CHILDREN SNEEZING
When your Child sneezes you do not respond with (yarhamuk Allah), rather make Du’a for barakah upon the child … like ‘BarakAllahu feek’
[Shaykh al-Fawzān حفظه الله, Sharh Mandhoomah al-Ādāb ash-Shar'iyyah 280]
When your Child sneezes you do not respond with (yarhamuk Allah), rather make Du’a for barakah upon the child … like ‘BarakAllahu feek’
[Shaykh al-Fawzān حفظه الله, Sharh Mandhoomah al-Ādāb ash-Shar'iyyah 280]
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Sometimes, the faults in our children are a direct result of our failures as parents.
So when your child misbehaves or displays negative traits, don't be so quick to chastise him or her. Instead, look at yourself and how your own actions or inactions, and your own words or silences, have contributed to this in your child.
Parents shape their children.
Often, children are simply reflections of their parents.
So when your child misbehaves or displays negative traits, don't be so quick to chastise him or her. Instead, look at yourself and how your own actions or inactions, and your own words or silences, have contributed to this in your child.
Parents shape their children.
Often, children are simply reflections of their parents.
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Parents! Sit down with your teenage daughters not now, but RIGHT NOW and listen to this talk with them. Priceless advice for our daughters and young Muslim sisters.
https://x.com/anwarphilly/status/1342125968543145984?t=46hj4OCuFIWeT17RUFQyxQ&s=19
https://x.com/anwarphilly/status/1342125968543145984?t=46hj4OCuFIWeT17RUFQyxQ&s=19
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"The Absent Father Effect on Daughters: Father Desire, Father Wounds" by Susan E. Schwartz delves deeply into the psychological and emotional impacts of having an absent father.
Here are ten key lessons from the book:
1. Impact of Absence: The absence of a father can lead to profound feelings of loss and longing in daughters, affecting their self-esteem and identity.
2. Father Wounds: Daughters with absent fathers often carry emotional wounds that manifest in their adult relationships, making it difficult for them to trust and form secure attachments.
3. Idealization and Reality: The idealization of the absent father can create a "tomb of illusion," where daughters hold unrealistic expectations of their fathers and potential partners.
4. Mirroring Effect: The "dead father effect" highlights how the emotional absence of a father can affect a daughter's ability to see herself clearly, often leading to self-esteem issues.
5. Negative Father Complex: An absent father can contribute to a negative father complex, where daughters struggle with internalized negative beliefs about men and authority figures.
6. Archetypal Dynamics: The book explores how archetypal dynamics, such as the "bad dad" and "father desire," play out in the psyches of daughters, influencing their behavior and emotional well-being.
7. Authenticity: Understanding and processing these father wounds is crucial for daughters to become their authentic selves, breaking free from the shadows of their absent fathers.
8. Narcissistic Responses: Daughters may develop narcissistic defenses as a way to cope with the emotional pain of an absent father, often masking deeper vulnerabilities.
9. Healing through Therapy: Therapeutic interventions, including Jungian analysis, can help daughters confront and heal from their father wounds, enabling them to form healthier relationships.
10. Cultural and Collective Impacts: The book also discusses how the absence of fathers affects daughters not only personally.
"The Absent Father Effect on Daughters: Father Desire, Father Wounds" by Susan E. Schwartz delves deeply into the psychological and emotional impacts of having an absent father.
Here are ten key lessons from the book:
1. Impact of Absence: The absence of a father can lead to profound feelings of loss and longing in daughters, affecting their self-esteem and identity.
2. Father Wounds: Daughters with absent fathers often carry emotional wounds that manifest in their adult relationships, making it difficult for them to trust and form secure attachments.
3. Idealization and Reality: The idealization of the absent father can create a "tomb of illusion," where daughters hold unrealistic expectations of their fathers and potential partners.
4. Mirroring Effect: The "dead father effect" highlights how the emotional absence of a father can affect a daughter's ability to see herself clearly, often leading to self-esteem issues.
5. Negative Father Complex: An absent father can contribute to a negative father complex, where daughters struggle with internalized negative beliefs about men and authority figures.
6. Archetypal Dynamics: The book explores how archetypal dynamics, such as the "bad dad" and "father desire," play out in the psyches of daughters, influencing their behavior and emotional well-being.
7. Authenticity: Understanding and processing these father wounds is crucial for daughters to become their authentic selves, breaking free from the shadows of their absent fathers.
8. Narcissistic Responses: Daughters may develop narcissistic defenses as a way to cope with the emotional pain of an absent father, often masking deeper vulnerabilities.
9. Healing through Therapy: Therapeutic interventions, including Jungian analysis, can help daughters confront and heal from their father wounds, enabling them to form healthier relationships.
10. Cultural and Collective Impacts: The book also discusses how the absence of fathers affects daughters not only personally.
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Forwarded from Ar-risaalah Publications
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How To Educate our Children
🖋️Shaykh Muhammad ibn Jameel Zaino
Translated by Dr Abdulilah Ibn Rabah Lahmami
How To Educate our Children
🖋️Shaykh Muhammad ibn Jameel Zaino
Translated by Dr Abdulilah Ibn Rabah Lahmami
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رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا
Imām An-Nawawī رحمه الله said:
"The reason for the superiority of the mother (over the father) is due to her becoming tired in your account, her compassion, her serving you, suffering hardship while being pregnant with you, then giving birth to you, then suckling you, then bringing you up, serving you, nursing you and other things."
[شرح صحيح مسلم ١٧/٨٠]
Imām An-Nawawī رحمه الله said:
"The reason for the superiority of the mother (over the father) is due to her becoming tired in your account, her compassion, her serving you, suffering hardship while being pregnant with you, then giving birth to you, then suckling you, then bringing you up, serving you, nursing you and other things."
[شرح صحيح مسلم ١٧/٨٠]
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Its sad when u see little Muslim children who can sing songs but dont know to recite a Surah
Little girls who can tell u all about the latest fashion trends but dont know the purpose of Hijaab
Litts girls who know all about makeup & getting nails done but nothing about wudoo & haya
Little boys who can name celebrities & footy players but can't name any Sahaba or Prophet
Muslim kids who know the latest movies but dont know any story from the Quran
And when these kids become teenagers & go out at night, start taking drugs & run away
Do NOT blame anyone but YOUR PARENTING.
Instill the DEEN & TAWHEED in ur child from a young age for u will be questioned about them on Judgement Day
That is the key to their success.
Little girls who can tell u all about the latest fashion trends but dont know the purpose of Hijaab
Litts girls who know all about makeup & getting nails done but nothing about wudoo & haya
Little boys who can name celebrities & footy players but can't name any Sahaba or Prophet
Muslim kids who know the latest movies but dont know any story from the Quran
And when these kids become teenagers & go out at night, start taking drugs & run away
Do NOT blame anyone but YOUR PARENTING.
Instill the DEEN & TAWHEED in ur child from a young age for u will be questioned about them on Judgement Day
That is the key to their success.
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A woman entered upon 'A'isha with her two daughters, and 'A'isha gave the women three dates.
The woman gave each of her daughters a date, then she split the last one between her two daughters (and didn't eat anything herself).
'A'isha them told Allāh's Messenger about what happened.
He said: "Why are you surprised? She will enter paradise because of that!"
● {سنن ابن ماجة ٣٦٦٨}
The woman gave each of her daughters a date, then she split the last one between her two daughters (and didn't eat anything herself).
'A'isha them told Allāh's Messenger about what happened.
He said: "Why are you surprised? She will enter paradise because of that!"
● {سنن ابن ماجة ٣٦٦٨}
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One day, your children will figure you out.
Don’t lie to them.
Don’t neglect them.
Don’t dismiss their feelings.
Don’t guilt-trip or manipulate them.
Don’t plant seeds of hatred in their hearts.
Don’t teach them to be hateful or disrespectful.
Remember, they look up to you, they observe you, and they will remember everything.
Eventually, your children will recognize the healthy and unhealthy patterns you’ve taught them.
Don’t let them carry your pain, worries, or traumas. It’s not their responsibility to fix them for you.
Raise them to be healthy and stress-free as much as you can. Teach them how to fear Allah, how to manage their emotions, fix conflicts, build self-love and confidence, and avoid unnecessary drama.
Parenting pays off. The reward is seeing them grow up kind, respectful, religious, mentally healthy, and emotionally intelligent.
Don’t lie to them.
Don’t neglect them.
Don’t dismiss their feelings.
Don’t guilt-trip or manipulate them.
Don’t plant seeds of hatred in their hearts.
Don’t teach them to be hateful or disrespectful.
Remember, they look up to you, they observe you, and they will remember everything.
Eventually, your children will recognize the healthy and unhealthy patterns you’ve taught them.
Don’t let them carry your pain, worries, or traumas. It’s not their responsibility to fix them for you.
Raise them to be healthy and stress-free as much as you can. Teach them how to fear Allah, how to manage their emotions, fix conflicts, build self-love and confidence, and avoid unnecessary drama.
Parenting pays off. The reward is seeing them grow up kind, respectful, religious, mentally healthy, and emotionally intelligent.
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1. The children are at home . Take charge of your kitchen .
2. You say that you can do anything and everything for your children
3. No child needs a weak parent
4. Start doing everything by not buying processed food for your children
5. Start doing everything by buy real food. Food comes from the soil and animals
6. Start doing everything by packing your kitchen with whole and nutrients dense food
7. Start doing everything by cooking healthy foods
8. Start doing everything by using the right cooking ware. Don't use Non- Stick
9. Start doing everything by using the right cooking oils
10. Start doing everything by walking , stretching and lifting weights
11. Start doing everything by not taking alcohol and smoking
12. Start doing everything by encouraging your children to walk barefoot and lead by example
13. Start doing everything by not stocking antibiotics and painkillers in your house. Never abuse drugs
14. In the next 20, 15 ,10 or 5 years you shall hit 50.
15. You can choose to be a strong 50 year old parent or a 50 weak parent struggling with diabetes and dialysis.
16. The rule of the thumb remains that if it comes in a package , there is 99% chance that it's not healthy.
17. If you can do everything and anything for your children, start now by practicing a healthy lifestyle
2. You say that you can do anything and everything for your children
3. No child needs a weak parent
4. Start doing everything by not buying processed food for your children
5. Start doing everything by buy real food. Food comes from the soil and animals
6. Start doing everything by packing your kitchen with whole and nutrients dense food
7. Start doing everything by cooking healthy foods
8. Start doing everything by using the right cooking ware. Don't use Non- Stick
9. Start doing everything by using the right cooking oils
10. Start doing everything by walking , stretching and lifting weights
11. Start doing everything by not taking alcohol and smoking
12. Start doing everything by encouraging your children to walk barefoot and lead by example
13. Start doing everything by not stocking antibiotics and painkillers in your house. Never abuse drugs
14. In the next 20, 15 ,10 or 5 years you shall hit 50.
15. You can choose to be a strong 50 year old parent or a 50 weak parent struggling with diabetes and dialysis.
16. The rule of the thumb remains that if it comes in a package , there is 99% chance that it's not healthy.
17. If you can do everything and anything for your children, start now by practicing a healthy lifestyle
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"Value your future children's tarbiyah over momentary loneliness."
Meaning
... be careful who you marry. Take into consideration when looking for a spouse the future of your children. Good soil produces good fruits. Do not rush into marriage because of loneliness but really look into the person's deen and character.
Meaning
... be careful who you marry. Take into consideration when looking for a spouse the future of your children. Good soil produces good fruits. Do not rush into marriage because of loneliness but really look into the person's deen and character.
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Sh. ʿAbdur-Razzāq al-Badr Hafiẓahullāh said:
“From the GREATEST forms of kindness towards parents (Birr al-Wālidayn) is to make DŪʿĀ for (Allāh's) Mercy and Forgiveness upon them — be they alive or dead — with the condition that they are or were Muslims..”
● [فقه الأدعية والأذكار ٢/٢٤٠]
“From the GREATEST forms of kindness towards parents (Birr al-Wālidayn) is to make DŪʿĀ for (Allāh's) Mercy and Forgiveness upon them — be they alive or dead — with the condition that they are or were Muslims..”
● [فقه الأدعية والأذكار ٢/٢٤٠]
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_Sayyiduna Anas رضي الله عنه reports that a man came to Rasulullah ﷺ and said:_
_“I wish to participate in Jihad, but I cannot afford it”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ enquired if any of his parents were alive,* _to which he said: “Yes! My mother is alive”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ said: “Show Allah how you serve her. If you do so (duly) you will be like a: Haji, a Mu’tamir (one doing ‘Umrah) and a Mujaahid (One striving in Allah’s way).”*
*_(Abu Ya’la, Hadith: 2760)_*
_“I wish to participate in Jihad, but I cannot afford it”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ enquired if any of his parents were alive,* _to which he said: “Yes! My mother is alive”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ said: “Show Allah how you serve her. If you do so (duly) you will be like a: Haji, a Mu’tamir (one doing ‘Umrah) and a Mujaahid (One striving in Allah’s way).”*
*_(Abu Ya’la, Hadith: 2760)_*
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It's important to realise that as parents and siblings you must refrain from mentioning your child's or sibling's flaws to others especially their inlaws. This causes lot of embarassment to your child or sibling. How would you feel if your flaws, embarassing moments were shared with others? This is a prevalent issue in some culture. No one has the right to cross someone else's personal boundaries. No matter it's your own child, sibling or spouse. Donot mention the flaws of another person without a just cause (where it's necessary to disclose or in case of crime/abuse) no matter how close or stranger they are to you. Most often it's unnecessary because people just need something to talk or gossip about. Sometimes people gossip or backbite to bond with others and prove their friendliness, innocence or superiority. And what better way to kill their time and energy than to talk about someone's weak moments.
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