society
"i think part of the issue is people assuming that everyone MUST want to move upwards. like... its the next logical step for a person to want to move up the chain from worker to manager, to district manager, eventually owner.
but i always think of growth like plants.
aspens grow tall to reach the sun, for sure. but dandelions grow deep, understanding themselves fully so that if some misguided fool tries to uproot them they'll have to try damn hard. and then there's thyme and other creeping plants, which spread themselves out so much that if you try to chop a part of it off it roots wherever it can find dirt to root in
its okay not to have lofty dreams. you know what kind of plant you are better than anyone else"
"i think part of the issue is people assuming that everyone MUST want to move upwards. like... its the next logical step for a person to want to move up the chain from worker to manager, to district manager, eventually owner.
but i always think of growth like plants.
aspens grow tall to reach the sun, for sure. but dandelions grow deep, understanding themselves fully so that if some misguided fool tries to uproot them they'll have to try damn hard. and then there's thyme and other creeping plants, which spread themselves out so much that if you try to chop a part of it off it roots wherever it can find dirt to root in
its okay not to have lofty dreams. you know what kind of plant you are better than anyone else"
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self compassion, drugs, chronic illness, tumblr werewolves
"easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car
[...]
look, everyone's going to tell you not to do drugs. they're going to say it over and over again. and its like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you're going to think of a white elephant. but the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon
[...]
the thing you practice is the thing you get good at
you may not intentionally be practicing "being grumpy" but"
"easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car
[...]
look, everyone's going to tell you not to do drugs. they're going to say it over and over again. and its like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you're going to think of a white elephant. but the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon
[...]
the thing you practice is the thing you get good at
you may not intentionally be practicing "being grumpy" but"
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lgbt, self compassion, impostor syndrome, labels
"idk what ace person needs to hear this but
having intrusive thoughts about sexual things does not mean you are faking it ir "secretely allosexual".
intrusive thoughts are intrusive thoughts because they are stressful and unwanted. allosexual people arent tortured by their normal sexual thoughts"
["ace" being short for "asexual". can also be applied to things other than sexualities]
"idk what ace person needs to hear this but
having intrusive thoughts about sexual things does not mean you are faking it ir "secretely allosexual".
intrusive thoughts are intrusive thoughts because they are stressful and unwanted. allosexual people arent tortured by their normal sexual thoughts"
["ace" being short for "asexual". can also be applied to things other than sexualities]
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the first post of today, in an hour from now (12:01), will be arguably nsfw. there wont be any explicit content (as it is only text), but consider not opening it in front of people who you dont feel like getting questions from
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sexuality, nsfw
"orgasms are great but they can make sex goal oriented & create unnecessary pressure"
"orgasms are great but they can make sex goal oriented & create unnecessary pressure"
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anxiety, parenting, socialization
"the worst trick a childhood anxiety disorder pulls is, you spend your early years being applauded for being so much more mature than your peers, because you arent disruptive, you dont want any kind of attention, you dont express yourself [...] but you're actually way behind your peers in normal social development
[...]
convenient children do not equal healthy children"
"the worst trick a childhood anxiety disorder pulls is, you spend your early years being applauded for being so much more mature than your peers, because you arent disruptive, you dont want any kind of attention, you dont express yourself [...] but you're actually way behind your peers in normal social development
[...]
convenient children do not equal healthy children"
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boundaries, socialization, trauma
"agreeing to things just to keep the peace is actually a trauma response. when you do this you're disrespecting your boundaries. no more making yourself uncomfortable for others comfortability. you have control now. you run your life. take up space and use your voice"
"agreeing to things just to keep the peace is actually a trauma response. when you do this you're disrespecting your boundaries. no more making yourself uncomfortable for others comfortability. you have control now. you run your life. take up space and use your voice"
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