society

"i think part of the issue is people assuming that everyone MUST want to move upwards. like... its the next logical step for a person to want to move up the chain from worker to manager, to district manager, eventually owner.

but i always think of growth like plants.

aspens grow tall to reach the sun, for sure. but dandelions grow deep, understanding themselves fully so that if some misguided fool tries to uproot them they'll have to try damn hard. and then there's thyme and other creeping plants, which spread themselves out so much that if you try to chop a part of it off it roots wherever it can find dirt to root in

its okay not to have lofty dreams. you know what kind of plant you are better than anyone else"

self compassion, drugs, chronic illness, tumblr werewolves

"easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car
[...]
look, everyone's going to tell you not to do drugs. they're going to say it over and over again. and its like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you're going to think of a white elephant. but the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon
[...]
the thing you practice is the thing you get good at
you may not intentionally be practicing "being grumpy" but"

parenting

"when people say "you were such a good kid growing up" it means "you expressed no needs and did as you were told" "

growth, socialization

"how to forgive

forgiveness is
taking the knife out of your back
and not using it
to hurt anyone else"

growth, healing

"you've changed.
i'd hope so."

socialization, relationships

"i think we subconsciously undervalue platonic love and intimacy from our friends bc society puts so much emphasis on finding and having romantic love. like idk about you but i wouldnt be shit without the unending love and support of my friends"

self compassion, mental health

" "diamonds are formed under pressure"

and bread dough rises when you let it rest
[...]
the same boiling water that softens the potato will harden the egg"

self compassion

"forgive yourself for what you did in survival mode"

socialization, feelings, relationships, parenting,

"just because your feelings are valid, this doesnt mean that every possible reaction to them is"

lgbt, self compassion, impostor syndrome, labels

"idk what ace person needs to hear this but

having intrusive thoughts about sexual things does not mean you are faking it ir "secretely allosexual".

intrusive thoughts are intrusive thoughts because they are stressful and unwanted. allosexual people arent tortured by their normal sexual thoughts"

["ace" being short for "asexual". can also be applied to things other than sexualities]

lgbt

"idk what young transmasc needs to hear this but you're allowed to transition to look like a feminine man"

the first post of today, in an hour from now (12:01), will be arguably nsfw. there wont be any explicit content (as it is only text), but consider not opening it in front of people who you dont feel like getting questions from

anxiety, parenting, socialization

"the worst trick a childhood anxiety disorder pulls is, you spend your early years being applauded for being so much more mature than your peers, because you arent disruptive, you dont want any kind of attention, you dont express yourself [...] but you're actually way behind your peers in normal social development
[...]
convenient children do not equal healthy children"

boundaries, socialization, trauma

"agreeing to things just to keep the peace is actually a trauma response. when you do this you're disrespecting your boundaries. no more making yourself uncomfortable for others comfortability. you have control now. you run your life. take up space and use your voice"

self compassion, socialization

"its easy to always want to show up for eveyone else
but its really important to show up for yourself as well"

invisible problems, socialization, animals

"it costs you literally nothing to leave service dogs the fuck alone"

body, chronic illness, invisible problems

"abled people: can you do the thing??

disabled people: ...technically yes BUT"

lgbt, binding, body, invisible problems, chronic illness, socialization

"no offense but can ya'll like also normalize trans guys that DONT bind. like there's guys who dont want to, choose not to because of the risks, and guys who CANT because of medical reasons. not every trans dude is wearing a binder 24/7 and some dont ever"

society, discrimination, minorities, socialization, mental health

"wow living as a person with a yellow head sure is cool

kill yourself' you're yellow
since i am human, my mental state worsens due to abuse

5 months later
see, this study says that people with yellow heads are more likely to be depressed. that means its inherent to them being yellow. we should bleach their heads even if it meant death for them

i've never seen a person with a yellow head so i will agree"