love and discipline, mercy and justice.
Of course, there are different combinations that are all important: father-son, mother-son, and mother-daughter. But for today, let's zero in on the father-daughter relationship.
The best role model for us, in parenting and in all things, sayyidna Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم , brought up four blessed daughters beautifully.
Fatima, رضي الله عنها , never had to seek out a replacement for her father's love. She and her sisters were regularly shown paternal affection and attention. As busy as their father was in his massive responsibility as خاتم النبيين (the Seal of Prophets), he still made time for his daughters.
We all know that her father, صلى الله عليه وسلم, would stand up to welcome her, and kiss her on the forehead to greet her whenever she came to him. He would take her hand and sit her down right next to him in a gathering.
عن عائشة -رضي الله عنها- قالت: "ما رأيت أحدًا كان أشبه كلامًا وحديثًا برسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- من فاطمة، وكانت إذا دخلت عليه؛ قام إليها، وقبَّلها، ورحَّب بها، وأخذ بيدها، وأجلسها في مجلسه، وكانت هي إذا دخل عليها؛ قامت إليه، فقبَّلته، وأخذت بيده..."
Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, narrated: "I have never seen anyone more similar to the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم in speech and mannerisms than Fatima. When she would enter his house, he would stand up for her, and kiss her, and welcome her warmly, and take her hand. He would seat her where he had been sitting. And she, whenever he would come visit her, would stand up for him, and kiss him, and take his hand..."
What a beautiful bond between father and daughter.
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📑Twelve Steps In Cultivating Our Children and Establishing a Pious Home
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Society is messed up because parents didn't teach us wisdom & life lessons. They left that to the schools & television.
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Dear fathers,
Don't wait until your daughter is in her late teens and tells you you no longer have authority over her with asking yourself where it all went wrong.
Take your responsibility while she’s young
and give her an islamic upbringing.
A father who loves his daughter does not neglect her to a point she becomes self-destructive.
Don't wait until your daughter is in her late teens and tells you you no longer have authority over her with asking yourself where it all went wrong.
Take your responsibility while she’s young
and give her an islamic upbringing.
A father who loves his daughter does not neglect her to a point she becomes self-destructive.
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Every Mother Is A Da’ee, By Ibn ‘Uthaymeen
A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…
A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners and dealings and good in the way she brings up her children, then those children will take after her and contribute positively to the betterment of society.
Every mother, then, must dedicate herself to training her children, and if she cannot undertake their training on her own, then their father or another guardian – for example, a brother or uncle, if their father is dead – should help her to raise them.
A woman should not yield to difficult circumstances, feeling that she cannot change her situation or her family’s situation for the better.
[The Islaamic Awakening, by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, Pp. 223 & 229]
A woman first and foremost needs to be righteous herself, so that she can be a good example for her daughters…
A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future. In the earliest stages of their development, it is the mothers that human beings learn from. If she is a good mother, good in her manners and dealings and good in the way she brings up her children, then those children will take after her and contribute positively to the betterment of society.
Every mother, then, must dedicate herself to training her children, and if she cannot undertake their training on her own, then their father or another guardian – for example, a brother or uncle, if their father is dead – should help her to raise them.
A woman should not yield to difficult circumstances, feeling that she cannot change her situation or her family’s situation for the better.
[The Islaamic Awakening, by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, Pp. 223 & 229]
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❝ The greatest need for this Ummah is that the women raise a generation that will take it ahead. ❞
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Seeking ‘Ilm and Motherhood
Abdul Latif Chalabi narrates: I saw in al-Haidarkhaneh Mosque in Baghdad a copy of Abu Nasr al-Jawhari's dictionary (as-Sahih fil-Lughah) copied by a woman named Maryam bint Abdul Qader (rahimhaAllah).”
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir (rahmatullah ’alayha) was a copywriter.
Women would work alongside men to scribe religious books and the Quran. (please take note that this does not mean free mixing, it means doing the same work as men in terms of scribing religious knowledge)
She is said to be one of the Alimat (women scholars) of the 6th Century after Hijri.
She worked on the copywriting of an Arabic dictionary.
“At the end of the work a poignant phrase was written.”
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir (rahmatullah ’alayha) said:
“Please forgive me if you find a mistake in this book, because when I was writing with my right hand I was rocking my son to sleep with my left"
[Reported in 1928 AD by an Iraqi writer and author Abdullatif Chalabi (1945), also Narrated by Abdul Wahid al-Marrakeshi from Andalusia (d. 647 AH)]
Akhawāt
Abdul Latif Chalabi narrates: I saw in al-Haidarkhaneh Mosque in Baghdad a copy of Abu Nasr al-Jawhari's dictionary (as-Sahih fil-Lughah) copied by a woman named Maryam bint Abdul Qader (rahimhaAllah).”
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir (rahmatullah ’alayha) was a copywriter.
Women would work alongside men to scribe religious books and the Quran. (please take note that this does not mean free mixing, it means doing the same work as men in terms of scribing religious knowledge)
She is said to be one of the Alimat (women scholars) of the 6th Century after Hijri.
She worked on the copywriting of an Arabic dictionary.
“At the end of the work a poignant phrase was written.”
Maryam bint ‘Abdul Qadir (rahmatullah ’alayha) said:
“Please forgive me if you find a mistake in this book, because when I was writing with my right hand I was rocking my son to sleep with my left"
[Reported in 1928 AD by an Iraqi writer and author Abdullatif Chalabi (1945), also Narrated by Abdul Wahid al-Marrakeshi from Andalusia (d. 647 AH)]
Akhawāt
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"Value your future children's tarbiyah over momentary loneliness."
Meaning
... be careful who you marry. Take into consideration when looking for a spouse the future of your children. Good soil produces good fruits. Do not rush into marriage because of loneliness but really look into the person's deen and character.
Meaning
... be careful who you marry. Take into consideration when looking for a spouse the future of your children. Good soil produces good fruits. Do not rush into marriage because of loneliness but really look into the person's deen and character.
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Squatting to urinate is fast becoming a forgotten Sunnah especially in urban areas where toilet facilities are all of the sitting position WC type..
Some Muslim male children are fast growing up and they have never urinated while squatting, ever.
Being raised from pampers, then baby toilets to WC, leaves no room for squatting, especially since no one builds pit toilets at home thesedays...
Even if we live in houses where everything is automated, we still have to inculcate in our boys the Sunnah of squatting to urinate, as it's even the asl (original rule), while standing to urinate is only an occasional alternative..
Else our kids would grow up thinking that squatting is an "aboki culture", and Allah knows best.
Some Muslim male children are fast growing up and they have never urinated while squatting, ever.
Being raised from pampers, then baby toilets to WC, leaves no room for squatting, especially since no one builds pit toilets at home thesedays...
Even if we live in houses where everything is automated, we still have to inculcate in our boys the Sunnah of squatting to urinate, as it's even the asl (original rule), while standing to urinate is only an occasional alternative..
Else our kids would grow up thinking that squatting is an "aboki culture", and Allah knows best.
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Do you guys sometimes just look or stare at your mother/father/guardians (nana/nani/dada/dadi) and all your worries wash away. Like what am I chasing, why am I worrying when I have my parent/s so close to me.
The true value of parents hits you in your mid or late 20s.
There is no love like a parent's love. Cherish them. Spend time with them. Send them a text. Lower your wings of mercy for them.
Sa'īd ibn al-Musayib رحمه الله:
“The one who is dutiful and kind to his parents shall not die an evil death.”
[تاريخ ابن معين ٢/٢٢٨]
If you don't have parents may be a great spouse or child!
🤲May Allah bless our parents and grant them long, healthy lives on eeman - ameen!
The true value of parents hits you in your mid or late 20s.
There is no love like a parent's love. Cherish them. Spend time with them. Send them a text. Lower your wings of mercy for them.
Sa'īd ibn al-Musayib رحمه الله:
“The one who is dutiful and kind to his parents shall not die an evil death.”
[تاريخ ابن معين ٢/٢٢٨]
If you don't have parents may be a great spouse or child!
🤲May Allah bless our parents and grant them long, healthy lives on eeman - ameen!
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Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
There’s a massive reason why Allah has made the status of mothers to be the so high, knowing all the hardships they go through.
Oh Allah bless our #mothers with the best in this world and the akhira, ameen.
📖❝And We have commanded people to (honour) their parents. Their mothers bore them through hardship upon hardship, and their weaning takes two years.
So be grateful to Me and your parents. To Me is the final return.❞
[Quran 31:14]
Oh Allah bless our #mothers with the best in this world and the akhira, ameen.
📖❝And We have commanded people to (honour) their parents. Their mothers bore them through hardship upon hardship, and their weaning takes two years.
So be grateful to Me and your parents. To Me is the final return.❞
[Quran 31:14]
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Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
There should be a pre-marital islamic counselling school where would-be couples attend for 6 months or so to understand the rights of spouses intensively, it’s like a lot of us are ready for marriage financially and age wise but no sense or any knowledge of what marriage really entails. The moment we satisfy our lust, we start misbehaving. Too bad!
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Allaah mentioned two stages of man where he is physically weak: 1) when he is a child, 2) when grows old.
اللَّـهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن ضَعْفٍ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ ضَعْفٍ قُوَّةً ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ قُوَّةٍ ضَعْفًا وَشَيْبَةً ۚيَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ ۖ وَهُوَ الْعَلِيمُ الْقَدِيرُ
{Allah is He Who created you in (a state of) weakness, then gave you strength after weakness, then after strength gave (you) weakness and grey hair. He creates what He wills. And it is He Who is the All-Knowing, the All-Powerful (i.e. Able to do all things)}
📚[Surah al-Room (30): 54]
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➡️ As much as we are responsible for the welfare and well-being of our children, similarly we are responsible for our parents' well-being when they grow old.
➡️ Our parents took care of us when we were helpless, and when they are old, it is our duty to take care of them.
➡️ And this has been beautifully described in the Hadeeth of the three who got stuck in the cave and they said to each other: 'Invoke Allaah with the best deed you have performed (so Allaah might remove the rock)'. One of them said: "O Allaah! You know that I had old parents whom I used to provide with the milk from my sheep every night. One night I was delayed and when I came, they had slept, while my wife and children were crying with hunger. I used not to let them (i.e. my family) drink unless my parents had drunk first. So I disliked to wake them up and also disliked that they should sleep without drinking it, I kept on waiting (for them to wake) till it dawned. O Allaah ! If You consider that I did that for fear of you, then please remove the rock." So the rock moved a bit and they could see the sky through it... and the other two supplicated, mentioning their good deeds and the rock moved and they got out.
📚 [Saheehain]
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➡️ We do not (or did not) send our children to nursing homes when they are (or were) young, then how can we do that with our parents when they grow old?
➡️ We do not abandon our children, then why should (or how could) we abandon our parents?
➡️ At times, we do need external help and extra assistance, no one is denying that. But Shaikh Saaleh al-Fawzaan is clear about those who would abandon their parents in nursing homes and would rarely pay them a visit; as if the employees in the nursing homes are their children and not you. This is where the problem is.
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{And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "MY LORD ! BESTOW ON THEM YOUR MERCY AS THEY DID BRING ME UP WHEN I WAS SMALL."
📚 [Surah al-Israa (17): 23-24]
اللَّـهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن ضَعْفٍ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ ضَعْفٍ قُوَّةً ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ قُوَّةٍ ضَعْفًا وَشَيْبَةً ۚيَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ ۖ وَهُوَ الْعَلِيمُ الْقَدِيرُ
{Allah is He Who created you in (a state of) weakness, then gave you strength after weakness, then after strength gave (you) weakness and grey hair. He creates what He wills. And it is He Who is the All-Knowing, the All-Powerful (i.e. Able to do all things)}
📚[Surah al-Room (30): 54]
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➡️ As much as we are responsible for the welfare and well-being of our children, similarly we are responsible for our parents' well-being when they grow old.
➡️ Our parents took care of us when we were helpless, and when they are old, it is our duty to take care of them.
➡️ And this has been beautifully described in the Hadeeth of the three who got stuck in the cave and they said to each other: 'Invoke Allaah with the best deed you have performed (so Allaah might remove the rock)'. One of them said: "O Allaah! You know that I had old parents whom I used to provide with the milk from my sheep every night. One night I was delayed and when I came, they had slept, while my wife and children were crying with hunger. I used not to let them (i.e. my family) drink unless my parents had drunk first. So I disliked to wake them up and also disliked that they should sleep without drinking it, I kept on waiting (for them to wake) till it dawned. O Allaah ! If You consider that I did that for fear of you, then please remove the rock." So the rock moved a bit and they could see the sky through it... and the other two supplicated, mentioning their good deeds and the rock moved and they got out.
📚 [Saheehain]
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➡️ We do not (or did not) send our children to nursing homes when they are (or were) young, then how can we do that with our parents when they grow old?
➡️ We do not abandon our children, then why should (or how could) we abandon our parents?
➡️ At times, we do need external help and extra assistance, no one is denying that. But Shaikh Saaleh al-Fawzaan is clear about those who would abandon their parents in nursing homes and would rarely pay them a visit; as if the employees in the nursing homes are their children and not you. This is where the problem is.
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{And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "MY LORD ! BESTOW ON THEM YOUR MERCY AS THEY DID BRING ME UP WHEN I WAS SMALL."
📚 [Surah al-Israa (17): 23-24]
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#11. Be patient with your children:
It is not proper for parents to supplicate against their children for being disobedient or not listening to them. The prohibition of this has been mentioned in some of the Ahaadeeth. The parents should beware lest due to their supplications against their own children, the children are placed in difficulty, then its consequences will fall upon the parents. Even if children are disobedient to their parents, and irrespective of how hopeless a situation may seem, there is always hope for them to change. So, the parents should not quickly resort to supplicating against them.
The Prophet ﷺ forbade from supplicating against one’s children, one’s wealth, and one’s own self, lest that be made at a time when the supplications are answered. He ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth - lest that coincides with a time when Allaah is asked and He provides - so He answers your prayer.❞
The parents’ supplication for or against their children is answered as the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Three supplications are answered, there being no doubt about them: the prayer of one who is wronged, the prayer of the traveler, and the supplication of a father for his child.❞
In another narration, the wording is: ❝and the supplication of a father against his son.❞
Broken hearted parents only supplicate against their children when driven completely to the wall, and naturally, a supplication arising from the bottom of one’s heart stands the best chance of being answered by Allaah. But instead, the parents should be patient, and supplicate for their children instead of against them. They should supplicate to Allaah for their guidance and to set their affairs straight.
It is Allaah’s Mercy, Forbearance, and Kindness that He تعالى does not answer the erroneous supplications made by the people in haste or when angry, especially the supplications of the angry parents against their children, as Allaah تعالى said:
﴿وَيَدْعُ الْإِنسَانُ بِالشَّرِّ دُعَاءَهُ بِالْخَيْرِ ۖ وَكَانَ الْإِنسَانُ عَجُولًا﴾
{And man invokes (Allaah) for evil as he invokes (Allaah) for good and man is ever hasty (i.e., if he is angry with somebody, he invokes (saying): “O Allaah! Curse him etc.” and that one should not do, but one should be patient)}
Allaah تعالى also said:
﴿وَلَوْ يُعَجِّلُ اللَّهُ لِلنَّاسِ الشَّرَّ اسْتِعْجَالَهُم بِالْخَيْرِ لَقُضِيَ إِلَيْهِمْ أَجَلُهُمْ ۖ فَنَذَرُ الَّذِينَ لَا يَرْجُونَ لِقَاءَنَا فِي طُغْيَانِهِمْ يَعْمَهُونَ﴾
{And were Allaah to hasten for mankind the evil (they invoke for themselves and for their children, etc. while in a state of anger) as He hastens for them the good (they invoke) then they would have been ruined. So, We leave those who expect not their meeting with Us, in their trespasses, wandering blindly in distraction}
Al-Haafidh Ibn Katheer رحمه الله said: “Here Allaah tells us of His Forbearance and Kindness towards His slaves, for He تعالى does not respond to their supplications them when they pray against themselves or their wealth, or their children during times of grief or anger. He تعالى knows that they do not truly intend evil for themselves so He تعالى doesn’t respond to them out of kindness and mercy, as He does when they pray for themselves or their wealth or their children for goodness, blessing, and growth. Had He تعالى responded to all of their evil requests, He تعالى would have destroyed them. However, people should avoid praying for evil as much as they can.”
And the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth - lest that (your supplication) coincides with a time when Allaah is asked and He provides - and He grants your request.❞
📚[from the forth coming book, In shaa Allaah, “A Lesson In Patience, From The Beautiful Name Of Allaah: ❝Al-Haleem❞”]
It is not proper for parents to supplicate against their children for being disobedient or not listening to them. The prohibition of this has been mentioned in some of the Ahaadeeth. The parents should beware lest due to their supplications against their own children, the children are placed in difficulty, then its consequences will fall upon the parents. Even if children are disobedient to their parents, and irrespective of how hopeless a situation may seem, there is always hope for them to change. So, the parents should not quickly resort to supplicating against them.
The Prophet ﷺ forbade from supplicating against one’s children, one’s wealth, and one’s own self, lest that be made at a time when the supplications are answered. He ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth - lest that coincides with a time when Allaah is asked and He provides - so He answers your prayer.❞
The parents’ supplication for or against their children is answered as the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Three supplications are answered, there being no doubt about them: the prayer of one who is wronged, the prayer of the traveler, and the supplication of a father for his child.❞
In another narration, the wording is: ❝and the supplication of a father against his son.❞
Broken hearted parents only supplicate against their children when driven completely to the wall, and naturally, a supplication arising from the bottom of one’s heart stands the best chance of being answered by Allaah. But instead, the parents should be patient, and supplicate for their children instead of against them. They should supplicate to Allaah for their guidance and to set their affairs straight.
It is Allaah’s Mercy, Forbearance, and Kindness that He تعالى does not answer the erroneous supplications made by the people in haste or when angry, especially the supplications of the angry parents against their children, as Allaah تعالى said:
﴿وَيَدْعُ الْإِنسَانُ بِالشَّرِّ دُعَاءَهُ بِالْخَيْرِ ۖ وَكَانَ الْإِنسَانُ عَجُولًا﴾
{And man invokes (Allaah) for evil as he invokes (Allaah) for good and man is ever hasty (i.e., if he is angry with somebody, he invokes (saying): “O Allaah! Curse him etc.” and that one should not do, but one should be patient)}
Allaah تعالى also said:
﴿وَلَوْ يُعَجِّلُ اللَّهُ لِلنَّاسِ الشَّرَّ اسْتِعْجَالَهُم بِالْخَيْرِ لَقُضِيَ إِلَيْهِمْ أَجَلُهُمْ ۖ فَنَذَرُ الَّذِينَ لَا يَرْجُونَ لِقَاءَنَا فِي طُغْيَانِهِمْ يَعْمَهُونَ﴾
{And were Allaah to hasten for mankind the evil (they invoke for themselves and for their children, etc. while in a state of anger) as He hastens for them the good (they invoke) then they would have been ruined. So, We leave those who expect not their meeting with Us, in their trespasses, wandering blindly in distraction}
Al-Haafidh Ibn Katheer رحمه الله said: “Here Allaah tells us of His Forbearance and Kindness towards His slaves, for He تعالى does not respond to their supplications them when they pray against themselves or their wealth, or their children during times of grief or anger. He تعالى knows that they do not truly intend evil for themselves so He تعالى doesn’t respond to them out of kindness and mercy, as He does when they pray for themselves or their wealth or their children for goodness, blessing, and growth. Had He تعالى responded to all of their evil requests, He تعالى would have destroyed them. However, people should avoid praying for evil as much as they can.”
And the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth - lest that (your supplication) coincides with a time when Allaah is asked and He provides - and He grants your request.❞
📚[from the forth coming book, In shaa Allaah, “A Lesson In Patience, From The Beautiful Name Of Allaah: ❝Al-Haleem❞”]
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