Best way to repair a hematite ring?
A couple years ago, I bought myself a black hematite ring that I've been wearing as an ace ring. It's cracked and chipped over the years, but has stayed surprisingly durable up until today, when I accidentally dropped it onto the concrete. The ring is now in two pieces of roughly equal size.
The ring in question
Does anyone have any suggestions for a way to fix this, preferably beginner friendly? I know how to solder from work, but otherwise I'm not skilled in jewelry-making.
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A couple years ago, I bought myself a black hematite ring that I've been wearing as an ace ring. It's cracked and chipped over the years, but has stayed surprisingly durable up until today, when I accidentally dropped it onto the concrete. The ring is now in two pieces of roughly equal size.
The ring in question
Does anyone have any suggestions for a way to fix this, preferably beginner friendly? I know how to solder from work, but otherwise I'm not skilled in jewelry-making.
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Doctors have sex?!
About a year ago, before I realized I’m ace, I was watching a Dr. Mike video on YouTube when I realized that doctors have sex. Previously, I thought that they didn’t because of STDs and germs.
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About a year ago, before I realized I’m ace, I was watching a Dr. Mike video on YouTube when I realized that doctors have sex. Previously, I thought that they didn’t because of STDs and germs.
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Pride month is coming soon, so I have these jewelry pieces
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A call to arms
The trans community is in extreme danger in Utah. They have set up a hotline to dob on trans people. It is time to flood it, spam it was much as possible with whatever you want!
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The trans community is in extreme danger in Utah. They have set up a hotline to dob on trans people. It is time to flood it, spam it was much as possible with whatever you want!
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What are some characters you head cannon as ace? I’ll go 1st.
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Aesthetic attraction experience - appreciating people's beauty and other stuff
I've only learned about all of the different types of attractions thoroughly a few years back and it's saved me so much stress.
For a while I was confused because I knew I was asexual and aromantic, I just had no idea why I still found people attractive. Until I found out about all of the types of attractions which helped me immensely and I've felt a huge weight come off my shoulders. It helps me organise it all so well in my head, can't imagine living without without this knowledge.
Years of pushing myself to go into relationships just because I found someone pretty is insane and I'm glad it's behind me. I was just so full of aesthetic attraction and had no idea how to let it out or express it. To me there's just something beautiful about everyone (who's not like... A bad person), I can find something precious about almost anyone.
2 years ago I finally let my aesthetic attraction go wild and started giving people more compliments, knowing I don't have to out myself through overthinking and torture and pushing myself to get into a relationship ever again. It made me less stressed and more confident and my social anxiety got so much better. People are just pretty and it makes me happy and that's all there is to it.
I just wish the differences in all the attraction types were taught or at least mentioned in schools. It's insane how far behind education is overall, but that's a different conversation.
If it helps out anyone at all here's the list of all the attractions, who knows maybe it'll help you differentiate all the things you're feeling and make you feel more valid and confident in who you are:
• Sexual attraction
• Romantic attraction
• Physical attraction - Aesthetic attraction
• Sensual attraction
• Emotional attraction
• Professional attraction
• Intellectual attraction
• Spiritual attraction
• Familial bond/connection
And I think these are especially so important for us aces, I feel like some allos only knows that family, romance, platonic friendships and sex are important socially, but there's so much more to it. We're not emotionless robots, but if you ARE honestly... slay, I've nothing against you either, you're probably cool as hell too.
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I've only learned about all of the different types of attractions thoroughly a few years back and it's saved me so much stress.
For a while I was confused because I knew I was asexual and aromantic, I just had no idea why I still found people attractive. Until I found out about all of the types of attractions which helped me immensely and I've felt a huge weight come off my shoulders. It helps me organise it all so well in my head, can't imagine living without without this knowledge.
Years of pushing myself to go into relationships just because I found someone pretty is insane and I'm glad it's behind me. I was just so full of aesthetic attraction and had no idea how to let it out or express it. To me there's just something beautiful about everyone (who's not like... A bad person), I can find something precious about almost anyone.
2 years ago I finally let my aesthetic attraction go wild and started giving people more compliments, knowing I don't have to out myself through overthinking and torture and pushing myself to get into a relationship ever again. It made me less stressed and more confident and my social anxiety got so much better. People are just pretty and it makes me happy and that's all there is to it.
I just wish the differences in all the attraction types were taught or at least mentioned in schools. It's insane how far behind education is overall, but that's a different conversation.
If it helps out anyone at all here's the list of all the attractions, who knows maybe it'll help you differentiate all the things you're feeling and make you feel more valid and confident in who you are:
• Sexual attraction
• Romantic attraction
• Physical attraction - Aesthetic attraction
• Sensual attraction
• Emotional attraction
• Professional attraction
• Intellectual attraction
• Spiritual attraction
• Familial bond/connection
And I think these are especially so important for us aces, I feel like some allos only knows that family, romance, platonic friendships and sex are important socially, but there's so much more to it. We're not emotionless robots, but if you ARE honestly... slay, I've nothing against you either, you're probably cool as hell too.
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I thought it was attraction but it was just curiosity.
I just like to try things before I decide if I like it or not and so far eh. I still haven't tried being with a woman which is supposed to be the PEAK of sexual experiences according to most guys so maybe I'll change then but even my partner sees me liking it and fading out of it like I did with him which I totally see.
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I just like to try things before I decide if I like it or not and so far eh. I still haven't tried being with a woman which is supposed to be the PEAK of sexual experiences according to most guys so maybe I'll change then but even my partner sees me liking it and fading out of it like I did with him which I totally see.
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Found out my partner is asexual
I am male and my partner is female. We have been married for 4 years. My partner is an incredible person. She is the smartest person I've met. She helped me through grad school. When we first got together we used to be very sexually active. After about a year it began it fade. At first I thought it was because I was in school and because of covid. But once I finished school it never picked back up. More often than not when I would initiate She would tell me she wasn't in the mood. This would lead to stretches of up to 6 months in between sexual encounters.
Last night I tried to do something big to set the mood. I used the things and outfit I knew she liked. As soon as I tried to initiate after setting it up she just said no and I was crest fallen. I took down every thing but was clearly upset and we talked. She eventually told me that in the beginning of our relationship she kept having sex because she felt that's what you were suppossed to do and once we got married she didn't feel the need to as much anymore. This makes her sound much more heartless than how she said it. She was very upset, she clearly had bene hanging onto this for years and didn't want to tell me this but I had been bringing up for the past several years how maybe we needed to see a counselor to help reinvigorate our sex drive.
I don't know what to do. I love this woman. I also have a very very high libido. I really thought that if I was just patient and gave her space and we talked about it we would be able to reclaim our past sexual relationship so the long periods didn't bother me as much before. Now I've just learned that it was never a real drive to begin with. I don't know what to do. I want to stay with this person but sex gives me a strong connection to her.
Idk if there is medication thst lowers sex drive or what. Are there any success stories for high libido and ace couples? Are we going to just drive each other mad?
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I am male and my partner is female. We have been married for 4 years. My partner is an incredible person. She is the smartest person I've met. She helped me through grad school. When we first got together we used to be very sexually active. After about a year it began it fade. At first I thought it was because I was in school and because of covid. But once I finished school it never picked back up. More often than not when I would initiate She would tell me she wasn't in the mood. This would lead to stretches of up to 6 months in between sexual encounters.
Last night I tried to do something big to set the mood. I used the things and outfit I knew she liked. As soon as I tried to initiate after setting it up she just said no and I was crest fallen. I took down every thing but was clearly upset and we talked. She eventually told me that in the beginning of our relationship she kept having sex because she felt that's what you were suppossed to do and once we got married she didn't feel the need to as much anymore. This makes her sound much more heartless than how she said it. She was very upset, she clearly had bene hanging onto this for years and didn't want to tell me this but I had been bringing up for the past several years how maybe we needed to see a counselor to help reinvigorate our sex drive.
I don't know what to do. I love this woman. I also have a very very high libido. I really thought that if I was just patient and gave her space and we talked about it we would be able to reclaim our past sexual relationship so the long periods didn't bother me as much before. Now I've just learned that it was never a real drive to begin with. I don't know what to do. I want to stay with this person but sex gives me a strong connection to her.
Idk if there is medication thst lowers sex drive or what. Are there any success stories for high libido and ace couples? Are we going to just drive each other mad?
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Psych Evaluation (Ace Edition)
Hey friends, today I’m going to share with y’all the really fucked up aphobia in my psych eval. Consider that your content warning.
So, I had to get a psych eval for a job. Very standard for this particular job and this is a “ten full pages of analysis” kind of psych eval with a psychiatrist.
Everything was going along smoothly until we got to the sex part of the interview. She asks what my orientation is and I said “asexual”. She responds with the question “so, celibate?”. I sigh inwardly and launch into “Canned explanation of Asexuality #4: why asexuality is not celibacy”. I’m rather annoyed at this point because the APA recognizes asexuality and I really don’t feel like I should have to explain this to someone with a doctorate and license from the APA, but hey, we all have our growing edges. So we move on with the interview and I think everything is fine.
Fast forward to seeing the results (the job has a standing policy of letting applicants also see their results). This woman, no joke, spent a full page going on this wild rant about how my lack of sexual attraction was clearly the result of trauma that I suffered in my early teens that had paused my emotional development. That while I expressed a desire for a partner for “companionship, support, and affection” that I had no desire for a “mature, adult relationship and intimacy”. And that my desire for a relationship sans sex was “naive and unrealistic”. She then went on to heavily imply that I would need “close adult supervision around any children” as they would be “on about the same emotional level” and to prevent me from “finding my life partner in a child”. She was at least kind enough to follow that up with a line about how I had “NOT (her all caps) exhibited any warning signs of predatory behavior” so thanks for that I guess.
She then went on this whole thing about how I “refused to identify the genders of my previous romantic partners” which no? I think she was referencing the fact that I used the terms “partner” and “SO” instead of “boyfriend/girlfriend”. She definitely never asked their genders. But she said that I needed to continue therapy to “deal with my issues around my sexual orientation” so I’m pretty sure she was implying I’m gay and in denial or something.
So yeah, that’s how my day is going, how’re y’all doing?
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Hey friends, today I’m going to share with y’all the really fucked up aphobia in my psych eval. Consider that your content warning.
So, I had to get a psych eval for a job. Very standard for this particular job and this is a “ten full pages of analysis” kind of psych eval with a psychiatrist.
Everything was going along smoothly until we got to the sex part of the interview. She asks what my orientation is and I said “asexual”. She responds with the question “so, celibate?”. I sigh inwardly and launch into “Canned explanation of Asexuality #4: why asexuality is not celibacy”. I’m rather annoyed at this point because the APA recognizes asexuality and I really don’t feel like I should have to explain this to someone with a doctorate and license from the APA, but hey, we all have our growing edges. So we move on with the interview and I think everything is fine.
Fast forward to seeing the results (the job has a standing policy of letting applicants also see their results). This woman, no joke, spent a full page going on this wild rant about how my lack of sexual attraction was clearly the result of trauma that I suffered in my early teens that had paused my emotional development. That while I expressed a desire for a partner for “companionship, support, and affection” that I had no desire for a “mature, adult relationship and intimacy”. And that my desire for a relationship sans sex was “naive and unrealistic”. She then went on to heavily imply that I would need “close adult supervision around any children” as they would be “on about the same emotional level” and to prevent me from “finding my life partner in a child”. She was at least kind enough to follow that up with a line about how I had “NOT (her all caps) exhibited any warning signs of predatory behavior” so thanks for that I guess.
She then went on this whole thing about how I “refused to identify the genders of my previous romantic partners” which no? I think she was referencing the fact that I used the terms “partner” and “SO” instead of “boyfriend/girlfriend”. She definitely never asked their genders. But she said that I needed to continue therapy to “deal with my issues around my sexual orientation” so I’m pretty sure she was implying I’m gay and in denial or something.
So yeah, that’s how my day is going, how’re y’all doing?
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what hobbies have captivated you more than sex ever could?
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question?
okay okay SO. uhm, if i enjoy partaking in reading suggestive fanfiction in between two fictional characters, but i don't like it when it comes to myself, what am i? 😅😅😅
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okay okay SO. uhm, if i enjoy partaking in reading suggestive fanfiction in between two fictional characters, but i don't like it when it comes to myself, what am i? 😅😅😅
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