📌Discipline starts from young
“The best of discipline is that which is done at a young age. If a child is left to his own characteristics and he or she matures into an adult possessing those characteristics, changing the person would be difficūlt.
A poet said:
ﺇﻥَّ اﻟﻐُﺼُﻮﻥ ﺇﺫا ﻗَﻮَّﻣﺘﻬﺎ اﻋﺘَﺪﻟَﺖ *
ﻭﻻ ﻳَﻠِﻴﻦ ﻗَﻮﻣﺘَﻪ اﻟﺨﺸﺐُ
If you straighten the branches they will straighten up
But wood does not soften if you amend it.
ﻗﺪ ﻳَﻨﻔﻊُ اﻷﺩَﺏُ اﻟﺼَّﻐﻴﺮ ﻓﻲ ﻣُﻬﻞٍ *
ﻭﻟﻴﺲَ ﻳَﻨﻔﻊُ ﻓﻲ ﺫﻯ اﻟﺸَّﻴﺒﺔ اﻷﺩَﺏُ
Discipline benefits Childrēn gradually
But it will not benefit those who have aged.
Being perseverant in discipline is important, particularly with regard to children, as it benefits them and doing good becomes a habit.
A poet said:
ﻻ ﺗَﺴﻪَ ﻋﻦ ﺃﺩﺏ الصغيـ * رِ ﻭﺇﻥ ﺷَﻜﻰ ﺃﻟَﻢَ اﻟﺘََّﻌﺐ
Do not neglect disciplining a Child
Even if he complains of the pain of exhaustion.
Know that a doctor considers the age of the patient, as well as his place and time before prescribing the medicine best suited for him.
Likewise, discipline should be suited to each child, and signs of the success or failure of a child can be noticed from a very early age.”
Excerpt from 'Disciplining the Soul' by Imam Ibn Jawzi (d. 597H)
“The best of discipline is that which is done at a young age. If a child is left to his own characteristics and he or she matures into an adult possessing those characteristics, changing the person would be difficūlt.
A poet said:
ﺇﻥَّ اﻟﻐُﺼُﻮﻥ ﺇﺫا ﻗَﻮَّﻣﺘﻬﺎ اﻋﺘَﺪﻟَﺖ *
ﻭﻻ ﻳَﻠِﻴﻦ ﻗَﻮﻣﺘَﻪ اﻟﺨﺸﺐُ
If you straighten the branches they will straighten up
But wood does not soften if you amend it.
ﻗﺪ ﻳَﻨﻔﻊُ اﻷﺩَﺏُ اﻟﺼَّﻐﻴﺮ ﻓﻲ ﻣُﻬﻞٍ *
ﻭﻟﻴﺲَ ﻳَﻨﻔﻊُ ﻓﻲ ﺫﻯ اﻟﺸَّﻴﺒﺔ اﻷﺩَﺏُ
Discipline benefits Childrēn gradually
But it will not benefit those who have aged.
Being perseverant in discipline is important, particularly with regard to children, as it benefits them and doing good becomes a habit.
A poet said:
ﻻ ﺗَﺴﻪَ ﻋﻦ ﺃﺩﺏ الصغيـ * رِ ﻭﺇﻥ ﺷَﻜﻰ ﺃﻟَﻢَ اﻟﺘََّﻌﺐ
Do not neglect disciplining a Child
Even if he complains of the pain of exhaustion.
Know that a doctor considers the age of the patient, as well as his place and time before prescribing the medicine best suited for him.
Likewise, discipline should be suited to each child, and signs of the success or failure of a child can be noticed from a very early age.”
Excerpt from 'Disciplining the Soul' by Imam Ibn Jawzi (d. 597H)
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🖊 The Virtues of Daughters
Allahu Akbar
A Quick Summary of the Ahadeeth:
1. Whoever is good to their daughters, they (the daughters) will be a shield for them on the Day of Judgement.
2. Whoever raises two daughters until they mature will be with me on the Day of Judgement. (The Prophet ﷺ then interlocked his fingers together.)
3. Do not dislike your daughters, as they bring comfort and are dear and special.
4. Whoever has three daughters, three sisters, two daughters, or two sisters, and is kind towards them in their companionship (treats them well) and fears Allah in their regard, for him is Jannah.
5. Whoever has three daughters and is patient with them, feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth, those daughters will be a barrier/shield for him from the fire on the Day of Judgement.
May Allāh enable us to attain these rewards. Aameen
🖊 The Virtues of Daughters
Allahu Akbar
A Quick Summary of the Ahadeeth:
1. Whoever is good to their daughters, they (the daughters) will be a shield for them on the Day of Judgement.
2. Whoever raises two daughters until they mature will be with me on the Day of Judgement. (The Prophet ﷺ then interlocked his fingers together.)
3. Do not dislike your daughters, as they bring comfort and are dear and special.
4. Whoever has three daughters, three sisters, two daughters, or two sisters, and is kind towards them in their companionship (treats them well) and fears Allah in their regard, for him is Jannah.
5. Whoever has three daughters and is patient with them, feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth, those daughters will be a barrier/shield for him from the fire on the Day of Judgement.
May Allāh enable us to attain these rewards. Aameen
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An example of Qiyas Awla:
Allah says in the Qur'an:
فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَاۤ أُفࣲّ
"And never say to them (your parents) even an 'uff"
{Al-Isra':23}
If an "uff" is forbidden to say to our parents, then anything worse than an "uff", like swearing at them or mocking them, is more worthy to be considered forbidden. Because it is awla (more in level) than an 'uff", so it becomes the Qiyas Awla for the prohibition on saying "uff" to parents. Therefore, anything worse in level than "uff" is more forbidden to say to our parents.
Allah says in the Qur'an:
فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَاۤ أُفࣲّ
"And never say to them (your parents) even an 'uff"
{Al-Isra':23}
If an "uff" is forbidden to say to our parents, then anything worse than an "uff", like swearing at them or mocking them, is more worthy to be considered forbidden. Because it is awla (more in level) than an 'uff", so it becomes the Qiyas Awla for the prohibition on saying "uff" to parents. Therefore, anything worse in level than "uff" is more forbidden to say to our parents.
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Luqmān b. ʿĀmir reported that Abū ʾl-Dardāʾ used to buy sparrows from children and then set them free, saying: “Fly away and lead a free life!”
قَالَ ابْنُ سَعْدٍ: وَأَخْبَرَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ عَبَّادٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا فَرَجُ بْنُ فَضَالَةَ، عَنْ لُقْمَانِ بْنِ عَامِرٍ، عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ: أَنَّهُ كَانَ يَشْتَرِي الْعَصَافِيرَ مِنَ الصبيان ويرسلهن، / ويقول: اذهبن فعشن.
Ibn al-Jāwzī, al-Muntadhim fī Tārīkh al-Mulūk wa ʾl-Umam 5/17
ابن الجوزي، المنتظم في تاريخ الملوك والأمم ٥/١٧
قَالَ ابْنُ سَعْدٍ: وَأَخْبَرَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ عَبَّادٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا فَرَجُ بْنُ فَضَالَةَ، عَنْ لُقْمَانِ بْنِ عَامِرٍ، عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ: أَنَّهُ كَانَ يَشْتَرِي الْعَصَافِيرَ مِنَ الصبيان ويرسلهن، / ويقول: اذهبن فعشن.
Ibn al-Jāwzī, al-Muntadhim fī Tārīkh al-Mulūk wa ʾl-Umam 5/17
ابن الجوزي، المنتظم في تاريخ الملوك والأمم ٥/١٧
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Luqmān b. ʿĀmir reported that Abū ʾl-Dardāʾ used to buy sparrows from children and then set them free, saying: “Fly away and lead a free life!”
قَالَ ابْنُ سَعْدٍ: وَأَخْبَرَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ عَبَّادٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا فَرَجُ بْنُ فَضَالَةَ، عَنْ لُقْمَانِ…
قَالَ ابْنُ سَعْدٍ: وَأَخْبَرَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ عَبَّادٍ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا فَرَجُ بْنُ فَضَالَةَ، عَنْ لُقْمَانِ…
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The Story of Umar (R) losing the custody of his son
In case of a dispute between the father and mother- the mother has most rights. Then grandmother from the maternal side.
Malik related to me that Yahya ibn Said said that he heard al- Qasim ibn Muhammad say, "A woman of the Ansar was married to Umar ibn al-Khattab. She bore Asim ibn Umar to him, and then he separated from her. Umar came to Quba and found his son Asim playing in the courtyard of the mosque. He took him by the arm and placed him before him on his mount. The grandmother of the child saw him and argued with Umar about the child so they went to Abu Bakr as-Siddiq. Umar said, 'My son.' The woman said, 'My son.' Abu Bakr said, 'Do not interfere between a child and its mother.' Umar did not repeat his words."
Yahya said that he heard Malik say, "This is what I would have done in that situation." [ Malik Muwatta Hadith 1463]
In case of a dispute between the father and mother- the mother has most rights. Then grandmother from the maternal side.
Malik related to me that Yahya ibn Said said that he heard al- Qasim ibn Muhammad say, "A woman of the Ansar was married to Umar ibn al-Khattab. She bore Asim ibn Umar to him, and then he separated from her. Umar came to Quba and found his son Asim playing in the courtyard of the mosque. He took him by the arm and placed him before him on his mount. The grandmother of the child saw him and argued with Umar about the child so they went to Abu Bakr as-Siddiq. Umar said, 'My son.' The woman said, 'My son.' Abu Bakr said, 'Do not interfere between a child and its mother.' Umar did not repeat his words."
Yahya said that he heard Malik say, "This is what I would have done in that situation." [ Malik Muwatta Hadith 1463]
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One of the most important prayers for parents in Islam is to make dua for their well-being, happiness, and forgiveness.
Here is a dua you can recite:
رابيرهاموما كاما ربياني ساغيرا
"Rabbirhamhuma kama rabbayani sagheera"
(O Allah, have mercy on them as they brought me up when I was small)
It is also recommended to recite the following dua for parents:
ربانا إغفير لي ولي وليدية وللمؤمنة يوما ياقومول حساب"
"Rabbana ighfir li wa li walidayya wa lil mu'mineena yawma yaqumul hisaab"
(O our Lord, forgive me, my parents, and the believers on the Day of Judgment)
Here is a dua you can recite:
رابيرهاموما كاما ربياني ساغيرا
"Rabbirhamhuma kama rabbayani sagheera"
(O Allah, have mercy on them as they brought me up when I was small)
It is also recommended to recite the following dua for parents:
ربانا إغفير لي ولي وليدية وللمؤمنة يوما ياقومول حساب"
"Rabbana ighfir li wa li walidayya wa lil mu'mineena yawma yaqumul hisaab"
(O our Lord, forgive me, my parents, and the believers on the Day of Judgment)
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In the Same Room, Yet Far Apart: Unveil the Distance From Screens to Faces
Parents! Avoid being busy on your phones in front of your children. You, as a father is an example for your child. You, as a mother, is an example for your child.
Regrettably, many families complain about this. The mother and father sit with their children around them while everyone is holding a device in their hands. Some families say, "Although we are sitting in one room together, we communicate via WhatsApp group." This is from the biggest mistakes that destroys the value of family communication.
When your children see you busy with your phone like this, what are they going to do? They are going to imitate you!
[Slightly paraphrased]
Extracted from the book Video Games & Our Children by Shaykh Dr. Saeed Ibn Saalim Ad-Darmaki
Parents! Avoid being busy on your phones in front of your children. You, as a father is an example for your child. You, as a mother, is an example for your child.
Regrettably, many families complain about this. The mother and father sit with their children around them while everyone is holding a device in their hands. Some families say, "Although we are sitting in one room together, we communicate via WhatsApp group." This is from the biggest mistakes that destroys the value of family communication.
When your children see you busy with your phone like this, what are they going to do? They are going to imitate you!
[Slightly paraphrased]
Extracted from the book Video Games & Our Children by Shaykh Dr. Saeed Ibn Saalim Ad-Darmaki
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Dear parents,
Teach your kids to be respectful and empathetic towards the elderly.
It's so distasteful when you see children nowadays making fun of old people or failing to show respect...
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young ones and respect our old ones.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1919; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 1565.
Teach your kids to be respectful and empathetic towards the elderly.
It's so distasteful when you see children nowadays making fun of old people or failing to show respect...
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young ones and respect our old ones.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1919; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 1565.
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The fate of parents is to wait for their children. They wait during pregnancy, they wait after school, they wait for them to return home after a night out. They wait as their children start their own lives. They wait for them to come home from work to a warm dinner. They wait with love, with anxiety, and sometimes with fleeting anger that dissipates as soon as they see their children and can embrace them.
Make sure your elderly parents don't have to wait any longer. Visit them, love them, hug the ones who loved you like no one else ever will. Don't keep them waiting; they're expecting this from you.
Because bodies age, but the hearts of parents never grow old. Love them as much as you can. No one will love you like your parents do.
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Make sure your elderly parents don't have to wait any longer. Visit them, love them, hug the ones who loved you like no one else ever will. Don't keep them waiting; they're expecting this from you.
Because bodies age, but the hearts of parents never grow old. Love them as much as you can. No one will love you like your parents do.
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Benefits of a mother Dua'ah is always powerful.
Imam Bukhari had lost his eye sight in his days as a youth, and and he visited lots of skilled doctors, but no treatment was of any success.
His mother was a pious muslimah and used to pray to الله vigorously for her son sight to be returns
One night in her dream,she saw the prophet Ibrahim,who told her that Allah had accepted her prayers, because of her sincere Dua'ah and tears in front of الله , and her son sight would return.
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When it morning time,Imam Bukhari got up from his glimmers of light reached out into his eyes and eyesight was fully restored. Copied.
Imam Bukhari had lost his eye sight in his days as a youth, and and he visited lots of skilled doctors, but no treatment was of any success.
His mother was a pious muslimah and used to pray to الله vigorously for her son sight to be returns
One night in her dream,she saw the prophet Ibrahim,who told her that Allah had accepted her prayers, because of her sincere Dua'ah and tears in front of الله , and her son sight would return.
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When it morning time,Imam Bukhari got up from his glimmers of light reached out into his eyes and eyesight was fully restored. Copied.
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DEAR PARENTS IN ISLAM !!
If You can take your children for Shopping, Then why can't you take them to nearby Masjid.?
If you can wake them Up for a long journey, Then why can't you wake them up for Fajar?
If you can buy them stories and comics, Why can't you buy them translated Quran and hadith books?
If you can send them to high school then why can't you send them to nearby Madrasa?
If you have time to watch movies with them, then why don't you have a bit time to spend with them for Islamic lecturers?
Dear Parents, please let us all reconnect with the Deen.!
If You can take your children for Shopping, Then why can't you take them to nearby Masjid.?
If you can wake them Up for a long journey, Then why can't you wake them up for Fajar?
If you can buy them stories and comics, Why can't you buy them translated Quran and hadith books?
If you can send them to high school then why can't you send them to nearby Madrasa?
If you have time to watch movies with them, then why don't you have a bit time to spend with them for Islamic lecturers?
Dear Parents, please let us all reconnect with the Deen.!
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These days there are Muslims who are very proud of sending their little girls & boys to modelling & photography sessions, dancing & ballet classes but when these kids go on the wrong path later these same parents wonder where they went wrong....
Yet there are those parents who send their kids to Madrassah to memorise Quran, who wake them up for Fajr salah, teach them beneficial knowledge, worry about their kids Akhirah & make dua to Allah to guide them...of course its these parents won't have to worry on Judgement Day as they have done their duty towards their kids.
Yet there are those parents who send their kids to Madrassah to memorise Quran, who wake them up for Fajr salah, teach them beneficial knowledge, worry about their kids Akhirah & make dua to Allah to guide them...of course its these parents won't have to worry on Judgement Day as they have done their duty towards their kids.
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Whenever you mention the deceased, always offer a prayer for them. For example:
- My father, رحمه الله.
- My father, may Allāh have mercy upon him.
- My father, may Allāh grant him Paradise.
Whether the supplication is in Arabic, English, or your native language, make it a habit to do this and encourage your family and friends to do the same. We all need supplications, especially after we have departed from this world.
اللَّهُمَّ اغفِر لِلْمُسْلِمِين والْمُسْلِمَاتِ وَالمُؤمِنِينَ وَالمُؤمِنَاتِ، الأَحيَاءِ مِنهُم وَالأَموَاتِ
O’ Allāh, forgive the male and female Muslims, and the male and female believers, the living and the deceased.
- My father, رحمه الله.
- My father, may Allāh have mercy upon him.
- My father, may Allāh grant him Paradise.
Whether the supplication is in Arabic, English, or your native language, make it a habit to do this and encourage your family and friends to do the same. We all need supplications, especially after we have departed from this world.
اللَّهُمَّ اغفِر لِلْمُسْلِمِين والْمُسْلِمَاتِ وَالمُؤمِنِينَ وَالمُؤمِنَاتِ، الأَحيَاءِ مِنهُم وَالأَموَاتِ
O’ Allāh, forgive the male and female Muslims, and the male and female believers, the living and the deceased.
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Dear Blossom Mother,
Excess screen time for children can pose various risks to their physical health, mental well-being, and overall development. Prolonged exposure to screens, particularly sitting in a specific position for long can contribute to an increased risk of obesity and other health issues due to reduced physical activity levels.
Encourage your kids to play around, don't bother about scattering the house, when kids are at home, the house is not meant to look perfectly intact 🤣🤣🤣.
Encourage them to play physical games, skipping is nice for their physical health, puzzle games, Scrabble game is beautiful for their cognitive development as well etc.
Encourage more physical activities to keep them engaged and reduce screen time please.
Blossom Mother
Excess screen time for children can pose various risks to their physical health, mental well-being, and overall development. Prolonged exposure to screens, particularly sitting in a specific position for long can contribute to an increased risk of obesity and other health issues due to reduced physical activity levels.
Encourage your kids to play around, don't bother about scattering the house, when kids are at home, the house is not meant to look perfectly intact 🤣🤣🤣.
Encourage them to play physical games, skipping is nice for their physical health, puzzle games, Scrabble game is beautiful for their cognitive development as well etc.
Encourage more physical activities to keep them engaged and reduce screen time please.
Blossom Mother
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