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The Great Responsibility of Parents: Nurturing and Educating Their Children
Sheikh Muhammad Sa’eed Raslan
Sheikh Muhammad Sa’eed Raslan
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🌥When you go home, always make your parents happy by kissing and hugging them. and don't ever leave the house when you know your parents are mad at you.💎
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Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
الله المستعان!!
How 'normal' is the bridal stage today?
How 'normal' is it for the fully adorned & excessively dolled up bride to sit on this stage while non mahram men look at her?
How 'normal' is it for non mahram men to video & photograph her in front of her dayoouth husband & mahram men?
How normal is it for these pictures & videos to be uploaded online & her beauty is seen by countless men?
Where is the Haya of women?
Where is the Ghayrah of men?
Where is the Hijaab?
Where is the Taqwa?
Where is the following of the Sunnah?
لا حول ولا قوة الا بالله العلي العظيم!
How 'normal' is the bridal stage today?
How 'normal' is it for the fully adorned & excessively dolled up bride to sit on this stage while non mahram men look at her?
How 'normal' is it for non mahram men to video & photograph her in front of her dayoouth husband & mahram men?
How normal is it for these pictures & videos to be uploaded online & her beauty is seen by countless men?
Where is the Haya of women?
Where is the Ghayrah of men?
Where is the Hijaab?
Where is the Taqwa?
Where is the following of the Sunnah?
لا حول ولا قوة الا بالله العلي العظيم!
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THREE DAUGHTERS.
The companion Jabir ibn Abdullah (radiAllahuanhu) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhiwa sallam) said,
“Whoever has three daughters and he
1. Accommodates them.
2. He is merciful to them, and
3. Supports them:
Then Paradise is guaranteed for them.” It was said, “O Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhiwa sallam) what if he has only two?” The Messenger (sallallaahu alayhiwa sallam) said: “Even two.” Some people thought that if they had said to him one, the Messenger (salallaahu alaihiwa-salaam) would have said even one.
Source: Musnad Aḥmad 14247. Grade: Sahih
(authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
عن جابر بن عبد الله قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ كُنَّ لَهُ ثَلَاثُ بَنَاتٍ يُؤْوِيهِنَّ وَيَرْحَمُهُنَّ وَيَكْفُلُهُنَّ وَجَبَتْ لَهُ الْجَنَّةُ الْبَتَّةَ قَالَ قِيلَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَإِنْ كَانَتْ اثْنَتَيْنِ قَالَ وَإِنْ كَانَتْ اثْنَتَيْنِ قَالَ فَرَأَى بَعْضُ الْقَوْمِ أَنْ لَوْ قَالُوا لَهُ وَاحِدَةً لَقَالَ وَاحِدَةً
14247 مسند أحمد
22/150 المحدث شعيب الأرناؤوط خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في تخريج المسند.
The companion Jabir ibn Abdullah (radiAllahuanhu) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhiwa sallam) said,
“Whoever has three daughters and he
1. Accommodates them.
2. He is merciful to them, and
3. Supports them:
Then Paradise is guaranteed for them.” It was said, “O Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu alayhiwa sallam) what if he has only two?” The Messenger (sallallaahu alayhiwa sallam) said: “Even two.” Some people thought that if they had said to him one, the Messenger (salallaahu alaihiwa-salaam) would have said even one.
Source: Musnad Aḥmad 14247. Grade: Sahih
(authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
عن جابر بن عبد الله قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ كُنَّ لَهُ ثَلَاثُ بَنَاتٍ يُؤْوِيهِنَّ وَيَرْحَمُهُنَّ وَيَكْفُلُهُنَّ وَجَبَتْ لَهُ الْجَنَّةُ الْبَتَّةَ قَالَ قِيلَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَإِنْ كَانَتْ اثْنَتَيْنِ قَالَ وَإِنْ كَانَتْ اثْنَتَيْنِ قَالَ فَرَأَى بَعْضُ الْقَوْمِ أَنْ لَوْ قَالُوا لَهُ وَاحِدَةً لَقَالَ وَاحِدَةً
14247 مسند أحمد
22/150 المحدث شعيب الأرناؤوط خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في تخريج المسند.
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Parents, teach your kids virtues like sincerity.
Teach them to mean what they say. Teach them to be genuine in treating others. Teach them to be intentional and to intend good.
Yes, when we grew up, we realized that some people whom we don’t go along with require certain level of “forced goodness” from us in order to be civil. Kids can learn this skill later but now, while they’re still raw, so innocent, plant in them what’s good.
A lot of adults have lost sincerity in their treatment to others and even to Allah. Life might have broken them naudhubillah. But hopefully, the future generation won’t. Let’s just plant the very basic of virtues now.
Teach them to mean what they say. Teach them to be genuine in treating others. Teach them to be intentional and to intend good.
Yes, when we grew up, we realized that some people whom we don’t go along with require certain level of “forced goodness” from us in order to be civil. Kids can learn this skill later but now, while they’re still raw, so innocent, plant in them what’s good.
A lot of adults have lost sincerity in their treatment to others and even to Allah. Life might have broken them naudhubillah. But hopefully, the future generation won’t. Let’s just plant the very basic of virtues now.
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I heard someone say kids are just different these days.
I disagree. Kids are the same. What's changed is a society with lowered expectations, lack of discipline, and acceptance of disrespect.
Give kids boundaries, expectations, rules, limits, rewards, and consequences – they will rise to the challenge and exceed your expectations every time.
I disagree. Kids are the same. What's changed is a society with lowered expectations, lack of discipline, and acceptance of disrespect.
Give kids boundaries, expectations, rules, limits, rewards, and consequences – they will rise to the challenge and exceed your expectations every time.
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Keep your young children off of devices and away from screens for as long as possible. Instead, memorize Quran, play outside, read books, make up stories, and bond deeply with your child.
~Umm Khalid
~Umm Khalid
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#Honouring_the_parents
قال الشيخ عبد المحسن بن حمد البدر حفظه الله، " بر الوالدين، من أسباب إجابة الدعاء "
[درس صحيح البخاري/ السبت ٩ ربيع الأول ١٤٤٠هـ / كتاب الأدب]
Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin bin Hamad al-'Badr (may Allāh preserve him) said,
“Honoring one's parents, is from the reasons the supplication is answered.”
[Dars Sahīh al-Bukhārī / Saturday 9th Rabī’ al-Awwal 1440 Hijrī / Kitāb al-Adab]
قال الشيخ عبد المحسن بن حمد البدر حفظه الله، " بر الوالدين، من أسباب إجابة الدعاء "
[درس صحيح البخاري/ السبت ٩ ربيع الأول ١٤٤٠هـ / كتاب الأدب]
Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin bin Hamad al-'Badr (may Allāh preserve him) said,
“Honoring one's parents, is from the reasons the supplication is answered.”
[Dars Sahīh al-Bukhārī / Saturday 9th Rabī’ al-Awwal 1440 Hijrī / Kitāb al-Adab]
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1- Avoid Giving your child everything he asks for. He will grow up believing that he has the right to get everything he wants.
2-Avoid laughing when your child speaks insulting words. He will grow up thinking that disrespect is entertainment.
3-Avoid remaining insensitive to bad behavior that he can display without scolding him for his bad behavior. He will grow up thinking that there are no rules in society.
4- Avoid picking up anything that your child messes up. He will grow up believing that others must take responsibility for his responsibilities.
5- Avoid letting him watch any program on TV. He will grow up thinking that there is no difference between being a child and being an adult.
6- Avoid giving your child all the money he asks for. He will grow up thinking that getting money is easy and will not hesitate to steal for it.
7- Always avoid putting yourself on his side when he is wrong against the neighbors, his teachers, the police. He will grow up thinking that everything he does is right, it is the others who are wrong.
8- Avoid leaving him alone at home when you go to the place of worship, otherwise he will grow up thinking that God does not exist.
By following these tips, we hope your child will be a role model for society and make you proud as parents!
2-Avoid laughing when your child speaks insulting words. He will grow up thinking that disrespect is entertainment.
3-Avoid remaining insensitive to bad behavior that he can display without scolding him for his bad behavior. He will grow up thinking that there are no rules in society.
4- Avoid picking up anything that your child messes up. He will grow up believing that others must take responsibility for his responsibilities.
5- Avoid letting him watch any program on TV. He will grow up thinking that there is no difference between being a child and being an adult.
6- Avoid giving your child all the money he asks for. He will grow up thinking that getting money is easy and will not hesitate to steal for it.
7- Always avoid putting yourself on his side when he is wrong against the neighbors, his teachers, the police. He will grow up thinking that everything he does is right, it is the others who are wrong.
8- Avoid leaving him alone at home when you go to the place of worship, otherwise he will grow up thinking that God does not exist.
By following these tips, we hope your child will be a role model for society and make you proud as parents!
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Attachments
In life, we will experience different situations that make us attached to something or someone other than Allah.
As woman, it is only normal for us to depend on our fathers, husbands, brothers or caretakers for many things.
However, living in the camps, taught us many lessons, one of them being to soley relying on Allah alone, for His provision, for His protection, for Him to soothe our hearts in times of difficulty and anxiety.
Many of us have to build our tents, fill water, look after children, work for a living and do the chores, these struggles get to us. At times like this, we may go through sorrow and pain, which can be aggravated by shaytan, and a trap that we should not fall a victim to.
Allah has not placed these situations to lead to our disappointment, but rather for us to see the bigger picture and the imperfection in those we place our trust in other than Him. Allah wants us to turn to him alone and rely soley on him.
These tests are not there to teach us only sabr, but also taught us to be grateful for things we may have taken insignificantly once in our lives, like clean water to drink, electricity, even a neighbour giving us a plate of food teaches us to be grateful to Allah for every little blessing that comes our way.
Allah shows us there is no one worthy for our hearts to be attached to and revolve around, except Him. We only realise this when Allah takes that attachment (thing/person) away from us. Which makes us only turn back to him.
He is the One we attach to out of love and adoration because HE IS PERFECT.
In life, we will experience different situations that make us attached to something or someone other than Allah.
As woman, it is only normal for us to depend on our fathers, husbands, brothers or caretakers for many things.
However, living in the camps, taught us many lessons, one of them being to soley relying on Allah alone, for His provision, for His protection, for Him to soothe our hearts in times of difficulty and anxiety.
Many of us have to build our tents, fill water, look after children, work for a living and do the chores, these struggles get to us. At times like this, we may go through sorrow and pain, which can be aggravated by shaytan, and a trap that we should not fall a victim to.
Allah has not placed these situations to lead to our disappointment, but rather for us to see the bigger picture and the imperfection in those we place our trust in other than Him. Allah wants us to turn to him alone and rely soley on him.
These tests are not there to teach us only sabr, but also taught us to be grateful for things we may have taken insignificantly once in our lives, like clean water to drink, electricity, even a neighbour giving us a plate of food teaches us to be grateful to Allah for every little blessing that comes our way.
Allah shows us there is no one worthy for our hearts to be attached to and revolve around, except Him. We only realise this when Allah takes that attachment (thing/person) away from us. Which makes us only turn back to him.
He is the One we attach to out of love and adoration because HE IS PERFECT.
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CHILDREN SNEEZING
When your Child sneezes you do not respond with (yarhamuk Allah), rather make Du’a for barakah upon the child … like ‘BarakAllahu feek’
[Shaykh al-Fawzān حفظه الله, Sharh Mandhoomah al-Ādāb ash-Shar'iyyah 280]
When your Child sneezes you do not respond with (yarhamuk Allah), rather make Du’a for barakah upon the child … like ‘BarakAllahu feek’
[Shaykh al-Fawzān حفظه الله, Sharh Mandhoomah al-Ādāb ash-Shar'iyyah 280]
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Sometimes, the faults in our children are a direct result of our failures as parents.
So when your child misbehaves or displays negative traits, don't be so quick to chastise him or her. Instead, look at yourself and how your own actions or inactions, and your own words or silences, have contributed to this in your child.
Parents shape their children.
Often, children are simply reflections of their parents.
So when your child misbehaves or displays negative traits, don't be so quick to chastise him or her. Instead, look at yourself and how your own actions or inactions, and your own words or silences, have contributed to this in your child.
Parents shape their children.
Often, children are simply reflections of their parents.
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Parents! Sit down with your teenage daughters not now, but RIGHT NOW and listen to this talk with them. Priceless advice for our daughters and young Muslim sisters.
https://x.com/anwarphilly/status/1342125968543145984?t=46hj4OCuFIWeT17RUFQyxQ&s=19
https://x.com/anwarphilly/status/1342125968543145984?t=46hj4OCuFIWeT17RUFQyxQ&s=19
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Copied:
"The Absent Father Effect on Daughters: Father Desire, Father Wounds" by Susan E. Schwartz delves deeply into the psychological and emotional impacts of having an absent father.
Here are ten key lessons from the book:
1. Impact of Absence: The absence of a father can lead to profound feelings of loss and longing in daughters, affecting their self-esteem and identity.
2. Father Wounds: Daughters with absent fathers often carry emotional wounds that manifest in their adult relationships, making it difficult for them to trust and form secure attachments.
3. Idealization and Reality: The idealization of the absent father can create a "tomb of illusion," where daughters hold unrealistic expectations of their fathers and potential partners.
4. Mirroring Effect: The "dead father effect" highlights how the emotional absence of a father can affect a daughter's ability to see herself clearly, often leading to self-esteem issues.
5. Negative Father Complex: An absent father can contribute to a negative father complex, where daughters struggle with internalized negative beliefs about men and authority figures.
6. Archetypal Dynamics: The book explores how archetypal dynamics, such as the "bad dad" and "father desire," play out in the psyches of daughters, influencing their behavior and emotional well-being.
7. Authenticity: Understanding and processing these father wounds is crucial for daughters to become their authentic selves, breaking free from the shadows of their absent fathers.
8. Narcissistic Responses: Daughters may develop narcissistic defenses as a way to cope with the emotional pain of an absent father, often masking deeper vulnerabilities.
9. Healing through Therapy: Therapeutic interventions, including Jungian analysis, can help daughters confront and heal from their father wounds, enabling them to form healthier relationships.
10. Cultural and Collective Impacts: The book also discusses how the absence of fathers affects daughters not only personally.
"The Absent Father Effect on Daughters: Father Desire, Father Wounds" by Susan E. Schwartz delves deeply into the psychological and emotional impacts of having an absent father.
Here are ten key lessons from the book:
1. Impact of Absence: The absence of a father can lead to profound feelings of loss and longing in daughters, affecting their self-esteem and identity.
2. Father Wounds: Daughters with absent fathers often carry emotional wounds that manifest in their adult relationships, making it difficult for them to trust and form secure attachments.
3. Idealization and Reality: The idealization of the absent father can create a "tomb of illusion," where daughters hold unrealistic expectations of their fathers and potential partners.
4. Mirroring Effect: The "dead father effect" highlights how the emotional absence of a father can affect a daughter's ability to see herself clearly, often leading to self-esteem issues.
5. Negative Father Complex: An absent father can contribute to a negative father complex, where daughters struggle with internalized negative beliefs about men and authority figures.
6. Archetypal Dynamics: The book explores how archetypal dynamics, such as the "bad dad" and "father desire," play out in the psyches of daughters, influencing their behavior and emotional well-being.
7. Authenticity: Understanding and processing these father wounds is crucial for daughters to become their authentic selves, breaking free from the shadows of their absent fathers.
8. Narcissistic Responses: Daughters may develop narcissistic defenses as a way to cope with the emotional pain of an absent father, often masking deeper vulnerabilities.
9. Healing through Therapy: Therapeutic interventions, including Jungian analysis, can help daughters confront and heal from their father wounds, enabling them to form healthier relationships.
10. Cultural and Collective Impacts: The book also discusses how the absence of fathers affects daughters not only personally.
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Forwarded from Ar-risaalah Publications
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How To Educate our Children
🖋️Shaykh Muhammad ibn Jameel Zaino
Translated by Dr Abdulilah Ibn Rabah Lahmami
How To Educate our Children
🖋️Shaykh Muhammad ibn Jameel Zaino
Translated by Dr Abdulilah Ibn Rabah Lahmami
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