Ibn ‘Uthaymeen رحمه الله said:

“Playing with the children and showing mercy to them is from the reasons of entering into Al-Jannah and being saved from the Hellfire”

[Sharh Riyādh As-Sālihīn: 3/113]

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Show-off on social media:

In this age of materialism and social media, people tend to share the good things they have, i.e., beauty, house, job, children, food, clothes, cars, etc.

This is natural, and this is often done with good intentions, but it has some unintended negative consequences:

Some people will feel bad, wishing they could have the same, others may get jealous and the evil eye could hit.

For these reasons, even if these things are not shared with the intention of show-off, we should try to minimize this as much as possible, remain low-key, to avoid putting other people in fitnah, and to safeguard our blessings.

There is also a concept called 'كفر نعمة', [ungratefulness for the blessings of God], and this usually happens, when we see someone that has more worldly blessings than us.

According to some scholars, this was the reason why the queen ant told her colony to enter their dwellings when Sulayman and his army were marching.

Imam Fakhr al-Razi writes:
وثالثها : ما رأيت في بعض الكتب أن تلك النملة إنما أمرت غيرها بالدخول لأنها خافت على قومها أنها إذا رأت سليمان في جلالته، فربما وقعت في كفران نعمة الله تعالى وهذا هو المراد بقوله :﴿لا يَحْطِمَنَّكُمْ سُلَيْمَـانُ﴾ فأمرتها بالدخول في مساكنها لئلا ترى تلك النعم فلا تقع في كفران نعمة الله تعالى، وهذا تنبيه على أن مجالسة أرباب الدنيا محذورة
'𝗜𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗯𝗼𝗼𝗸𝘀, 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 (𝗾𝘂𝗲𝗲𝗻) 𝗮𝗻𝘁, 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗱𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀, 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗳 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗼𝗹𝗼𝗻𝘆 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝗦𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘆𝗺𝗮𝗻'𝘀 𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗱𝗼𝗺, 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 (𝗺𝗲𝘀𝗺𝗲𝗿𝗶𝘇𝗲𝗱 𝗯𝘆 𝗶𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲) 𝘂𝗻𝗴𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗰𝗵 𝗚𝗼𝗱 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗱 𝘂𝗽𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺.
𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗯𝘆: '𝗦𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗦𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘆𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗼𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂.' [𝗤𝘂𝗿'𝗮𝗻 𝟮𝟳:𝟭𝟴].
𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱𝗹𝘆 𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗱.'
['Tafsir al-Razi', 24/187].

Imam al-Qurtubi also mentioned this as one possible interpretation:
لم ترِد ( حطم النفوس)، وإنما أرادت ( حطم القلوب)
'𝗦𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻: [𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗵𝘆𝘀𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝗶𝗲𝘀], 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻𝘁: [𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗽𝗶𝗿𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀].'
['Tafsir al-Qurtubi', 13/171].

If sometimes we do see the blessings God has bestowed upon others, and these ill feelings do arise within ourselves, we should remember that God said:

نحن قسمنا بینهم معیشتهم فی الحیاة الدّنیا!
'𝗜𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗪𝗘, 𝗪𝗵𝗼 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗯𝘂𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗵𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱.' [Qur'an 43:32].

It is the Will and Decree of God, He tests some with poverty, and others with wealth.

والعاقبة للمتقين!

Protect our children from horoscopes and astrology

The Prophet (pbuh), who narrated that he said: “Whoever goes to a soothsayer and asks him about something and believes him, his prayer will not be accepted for forty days.” (Muslim).

The Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) said: “Whoever seeks knowledge from the stars is seeking one of the branches of witchcraft…” Narrated by Abu Dawood with a saheeh isnaad.

It was reported that ‘Aa’ishah (r) said: “Some people asked the Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) about soothsayers. He said, ‘They are nothing.’ They said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, sometimes they say something and it comes true.’ The Messenger of Allaah (pbuh) said: ‘That is a word of truth that the jinn snatches and whispers into the ear of his familiar, but they mix a hundred lies with it.’” (al-Bukhaari).

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INHERITANCE/PROPERTY:

The scholars are unanimously agreed that ownership of the estate passes to the heirs as soon as the deceased dies. It says in al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (24/76): The fuqaha’ are unanimously agreed that the estate passes to the heir, if there are no debts, from the moment the deceased dies. End quote.

If a man dies and leaves behind a wife, sons and daughters, and he did not leave behind any other heir, then the wife gets a share of one eighth, because there are descendants who inherit. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts”

[an-Nisa’ 4:12].

The rest goes to the sons and daughters, with each male getting the share of two females, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Allah commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance); to the male, a portion equal to that of two females”

[an-Nisa’ 4:11].

If the deceased man has sons, then his siblings are blocked, they dont have any share.

His heirs will be as follows:

1. Wife (1/8 part of total property)

2. Mother if alive (1/6 part of total property)

3. Father if alive (1/6 part of total property)

4. Remaining of the part will be equally divided among Sons and Daughters

If the heirs have agreed among themselves to some way of dividing the estate, there is nothing wrong with that and it is called “division by mutual consent.” But if they disagree then the way to deal with it is to refer to the sharee‘ah courts.

Division by mutual consent is that which is done with the approval of all partners.

Compulsory division is that which is done through the court because there is no agreement among the partners. End quote.

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CHARACTERISTICS OF A NARCISSISTIC MOTHER

Alhamdulillah finally someone spoke about this. Very informative. May Allaah guide every narcissistic muslim mothers and may Allaah protect us from becoming one of them aameen.

"Character traits and what to do with your narcissistic muslim mother"

Here's the YouTube link for it: https://youtu.be/rZV5A0TpXyA

I feel bad for the children that have to deal with such. May Allaah have mercy upon them and guide their mothers. Aameen.

You don’t truly appreciate something until you lose it.

أنك لا تعرف قيمة ما تملك إلا حين فقدانه

Only when you see that empty chair where your mother or father used to sit,
or you see that old coat they used to wear,
or you don’t see that incoming call from your parents,
only then will you realise what you have lost!!

You will regret why you didn’t do more for them and didn’t spend more time with them. You’d trade the world, just to see them one more time … but it will be too late. Now you may have the opportunity today - seize it.

May Allah (swt) grant our parents a long life and if they have passed away: settle them in the highest peaks of Paradise, Ameen

When giving your children the opportunity to reach high level of academic education, make sure you also give them the level of Islamic knowledge that they need to keep away from the danger of secularism.
Do not offer your children Islam as a part of their name or their culture. Islam is not your cultural background - it is the backbone of your existence.
Today you find such a fine educated young man, excelling at his Duniya - but look at this helpless father.
Do not wait for your children to learn from their sins on their own. Teach them not to approach it and why. Islam is not the choice you give your children - pray if you like, eat halal if you like, wear hijab if you like, learn Islam if you like. Teach your children Islam the way you teach them every duniya-related thing. You have no choice but to go to school everyday from 8 in the morning. Do you give them a choice to go at 10 or not at all?
Think.

📌Evil around us comes in numerous shapes and forms. How you deal with this is the question.

👉Hijaab: you click your selfies and share them on your social media. Everyone who has any form of resentment can give you the evil eye. Your children get sick, your health is declining, your wealth is not increasing, and your study or education becomes too hard.
Your Imaan has depleted.
These are all signs that the evil eye has befallen you.
💡Solution: get rid of your pictures on social media, and cover yourself in front of people, men, and women. Be silent about your achievements, and share only with your close ones e.g. parents, husband, or children. Don't share your happiness with any random Randy!

👉Nonmahram men: we all get that friend request, the chat message, the slithery snake.
He comes with praises and promises. Is unemployed. and a selfish womanizer. Steals your heart and when he finds a new victim he ghosts you, leaving you with heartbreak.
💡Solution: cut the cancer before it spreads! Don't add men, don't entertain them in chats, don't respond or comment. Not everyone deserves a reply! Be selective and have the honor for yourself. If a man wants to wed you he will contact your wali!

📍Keep in mind not everyone is a friend, not every person is a believer, and not everyone fears Allah the way you do.

We all have our journey in Islam, some people are disciplined and others are extremely loose in their actions.

Be alert, be focussed and know your surroundings.

May Allah protect us all and guide us to the right path aameen🤲🏼

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What is worse than a man/woman grown with a father that was always away and absent?

It’s the mother that was there but was emotionally illiterate. If psychology is as important as a hill, emotional intelligence is as important as Mount Everest.

Not teaching your children emotional intelligence and money management equals raising emotional money slaves.

Combine the lack of emotional intelligent and financial illiteracy with fear of money and not having enough of it? Mismanagement of cashflow. Result? An enslaved family unit that will be the fuel—as indirect slaves—to the engine of the changing world order.

But what can a father do, he has no choice except to be away and raise children with avoidant personality disorder, right? Wrong.

It’s the father’s job to lead the mother of the child with clear instructions, so that she can lay out a secure base for the emotional development of the child.

This was much under control before the blockchain, social network, algorithms and artificial intelligence.

But now, we’re moving towards a new era in which financial illiteracy directly equals slavery—and the byproduct of this slavery is going to give birth to more broken households and avoidant personality types.

Solution? We become financially literate. We become emotionally intelligent.

Don’t overestimate psychology. It’s not that important. The real groundwork is emotional intelligence. After that, psychology can be put in perspective.

For what’s coming ahead, your wife can’t afford to be financially illiterate either.

We have to keep in mind that as Muslims, we are moving towards the afterlife, but that doesn’t mean we leave ourselves paralysed as if in a coma and doing nothing.

Many of you reading this justify being dead broke for the sake of your children. Why don’t you use your children as a fuel and an inspiration to get rich?

With all things being equal, any day, it’s the emotionally intelligent woman that’s far more superior than the psychologically intelligent woman.

Major drama is about to start as the hard cash will start disappearing. A major crash is coming.

Do you know what else is coming? A new wave of millionaires, with an astounding rise.

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‎إنما يريد الشيطان أن يوقع بينكم العداوة والبغضاء في الخمر والميسر ويصدكم عن ذكر الله وعن الصلاة فهل أنتم منتهون

Satan only wants to cause between
you animosity and hatred through intoxicants and gambling and to avert you from the remembrance of Allāh and from prayer. So will you not desist?

● {Soorah al-Ma‘idah (v. 91)}

Imām Qurtubī: This aayah indicates that it is haraam to play dice or chess, whether that involves gambling or not. Because when Allaah forbade alcohol He explained the reason for that, which is “Shaytaan wants only to excite enmity and hatred between you with intoxicants and gambling, and hinder you from the remembrance of Allaah and from As-Salaah.”

So every kind of game in which a little leads to a lot and stirs up enmity and hatred between those who are devoted to it and prevents them from remembering Allaah and praying, is like drinking alcohol, which implies that it must be haraam like alcohol.

● {Tafsīr al-Qurtubī (v. 6, p. 291)}

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*TARBIYAH of children is important from a young age …*

💎 Do not become distracted from your children!! 💎
(Forwarded from @MorabyAlqrnDalailcentre on telegram)

Children are growing up physically but they are weakening religiously.

They are being fed well but they are hungry for love, care, and harmony!!

And time now is no longer the same as before.

The day you lose sight of your child, their mind will be attacked by a thousand wrong ideas, their eyes will be attacked by a million bad videos, and their time will be invaded by a million evil matters that distract them from good.
Then how about those who leave their children for months and ages without advice or a parenting and counseling session?!!

Fathers, your children are not in need of new clothes, a big allowance, or abundant inheritance if you do not instill in them the love of Allāh and that He is watching them, and if you don’t discover the aspects of good in them and give those aspects good care and nurture them, and know the evil aspects in them and remove them and purify your children from them.

O parents,
Do not justify that by the lack of time, and thus be dishonest with yourselves, for the companions of the Prophet ﷺ used to conquer the world and then return to their children, purify their hearts, bring them up well, and pass to them their religion and morals.

And do not justify that for yourselves, for men have effects on their children and women have their touches on them, and they are both indispensable for the child.

And do not justify that by seeking to make a living for them, for the worst provision is that which gives the Ummah well-fed bodies, but sleazy and weak morals!!

Time is now difficult, and our children, by Allāh, are poor and they need care many times more than the care we used to be given when we were their age, and that’s due to the contrast between the fitan and temptations in their time and in ours!!

Get back to your household, and become satiated with hugs and by closeness to your children.

Play with them, tell them stories that cultivate virtues in them, and listen to them a lot.

Leave your phones for their sake, and devote enough time for these innocent ones.

Put the whole worldly life aside for the sake of your own flesh and blood, for the sincere duāʾ of a righteous son or daughter for you, after your death, saying: "O Lord, forgive me and my parents", is better for you than all the trifles that distracted you from them.

💐 A dose of parenting 💐

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Be sure to spend time with your parents while you can, because one day when you look up from your busy life, they won’t be there anymore, your parents can’t be replaced...🙂💔

Don't address them as kids!

One of the common mistakes when dealing with young men who are about to hit puberty - or sometimes even those who already reached puberty - is being addressed by their non-mahram female relatives and female teachers as if they are still kids;

While bearing in mind the strong reservations about young men having female teachers in the first place, which is another topic altogether.

You see a young man of 13 or 14 years of age, who might have already reached puberty, yet his female teacher or his mother's friend calls him "Sweetheart" out of "kindness"!

Respected ones, we shouldn't address young men like kids!

Everything around them undermines their intellect and weakens their sense of responsibility; from their upbringing, to the "education" system which turns them into idle and dependent individuals - unable to make a living until they earn their bachelor's degree - to the media of mediocrity and nonsense...

Address him as: 'O' young man' or 'My son'...

But don't make him feel as if he is still a kid. For he is either going to dislike the manner in which you address him, or it's going to weaken the sense of responsibility and manhood within him more than it already has been!

We want to instill within our children the sense of responsibility and the true meaning of manhood.

🎯 Those whom you call "Sweetheart" are the same age as Muadh & Muawwidh the sons of Afra who killed Abu Jahl, 'The pharaoh of this Ummah'.

🎯 They are the same age as Usama ibn Zayd when the Prophet ﷺ appointed him to be the commander and leader of the Muslim army.

🎯 They are the same age as Al-Arqam ibn Abi al-Arqam when he used to host the Prophet ﷺ and the Muslims at his house at the time the Muslims were being persecuted and had to keep their gatherings secret.

🎯 They are the same age as Alī ibn Abī Ṭālib & Zubayr ibn al-'Awwam when they accepted Islam, and became defenders and guardians of the religion of Allah, and many other companions - may Allah be pleased with them.

🔶 The Ummah needs real men, so don't treat them like kids.
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@EyadQunaibi1

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MOTHERHOOD

Motherhood is one of the greatest and prestigious qualities of women. Allāh ordained various rulings that stem from motherhood; rulings related to pregnancy, breastfeeding, kindness, mercy, and other matters of this sort that flow out of her heart. Not to mention her overwhelming emotions towards her children; she is the one who carries, breastfeed, educate them, and stay sleepless for the sake of their comfort. Accordingly, Allāh rewarded her with making Paradise under her feet.

Book: Contributions Of The Muslim Woman in Giving Sincere Advice
By Shaykh Doctor Ridā bin Khālid Būshāmah
Translated by Abdullah Omrān
Maktabatulirshad Publications
P. 23

Modern Life for Children:

1. Junk food/ fast food/ sugar

2. TV

3. Video games

4. Phone

5. Tiktok/ YouTube/ Social media

6. High-tech toys

7. Online "communities" / chat groups (predators/ groomers/ HDTV÷ inspiration)

8. Public school

9. Music nonstop

10. Sexual degeneracy / exposure to p*rn from a young age

11. Drugs/ chemicals/ Big Pharma

12. Foul language/ cursing

13. Gender mixing

14. Revealing / sexualizing clothing / sexy fashion even for very little girls

15. No parental authority, parental power replaced by peer pressure

These are all the elements of today's climate. This is what has become normalized and socially accepted as a way to raise children.

Children who are raised on these destructive elements grow up physically diseased, emotionally unstable, mentally stunted, and psychologically disturbed.

Physically, they are riddled with illnesses and their immune systems are fragile. Their teeth are decayed and cavity-riddled from the fake food, chemical additives, synthetic food dyes they're consuming. Their attention span has been greatly reduced from all the screens they've been staring at since birth. Their mind has been poisoned with degenerate content from violent and hyper-sexualized song lyrics and movie plots and explicit videos. They are vulgar and foul-mouthed, and suffer from a gamut of unhealthy addictions to video games, phones, ipads, soda, p*rn, music, Adderall/ Ritalin.

These children live soft, selfish, sedentary lives, almost always seated passively receiving something external. In school, they sit for hours at desks receiving "education" from teachers, and at home they sit on the couch receiving "entertainment" from a screen. They are rarely active, rarely moving.

Childhood obseity and childhood diseases of the body, mind, and heart are rampant. Many develop a love-hate relationship with food. Body dysmorphia starts from a young age. Young girls, especially, fall into eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia. Young boys are over-medicated with drugs for their natural boyish energy, which is pathologized as ADHD.

Many children suffer from a severe lack of parental affection and notice, so they act out in a bid for their parents' attention. Yet they simultaneously see their parents as bumbling idiots whom they can easily outsmart, because that's what children's cartoons and TV shows often portray. They have very little respect for their own parents, or for adults generally.

Since they are so lonely, isolated, and starved for attention, many children flock to online spaces looking for love and a sense of belonging. There they stumble across "communities" for various groups, most dangerous among them are the ones that make them think they are stuck in the "wrong body," they are the "wrong gender." They develop gender dysphoria so they can fit into this group of misfits and finally feel like they belong somewhere, even if it's a toxic online cult. There, as well as in public school, children are taught to do things in secret behind their parents' back, because parents "don't understand" their transition.

Children are not taught any healthy conception of masculinity or femininity. They get stuck in a sad, odd state of androgyny, undecided and at war with themselves and unable to accept themselves as they naturally are.

Many children lose their innocence at an incredibly young age. They view sexually explicit material online due to their unrestricted access to phones and devices. Then they begin to act out what they see online with other kids, sending each other nudes and sexting and "exploring their sexuality" with both genders and by themselves through masturbation. Even their parents tell them that casual meaningless sex in elementary and middle school is "healthy" as long as it's "safe" and they practice "consent." Children are plunged into a world of sexual immorality early. They develop a love-hate relationship with sex and grow into either sex addicts or sexually unhealthy adults with baggage.

We live in a modern world which is really a nightmarish dystopia, especially for children.

What are some solutions, some alternatives for us as Muslims raising Muslim children?

1. Real food/ whole food

2. No screens of any kind

3. No phones for kids

4. Real games instead of video games

5. Outdoor play

6. Nature walks/ exploration

7. Physical movement/ rough-housing play/ natural exercise to get the blood pumping and body moving

8. Low-tech toys (made of wood, not plastic)

9. Homeschool, not mass schooling

10. Quran, not music

11. Islamic learning

12. Respect for parents, obedience instilled from a young age

13. Real community, not online "community" of "kiddie culture"

14. Islamic manners and etiquette in speech and action

15. Modest clothing

May Allah guide us to give our children the best and most wholesome Islamic tarbiya, and allow us to sidestep the modern mainstream childrearing norms that harm children's bodies, hearts, minds, and souls. May He grant us healthy, strong, balanced Muslim children raised on Islam with their fitra intact. Ameen.

🌿⛅ The Early Morning Hours⛅🌿

The best thing to do during the early morning hours is to be preoccupied with prayer, Qur’an, supplication, remembrance of Allah, and asking His Forgiveness.

[Ibn al-Qayyim; ‘Madarij as-Salikin’ (1/188)]