A BROTHER'S VIEW ON POLYGANY AFTER SEEING WIDOW WOMAN'S SUITATION.
I am a 21-year-old Muslim brother with the desire to marry and take care of multiple wives, in shaa Allah. I want to share what inspired this decision and seek advice from Muslim brothers and sisters who are already in such marriages.
Back in 2020, during the lockdown, I was 16 years old. One day, my elder sister and I were sitting on the sofa, having a good time, when a sister, around 30 years old, entered our home. My sister was aware of her visit, but I wasn’t. The visitor looked completely worn out—her hair was messy, she had dark circles, and her outfit looked dull.
Wanting to show some hospitality, I went to the kitchen and brought her some biscuits and juice. When she saw me, she hugged me tightly, held my hands, and showed affection like a mother or an elder sister. After she left, I asked my sister who she was.
My sister explained:
“When you were born, this sister was our neighbor. She was like an elder sister to us and often came over to help take care of you when our mother was out. But the next year, she got married very young and had two children shortly after. Her husband, however, suffered from some illnesses, and after 8-9 years of marriage, he passed away, leaving her widowed with two young kids. Since then, she has been living a very difficult life. Her children, still young, work as mechanics to support the family, and she works as a maid to ensure her kids get an education. Alhamdulillah, I also contribute to her monthly expenses.”
Hearing this, I asked my sister, “Why didn’t she remarry?”
She replied, “Who would marry a widow like her? Most men aren't capable and Most women wouldn’t allow their husbands to take care of a woman like that, and society doesn’t accept it as normal.”
This response struck me deeply. From that moment on, I decided that if Allah grants me physical, mental, and financial strength, in shaa Allah, I will marry multiple women and care for them to the best of my ability. I want to protect, provide for, and support such women in every way possible.
May Allah keep me steadfast in this intention. Aameen.
I am a 21-year-old Muslim brother with the desire to marry and take care of multiple wives, in shaa Allah. I want to share what inspired this decision and seek advice from Muslim brothers and sisters who are already in such marriages.
Back in 2020, during the lockdown, I was 16 years old. One day, my elder sister and I were sitting on the sofa, having a good time, when a sister, around 30 years old, entered our home. My sister was aware of her visit, but I wasn’t. The visitor looked completely worn out—her hair was messy, she had dark circles, and her outfit looked dull.
Wanting to show some hospitality, I went to the kitchen and brought her some biscuits and juice. When she saw me, she hugged me tightly, held my hands, and showed affection like a mother or an elder sister. After she left, I asked my sister who she was.
My sister explained:
“When you were born, this sister was our neighbor. She was like an elder sister to us and often came over to help take care of you when our mother was out. But the next year, she got married very young and had two children shortly after. Her husband, however, suffered from some illnesses, and after 8-9 years of marriage, he passed away, leaving her widowed with two young kids. Since then, she has been living a very difficult life. Her children, still young, work as mechanics to support the family, and she works as a maid to ensure her kids get an education. Alhamdulillah, I also contribute to her monthly expenses.”
Hearing this, I asked my sister, “Why didn’t she remarry?”
She replied, “Who would marry a widow like her? Most men aren't capable and Most women wouldn’t allow their husbands to take care of a woman like that, and society doesn’t accept it as normal.”
This response struck me deeply. From that moment on, I decided that if Allah grants me physical, mental, and financial strength, in shaa Allah, I will marry multiple women and care for them to the best of my ability. I want to protect, provide for, and support such women in every way possible.
May Allah keep me steadfast in this intention. Aameen.
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Among all the nasty things we see every day, this is just a little scene that I witnessed today and it made me happy and hopeful.
A little girl (around 9-10 y/o) going back home in her school van and reading Quran.
I blurred her face for obvious reasons but her parents are doing a good job! 👏🏼
Mashallah!
A little girl (around 9-10 y/o) going back home in her school van and reading Quran.
I blurred her face for obvious reasons but her parents are doing a good job! 👏🏼
Mashallah!
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Say Alhamdulillah when ur yr 6 child graduates primary school
Say Alhamdulillah when ur yr 12 teenager graduates from high school.
But dressing ur young Muslimah daughter in a tiny short dress, putting makeup on her & getting hair done
And sending her to a HARAAM GRADUATION party with full music, free mixing...
Is this how u thank Allah for looking after ur child by helping them in SINNING? teaching them to PARTY?
Dont for a MOMENT think that Allah won't question u about u allowing ur child in going to such HARAM farewell parties.
And dont be surprised if one day ur child goes to clubbing because u had showed them the way!
Say Alhamdulillah when ur yr 12 teenager graduates from high school.
But dressing ur young Muslimah daughter in a tiny short dress, putting makeup on her & getting hair done
And sending her to a HARAAM GRADUATION party with full music, free mixing...
Is this how u thank Allah for looking after ur child by helping them in SINNING? teaching them to PARTY?
Dont for a MOMENT think that Allah won't question u about u allowing ur child in going to such HARAM farewell parties.
And dont be surprised if one day ur child goes to clubbing because u had showed them the way!
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*Parents 🫀🫀*
Mu’adh ibn Anas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Blessed is one who is good to his parents. Allah Almighty will extend his lifespan.”
Source: al-Adab al-Mufrad lil-Bukhārī 22
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
عَنْ معاذ بن أنس قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ بَرَّ وَالِدَيْهِ طُوبَى لَهُ زَادَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فِي عُمْرِهِ
22 الأدب المفرد للبخاري باب من بر والديه زاد الله في عمره
8541 المحدث السيوطي خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في الجامع الصغير
Mu’adh ibn Anas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Blessed is one who is good to his parents. Allah Almighty will extend his lifespan.”
Source: al-Adab al-Mufrad lil-Bukhārī 22
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Suyuti
عَنْ معاذ بن أنس قَالَ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ بَرَّ وَالِدَيْهِ طُوبَى لَهُ زَادَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فِي عُمْرِهِ
22 الأدب المفرد للبخاري باب من بر والديه زاد الله في عمره
8541 المحدث السيوطي خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في الجامع الصغير
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Forwarded from Authentic Duas
What To Say If Afflicted With Evil Eye
There are many words or remembrance (Adhkār) and supplications found in the Sunnah for one to say if afflicted with evil eye and protection from it. Any of the following can be said:
1 – Recite Sūrah Fātihah and blow on the place of pain - Bukhārī (2276)
2 – Recite Sūrah Al-Ikhlās, Sūrah Al-Falaq and Sūrah An-Nās and blow into your hands and wipe over the body. – Bukhārī (5017).
3 - Place the hand on the place of pain and say the following supplications:
بِاسْمِ اللَّهِ
Bismillāh.
In the name of Allah - three times
أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ وَقُدْرَتِهِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا أَجِدُ وَأُحَاذِرُ
A’ūdhu billāhi wa qudratihi min sharri ma ajidu wa uhādhiru.
I seek refuge with Allāh and with His Power from the evil that I find and that I fear - Seven times - Muslim (no. 2202).
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ أَعُوذُ بِعِزَّةِ اللَّهِ وَقُدْرَتِهِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا أَجِدُ مِنْ وَجَعِي هَذَا
Bismillāh, a’oodhu bi-‘izzatillāhi wa qudratihi min sharri mā ajidu min waja’ee hādhā.
'In the Name of Allāh, I seek refuge in Allāh’s might and power from the evil of this pain I feel.' Then lift your hand and repeat that an odd number of times. – At-Tirmidhī (no. 3588). Authenticated by Shaykh Albānī in Silsilah As-Sahīhah (no. 1258).
أَعُوذُ بِعِزَّةِ اللَّهِ وَقُدْرَتِهِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا أَجِدُ
A’ūdhu bi-‘izzatillāhi wa qudratihi min sharri mā ajidu.
I seek refuge in Allāh’ might and power from the evil of what I am experiencing — with every wipe - Authenticated by Shaykh Albānī in Silsilah As-Sahīhah (no. 1415) and Sahīh Al-Jāmi’ (no. 3894).
أَذْهِبِ الْبَاسَ رَبَّ النَّاسِ وَاشْفِ أَنْتَ الشَّافِي لاَ شِفَاءَ إِلاَّ شِفَاؤُكَ شِفَاءً لاَ يُغَادِرُ سَقَمًا
Adh-hibil-ba’s Rabban-Nās, ashfi antash-Shāfee, lā Shifā’a illa shifā’uka, shifā’an lā yughādiru saqama.
Remove the harm, O Lord of the people! Heal, for You are The Healer. There is no healing that avails except your healing. A healing that leaves behind no ailment - Muslim (no. 2191).
5 - Put some saliva on your finger, then put the finger into some earth (soil, sand, etc) then wipe yourself or the person who is sick, saying:
بِاسْمِ اللَّهِ تُرْبَةُ أَرْضِنَا، وَرِيقَةُ بَعْضِنَا، يُشْفَى سَقِيمُنَا، بِإِذْنِ رَبِّنَا
Bismillāh. Turbatu ardina, biriqati ba`dina, yushfa bihi saqimuni, bi 'idhni Rabbina'
In the Name of Allāh. The earth of our land and the saliva of some of us cures our sick ones by the permission of our Lord - Bukhārī (no. 5746).
6 - Say the following supplication. It is reported that the Angel Jibrīl came to Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ) and said, “Muhammad, have you fallen ill?” The Prophet ﷺ said: “Yes.” So Jibrīl said:
بِاسْمِ اللَّهِ أَرْقِيكَ مِنْ كُلِّ شَىْءٍ يُؤْذِيكَ مِنْ شَرِّ كُلِّ نَفْسٍ أَوْ عَيْنِ حَاسِدٍ اللَّهُ يَشْفِيكَ بِاسْمِ اللَّهِ أَرْقِيكَ
Bismillāhi arqika, min kulli shay’in yu’dhika, min sharri kulli nafsin aw ‘aynin aw hasidin. Allāhu yashfika, bismillāhi arqika.
In the name of Allāh I perform Ruqyah upon you (seeking divine cure) from everything that harms you and from the evil of every soul, or from every envious eye, may Allah cure you. In the name of Allāh, I perform Ruqyah upon you (seeking divine cure) - Muslim (no. 2186).
May Allāh protect us all from evil eye. Amīn
There are many words or remembrance (Adhkār) and supplications found in the Sunnah for one to say if afflicted with evil eye and protection from it. Any of the following can be said:
1 – Recite Sūrah Fātihah and blow on the place of pain - Bukhārī (2276)
2 – Recite Sūrah Al-Ikhlās, Sūrah Al-Falaq and Sūrah An-Nās and blow into your hands and wipe over the body. – Bukhārī (5017).
3 - Place the hand on the place of pain and say the following supplications:
بِاسْمِ اللَّهِ
Bismillāh.
In the name of Allah - three times
أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ وَقُدْرَتِهِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا أَجِدُ وَأُحَاذِرُ
A’ūdhu billāhi wa qudratihi min sharri ma ajidu wa uhādhiru.
I seek refuge with Allāh and with His Power from the evil that I find and that I fear - Seven times - Muslim (no. 2202).
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ أَعُوذُ بِعِزَّةِ اللَّهِ وَقُدْرَتِهِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا أَجِدُ مِنْ وَجَعِي هَذَا
Bismillāh, a’oodhu bi-‘izzatillāhi wa qudratihi min sharri mā ajidu min waja’ee hādhā.
'In the Name of Allāh, I seek refuge in Allāh’s might and power from the evil of this pain I feel.' Then lift your hand and repeat that an odd number of times. – At-Tirmidhī (no. 3588). Authenticated by Shaykh Albānī in Silsilah As-Sahīhah (no. 1258).
أَعُوذُ بِعِزَّةِ اللَّهِ وَقُدْرَتِهِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا أَجِدُ
A’ūdhu bi-‘izzatillāhi wa qudratihi min sharri mā ajidu.
I seek refuge in Allāh’ might and power from the evil of what I am experiencing — with every wipe - Authenticated by Shaykh Albānī in Silsilah As-Sahīhah (no. 1415) and Sahīh Al-Jāmi’ (no. 3894).
أَذْهِبِ الْبَاسَ رَبَّ النَّاسِ وَاشْفِ أَنْتَ الشَّافِي لاَ شِفَاءَ إِلاَّ شِفَاؤُكَ شِفَاءً لاَ يُغَادِرُ سَقَمًا
Adh-hibil-ba’s Rabban-Nās, ashfi antash-Shāfee, lā Shifā’a illa shifā’uka, shifā’an lā yughādiru saqama.
Remove the harm, O Lord of the people! Heal, for You are The Healer. There is no healing that avails except your healing. A healing that leaves behind no ailment - Muslim (no. 2191).
5 - Put some saliva on your finger, then put the finger into some earth (soil, sand, etc) then wipe yourself or the person who is sick, saying:
بِاسْمِ اللَّهِ تُرْبَةُ أَرْضِنَا، وَرِيقَةُ بَعْضِنَا، يُشْفَى سَقِيمُنَا، بِإِذْنِ رَبِّنَا
Bismillāh. Turbatu ardina, biriqati ba`dina, yushfa bihi saqimuni, bi 'idhni Rabbina'
In the Name of Allāh. The earth of our land and the saliva of some of us cures our sick ones by the permission of our Lord - Bukhārī (no. 5746).
6 - Say the following supplication. It is reported that the Angel Jibrīl came to Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ) and said, “Muhammad, have you fallen ill?” The Prophet ﷺ said: “Yes.” So Jibrīl said:
بِاسْمِ اللَّهِ أَرْقِيكَ مِنْ كُلِّ شَىْءٍ يُؤْذِيكَ مِنْ شَرِّ كُلِّ نَفْسٍ أَوْ عَيْنِ حَاسِدٍ اللَّهُ يَشْفِيكَ بِاسْمِ اللَّهِ أَرْقِيكَ
Bismillāhi arqika, min kulli shay’in yu’dhika, min sharri kulli nafsin aw ‘aynin aw hasidin. Allāhu yashfika, bismillāhi arqika.
In the name of Allāh I perform Ruqyah upon you (seeking divine cure) from everything that harms you and from the evil of every soul, or from every envious eye, may Allah cure you. In the name of Allāh, I perform Ruqyah upon you (seeking divine cure) - Muslim (no. 2186).
May Allāh protect us all from evil eye. Amīn
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As muslim parents, be loud in front of your kids!
- Pray salah out loud
- Recite Quran out loud
- Make duas out loud
They will listen and learn!
- Pray salah out loud
- Recite Quran out loud
- Make duas out loud
They will listen and learn!
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Forwarded from ALWARAQAT [ENG] الورقات
🌸 Strive to please your mother 🌸
“The mother holds a great status, so you must strive to please her & deal with her in the best manner, even if she wrongs you or oversteps bounds with you. You should forgive & pardon her, always seeking her satisfaction.”
🌹Al-Imām Ash-Shaykh Abdul-Azeez Ibn Bāz, Fatāwa Nur ‘Ala Ad-Darb 21/255.
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“The mother holds a great status, so you must strive to please her & deal with her in the best manner, even if she wrongs you or oversteps bounds with you. You should forgive & pardon her, always seeking her satisfaction.”
🌹Al-Imām Ash-Shaykh Abdul-Azeez Ibn Bāz, Fatāwa Nur ‘Ala Ad-Darb 21/255.
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Evil eye is haq. Kids can get evil eye very easily as they don't do the daily Dhikr to protect themselves. Another thing to remember is to not boast about your kids achievements to others. People can give the evil eye without even realising it. Many don't know to say "Allahumma baarik lahu or laha" ie May Allah bless him or her which is what we should say to protect others from our own evil eyes.
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Al-Hasan Al-Basrī رحمه الله stated:
"Looking into the face of the mother is worship, so how much more so for treating her with goodness?!"
【Musnad Ibn Al-Mubārak (146)】
"Looking into the face of the mother is worship, so how much more so for treating her with goodness?!"
【Musnad Ibn Al-Mubārak (146)】
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Some parents give their children whatever they desire and lavishly bestow on them materialistic things thinking: "Take what you want and just let me be"!
The father/mother occupy themselves with work and fulfilling their ambitions, and in their free time occupy themselves with relationships with friends, social media and whatever else the parents find more enjoyment in than raising children.
He is busy, but he loves his son and is ‘concerned' for him... He expresses his love and ‘care’ through gifts and material luxuries.
My son asks me for something that is not in his best interest... To explain to him why, convince him, and provide him with the right alternative... is a difficult and "boring" process and the child is obstinate...
So take what you want, son... I will buy from you my ‘peace of mind’ and my time through this device that distracts you from me, so that I may invest my time more enjoyably than arguing with you!
These parents may appear ‘loving’ and doting towards their children, when in fact they are ruining them!
I am afraid that the statement of the Prophet ﷺ: "It is sufficient sin for a man that he neglects those whom he maintains." includes not only those who do not provide their children with the food and clothing they require, but also includes those who destroy them by giving them everything they want to spare themselves the effort of education and guidance!
Ibn al-Qayyim - may Allah have mercy on him - said in [Tuhfat Al-Mawlud]:
"How many have ruined both the Dunya and Akhirah for their child, their own blood, by neglecting him and abandoning his discipline and helping him fulfill his desires, while he claims that he has honored him when, in fact, he has insulted him, and claims to be showing mercy to the child when he has, in fact, done him an injustice and deprived him of goodness."
When you deprive your child of something he desires, explain it to him thus: ‘Oh my dear child, I can give you this device that you ask for, and you and I shall both be at ease for a short term, but it is not in your interest, and I am not giving it to you for your own good, because I love you and care about you. Giving your child whatever he wants is ‘sometimes’ an indication of neglect my dear child. It is not you who should envy your friends for their materialistic things, but rather it is them who should envy you for the care shown to you by your father.'
📝𝐃𝐫. 𝐄𝐲𝐚𝐝 𝐐𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐢𝐛𝐢
The father/mother occupy themselves with work and fulfilling their ambitions, and in their free time occupy themselves with relationships with friends, social media and whatever else the parents find more enjoyment in than raising children.
He is busy, but he loves his son and is ‘concerned' for him... He expresses his love and ‘care’ through gifts and material luxuries.
My son asks me for something that is not in his best interest... To explain to him why, convince him, and provide him with the right alternative... is a difficult and "boring" process and the child is obstinate...
So take what you want, son... I will buy from you my ‘peace of mind’ and my time through this device that distracts you from me, so that I may invest my time more enjoyably than arguing with you!
These parents may appear ‘loving’ and doting towards their children, when in fact they are ruining them!
I am afraid that the statement of the Prophet ﷺ: "It is sufficient sin for a man that he neglects those whom he maintains." includes not only those who do not provide their children with the food and clothing they require, but also includes those who destroy them by giving them everything they want to spare themselves the effort of education and guidance!
Ibn al-Qayyim - may Allah have mercy on him - said in [Tuhfat Al-Mawlud]:
"How many have ruined both the Dunya and Akhirah for their child, their own blood, by neglecting him and abandoning his discipline and helping him fulfill his desires, while he claims that he has honored him when, in fact, he has insulted him, and claims to be showing mercy to the child when he has, in fact, done him an injustice and deprived him of goodness."
When you deprive your child of something he desires, explain it to him thus: ‘Oh my dear child, I can give you this device that you ask for, and you and I shall both be at ease for a short term, but it is not in your interest, and I am not giving it to you for your own good, because I love you and care about you. Giving your child whatever he wants is ‘sometimes’ an indication of neglect my dear child. It is not you who should envy your friends for their materialistic things, but rather it is them who should envy you for the care shown to you by your father.'
📝𝐃𝐫. 𝐄𝐲𝐚𝐝 𝐐𝐮𝐧𝐚𝐢𝐛𝐢
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