Live With Women Honorably

Allah said,
وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

(And live with them honorably), by saying kind words to them, treating them kindly and making your appearance appealing for them, as much as you can, just as you like the same from them. Allah said in another Ayah,

وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ

(And they have rights similar over them to what is reasonable) [2:228]. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said,

خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ، وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِي

(The best among you is he who is the best with his family. Verily, I am the best one among you with my family.)

It was the practice of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ to be kind, cheerful, playful with his wives, compassionate, spending on them and laughing with them. The Messenger ﷺ used to race with 'A'ishah, the Mother of the Faithful, as a means of kindness to her. 'A'ishah said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ raced with me and I won the race. This occurred before I gained weight, and afterwards I raced with him again, and he won that race. He said,

هذِهِ بِتِلْكَ

(This [victory] is for that [victory].)" When the Prophet ﷺ was at the home of one of his wives, sometimes all of his wives would meet there and eat together, and they would then go back to their homes. He and his wife would sleep in the same bed, he would remove his upper garment, sleeping in only his lower garment. The Prophet ﷺ used to talk to the wife whose night it was, after praying 'Isha' and before he went to sleep. Allah said,

لَّقَدْ كَانَ لَكُمْ فِي رَسُولِ اللَّهِ أُسْوَةٌ حَسَنَةٌ

(Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have a good example to follow) [33:21]. Allah said,

فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَىٰ أَن تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا

(If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.)

Allah says that your patience, which is demonstrated by keeping wives whom you dislike, carries good rewards for you in this life and the Hereafter. Ibn 'Abbas commented on this Ayah, "That the husband may feel compassion towards his wife and Allah gives him a child with her, and this child carries tremendous goodness." An authentic Hadith states,

لَا يَفْرَكْ مُؤْمِنٌ مُؤْمِنَةً، إِنْ سَخِطَ مِنْهَا خُلُقًا، رَضِيَ مِنْهَا آخَرَ

(No believing man should hate his believing wife. If he dislikes a part of her conduct, he would surely like another.)

[Tafseer Ibn Katheer]

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It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (رضي الله عنه) that the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: “There are seven whom Allāh will shade with His shade on the Day when there will be no shade but His…” among whom he mentioned, “a young man who grew up worshipping Allāh.”
[Bukhaari, Muslim]

Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali (رحمه الله) said:

Whoever is mindful of Allāh when he is young & strong, Allāh will take care of him when he is old & has become weak, & will bless him with good hearing, eyesight, strength & reasoning. One of the scholars who lived beyond the age of one hundred years & enjoyed good strength & reasoning, jumped up in a lively manner one day & was asked about that. He said: “I kept these physical faculties from sin when I was young & Allāh has preserved them for me now that I am old.” The opposite also applies; one of the salaf saw an old man begging from people and said: “This is a weak man who ignored Allāh when he was young, so Allāh is ignoring him now he has grown old.”

[Jaami 'Uloom Wal Hikam]

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⬆️ Very important reminder from the Shaykh (حفظه الله) that many brothers are negligent of and pay no heed to.

In the story of the Ifk (slander) of A'isha (رضي الله عنها), the Sahabi who found her in the desert, Safwan ibn Mu'attal (رضي الله عنه), refrained from speaking a word to her while being in private with her, out of fear of Allah and respect to the honor of Prophet ﷺ. Instead, he alerted her to his coming with words of Dhikr only, because she was The Prophet's ﷺ wife and he had no right to be speaking to another mans wife.

Today you have Muslim brothers who, aside from lacking fear of Allah, they have no respect to the honor of their brothers in Islam, and will willingly and knowingly message their sisters, daughters, and wives, seeking to exchange words with them in private. Fear Allah and respect the honor of your brothers in Islam.

"One of the hardest things for a truly honorable man or honorable woman is for someone to come and talk about his wife. That's the hardest thing. You could kill someone, or kill his brother....you could get over that, but talking about a man's honor is one of the hardest things he goes through. This is a lesson for us. This is a lesson for the Du'aat. When The Prophet—and HE, who is He ﷺ— and HIS honor gets talked about, who are you?"

— Shaykh Ahmad Musa Jibril حفظه الله

"She [Maryam عليها السلام] went through agony, this woman, a woman by herself, no relatives, she had no one except Allah. She went through the agony of everyone accusing her honor. The biggest thing that anyone could do to a woman, a pious woman is accuse her honor. You could kill all her relatives, you could probably kill her. But a pious woman, the hardest thing on her is to hear of someone talking about her honor."

— Shaykh Ahmad Musa Jibril حفظه الله

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Shaykh Ahmad Musa Jibril حفظه الله narrates:

"He got to an area where there's water. He found a large group of people fighting over the water, crowding over the water. And he saw on the side, two women, refusing to approach the crowd. This isn't just a story. This is to tell you how pious women are, how shy they are. A woman doesn't go in the crowd and push people around and get water for herself. The pious women wait. They're waiting over there. Until Musa asked her "what's your situation?" Why are you over here and everyone's over there. They said:

قَالَتَا لَا نَسْقِى حَتَّىٰ يُصْدِرَ ٱلرِّعَآءُ ۖ

"They said, "We do not water until the shepherds dispatch [their flocks]"

"We don't go in this crowd until everyone goes and disperses, then we'll go." Musa got jealous. This is the characteristics of a man. When he sees his sisters degraded, when he sees their honor degraded, when he hears of them raped, when he hears of them killed, when he hears of them being burned alive, he doesn't say "it's not my business"! he does what Musa عليه السلام did, what did Musa عليه السلام do? He went to the well and pushed everyone aside and he bought the water for them and said go on your way. Then he goes back under the tree. He didn't do that and say "Ah insha'Allah in the future she's gonna marry me, she's gonna fall in love with me." That wasn't something he did. He said:

رَبِّ إِنِّى لِمَآ أَنزَلْتَ إِلَىَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيرٌ

"My Lord, indeed I am, for whatever good You would send down to me, in need."

Oh Allah I'm poor, all that you give me I'm still a poor person, a very weak person. He sitting under that tree, and again, Allah mentioned that same woman coming to him عَلَى ٱسْتِحْيَآءٍ. There's not a single word that comes in the Qur'an out of context, Allah doesn't mention a word in there just to you know make the story more humorous or nice to listen to

فَجَآءَتْهُ إِحْدَىٰهُمَا تَمْشِى عَلَى ٱسْتِحْيَآءٍ

"Then one of the two women came to him walking with shyness."

she's shy.

قَالَتْ إِنَّ أَبِى يَدْعُوكَ لِيَجْزِيَكَ أَجْرَ مَا سَقَيْتَ لَنَا

"She said, "Indeed, my father invites you that he may reward you for having watered for us."

my father calls you..... Look at the pious men how they walk, when they walk with women. He told her "walk behind me." Look at this, look at what extent he went to. He said walk behind me and every time you want me to go the left or to the right you throw a stone to the left or to the right and I'll know the direction we need to go to."

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