Forwarded from Ar-risaalah Publications
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How To Educate our Children
🖋️Shaykh Muhammad ibn Jameel Zaino
Translated by Dr Abdulilah Ibn Rabah Lahmami
How To Educate our Children
🖋️Shaykh Muhammad ibn Jameel Zaino
Translated by Dr Abdulilah Ibn Rabah Lahmami
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Forwarded from Ar-risaalah Publications
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رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا
Imām An-Nawawī رحمه الله said:
"The reason for the superiority of the mother (over the father) is due to her becoming tired in your account, her compassion, her serving you, suffering hardship while being pregnant with you, then giving birth to you, then suckling you, then bringing you up, serving you, nursing you and other things."
[شرح صحيح مسلم ١٧/٨٠]
Imām An-Nawawī رحمه الله said:
"The reason for the superiority of the mother (over the father) is due to her becoming tired in your account, her compassion, her serving you, suffering hardship while being pregnant with you, then giving birth to you, then suckling you, then bringing you up, serving you, nursing you and other things."
[شرح صحيح مسلم ١٧/٨٠]
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Its sad when u see little Muslim children who can sing songs but dont know to recite a Surah
Little girls who can tell u all about the latest fashion trends but dont know the purpose of Hijaab
Litts girls who know all about makeup & getting nails done but nothing about wudoo & haya
Little boys who can name celebrities & footy players but can't name any Sahaba or Prophet
Muslim kids who know the latest movies but dont know any story from the Quran
And when these kids become teenagers & go out at night, start taking drugs & run away
Do NOT blame anyone but YOUR PARENTING.
Instill the DEEN & TAWHEED in ur child from a young age for u will be questioned about them on Judgement Day
That is the key to their success.
Little girls who can tell u all about the latest fashion trends but dont know the purpose of Hijaab
Litts girls who know all about makeup & getting nails done but nothing about wudoo & haya
Little boys who can name celebrities & footy players but can't name any Sahaba or Prophet
Muslim kids who know the latest movies but dont know any story from the Quran
And when these kids become teenagers & go out at night, start taking drugs & run away
Do NOT blame anyone but YOUR PARENTING.
Instill the DEEN & TAWHEED in ur child from a young age for u will be questioned about them on Judgement Day
That is the key to their success.
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A woman entered upon 'A'isha with her two daughters, and 'A'isha gave the women three dates.
The woman gave each of her daughters a date, then she split the last one between her two daughters (and didn't eat anything herself).
'A'isha them told Allāh's Messenger about what happened.
He said: "Why are you surprised? She will enter paradise because of that!"
● {سنن ابن ماجة ٣٦٦٨}
The woman gave each of her daughters a date, then she split the last one between her two daughters (and didn't eat anything herself).
'A'isha them told Allāh's Messenger about what happened.
He said: "Why are you surprised? She will enter paradise because of that!"
● {سنن ابن ماجة ٣٦٦٨}
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One day, your children will figure you out.
Don’t lie to them.
Don’t neglect them.
Don’t dismiss their feelings.
Don’t guilt-trip or manipulate them.
Don’t plant seeds of hatred in their hearts.
Don’t teach them to be hateful or disrespectful.
Remember, they look up to you, they observe you, and they will remember everything.
Eventually, your children will recognize the healthy and unhealthy patterns you’ve taught them.
Don’t let them carry your pain, worries, or traumas. It’s not their responsibility to fix them for you.
Raise them to be healthy and stress-free as much as you can. Teach them how to fear Allah, how to manage their emotions, fix conflicts, build self-love and confidence, and avoid unnecessary drama.
Parenting pays off. The reward is seeing them grow up kind, respectful, religious, mentally healthy, and emotionally intelligent.
Don’t lie to them.
Don’t neglect them.
Don’t dismiss their feelings.
Don’t guilt-trip or manipulate them.
Don’t plant seeds of hatred in their hearts.
Don’t teach them to be hateful or disrespectful.
Remember, they look up to you, they observe you, and they will remember everything.
Eventually, your children will recognize the healthy and unhealthy patterns you’ve taught them.
Don’t let them carry your pain, worries, or traumas. It’s not their responsibility to fix them for you.
Raise them to be healthy and stress-free as much as you can. Teach them how to fear Allah, how to manage their emotions, fix conflicts, build self-love and confidence, and avoid unnecessary drama.
Parenting pays off. The reward is seeing them grow up kind, respectful, religious, mentally healthy, and emotionally intelligent.
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1. The children are at home . Take charge of your kitchen .
2. You say that you can do anything and everything for your children
3. No child needs a weak parent
4. Start doing everything by not buying processed food for your children
5. Start doing everything by buy real food. Food comes from the soil and animals
6. Start doing everything by packing your kitchen with whole and nutrients dense food
7. Start doing everything by cooking healthy foods
8. Start doing everything by using the right cooking ware. Don't use Non- Stick
9. Start doing everything by using the right cooking oils
10. Start doing everything by walking , stretching and lifting weights
11. Start doing everything by not taking alcohol and smoking
12. Start doing everything by encouraging your children to walk barefoot and lead by example
13. Start doing everything by not stocking antibiotics and painkillers in your house. Never abuse drugs
14. In the next 20, 15 ,10 or 5 years you shall hit 50.
15. You can choose to be a strong 50 year old parent or a 50 weak parent struggling with diabetes and dialysis.
16. The rule of the thumb remains that if it comes in a package , there is 99% chance that it's not healthy.
17. If you can do everything and anything for your children, start now by practicing a healthy lifestyle
2. You say that you can do anything and everything for your children
3. No child needs a weak parent
4. Start doing everything by not buying processed food for your children
5. Start doing everything by buy real food. Food comes from the soil and animals
6. Start doing everything by packing your kitchen with whole and nutrients dense food
7. Start doing everything by cooking healthy foods
8. Start doing everything by using the right cooking ware. Don't use Non- Stick
9. Start doing everything by using the right cooking oils
10. Start doing everything by walking , stretching and lifting weights
11. Start doing everything by not taking alcohol and smoking
12. Start doing everything by encouraging your children to walk barefoot and lead by example
13. Start doing everything by not stocking antibiotics and painkillers in your house. Never abuse drugs
14. In the next 20, 15 ,10 or 5 years you shall hit 50.
15. You can choose to be a strong 50 year old parent or a 50 weak parent struggling with diabetes and dialysis.
16. The rule of the thumb remains that if it comes in a package , there is 99% chance that it's not healthy.
17. If you can do everything and anything for your children, start now by practicing a healthy lifestyle
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"Value your future children's tarbiyah over momentary loneliness."
Meaning
... be careful who you marry. Take into consideration when looking for a spouse the future of your children. Good soil produces good fruits. Do not rush into marriage because of loneliness but really look into the person's deen and character.
Meaning
... be careful who you marry. Take into consideration when looking for a spouse the future of your children. Good soil produces good fruits. Do not rush into marriage because of loneliness but really look into the person's deen and character.
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Sh. ʿAbdur-Razzāq al-Badr Hafiẓahullāh said:
“From the GREATEST forms of kindness towards parents (Birr al-Wālidayn) is to make DŪʿĀ for (Allāh's) Mercy and Forgiveness upon them — be they alive or dead — with the condition that they are or were Muslims..”
● [فقه الأدعية والأذكار ٢/٢٤٠]
“From the GREATEST forms of kindness towards parents (Birr al-Wālidayn) is to make DŪʿĀ for (Allāh's) Mercy and Forgiveness upon them — be they alive or dead — with the condition that they are or were Muslims..”
● [فقه الأدعية والأذكار ٢/٢٤٠]
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_Sayyiduna Anas رضي الله عنه reports that a man came to Rasulullah ﷺ and said:_
_“I wish to participate in Jihad, but I cannot afford it”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ enquired if any of his parents were alive,* _to which he said: “Yes! My mother is alive”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ said: “Show Allah how you serve her. If you do so (duly) you will be like a: Haji, a Mu’tamir (one doing ‘Umrah) and a Mujaahid (One striving in Allah’s way).”*
*_(Abu Ya’la, Hadith: 2760)_*
_“I wish to participate in Jihad, but I cannot afford it”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ enquired if any of his parents were alive,* _to which he said: “Yes! My mother is alive”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ said: “Show Allah how you serve her. If you do so (duly) you will be like a: Haji, a Mu’tamir (one doing ‘Umrah) and a Mujaahid (One striving in Allah’s way).”*
*_(Abu Ya’la, Hadith: 2760)_*
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It's important to realise that as parents and siblings you must refrain from mentioning your child's or sibling's flaws to others especially their inlaws. This causes lot of embarassment to your child or sibling. How would you feel if your flaws, embarassing moments were shared with others? This is a prevalent issue in some culture. No one has the right to cross someone else's personal boundaries. No matter it's your own child, sibling or spouse. Donot mention the flaws of another person without a just cause (where it's necessary to disclose or in case of crime/abuse) no matter how close or stranger they are to you. Most often it's unnecessary because people just need something to talk or gossip about. Sometimes people gossip or backbite to bond with others and prove their friendliness, innocence or superiority. And what better way to kill their time and energy than to talk about someone's weak moments.
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Teach your children the Qur'ān! ⚠️
From the methods that will aid one in establishing the love for the Qur'ān in the heart of a child is the following :
1. Surround your child with the Qur'ān from the moment they are born. And this is done by the parents rectifying themselves initially and attaching their hearts to the Qur'ān, establishing a household in which the Qur'ān is constantly recited and played. And from the most important of this is the duty of the mother in this affair, as the children will spend majority of their day with her - so she herself must be amongst those who strive in memorising and reciting the Qur'ān.
“And the child memorizes whatever he encounters; and he does not forget, his heart is like a pure jewel.
So inscribe in his heart what you will of information, no doubt, he will retain it with his proficient memory.”
📖Book: My Sincere Advice to the Women by Umm ‘Abdillah Al-Waadi’iyyah pg. 109
2. Do not think your child is too young to be memorising. A child from the moment they begin to speak, have the ability to flourish and strive in memorising. It is not a must that a child completes the Qaaidah and must be able to read, rather from the best means in memorising is having the child listen ( either to you or a proficient reciter) and repeat after them.
3. As your child grows older, encourage independance in their hifdth. Allow them to memorise alone so that the love for the Qur'ān can be firmly established in their hearts and ask Allāh to aid you upon nurturing your child correctly.
4. Reward your child constantly for the portions they memorise and remind them of the high status of the carriers of the Qur'ān.
From the methods that will aid one in establishing the love for the Qur'ān in the heart of a child is the following :
1. Surround your child with the Qur'ān from the moment they are born. And this is done by the parents rectifying themselves initially and attaching their hearts to the Qur'ān, establishing a household in which the Qur'ān is constantly recited and played. And from the most important of this is the duty of the mother in this affair, as the children will spend majority of their day with her - so she herself must be amongst those who strive in memorising and reciting the Qur'ān.
“And the child memorizes whatever he encounters; and he does not forget, his heart is like a pure jewel.
So inscribe in his heart what you will of information, no doubt, he will retain it with his proficient memory.”
📖Book: My Sincere Advice to the Women by Umm ‘Abdillah Al-Waadi’iyyah pg. 109
2. Do not think your child is too young to be memorising. A child from the moment they begin to speak, have the ability to flourish and strive in memorising. It is not a must that a child completes the Qaaidah and must be able to read, rather from the best means in memorising is having the child listen ( either to you or a proficient reciter) and repeat after them.
3. As your child grows older, encourage independance in their hifdth. Allow them to memorise alone so that the love for the Qur'ān can be firmly established in their hearts and ask Allāh to aid you upon nurturing your child correctly.
4. Reward your child constantly for the portions they memorise and remind them of the high status of the carriers of the Qur'ān.
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Forwarded from الأخوات - The Sisters
If a mother never learns her religion, how can she teach the next generation? A woman is a school. If you teach her, you teach an entire generation.🤍
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✅ Allah the Almighty knows best.
Righteous Muslim parents generally bring up children with excellent manners who genuinely enjoy learning more about Islam or at least their offsprings and teenagers avoid bullying and disrupting others' peace; while parents who lack interest in being pious Muslims themselves typically raise kids who mistreat, bully, steal, gossip and disrespect other individuals frequently.
If you want to know a person's overall attitude and personality, observe how their child/children deal with people in general and their behavior towards you - are they kind and well-mannered or do most of their unbecoming acts and naughtiness bother you consistently?
Righteous Muslim parents generally bring up children with excellent manners who genuinely enjoy learning more about Islam or at least their offsprings and teenagers avoid bullying and disrupting others' peace; while parents who lack interest in being pious Muslims themselves typically raise kids who mistreat, bully, steal, gossip and disrespect other individuals frequently.
If you want to know a person's overall attitude and personality, observe how their child/children deal with people in general and their behavior towards you - are they kind and well-mannered or do most of their unbecoming acts and naughtiness bother you consistently?
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Choosing a good mother for your children is more important than choosing a beautiful wife for yourself. Choosing a good father for your children is important than choosing a rich husband for yourself.
Choose the honest, the kind, the truthful, those who defend Allah and His deen, those who love Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and his sunnah more than they love you.
Very few understand this.
And fewer practice this.
Choose the honest, the kind, the truthful, those who defend Allah and His deen, those who love Prophet Muhammad ﷺ and his sunnah more than they love you.
Very few understand this.
And fewer practice this.
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