Reminder for Parents:
Command For Marriage Regarding Children:
The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) Commanded regarding children, " If they neglect salaah at the age of seven, then reprimand them, at the age of nine separate their beds (do not let two of them sleep in the same bed) and at the age of seventeen get them married. Once the father has carried this out he should place his child before him and say, ‘ May Allah not make you a cause for my testing and trial."
(Al-Ifsah Ibn Hajr Haithami)
Command For Marriage Regarding Children:
The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) Commanded regarding children, " If they neglect salaah at the age of seven, then reprimand them, at the age of nine separate their beds (do not let two of them sleep in the same bed) and at the age of seventeen get them married. Once the father has carried this out he should place his child before him and say, ‘ May Allah not make you a cause for my testing and trial."
(Al-Ifsah Ibn Hajr Haithami)
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Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله said:
“The fact that a man has offspring does not raise his rank, unless if there are pious children amongst his offspring who are obedient to Allaah.”
(Al-Jawaab As-Saheeh 219/5)
“The fact that a man has offspring does not raise his rank, unless if there are pious children amongst his offspring who are obedient to Allaah.”
(Al-Jawaab As-Saheeh 219/5)
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Serious Question👉Are you all spending enough time with your immediate families❓As a daughter/son that means your parents and your siblings. As a parent that means with your spouse and children.
If the answer is NO❗️Then ditch the friend, Do the dishes later, Homework can be put off. Put the phone away❗️
Spending time with one’s family and having fun together is a major factor in keeping the family united and close. It develops trust and love for each other and brings peace to the household. True Muslims find peace and enjoyment at home with their own families and do not need to escape from them to be entertained. It is this family unity that has been lost in the modern age, when each member of the family lives a separate life. Sadly, although the members of a family may live under one roof, they may not even meet to share a meal together. If we are to revive the unity of our families, we must revive the concept of family time.
If the answer is NO❗️Then ditch the friend, Do the dishes later, Homework can be put off. Put the phone away❗️
Spending time with one’s family and having fun together is a major factor in keeping the family united and close. It develops trust and love for each other and brings peace to the household. True Muslims find peace and enjoyment at home with their own families and do not need to escape from them to be entertained. It is this family unity that has been lost in the modern age, when each member of the family lives a separate life. Sadly, although the members of a family may live under one roof, they may not even meet to share a meal together. If we are to revive the unity of our families, we must revive the concept of family time.
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Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
Allah destroyed your dreams and plans before they could destroy you.
▪️You lost a relationship, perhaps it was going to turn abusive.
▪️You didn't get a job, perhaps it was filled with a toxic work environment.
▪️You didn't get to travel to a place, perhaps a natural calamity was going to happen there.
▪️You couldn't immigrate to a western country, perhaps the pressure would have split your family and destroyed your married life.
That's the beauty of "thinking always good of Allah".
His no is His redirection and protection.
Let go.
Some dreams have to die for better more worthy dreams to materialize.
Stick to the 3S.
Sabr.
Salah.
Shukr.
🤲 Allah bless us with akhira vision, bless us with hamd in our every word, bless us with peace and contentment, help us focus on what we have and help us forget what was lost - Ameen.
▪️You lost a relationship, perhaps it was going to turn abusive.
▪️You didn't get a job, perhaps it was filled with a toxic work environment.
▪️You didn't get to travel to a place, perhaps a natural calamity was going to happen there.
▪️You couldn't immigrate to a western country, perhaps the pressure would have split your family and destroyed your married life.
That's the beauty of "thinking always good of Allah".
His no is His redirection and protection.
Let go.
Some dreams have to die for better more worthy dreams to materialize.
Stick to the 3S.
Sabr.
Salah.
Shukr.
🤲 Allah bless us with akhira vision, bless us with hamd in our every word, bless us with peace and contentment, help us focus on what we have and help us forget what was lost - Ameen.
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Abu Darda رضي الله عنه said a man came to the Prophet of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ and complained about the hardness of his heart.
The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:
“Would you like for your heart to become soft and for you to find what you are looking for?
Be compassionate to the orphan and pat his head, and feed him from what you eat. Then your heart will become soft, and you will find what you are looking for.”
Saheeh al-Jāmi' 80 | Shaykh al-Albāni رحمه الله | Saheeh
The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:
“Would you like for your heart to become soft and for you to find what you are looking for?
Be compassionate to the orphan and pat his head, and feed him from what you eat. Then your heart will become soft, and you will find what you are looking for.”
Saheeh al-Jāmi' 80 | Shaykh al-Albāni رحمه الله | Saheeh
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Golden advice for every son:-
Abû Hurayrah – Allâh be pleased with him – once saw two men.
He asked one of them, “How is this man related to you?”
The man replied, “He is my *father*•
Upon hearing this Abu Hurayrah advised him and said:
“Do not call him by his name…
Do not walk in front of him…
And, do not sit before he does.”
Al-Bukhârî, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad. Shaykh Al-Albânî graded its chain of transmission sahîh in Sahîh Al-Adab Al-MufradVol. 1 p19.
Abû Hurayrah – Allâh be pleased with him – once saw two men.
He asked one of them, “How is this man related to you?”
The man replied, “He is my *father*•
Upon hearing this Abu Hurayrah advised him and said:
“Do not call him by his name…
Do not walk in front of him…
And, do not sit before he does.”
Al-Bukhârî, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad. Shaykh Al-Albânî graded its chain of transmission sahîh in Sahîh Al-Adab Al-MufradVol. 1 p19.
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وَقَالَ اللَّيْثُ حَدَّثَنِي هِشَامٌ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ، قَالَتْ قَدِمَتْ أُمِّي وَهْىَ مُشْرِكَةٌ فِي عَهْدِ قُرَيْشٍ وَمُدَّتِهِمْ، إِذْ عَاهَدُوا النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَعَ أَبِيهَا، فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقُلْتُ إِنَّ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ وَهْىَ رَاغِبَةٌ {أَفَأَصِلُهَا} قَالَ " نَعَمْ صِلِي أُمَّكِ ".
Narrated Asma': "My mother who was a Mushrikah (pagan, etc.), came with her father during the period of peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favor)." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yes, be good to your mother."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5979
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5979
Narrated Asma': "My mother who was a Mushrikah (pagan, etc.), came with her father during the period of peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favor)." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yes, be good to your mother."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5979
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5979
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Your children learn very little from your words and a lot from your actions.
You want them to be honest? Be honest with them and before them. Lying is not for adults, it is bad for everybody.
You want them to be humble? Show them how!
You want them to read the Qur'an often? They will have to see you do it often, rather than a ramadan ritual.
You want them to be responsible men? Let them learn from how responsible you are to their mother.
You want ladies that will be the coolness of their husband's eyes? Let them see how much of a devoted wife you are to their father.
When it comes to parenting, it is hard to give what you don't have. You cant teach your child to develop a character you don't possess. Be a parent that can conveniently say " do as I do" rather than "do as I say" (only).
You want them to be honest? Be honest with them and before them. Lying is not for adults, it is bad for everybody.
You want them to be humble? Show them how!
You want them to read the Qur'an often? They will have to see you do it often, rather than a ramadan ritual.
You want them to be responsible men? Let them learn from how responsible you are to their mother.
You want ladies that will be the coolness of their husband's eyes? Let them see how much of a devoted wife you are to their father.
When it comes to parenting, it is hard to give what you don't have. You cant teach your child to develop a character you don't possess. Be a parent that can conveniently say " do as I do" rather than "do as I say" (only).
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INHERITANCE/PROPERTY:
The scholars are unanimously agreed that ownership of the estate passes to the heirs as soon as the deceased dies. It says in al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (24/76): The fuqaha’ are unanimously agreed that the estate passes to the heir, if there are no debts, from the moment the deceased dies. End quote.
If a man dies and leaves behind a wife, sons and daughters, and he did not leave behind any other heir, then the wife gets a share of one eighth, because there are descendants who inherit. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts”
[an-Nisa’ 4:12].
The rest goes to the sons and daughters, with each male getting the share of two females, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allah commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance); to the male, a portion equal to that of two females”
[an-Nisa’ 4:11].
If the deceased man has sons, then his siblings are blocked, they dont have any share.
His heirs will be as follows:
1. Wife (1/8 part of total property)
2. Mother if alive (1/6 part of total property)
3. Father if alive (1/6 part of total property)
4. Remaining of the part will be equally divided among Sons and Daughters
If the heirs have agreed among themselves to some way of dividing the estate, there is nothing wrong with that and it is called “division by mutual consent.” But if they disagree then the way to deal with it is to refer to the sharee‘ah courts.
Division by mutual consent is that which is done with the approval of all partners.
Compulsory division is that which is done through the court because there is no agreement among the partners. End quote.
For more:
https://youtu.be/E3-zoHs8pdc
The scholars are unanimously agreed that ownership of the estate passes to the heirs as soon as the deceased dies. It says in al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (24/76): The fuqaha’ are unanimously agreed that the estate passes to the heir, if there are no debts, from the moment the deceased dies. End quote.
If a man dies and leaves behind a wife, sons and daughters, and he did not leave behind any other heir, then the wife gets a share of one eighth, because there are descendants who inherit. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts”
[an-Nisa’ 4:12].
The rest goes to the sons and daughters, with each male getting the share of two females, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allah commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance); to the male, a portion equal to that of two females”
[an-Nisa’ 4:11].
If the deceased man has sons, then his siblings are blocked, they dont have any share.
His heirs will be as follows:
1. Wife (1/8 part of total property)
2. Mother if alive (1/6 part of total property)
3. Father if alive (1/6 part of total property)
4. Remaining of the part will be equally divided among Sons and Daughters
If the heirs have agreed among themselves to some way of dividing the estate, there is nothing wrong with that and it is called “division by mutual consent.” But if they disagree then the way to deal with it is to refer to the sharee‘ah courts.
Division by mutual consent is that which is done with the approval of all partners.
Compulsory division is that which is done through the court because there is no agreement among the partners. End quote.
For more:
https://youtu.be/E3-zoHs8pdc
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It was narrated from Ibn Abbas that the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) said:
"There is no man whose two daughters reach the age of puberty and he treats them kindly for the time they are together, but they will gain him admittance to Paradise."
Sunan Ibn Majah 3670
Uqbah bin Amir said, I heard the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) say:
"Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth; they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.'"
Sunan Ibn Majah 3669
It was narrated that Sa'sa'ah the paternal uncle of Ahnaf, said:
"A woman entered upon Aisha with her two daughters, and she gave her three dates. (The woman) gave each of her daughters a date, then she split the last one between them. She (Aisha) said: 'Then the Prophet(ﷺ) came and I told him about that.' He said:' Why are you surprised? She will enter Paradise because of that.'"
Sunan Ibn Majah 3668
"There is no man whose two daughters reach the age of puberty and he treats them kindly for the time they are together, but they will gain him admittance to Paradise."
Sunan Ibn Majah 3670
Uqbah bin Amir said, I heard the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) say:
"Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth; they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.'"
Sunan Ibn Majah 3669
It was narrated that Sa'sa'ah the paternal uncle of Ahnaf, said:
"A woman entered upon Aisha with her two daughters, and she gave her three dates. (The woman) gave each of her daughters a date, then she split the last one between them. She (Aisha) said: 'Then the Prophet(ﷺ) came and I told him about that.' He said:' Why are you surprised? She will enter Paradise because of that.'"
Sunan Ibn Majah 3668
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Ammi,Mother, Ummi, Maa..
*Our parents are getting old . they may be getting moody and cranky, it's all related to aging . kindly don't hurt them and take a very good care of them In Sha Allah .
may Allah always keep their shadow upon us and may Allah grant Jannah to those who are not there anymore ameen!*
Rabbi arhamhuma kama rabbayanee sagheeran . ameen!
*Our parents are getting old . they may be getting moody and cranky, it's all related to aging . kindly don't hurt them and take a very good care of them In Sha Allah .
may Allah always keep their shadow upon us and may Allah grant Jannah to those who are not there anymore ameen!*
Rabbi arhamhuma kama rabbayanee sagheeran . ameen!
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Jabir ibn Abdullah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Do not supplicate against yourselves, do not supplicate against your children, and do not supplicate against your wealth, lest it coincide with a time in which Allah is asked and he gives and your supplication is answered.”
In another narration, the Prophet said, “Do not supplicate against your servants.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 3014
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى أَنْفُسِكُمْ وَلَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى أَوْلَادِكُمْ وَلَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى أَمْوَالِكُمْ لَا تُوَافِقُوا مِنْ اللَّهِ سَاعَةً يُسْأَلُ فِيهَا عَطَاءٌ فَيَسْتَجِيبُ لَكُمْ
وفي رواية أبي داود قال وَلَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى خَدَمِكُمْ
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In another narration, the Prophet said, “Do not supplicate against your servants.”
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 3014
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى أَنْفُسِكُمْ وَلَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى أَوْلَادِكُمْ وَلَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى أَمْوَالِكُمْ لَا تُوَافِقُوا مِنْ اللَّهِ سَاعَةً يُسْأَلُ فِيهَا عَطَاءٌ فَيَسْتَجِيبُ لَكُمْ
وفي رواية أبي داود قال وَلَا تَدْعُوا عَلَى خَدَمِكُمْ
3014 صحيح مسلم كتاب الزهد والرقائق باب حديث جابر الطويل وقصة أبي اليسر
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PLEASE WAKE UP
Dear Parents,
* Tarzan lives half naked,
* Cinderella comes home at midnight,
* Pinocchio lies all the time,
* Aladdin is the king of thieves,
* Batman drives at 200 mph,
* Romeo and Juliet commit suicide out of love,
* Harry Potter uses witchcraft,
* Mickey and Minnie are more than just friends
* Sleeping Beauty is lazy,
* Dumbo gets drunk and hallucinates,
* Scooby Doo gives nightmares,
* and Snow White lives with 7 guys.
We shouldn’t be surprised children misbehave, they get it from their storybooks and cartoons which ''we'' provide them...
We should instead be teaching them stories like
*Abu Bakr (ra)’s loyalty and undying service for his master,
*Umar ibn Khatthab (ra)’s love for justice and tolerance,
*Uthman ibn Affan (ra)’s level of shyness and modesty,
*Ali ibn Abi-Talib (ra)’s show of courage and bravery,
*Khalid ibn Waleed (ra)’s desire of combating evil,
*Fatima bint Muhammad (ra)’s love and respect to her father,
*Sallahuddin Al-Ayubi (ra)’s conquest of the promised land,
and much much more to tell about…
Above all, we should teach them about Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala), Qur’an and the Sunnah with love... very important aspect is this!
And then see how the change begins...! In sha Allah!
#Teach_Islam
Dear Parents,
* Tarzan lives half naked,
* Cinderella comes home at midnight,
* Pinocchio lies all the time,
* Aladdin is the king of thieves,
* Batman drives at 200 mph,
* Romeo and Juliet commit suicide out of love,
* Harry Potter uses witchcraft,
* Mickey and Minnie are more than just friends
* Sleeping Beauty is lazy,
* Dumbo gets drunk and hallucinates,
* Scooby Doo gives nightmares,
* and Snow White lives with 7 guys.
We shouldn’t be surprised children misbehave, they get it from their storybooks and cartoons which ''we'' provide them...
We should instead be teaching them stories like
*Abu Bakr (ra)’s loyalty and undying service for his master,
*Umar ibn Khatthab (ra)’s love for justice and tolerance,
*Uthman ibn Affan (ra)’s level of shyness and modesty,
*Ali ibn Abi-Talib (ra)’s show of courage and bravery,
*Khalid ibn Waleed (ra)’s desire of combating evil,
*Fatima bint Muhammad (ra)’s love and respect to her father,
*Sallahuddin Al-Ayubi (ra)’s conquest of the promised land,
and much much more to tell about…
Above all, we should teach them about Allah (subhanahu wa ta'ala), Qur’an and the Sunnah with love... very important aspect is this!
And then see how the change begins...! In sha Allah!
#Teach_Islam
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