MOTHERHOOD
Motherhood is one of the greatest and prestigious qualities of women. Allāh ordained various rulings that stem from motherhood; rulings related to pregnancy, breastfeeding, kindness, mercy, and other matters of this sort that flow out of her heart. Not to mention her overwhelming emotions towards her children; she is the one who carries, breastfeed, educate them, and stay sleepless for the sake of their comfort. Accordingly, Allāh rewarded her with making Paradise under her feet.
Book: Contributions Of The Muslim Woman in Giving Sincere Advice
By Shaykh Doctor Ridā bin Khālid Būshāmah
Translated by Abdullah Omrān
Maktabatulirshad Publications
P. 23
Motherhood is one of the greatest and prestigious qualities of women. Allāh ordained various rulings that stem from motherhood; rulings related to pregnancy, breastfeeding, kindness, mercy, and other matters of this sort that flow out of her heart. Not to mention her overwhelming emotions towards her children; she is the one who carries, breastfeed, educate them, and stay sleepless for the sake of their comfort. Accordingly, Allāh rewarded her with making Paradise under her feet.
Book: Contributions Of The Muslim Woman in Giving Sincere Advice
By Shaykh Doctor Ridā bin Khālid Būshāmah
Translated by Abdullah Omrān
Maktabatulirshad Publications
P. 23
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Modern Life for Children:
1. Junk food/ fast food/ sugar
2. TV
3. Video games
4. Phone
5. Tiktok/ YouTube/ Social media
6. High-tech toys
7. Online "communities" / chat groups (predators/ groomers/ HDTV÷ inspiration)
8. Public school
9. Music nonstop
10. Sexual degeneracy / exposure to p*rn from a young age
11. Drugs/ chemicals/ Big Pharma
12. Foul language/ cursing
13. Gender mixing
14. Revealing / sexualizing clothing / sexy fashion even for very little girls
15. No parental authority, parental power replaced by peer pressure
These are all the elements of today's climate. This is what has become normalized and socially accepted as a way to raise children.
Children who are raised on these destructive elements grow up physically diseased, emotionally unstable, mentally stunted, and psychologically disturbed.
Physically, they are riddled with illnesses and their immune systems are fragile. Their teeth are decayed and cavity-riddled from the fake food, chemical additives, synthetic food dyes they're consuming. Their attention span has been greatly reduced from all the screens they've been staring at since birth. Their mind has been poisoned with degenerate content from violent and hyper-sexualized song lyrics and movie plots and explicit videos. They are vulgar and foul-mouthed, and suffer from a gamut of unhealthy addictions to video games, phones, ipads, soda, p*rn, music, Adderall/ Ritalin.
These children live soft, selfish, sedentary lives, almost always seated passively receiving something external. In school, they sit for hours at desks receiving "education" from teachers, and at home they sit on the couch receiving "entertainment" from a screen. They are rarely active, rarely moving.
Childhood obseity and childhood diseases of the body, mind, and heart are rampant. Many develop a love-hate relationship with food. Body dysmorphia starts from a young age. Young girls, especially, fall into eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia. Young boys are over-medicated with drugs for their natural boyish energy, which is pathologized as ADHD.
Many children suffer from a severe lack of parental affection and notice, so they act out in a bid for their parents' attention. Yet they simultaneously see their parents as bumbling idiots whom they can easily outsmart, because that's what children's cartoons and TV shows often portray. They have very little respect for their own parents, or for adults generally.
Since they are so lonely, isolated, and starved for attention, many children flock to online spaces looking for love and a sense of belonging. There they stumble across "communities" for various groups, most dangerous among them are the ones that make them think they are stuck in the "wrong body," they are the "wrong gender." They develop gender dysphoria so they can fit into this group of misfits and finally feel like they belong somewhere, even if it's a toxic online cult. There, as well as in public school, children are taught to do things in secret behind their parents' back, because parents "don't understand" their transition.
Children are not taught any healthy conception of masculinity or femininity. They get stuck in a sad, odd state of androgyny, undecided and at war with themselves and unable to accept themselves as they naturally are.
Many children lose their innocence at an incredibly young age. They view sexually explicit material online due to their unrestricted access to phones and devices. Then they begin to act out what they see online with other kids, sending each other nudes and sexting and "exploring their sexuality" with both genders and by themselves through masturbation. Even their parents tell them that casual meaningless sex in elementary and middle school is "healthy" as long as it's "safe" and they practice "consent." Children are plunged into a world of sexual immorality early. They develop a love-hate relationship with sex and grow into either sex addicts or sexually unhealthy adults with baggage.
1. Junk food/ fast food/ sugar
2. TV
3. Video games
4. Phone
5. Tiktok/ YouTube/ Social media
6. High-tech toys
7. Online "communities" / chat groups (predators/ groomers/ HDTV÷ inspiration)
8. Public school
9. Music nonstop
10. Sexual degeneracy / exposure to p*rn from a young age
11. Drugs/ chemicals/ Big Pharma
12. Foul language/ cursing
13. Gender mixing
14. Revealing / sexualizing clothing / sexy fashion even for very little girls
15. No parental authority, parental power replaced by peer pressure
These are all the elements of today's climate. This is what has become normalized and socially accepted as a way to raise children.
Children who are raised on these destructive elements grow up physically diseased, emotionally unstable, mentally stunted, and psychologically disturbed.
Physically, they are riddled with illnesses and their immune systems are fragile. Their teeth are decayed and cavity-riddled from the fake food, chemical additives, synthetic food dyes they're consuming. Their attention span has been greatly reduced from all the screens they've been staring at since birth. Their mind has been poisoned with degenerate content from violent and hyper-sexualized song lyrics and movie plots and explicit videos. They are vulgar and foul-mouthed, and suffer from a gamut of unhealthy addictions to video games, phones, ipads, soda, p*rn, music, Adderall/ Ritalin.
These children live soft, selfish, sedentary lives, almost always seated passively receiving something external. In school, they sit for hours at desks receiving "education" from teachers, and at home they sit on the couch receiving "entertainment" from a screen. They are rarely active, rarely moving.
Childhood obseity and childhood diseases of the body, mind, and heart are rampant. Many develop a love-hate relationship with food. Body dysmorphia starts from a young age. Young girls, especially, fall into eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia. Young boys are over-medicated with drugs for their natural boyish energy, which is pathologized as ADHD.
Many children suffer from a severe lack of parental affection and notice, so they act out in a bid for their parents' attention. Yet they simultaneously see their parents as bumbling idiots whom they can easily outsmart, because that's what children's cartoons and TV shows often portray. They have very little respect for their own parents, or for adults generally.
Since they are so lonely, isolated, and starved for attention, many children flock to online spaces looking for love and a sense of belonging. There they stumble across "communities" for various groups, most dangerous among them are the ones that make them think they are stuck in the "wrong body," they are the "wrong gender." They develop gender dysphoria so they can fit into this group of misfits and finally feel like they belong somewhere, even if it's a toxic online cult. There, as well as in public school, children are taught to do things in secret behind their parents' back, because parents "don't understand" their transition.
Children are not taught any healthy conception of masculinity or femininity. They get stuck in a sad, odd state of androgyny, undecided and at war with themselves and unable to accept themselves as they naturally are.
Many children lose their innocence at an incredibly young age. They view sexually explicit material online due to their unrestricted access to phones and devices. Then they begin to act out what they see online with other kids, sending each other nudes and sexting and "exploring their sexuality" with both genders and by themselves through masturbation. Even their parents tell them that casual meaningless sex in elementary and middle school is "healthy" as long as it's "safe" and they practice "consent." Children are plunged into a world of sexual immorality early. They develop a love-hate relationship with sex and grow into either sex addicts or sexually unhealthy adults with baggage.
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We live in a modern world which is really a nightmarish dystopia, especially for children.
What are some solutions, some alternatives for us as Muslims raising Muslim children?
1. Real food/ whole food
2. No screens of any kind
3. No phones for kids
4. Real games instead of video games
5. Outdoor play
6. Nature walks/ exploration
7. Physical movement/ rough-housing play/ natural exercise to get the blood pumping and body moving
8. Low-tech toys (made of wood, not plastic)
9. Homeschool, not mass schooling
10. Quran, not music
11. Islamic learning
12. Respect for parents, obedience instilled from a young age
13. Real community, not online "community" of "kiddie culture"
14. Islamic manners and etiquette in speech and action
15. Modest clothing
May Allah guide us to give our children the best and most wholesome Islamic tarbiya, and allow us to sidestep the modern mainstream childrearing norms that harm children's bodies, hearts, minds, and souls. May He grant us healthy, strong, balanced Muslim children raised on Islam with their fitra intact. Ameen.
What are some solutions, some alternatives for us as Muslims raising Muslim children?
1. Real food/ whole food
2. No screens of any kind
3. No phones for kids
4. Real games instead of video games
5. Outdoor play
6. Nature walks/ exploration
7. Physical movement/ rough-housing play/ natural exercise to get the blood pumping and body moving
8. Low-tech toys (made of wood, not plastic)
9. Homeschool, not mass schooling
10. Quran, not music
11. Islamic learning
12. Respect for parents, obedience instilled from a young age
13. Real community, not online "community" of "kiddie culture"
14. Islamic manners and etiquette in speech and action
15. Modest clothing
May Allah guide us to give our children the best and most wholesome Islamic tarbiya, and allow us to sidestep the modern mainstream childrearing norms that harm children's bodies, hearts, minds, and souls. May He grant us healthy, strong, balanced Muslim children raised on Islam with their fitra intact. Ameen.
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Forwarded from Jannah is Our Dream
🌿⛅ The Early Morning Hours⛅🌿
The best thing to do during the early morning hours is to be preoccupied with prayer, Qur’an, supplication, remembrance of Allah, and asking His Forgiveness.
[Ibn al-Qayyim; ‘Madarij as-Salikin’ (1/188)]
The best thing to do during the early morning hours is to be preoccupied with prayer, Qur’an, supplication, remembrance of Allah, and asking His Forgiveness.
[Ibn al-Qayyim; ‘Madarij as-Salikin’ (1/188)]
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Reminder for Parents:
Command For Marriage Regarding Children:
The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) Commanded regarding children, " If they neglect salaah at the age of seven, then reprimand them, at the age of nine separate their beds (do not let two of them sleep in the same bed) and at the age of seventeen get them married. Once the father has carried this out he should place his child before him and say, ‘ May Allah not make you a cause for my testing and trial."
(Al-Ifsah Ibn Hajr Haithami)
Command For Marriage Regarding Children:
The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) Commanded regarding children, " If they neglect salaah at the age of seven, then reprimand them, at the age of nine separate their beds (do not let two of them sleep in the same bed) and at the age of seventeen get them married. Once the father has carried this out he should place his child before him and say, ‘ May Allah not make you a cause for my testing and trial."
(Al-Ifsah Ibn Hajr Haithami)
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Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله said:
“The fact that a man has offspring does not raise his rank, unless if there are pious children amongst his offspring who are obedient to Allaah.”
(Al-Jawaab As-Saheeh 219/5)
“The fact that a man has offspring does not raise his rank, unless if there are pious children amongst his offspring who are obedient to Allaah.”
(Al-Jawaab As-Saheeh 219/5)
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Serious Question👉Are you all spending enough time with your immediate families❓As a daughter/son that means your parents and your siblings. As a parent that means with your spouse and children.
If the answer is NO❗️Then ditch the friend, Do the dishes later, Homework can be put off. Put the phone away❗️
Spending time with one’s family and having fun together is a major factor in keeping the family united and close. It develops trust and love for each other and brings peace to the household. True Muslims find peace and enjoyment at home with their own families and do not need to escape from them to be entertained. It is this family unity that has been lost in the modern age, when each member of the family lives a separate life. Sadly, although the members of a family may live under one roof, they may not even meet to share a meal together. If we are to revive the unity of our families, we must revive the concept of family time.
If the answer is NO❗️Then ditch the friend, Do the dishes later, Homework can be put off. Put the phone away❗️
Spending time with one’s family and having fun together is a major factor in keeping the family united and close. It develops trust and love for each other and brings peace to the household. True Muslims find peace and enjoyment at home with their own families and do not need to escape from them to be entertained. It is this family unity that has been lost in the modern age, when each member of the family lives a separate life. Sadly, although the members of a family may live under one roof, they may not even meet to share a meal together. If we are to revive the unity of our families, we must revive the concept of family time.
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Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
Allah destroyed your dreams and plans before they could destroy you.
▪️You lost a relationship, perhaps it was going to turn abusive.
▪️You didn't get a job, perhaps it was filled with a toxic work environment.
▪️You didn't get to travel to a place, perhaps a natural calamity was going to happen there.
▪️You couldn't immigrate to a western country, perhaps the pressure would have split your family and destroyed your married life.
That's the beauty of "thinking always good of Allah".
His no is His redirection and protection.
Let go.
Some dreams have to die for better more worthy dreams to materialize.
Stick to the 3S.
Sabr.
Salah.
Shukr.
🤲 Allah bless us with akhira vision, bless us with hamd in our every word, bless us with peace and contentment, help us focus on what we have and help us forget what was lost - Ameen.
▪️You lost a relationship, perhaps it was going to turn abusive.
▪️You didn't get a job, perhaps it was filled with a toxic work environment.
▪️You didn't get to travel to a place, perhaps a natural calamity was going to happen there.
▪️You couldn't immigrate to a western country, perhaps the pressure would have split your family and destroyed your married life.
That's the beauty of "thinking always good of Allah".
His no is His redirection and protection.
Let go.
Some dreams have to die for better more worthy dreams to materialize.
Stick to the 3S.
Sabr.
Salah.
Shukr.
🤲 Allah bless us with akhira vision, bless us with hamd in our every word, bless us with peace and contentment, help us focus on what we have and help us forget what was lost - Ameen.
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Abu Darda رضي الله عنه said a man came to the Prophet of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ and complained about the hardness of his heart.
The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:
“Would you like for your heart to become soft and for you to find what you are looking for?
Be compassionate to the orphan and pat his head, and feed him from what you eat. Then your heart will become soft, and you will find what you are looking for.”
Saheeh al-Jāmi' 80 | Shaykh al-Albāni رحمه الله | Saheeh
The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:
“Would you like for your heart to become soft and for you to find what you are looking for?
Be compassionate to the orphan and pat his head, and feed him from what you eat. Then your heart will become soft, and you will find what you are looking for.”
Saheeh al-Jāmi' 80 | Shaykh al-Albāni رحمه الله | Saheeh
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Golden advice for every son:-
Abû Hurayrah – Allâh be pleased with him – once saw two men.
He asked one of them, “How is this man related to you?”
The man replied, “He is my *father*•
Upon hearing this Abu Hurayrah advised him and said:
“Do not call him by his name…
Do not walk in front of him…
And, do not sit before he does.”
Al-Bukhârî, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad. Shaykh Al-Albânî graded its chain of transmission sahîh in Sahîh Al-Adab Al-MufradVol. 1 p19.
Abû Hurayrah – Allâh be pleased with him – once saw two men.
He asked one of them, “How is this man related to you?”
The man replied, “He is my *father*•
Upon hearing this Abu Hurayrah advised him and said:
“Do not call him by his name…
Do not walk in front of him…
And, do not sit before he does.”
Al-Bukhârî, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad. Shaykh Al-Albânî graded its chain of transmission sahîh in Sahîh Al-Adab Al-MufradVol. 1 p19.
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وَقَالَ اللَّيْثُ حَدَّثَنِي هِشَامٌ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ، قَالَتْ قَدِمَتْ أُمِّي وَهْىَ مُشْرِكَةٌ فِي عَهْدِ قُرَيْشٍ وَمُدَّتِهِمْ، إِذْ عَاهَدُوا النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَعَ أَبِيهَا، فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقُلْتُ إِنَّ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ وَهْىَ رَاغِبَةٌ {أَفَأَصِلُهَا} قَالَ " نَعَمْ صِلِي أُمَّكِ ".
Narrated Asma': "My mother who was a Mushrikah (pagan, etc.), came with her father during the period of peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favor)." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yes, be good to your mother."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5979
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5979
Narrated Asma': "My mother who was a Mushrikah (pagan, etc.), came with her father during the period of peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favor)." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yes, be good to your mother."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5979
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5979
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Your children learn very little from your words and a lot from your actions.
You want them to be honest? Be honest with them and before them. Lying is not for adults, it is bad for everybody.
You want them to be humble? Show them how!
You want them to read the Qur'an often? They will have to see you do it often, rather than a ramadan ritual.
You want them to be responsible men? Let them learn from how responsible you are to their mother.
You want ladies that will be the coolness of their husband's eyes? Let them see how much of a devoted wife you are to their father.
When it comes to parenting, it is hard to give what you don't have. You cant teach your child to develop a character you don't possess. Be a parent that can conveniently say " do as I do" rather than "do as I say" (only).
You want them to be honest? Be honest with them and before them. Lying is not for adults, it is bad for everybody.
You want them to be humble? Show them how!
You want them to read the Qur'an often? They will have to see you do it often, rather than a ramadan ritual.
You want them to be responsible men? Let them learn from how responsible you are to their mother.
You want ladies that will be the coolness of their husband's eyes? Let them see how much of a devoted wife you are to their father.
When it comes to parenting, it is hard to give what you don't have. You cant teach your child to develop a character you don't possess. Be a parent that can conveniently say " do as I do" rather than "do as I say" (only).
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Muslim Children Tips
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INHERITANCE/PROPERTY:
The scholars are unanimously agreed that ownership of the estate passes to the heirs as soon as the deceased dies. It says in al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (24/76): The fuqaha’ are unanimously agreed that the estate passes to the heir, if there are no debts, from the moment the deceased dies. End quote.
If a man dies and leaves behind a wife, sons and daughters, and he did not leave behind any other heir, then the wife gets a share of one eighth, because there are descendants who inherit. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts”
[an-Nisa’ 4:12].
The rest goes to the sons and daughters, with each male getting the share of two females, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allah commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance); to the male, a portion equal to that of two females”
[an-Nisa’ 4:11].
If the deceased man has sons, then his siblings are blocked, they dont have any share.
His heirs will be as follows:
1. Wife (1/8 part of total property)
2. Mother if alive (1/6 part of total property)
3. Father if alive (1/6 part of total property)
4. Remaining of the part will be equally divided among Sons and Daughters
If the heirs have agreed among themselves to some way of dividing the estate, there is nothing wrong with that and it is called “division by mutual consent.” But if they disagree then the way to deal with it is to refer to the sharee‘ah courts.
Division by mutual consent is that which is done with the approval of all partners.
Compulsory division is that which is done through the court because there is no agreement among the partners. End quote.
For more:
https://youtu.be/E3-zoHs8pdc
The scholars are unanimously agreed that ownership of the estate passes to the heirs as soon as the deceased dies. It says in al-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah (24/76): The fuqaha’ are unanimously agreed that the estate passes to the heir, if there are no debts, from the moment the deceased dies. End quote.
If a man dies and leaves behind a wife, sons and daughters, and he did not leave behind any other heir, then the wife gets a share of one eighth, because there are descendants who inherit. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“but if you leave a child, they get an eighth of that which you leave after payment of legacies that you may have bequeathed or debts”
[an-Nisa’ 4:12].
The rest goes to the sons and daughters, with each male getting the share of two females, because Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allah commands you as regards your children’s (inheritance); to the male, a portion equal to that of two females”
[an-Nisa’ 4:11].
If the deceased man has sons, then his siblings are blocked, they dont have any share.
His heirs will be as follows:
1. Wife (1/8 part of total property)
2. Mother if alive (1/6 part of total property)
3. Father if alive (1/6 part of total property)
4. Remaining of the part will be equally divided among Sons and Daughters
If the heirs have agreed among themselves to some way of dividing the estate, there is nothing wrong with that and it is called “division by mutual consent.” But if they disagree then the way to deal with it is to refer to the sharee‘ah courts.
Division by mutual consent is that which is done with the approval of all partners.
Compulsory division is that which is done through the court because there is no agreement among the partners. End quote.
For more:
https://youtu.be/E3-zoHs8pdc
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It was narrated from Ibn Abbas that the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) said:
"There is no man whose two daughters reach the age of puberty and he treats them kindly for the time they are together, but they will gain him admittance to Paradise."
Sunan Ibn Majah 3670
Uqbah bin Amir said, I heard the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) say:
"Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth; they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.'"
Sunan Ibn Majah 3669
It was narrated that Sa'sa'ah the paternal uncle of Ahnaf, said:
"A woman entered upon Aisha with her two daughters, and she gave her three dates. (The woman) gave each of her daughters a date, then she split the last one between them. She (Aisha) said: 'Then the Prophet(ﷺ) came and I told him about that.' He said:' Why are you surprised? She will enter Paradise because of that.'"
Sunan Ibn Majah 3668
"There is no man whose two daughters reach the age of puberty and he treats them kindly for the time they are together, but they will gain him admittance to Paradise."
Sunan Ibn Majah 3670
Uqbah bin Amir said, I heard the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) say:
"Whoever has three daughters and is patient towards them, and feeds them, gives them to drink, and clothes them from his wealth; they will be a shield for him from the Fire on the Day of Resurrection.'"
Sunan Ibn Majah 3669
It was narrated that Sa'sa'ah the paternal uncle of Ahnaf, said:
"A woman entered upon Aisha with her two daughters, and she gave her three dates. (The woman) gave each of her daughters a date, then she split the last one between them. She (Aisha) said: 'Then the Prophet(ﷺ) came and I told him about that.' He said:' Why are you surprised? She will enter Paradise because of that.'"
Sunan Ibn Majah 3668
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