Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
There should be a pre-marital islamic counselling school where would-be couples attend for 6 months or so to understand the rights of spouses intensively, it’s like a lot of us are ready for marriage financially and age wise but no sense or any knowledge of what marriage really entails. The moment we satisfy our lust, we start misbehaving. Too bad!
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Allaah mentioned two stages of man where he is physically weak: 1) when he is a child, 2) when grows old.
اللَّـهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن ضَعْفٍ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ ضَعْفٍ قُوَّةً ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ قُوَّةٍ ضَعْفًا وَشَيْبَةً ۚيَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ ۖ وَهُوَ الْعَلِيمُ الْقَدِيرُ
{Allah is He Who created you in (a state of) weakness, then gave you strength after weakness, then after strength gave (you) weakness and grey hair. He creates what He wills. And it is He Who is the All-Knowing, the All-Powerful (i.e. Able to do all things)}
📚[Surah al-Room (30): 54]
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➡️ As much as we are responsible for the welfare and well-being of our children, similarly we are responsible for our parents' well-being when they grow old.
➡️ Our parents took care of us when we were helpless, and when they are old, it is our duty to take care of them.
➡️ And this has been beautifully described in the Hadeeth of the three who got stuck in the cave and they said to each other: 'Invoke Allaah with the best deed you have performed (so Allaah might remove the rock)'. One of them said: "O Allaah! You know that I had old parents whom I used to provide with the milk from my sheep every night. One night I was delayed and when I came, they had slept, while my wife and children were crying with hunger. I used not to let them (i.e. my family) drink unless my parents had drunk first. So I disliked to wake them up and also disliked that they should sleep without drinking it, I kept on waiting (for them to wake) till it dawned. O Allaah ! If You consider that I did that for fear of you, then please remove the rock." So the rock moved a bit and they could see the sky through it... and the other two supplicated, mentioning their good deeds and the rock moved and they got out.
📚 [Saheehain]
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➡️ We do not (or did not) send our children to nursing homes when they are (or were) young, then how can we do that with our parents when they grow old?
➡️ We do not abandon our children, then why should (or how could) we abandon our parents?
➡️ At times, we do need external help and extra assistance, no one is denying that. But Shaikh Saaleh al-Fawzaan is clear about those who would abandon their parents in nursing homes and would rarely pay them a visit; as if the employees in the nursing homes are their children and not you. This is where the problem is.
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{And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "MY LORD ! BESTOW ON THEM YOUR MERCY AS THEY DID BRING ME UP WHEN I WAS SMALL."
📚 [Surah al-Israa (17): 23-24]
اللَّـهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُم مِّن ضَعْفٍ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ ضَعْفٍ قُوَّةً ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِن بَعْدِ قُوَّةٍ ضَعْفًا وَشَيْبَةً ۚيَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ ۖ وَهُوَ الْعَلِيمُ الْقَدِيرُ
{Allah is He Who created you in (a state of) weakness, then gave you strength after weakness, then after strength gave (you) weakness and grey hair. He creates what He wills. And it is He Who is the All-Knowing, the All-Powerful (i.e. Able to do all things)}
📚[Surah al-Room (30): 54]
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➡️ As much as we are responsible for the welfare and well-being of our children, similarly we are responsible for our parents' well-being when they grow old.
➡️ Our parents took care of us when we were helpless, and when they are old, it is our duty to take care of them.
➡️ And this has been beautifully described in the Hadeeth of the three who got stuck in the cave and they said to each other: 'Invoke Allaah with the best deed you have performed (so Allaah might remove the rock)'. One of them said: "O Allaah! You know that I had old parents whom I used to provide with the milk from my sheep every night. One night I was delayed and when I came, they had slept, while my wife and children were crying with hunger. I used not to let them (i.e. my family) drink unless my parents had drunk first. So I disliked to wake them up and also disliked that they should sleep without drinking it, I kept on waiting (for them to wake) till it dawned. O Allaah ! If You consider that I did that for fear of you, then please remove the rock." So the rock moved a bit and they could see the sky through it... and the other two supplicated, mentioning their good deeds and the rock moved and they got out.
📚 [Saheehain]
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➡️ We do not (or did not) send our children to nursing homes when they are (or were) young, then how can we do that with our parents when they grow old?
➡️ We do not abandon our children, then why should (or how could) we abandon our parents?
➡️ At times, we do need external help and extra assistance, no one is denying that. But Shaikh Saaleh al-Fawzaan is clear about those who would abandon their parents in nursing homes and would rarely pay them a visit; as if the employees in the nursing homes are their children and not you. This is where the problem is.
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{And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "MY LORD ! BESTOW ON THEM YOUR MERCY AS THEY DID BRING ME UP WHEN I WAS SMALL."
📚 [Surah al-Israa (17): 23-24]
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#11. Be patient with your children:
It is not proper for parents to supplicate against their children for being disobedient or not listening to them. The prohibition of this has been mentioned in some of the Ahaadeeth. The parents should beware lest due to their supplications against their own children, the children are placed in difficulty, then its consequences will fall upon the parents. Even if children are disobedient to their parents, and irrespective of how hopeless a situation may seem, there is always hope for them to change. So, the parents should not quickly resort to supplicating against them.
The Prophet ﷺ forbade from supplicating against one’s children, one’s wealth, and one’s own self, lest that be made at a time when the supplications are answered. He ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth - lest that coincides with a time when Allaah is asked and He provides - so He answers your prayer.❞
The parents’ supplication for or against their children is answered as the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Three supplications are answered, there being no doubt about them: the prayer of one who is wronged, the prayer of the traveler, and the supplication of a father for his child.❞
In another narration, the wording is: ❝and the supplication of a father against his son.❞
Broken hearted parents only supplicate against their children when driven completely to the wall, and naturally, a supplication arising from the bottom of one’s heart stands the best chance of being answered by Allaah. But instead, the parents should be patient, and supplicate for their children instead of against them. They should supplicate to Allaah for their guidance and to set their affairs straight.
It is Allaah’s Mercy, Forbearance, and Kindness that He تعالى does not answer the erroneous supplications made by the people in haste or when angry, especially the supplications of the angry parents against their children, as Allaah تعالى said:
﴿وَيَدْعُ الْإِنسَانُ بِالشَّرِّ دُعَاءَهُ بِالْخَيْرِ ۖ وَكَانَ الْإِنسَانُ عَجُولًا﴾
{And man invokes (Allaah) for evil as he invokes (Allaah) for good and man is ever hasty (i.e., if he is angry with somebody, he invokes (saying): “O Allaah! Curse him etc.” and that one should not do, but one should be patient)}
Allaah تعالى also said:
﴿وَلَوْ يُعَجِّلُ اللَّهُ لِلنَّاسِ الشَّرَّ اسْتِعْجَالَهُم بِالْخَيْرِ لَقُضِيَ إِلَيْهِمْ أَجَلُهُمْ ۖ فَنَذَرُ الَّذِينَ لَا يَرْجُونَ لِقَاءَنَا فِي طُغْيَانِهِمْ يَعْمَهُونَ﴾
{And were Allaah to hasten for mankind the evil (they invoke for themselves and for their children, etc. while in a state of anger) as He hastens for them the good (they invoke) then they would have been ruined. So, We leave those who expect not their meeting with Us, in their trespasses, wandering blindly in distraction}
Al-Haafidh Ibn Katheer رحمه الله said: “Here Allaah tells us of His Forbearance and Kindness towards His slaves, for He تعالى does not respond to their supplications them when they pray against themselves or their wealth, or their children during times of grief or anger. He تعالى knows that they do not truly intend evil for themselves so He تعالى doesn’t respond to them out of kindness and mercy, as He does when they pray for themselves or their wealth or their children for goodness, blessing, and growth. Had He تعالى responded to all of their evil requests, He تعالى would have destroyed them. However, people should avoid praying for evil as much as they can.”
And the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth - lest that (your supplication) coincides with a time when Allaah is asked and He provides - and He grants your request.❞
📚[from the forth coming book, In shaa Allaah, “A Lesson In Patience, From The Beautiful Name Of Allaah: ❝Al-Haleem❞”]
It is not proper for parents to supplicate against their children for being disobedient or not listening to them. The prohibition of this has been mentioned in some of the Ahaadeeth. The parents should beware lest due to their supplications against their own children, the children are placed in difficulty, then its consequences will fall upon the parents. Even if children are disobedient to their parents, and irrespective of how hopeless a situation may seem, there is always hope for them to change. So, the parents should not quickly resort to supplicating against them.
The Prophet ﷺ forbade from supplicating against one’s children, one’s wealth, and one’s own self, lest that be made at a time when the supplications are answered. He ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth - lest that coincides with a time when Allaah is asked and He provides - so He answers your prayer.❞
The parents’ supplication for or against their children is answered as the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Three supplications are answered, there being no doubt about them: the prayer of one who is wronged, the prayer of the traveler, and the supplication of a father for his child.❞
In another narration, the wording is: ❝and the supplication of a father against his son.❞
Broken hearted parents only supplicate against their children when driven completely to the wall, and naturally, a supplication arising from the bottom of one’s heart stands the best chance of being answered by Allaah. But instead, the parents should be patient, and supplicate for their children instead of against them. They should supplicate to Allaah for their guidance and to set their affairs straight.
It is Allaah’s Mercy, Forbearance, and Kindness that He تعالى does not answer the erroneous supplications made by the people in haste or when angry, especially the supplications of the angry parents against their children, as Allaah تعالى said:
﴿وَيَدْعُ الْإِنسَانُ بِالشَّرِّ دُعَاءَهُ بِالْخَيْرِ ۖ وَكَانَ الْإِنسَانُ عَجُولًا﴾
{And man invokes (Allaah) for evil as he invokes (Allaah) for good and man is ever hasty (i.e., if he is angry with somebody, he invokes (saying): “O Allaah! Curse him etc.” and that one should not do, but one should be patient)}
Allaah تعالى also said:
﴿وَلَوْ يُعَجِّلُ اللَّهُ لِلنَّاسِ الشَّرَّ اسْتِعْجَالَهُم بِالْخَيْرِ لَقُضِيَ إِلَيْهِمْ أَجَلُهُمْ ۖ فَنَذَرُ الَّذِينَ لَا يَرْجُونَ لِقَاءَنَا فِي طُغْيَانِهِمْ يَعْمَهُونَ﴾
{And were Allaah to hasten for mankind the evil (they invoke for themselves and for their children, etc. while in a state of anger) as He hastens for them the good (they invoke) then they would have been ruined. So, We leave those who expect not their meeting with Us, in their trespasses, wandering blindly in distraction}
Al-Haafidh Ibn Katheer رحمه الله said: “Here Allaah tells us of His Forbearance and Kindness towards His slaves, for He تعالى does not respond to their supplications them when they pray against themselves or their wealth, or their children during times of grief or anger. He تعالى knows that they do not truly intend evil for themselves so He تعالى doesn’t respond to them out of kindness and mercy, as He does when they pray for themselves or their wealth or their children for goodness, blessing, and growth. Had He تعالى responded to all of their evil requests, He تعالى would have destroyed them. However, people should avoid praying for evil as much as they can.”
And the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth - lest that (your supplication) coincides with a time when Allaah is asked and He provides - and He grants your request.❞
📚[from the forth coming book, In shaa Allaah, “A Lesson In Patience, From The Beautiful Name Of Allaah: ❝Al-Haleem❞”]
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If a child cries at night, the mother leaves her warm bed & sleep to comfort the baby in every way possible...
What makes u think that when u cry to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى He wont answer ur duas? He loves u MUCH MORE THAN UR MOTHER for Hes Al Waduud (the Most Loving)
Prophet (sallal lahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Allah is more merciful to His believing servants than that mother could ever be to her child.” [Bukhari 10/426 & Muslim 18/80]
So call on Al Waduud in this blessed month and have no doubt that He will respond that He will aid u <3
What makes u think that when u cry to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى He wont answer ur duas? He loves u MUCH MORE THAN UR MOTHER for Hes Al Waduud (the Most Loving)
Prophet (sallal lahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Allah is more merciful to His believing servants than that mother could ever be to her child.” [Bukhari 10/426 & Muslim 18/80]
So call on Al Waduud in this blessed month and have no doubt that He will respond that He will aid u <3
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An advice to those couples who have recently become parents and want to do Islamic upbringing of their child. They must know that the society that this child will be becoming a part of, in future, is built on concepts and ethos, which are in total contradiction of what they will be teaching and instilling in him/her. Infact he/she will be witnessing things which are 180 degree to what's taught. If that child only receives religious information and rulings, without the most necessary confidence (of being a Muslim) and self esteem, then that child is going to go into severe identity crisis after growing up and getting inducted into society, and infact is bound to have inferiority complex. I'm saying this from observation and interaction. So please, along with teaching your child Islam, make sure you instill magnificent confidence in that child. Make sure that child is inspired and turns out to be a confident Muslim who has strong will power and moral courage and strength to fight off the counter wave. The counter wave is horribly strong, maliciously attractive, frighteningly irresistible and merciless & atrocious. And believe me. The role of father in all this is indispensable. He has to be the hero. He has to be the ideal. He has to be the friend. No choice.
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Parents need to be aware about the #MomoChallenge. The game involves challenges that encourage teenagers/ children / any other user to engage in series of violent acts as challenges of the game. Kindly share and spread awareness. #FortisAdvisory
Its sad when u see little Muslim children who can sing songs but dont know to recite a Surah
Little girls who can tell u all about the latest fashion trends but dont know the purpose of Hijaab
Litts girls who know all about makeup & getting nails done but nothing about wudoo & haya
Little boys who know all about video games & footy players but can't name any Sahaaba or Prophet
Muslim kids who know the latest movies but dont know any story from the Quran
And when these kids become teenagers & go out at night, start taking drugs & run away & fall into haraam
Do NOT blame anyone but YOUR PARENTING.
Instill the DEEN & TAWHEED in ur child from a young age for u will be questioned about them on Judgement Day
That is the key to their success.
"O You who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded" [Surah at Tahreem: 6]
Little girls who can tell u all about the latest fashion trends but dont know the purpose of Hijaab
Litts girls who know all about makeup & getting nails done but nothing about wudoo & haya
Little boys who know all about video games & footy players but can't name any Sahaaba or Prophet
Muslim kids who know the latest movies but dont know any story from the Quran
And when these kids become teenagers & go out at night, start taking drugs & run away & fall into haraam
Do NOT blame anyone but YOUR PARENTING.
Instill the DEEN & TAWHEED in ur child from a young age for u will be questioned about them on Judgement Day
That is the key to their success.
"O You who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded" [Surah at Tahreem: 6]
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𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝗽𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗟𝗶𝘁 𝗮 𝗟𝗮𝗺𝗽 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗨𝗺𝗺𝗮𝗵
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Once upon a time, a young man passed by an apple orchard and, driven by intense hunger, ate an apple without the owner's knowledge. When he returned home, his conscience began to trouble him, so he went to seek out the orchard's owner.
He admitted to the owner: "Yesterday, I was extremely hungry and ate an apple from your orchard without your permission. Today, I have come to seek your forgiveness."
The owner replied: "By God, I will not forgive you. I will be your opponent on the Day of Judgment before Allah!"
The young man pleaded for forgiveness, but the owner remained adamant and left him. The young man followed him to his house and waited outside until the owner came out for asr prayer.
When he found the young man still waiting, the young man said: "Uncle, I am willing to work for you as a farmer without any wages if you will forgive me."
The owner replied: "I will forgive you on one condition: you must marry my daughter. However, she is blind, deaf, mute, and crippled. If you agree, I will forgive you."
The young man agreed to marry his daughter.
A few days later, the young man, with a sad heart, knocked on the door and entered. The owner said: "Come in and meet your wife." To his surprise, he found a girl more beautiful than the moon. She stood up, walked to him, and greeted him. Understanding his confusion, she explained:
"I am blind from looking at forbidden things, mute from speaking forbidden words, deaf from listening to forbidden things, and crippled because my feet do not step towards forbidden things. My father sought a pious husband for me. When you came seeking forgiveness for an apple and wept over it, my father said: 'He who fears eating an apple unlawfully is surely one who will fear Allah concerning my daughter.' So, congratulations to me for having you as a husband, and congratulations to my father for having you as a son-in-law."
A year later, she gave birth to a boy who would become one of the most distinguished figures of this ummah: 𝗮𝗹-𝗜𝗺𝗮̄𝗺 𝗔𝗯𝘂̄ 𝗛𝗮𝗻𝗶̄𝗳𝗮𝗵 رحمه الله.
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Once upon a time, a young man passed by an apple orchard and, driven by intense hunger, ate an apple without the owner's knowledge. When he returned home, his conscience began to trouble him, so he went to seek out the orchard's owner.
He admitted to the owner: "Yesterday, I was extremely hungry and ate an apple from your orchard without your permission. Today, I have come to seek your forgiveness."
The owner replied: "By God, I will not forgive you. I will be your opponent on the Day of Judgment before Allah!"
The young man pleaded for forgiveness, but the owner remained adamant and left him. The young man followed him to his house and waited outside until the owner came out for asr prayer.
When he found the young man still waiting, the young man said: "Uncle, I am willing to work for you as a farmer without any wages if you will forgive me."
The owner replied: "I will forgive you on one condition: you must marry my daughter. However, she is blind, deaf, mute, and crippled. If you agree, I will forgive you."
The young man agreed to marry his daughter.
A few days later, the young man, with a sad heart, knocked on the door and entered. The owner said: "Come in and meet your wife." To his surprise, he found a girl more beautiful than the moon. She stood up, walked to him, and greeted him. Understanding his confusion, she explained:
"I am blind from looking at forbidden things, mute from speaking forbidden words, deaf from listening to forbidden things, and crippled because my feet do not step towards forbidden things. My father sought a pious husband for me. When you came seeking forgiveness for an apple and wept over it, my father said: 'He who fears eating an apple unlawfully is surely one who will fear Allah concerning my daughter.' So, congratulations to me for having you as a husband, and congratulations to my father for having you as a son-in-law."
A year later, she gave birth to a boy who would become one of the most distinguished figures of this ummah: 𝗮𝗹-𝗜𝗺𝗮̄𝗺 𝗔𝗯𝘂̄ 𝗛𝗮𝗻𝗶̄𝗳𝗮𝗵 رحمه الله.
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Sometimes, the faults in our children are a direct result of our failures as parents.
So when your child misbehaves or displays negative traits, don't be so quick to chastise him or her. Instead, look at yourself and how your own actions or inactions, and your own words or silences, have contributed to this in your child.
Parents shape their children.
Often, children are simply reflections of their parents.
So when your child misbehaves or displays negative traits, don't be so quick to chastise him or her. Instead, look at yourself and how your own actions or inactions, and your own words or silences, have contributed to this in your child.
Parents shape their children.
Often, children are simply reflections of their parents.
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Women are always made sure to be treated with kindness and respect in Islam.. we hold a high honor with our Lord
Shaykh Abdur Razzaq Ibn Abdul Muhsin al-Abbaad حفظه الله:
"The importance of the woman can be demonstrated by the tasks and hardships that she is burdened with, some of which exceed those that are carried out by men.
For this reason it is extremely important to thank your mother, treat her kindly and live with her in honor, furthermore, she has precedence over the father in all of that."
[Attributes of the Righteous Wife| pg. 65]
Women are always made sure to be treated with kindness and respect in Islam.. we hold a high honor with our Lord
Shaykh Abdur Razzaq Ibn Abdul Muhsin al-Abbaad حفظه الله:
"The importance of the woman can be demonstrated by the tasks and hardships that she is burdened with, some of which exceed those that are carried out by men.
For this reason it is extremely important to thank your mother, treat her kindly and live with her in honor, furthermore, she has precedence over the father in all of that."
[Attributes of the Righteous Wife| pg. 65]
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✍🏻 Serve Your Parents
Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said: “May he be disgraced, may he be disgraced, may he be disgraced!!”, he was asked: “Who, O Messenger of Allāh?”, he replied: “The one who finds his parents, or one of them, in old age and then he enters Hellfire (by not serving them)!!”
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Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said: “May he be disgraced, may he be disgraced, may he be disgraced!!”, he was asked: “Who, O Messenger of Allāh?”, he replied: “The one who finds his parents, or one of them, in old age and then he enters Hellfire (by not serving them)!!”
● [الأدب المفرد للبخاري ٢١]
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Spending for the Sake of Allah
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-Uthaymeen said:
"If you spend on your children, or spend on your mother and father, or even if you spend on yourself seeking the pleasure of Allah, then Allah will reward you for that."
📚(Sharh Riyad al-Saliheen, Vol. 1, p. 45).
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-Uthaymeen said:
"If you spend on your children, or spend on your mother and father, or even if you spend on yourself seeking the pleasure of Allah, then Allah will reward you for that."
📚(Sharh Riyad al-Saliheen, Vol. 1, p. 45).
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Dont say 'Hi' or 'Goodmorning' or 'Sabah al Khayr' to ur child when they wake up or when u pick them up from school. Say 'Assalaamu Alaikum'.
Teach them to say Salam to their friends & siblings as well. Spread love in ur kids by teaching them to say the proper Salaam.
Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: "Should I not inform you of something that, if you were to do it, would cause you to love one another? Spread the salaam between yourselves" [Saheeh Muslim]
Teach them to say Salam to their friends & siblings as well. Spread love in ur kids by teaching them to say the proper Salaam.
Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said: "Should I not inform you of something that, if you were to do it, would cause you to love one another? Spread the salaam between yourselves" [Saheeh Muslim]
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Dear fathers, please express love and affection to your daughters. It satiates their mind enough to be more purposeful and realistic about love. Many young ladies who were deprived of love while growing up become emotional destitutes that are easily moved by the slightest show of affection.
Call them by sweet and beautiful names; love, dear, pumpkin, and their alternatives in your local dialect, or give them endearing kunyas (nicknames). TELL THEM how much you love and adore them, how much they mean to you and how much you trust them. There is a reason I said fathers in particular. The oedipus complex makes your daughters have a special kind of regard for you so that love and affection from you has a different impact on them. You are the very first masculine standard for your daughters. Please don't set the bar too low for just any riff-raff to scale.
Some young ladies jump into relationships because they never experienced what it is like to be a man's emotional priority; to be at the center of a man's thoughts, to feel important in a man's presence. Any guy that shows them a similitude of this, even if fake, is automatically considered lovely and worthy of their attention. If some women had received abundant show of affection from their fathers they may not have made the wrong choice for a husband.
Even if you are a stern father, please make some exceptions for your daughters. While still scolding and reprimanding them for their wrong, be softer and more forgiving towards them. Let them really enjoy your company as much as you can afford.
A father should be his daughter's first love.
Abu Imrān
Call them by sweet and beautiful names; love, dear, pumpkin, and their alternatives in your local dialect, or give them endearing kunyas (nicknames). TELL THEM how much you love and adore them, how much they mean to you and how much you trust them. There is a reason I said fathers in particular. The oedipus complex makes your daughters have a special kind of regard for you so that love and affection from you has a different impact on them. You are the very first masculine standard for your daughters. Please don't set the bar too low for just any riff-raff to scale.
Some young ladies jump into relationships because they never experienced what it is like to be a man's emotional priority; to be at the center of a man's thoughts, to feel important in a man's presence. Any guy that shows them a similitude of this, even if fake, is automatically considered lovely and worthy of their attention. If some women had received abundant show of affection from their fathers they may not have made the wrong choice for a husband.
Even if you are a stern father, please make some exceptions for your daughters. While still scolding and reprimanding them for their wrong, be softer and more forgiving towards them. Let them really enjoy your company as much as you can afford.
A father should be his daughter's first love.
Abu Imrān
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Revive this Sunnah
Hadith on Kids:
Anas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, would visit the homes of the Ansar, greet their children with peace, pat their heads, and supplicate on their behalf.
Source: al-Sunan al-Kubrá lil-Nasā’ī 8028
Hadith on Kids:
Anas reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, would visit the homes of the Ansar, greet their children with peace, pat their heads, and supplicate on their behalf.
Source: al-Sunan al-Kubrá lil-Nasā’ī 8028
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