💎 Do not become distracted from your children!! 💎
(Forwarded from @MorabyAlqrnDalailcentre on telegram)
Children are growing up physically but they are weakening religiously.
They are being fed well but they are hungry for love, care, and harmony!!
And time now is no longer the same as before.
The day you lose sight of your child, their mind will be attacked by a thousand wrong ideas, their eyes will be attacked by a million bad videos, and their time will be invaded by a million evil matters that distract them from good.
Then how about those who leave their children for months and ages without advice or a parenting and counseling session?!!
Fathers, your children are not in need of new clothes, a big allowance, or abundant inheritance if you do not instill in them the love of Allāh and that He is watching them, and if you don’t discover the aspects of good in them and give those aspects good care and nurture them, and know the evil aspects in them and remove them and purify your children from them.
O parents,
Do not justify that by the lack of time, and thus be dishonest with yourselves, for the companions of the Prophet ﷺ used to conquer the world and then return to their children, purify their hearts, bring them up well, and pass to them their religion and morals.
And do not justify that for yourselves, for men have effects on their children and women have their touches on them, and they are both indispensable for the child.
And do not justify that by seeking to make a living for them, for the worst provision is that which gives the Ummah well-fed bodies, but sleazy and weak morals!!
Time is now difficult, and our children, by Allāh, are poor and they need care many times more than the care we used to be given when we were their age, and that’s due to the contrast between the fitan and temptations in their time and in ours!!
Get back to your household, and become satiated with hugs and by closeness to your children.
Play with them, tell them stories that cultivate virtues in them, and listen to them a lot.
Leave your phones for their sake, and devote enough time for these innocent ones.
Put the whole worldly life aside for the sake of your own flesh and blood, for the sincere duāʾ of a righteous son or daughter for you, after your death, saying: "O Lord, forgive me and my parents", is better for you than all the trifles that distracted you from them.
💐 A dose of parenting 💐
https://news.1rj.ru/str/MuslimChildrenTips
(Forwarded from @MorabyAlqrnDalailcentre on telegram)
Children are growing up physically but they are weakening religiously.
They are being fed well but they are hungry for love, care, and harmony!!
And time now is no longer the same as before.
The day you lose sight of your child, their mind will be attacked by a thousand wrong ideas, their eyes will be attacked by a million bad videos, and their time will be invaded by a million evil matters that distract them from good.
Then how about those who leave their children for months and ages without advice or a parenting and counseling session?!!
Fathers, your children are not in need of new clothes, a big allowance, or abundant inheritance if you do not instill in them the love of Allāh and that He is watching them, and if you don’t discover the aspects of good in them and give those aspects good care and nurture them, and know the evil aspects in them and remove them and purify your children from them.
O parents,
Do not justify that by the lack of time, and thus be dishonest with yourselves, for the companions of the Prophet ﷺ used to conquer the world and then return to their children, purify their hearts, bring them up well, and pass to them their religion and morals.
And do not justify that for yourselves, for men have effects on their children and women have their touches on them, and they are both indispensable for the child.
And do not justify that by seeking to make a living for them, for the worst provision is that which gives the Ummah well-fed bodies, but sleazy and weak morals!!
Time is now difficult, and our children, by Allāh, are poor and they need care many times more than the care we used to be given when we were their age, and that’s due to the contrast between the fitan and temptations in their time and in ours!!
Get back to your household, and become satiated with hugs and by closeness to your children.
Play with them, tell them stories that cultivate virtues in them, and listen to them a lot.
Leave your phones for their sake, and devote enough time for these innocent ones.
Put the whole worldly life aside for the sake of your own flesh and blood, for the sincere duāʾ of a righteous son or daughter for you, after your death, saying: "O Lord, forgive me and my parents", is better for you than all the trifles that distracted you from them.
💐 A dose of parenting 💐
https://news.1rj.ru/str/MuslimChildrenTips
Telegram
Muslim Children Tips
"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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Don't address them as kids!
One of the common mistakes when dealing with young men who are about to hit puberty - or sometimes even those who already reached puberty - is being addressed by their non-mahram female relatives and female teachers as if they are still kids;
While bearing in mind the strong reservations about young men having female teachers in the first place, which is another topic altogether.
You see a young man of 13 or 14 years of age, who might have already reached puberty, yet his female teacher or his mother's friend calls him "Sweetheart" out of "kindness"!
Respected ones, we shouldn't address young men like kids!
Everything around them undermines their intellect and weakens their sense of responsibility; from their upbringing, to the "education" system which turns them into idle and dependent individuals - unable to make a living until they earn their bachelor's degree - to the media of mediocrity and nonsense...
Address him as: 'O' young man' or 'My son'...
But don't make him feel as if he is still a kid. For he is either going to dislike the manner in which you address him, or it's going to weaken the sense of responsibility and manhood within him more than it already has been!
We want to instill within our children the sense of responsibility and the true meaning of manhood.
🎯 Those whom you call "Sweetheart" are the same age as Muadh & Muawwidh the sons of Afra who killed Abu Jahl, 'The pharaoh of this Ummah'.
🎯 They are the same age as Usama ibn Zayd when the Prophet ﷺ appointed him to be the commander and leader of the Muslim army.
🎯 They are the same age as Al-Arqam ibn Abi al-Arqam when he used to host the Prophet ﷺ and the Muslims at his house at the time the Muslims were being persecuted and had to keep their gatherings secret.
🎯 They are the same age as Alī ibn Abī Ṭālib & Zubayr ibn al-'Awwam when they accepted Islam, and became defenders and guardians of the religion of Allah, and many other companions - may Allah be pleased with them.
🔶 The Ummah needs real men, so don't treat them like kids.
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@EyadQunaibi1
https://news.1rj.ru/str/MuslimChildrenTips
One of the common mistakes when dealing with young men who are about to hit puberty - or sometimes even those who already reached puberty - is being addressed by their non-mahram female relatives and female teachers as if they are still kids;
While bearing in mind the strong reservations about young men having female teachers in the first place, which is another topic altogether.
You see a young man of 13 or 14 years of age, who might have already reached puberty, yet his female teacher or his mother's friend calls him "Sweetheart" out of "kindness"!
Respected ones, we shouldn't address young men like kids!
Everything around them undermines their intellect and weakens their sense of responsibility; from their upbringing, to the "education" system which turns them into idle and dependent individuals - unable to make a living until they earn their bachelor's degree - to the media of mediocrity and nonsense...
Address him as: 'O' young man' or 'My son'...
But don't make him feel as if he is still a kid. For he is either going to dislike the manner in which you address him, or it's going to weaken the sense of responsibility and manhood within him more than it already has been!
We want to instill within our children the sense of responsibility and the true meaning of manhood.
🎯 Those whom you call "Sweetheart" are the same age as Muadh & Muawwidh the sons of Afra who killed Abu Jahl, 'The pharaoh of this Ummah'.
🎯 They are the same age as Usama ibn Zayd when the Prophet ﷺ appointed him to be the commander and leader of the Muslim army.
🎯 They are the same age as Al-Arqam ibn Abi al-Arqam when he used to host the Prophet ﷺ and the Muslims at his house at the time the Muslims were being persecuted and had to keep their gatherings secret.
🎯 They are the same age as Alī ibn Abī Ṭālib & Zubayr ibn al-'Awwam when they accepted Islam, and became defenders and guardians of the religion of Allah, and many other companions - may Allah be pleased with them.
🔶 The Ummah needs real men, so don't treat them like kids.
_
@EyadQunaibi1
https://news.1rj.ru/str/MuslimChildrenTips
Telegram
Muslim Children Tips
"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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MOTHERHOOD
Motherhood is one of the greatest and prestigious qualities of women. Allāh ordained various rulings that stem from motherhood; rulings related to pregnancy, breastfeeding, kindness, mercy, and other matters of this sort that flow out of her heart. Not to mention her overwhelming emotions towards her children; she is the one who carries, breastfeed, educate them, and stay sleepless for the sake of their comfort. Accordingly, Allāh rewarded her with making Paradise under her feet.
Book: Contributions Of The Muslim Woman in Giving Sincere Advice
By Shaykh Doctor Ridā bin Khālid Būshāmah
Translated by Abdullah Omrān
Maktabatulirshad Publications
P. 23
Motherhood is one of the greatest and prestigious qualities of women. Allāh ordained various rulings that stem from motherhood; rulings related to pregnancy, breastfeeding, kindness, mercy, and other matters of this sort that flow out of her heart. Not to mention her overwhelming emotions towards her children; she is the one who carries, breastfeed, educate them, and stay sleepless for the sake of their comfort. Accordingly, Allāh rewarded her with making Paradise under her feet.
Book: Contributions Of The Muslim Woman in Giving Sincere Advice
By Shaykh Doctor Ridā bin Khālid Būshāmah
Translated by Abdullah Omrān
Maktabatulirshad Publications
P. 23
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Modern Life for Children:
1. Junk food/ fast food/ sugar
2. TV
3. Video games
4. Phone
5. Tiktok/ YouTube/ Social media
6. High-tech toys
7. Online "communities" / chat groups (predators/ groomers/ HDTV÷ inspiration)
8. Public school
9. Music nonstop
10. Sexual degeneracy / exposure to p*rn from a young age
11. Drugs/ chemicals/ Big Pharma
12. Foul language/ cursing
13. Gender mixing
14. Revealing / sexualizing clothing / sexy fashion even for very little girls
15. No parental authority, parental power replaced by peer pressure
These are all the elements of today's climate. This is what has become normalized and socially accepted as a way to raise children.
Children who are raised on these destructive elements grow up physically diseased, emotionally unstable, mentally stunted, and psychologically disturbed.
Physically, they are riddled with illnesses and their immune systems are fragile. Their teeth are decayed and cavity-riddled from the fake food, chemical additives, synthetic food dyes they're consuming. Their attention span has been greatly reduced from all the screens they've been staring at since birth. Their mind has been poisoned with degenerate content from violent and hyper-sexualized song lyrics and movie plots and explicit videos. They are vulgar and foul-mouthed, and suffer from a gamut of unhealthy addictions to video games, phones, ipads, soda, p*rn, music, Adderall/ Ritalin.
These children live soft, selfish, sedentary lives, almost always seated passively receiving something external. In school, they sit for hours at desks receiving "education" from teachers, and at home they sit on the couch receiving "entertainment" from a screen. They are rarely active, rarely moving.
Childhood obseity and childhood diseases of the body, mind, and heart are rampant. Many develop a love-hate relationship with food. Body dysmorphia starts from a young age. Young girls, especially, fall into eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia. Young boys are over-medicated with drugs for their natural boyish energy, which is pathologized as ADHD.
Many children suffer from a severe lack of parental affection and notice, so they act out in a bid for their parents' attention. Yet they simultaneously see their parents as bumbling idiots whom they can easily outsmart, because that's what children's cartoons and TV shows often portray. They have very little respect for their own parents, or for adults generally.
Since they are so lonely, isolated, and starved for attention, many children flock to online spaces looking for love and a sense of belonging. There they stumble across "communities" for various groups, most dangerous among them are the ones that make them think they are stuck in the "wrong body," they are the "wrong gender." They develop gender dysphoria so they can fit into this group of misfits and finally feel like they belong somewhere, even if it's a toxic online cult. There, as well as in public school, children are taught to do things in secret behind their parents' back, because parents "don't understand" their transition.
Children are not taught any healthy conception of masculinity or femininity. They get stuck in a sad, odd state of androgyny, undecided and at war with themselves and unable to accept themselves as they naturally are.
Many children lose their innocence at an incredibly young age. They view sexually explicit material online due to their unrestricted access to phones and devices. Then they begin to act out what they see online with other kids, sending each other nudes and sexting and "exploring their sexuality" with both genders and by themselves through masturbation. Even their parents tell them that casual meaningless sex in elementary and middle school is "healthy" as long as it's "safe" and they practice "consent." Children are plunged into a world of sexual immorality early. They develop a love-hate relationship with sex and grow into either sex addicts or sexually unhealthy adults with baggage.
1. Junk food/ fast food/ sugar
2. TV
3. Video games
4. Phone
5. Tiktok/ YouTube/ Social media
6. High-tech toys
7. Online "communities" / chat groups (predators/ groomers/ HDTV÷ inspiration)
8. Public school
9. Music nonstop
10. Sexual degeneracy / exposure to p*rn from a young age
11. Drugs/ chemicals/ Big Pharma
12. Foul language/ cursing
13. Gender mixing
14. Revealing / sexualizing clothing / sexy fashion even for very little girls
15. No parental authority, parental power replaced by peer pressure
These are all the elements of today's climate. This is what has become normalized and socially accepted as a way to raise children.
Children who are raised on these destructive elements grow up physically diseased, emotionally unstable, mentally stunted, and psychologically disturbed.
Physically, they are riddled with illnesses and their immune systems are fragile. Their teeth are decayed and cavity-riddled from the fake food, chemical additives, synthetic food dyes they're consuming. Their attention span has been greatly reduced from all the screens they've been staring at since birth. Their mind has been poisoned with degenerate content from violent and hyper-sexualized song lyrics and movie plots and explicit videos. They are vulgar and foul-mouthed, and suffer from a gamut of unhealthy addictions to video games, phones, ipads, soda, p*rn, music, Adderall/ Ritalin.
These children live soft, selfish, sedentary lives, almost always seated passively receiving something external. In school, they sit for hours at desks receiving "education" from teachers, and at home they sit on the couch receiving "entertainment" from a screen. They are rarely active, rarely moving.
Childhood obseity and childhood diseases of the body, mind, and heart are rampant. Many develop a love-hate relationship with food. Body dysmorphia starts from a young age. Young girls, especially, fall into eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia. Young boys are over-medicated with drugs for their natural boyish energy, which is pathologized as ADHD.
Many children suffer from a severe lack of parental affection and notice, so they act out in a bid for their parents' attention. Yet they simultaneously see their parents as bumbling idiots whom they can easily outsmart, because that's what children's cartoons and TV shows often portray. They have very little respect for their own parents, or for adults generally.
Since they are so lonely, isolated, and starved for attention, many children flock to online spaces looking for love and a sense of belonging. There they stumble across "communities" for various groups, most dangerous among them are the ones that make them think they are stuck in the "wrong body," they are the "wrong gender." They develop gender dysphoria so they can fit into this group of misfits and finally feel like they belong somewhere, even if it's a toxic online cult. There, as well as in public school, children are taught to do things in secret behind their parents' back, because parents "don't understand" their transition.
Children are not taught any healthy conception of masculinity or femininity. They get stuck in a sad, odd state of androgyny, undecided and at war with themselves and unable to accept themselves as they naturally are.
Many children lose their innocence at an incredibly young age. They view sexually explicit material online due to their unrestricted access to phones and devices. Then they begin to act out what they see online with other kids, sending each other nudes and sexting and "exploring their sexuality" with both genders and by themselves through masturbation. Even their parents tell them that casual meaningless sex in elementary and middle school is "healthy" as long as it's "safe" and they practice "consent." Children are plunged into a world of sexual immorality early. They develop a love-hate relationship with sex and grow into either sex addicts or sexually unhealthy adults with baggage.
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We live in a modern world which is really a nightmarish dystopia, especially for children.
What are some solutions, some alternatives for us as Muslims raising Muslim children?
1. Real food/ whole food
2. No screens of any kind
3. No phones for kids
4. Real games instead of video games
5. Outdoor play
6. Nature walks/ exploration
7. Physical movement/ rough-housing play/ natural exercise to get the blood pumping and body moving
8. Low-tech toys (made of wood, not plastic)
9. Homeschool, not mass schooling
10. Quran, not music
11. Islamic learning
12. Respect for parents, obedience instilled from a young age
13. Real community, not online "community" of "kiddie culture"
14. Islamic manners and etiquette in speech and action
15. Modest clothing
May Allah guide us to give our children the best and most wholesome Islamic tarbiya, and allow us to sidestep the modern mainstream childrearing norms that harm children's bodies, hearts, minds, and souls. May He grant us healthy, strong, balanced Muslim children raised on Islam with their fitra intact. Ameen.
What are some solutions, some alternatives for us as Muslims raising Muslim children?
1. Real food/ whole food
2. No screens of any kind
3. No phones for kids
4. Real games instead of video games
5. Outdoor play
6. Nature walks/ exploration
7. Physical movement/ rough-housing play/ natural exercise to get the blood pumping and body moving
8. Low-tech toys (made of wood, not plastic)
9. Homeschool, not mass schooling
10. Quran, not music
11. Islamic learning
12. Respect for parents, obedience instilled from a young age
13. Real community, not online "community" of "kiddie culture"
14. Islamic manners and etiquette in speech and action
15. Modest clothing
May Allah guide us to give our children the best and most wholesome Islamic tarbiya, and allow us to sidestep the modern mainstream childrearing norms that harm children's bodies, hearts, minds, and souls. May He grant us healthy, strong, balanced Muslim children raised on Islam with their fitra intact. Ameen.
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Forwarded from Jannah is Our Dream
🌿⛅ The Early Morning Hours⛅🌿
The best thing to do during the early morning hours is to be preoccupied with prayer, Qur’an, supplication, remembrance of Allah, and asking His Forgiveness.
[Ibn al-Qayyim; ‘Madarij as-Salikin’ (1/188)]
The best thing to do during the early morning hours is to be preoccupied with prayer, Qur’an, supplication, remembrance of Allah, and asking His Forgiveness.
[Ibn al-Qayyim; ‘Madarij as-Salikin’ (1/188)]
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Reminder for Parents:
Command For Marriage Regarding Children:
The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) Commanded regarding children, " If they neglect salaah at the age of seven, then reprimand them, at the age of nine separate their beds (do not let two of them sleep in the same bed) and at the age of seventeen get them married. Once the father has carried this out he should place his child before him and say, ‘ May Allah not make you a cause for my testing and trial."
(Al-Ifsah Ibn Hajr Haithami)
Command For Marriage Regarding Children:
The Prophet (Sallallahu alaihe wasallam) Commanded regarding children, " If they neglect salaah at the age of seven, then reprimand them, at the age of nine separate their beds (do not let two of them sleep in the same bed) and at the age of seventeen get them married. Once the father has carried this out he should place his child before him and say, ‘ May Allah not make you a cause for my testing and trial."
(Al-Ifsah Ibn Hajr Haithami)
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Ibn Taymiyyah رحمه الله said:
“The fact that a man has offspring does not raise his rank, unless if there are pious children amongst his offspring who are obedient to Allaah.”
(Al-Jawaab As-Saheeh 219/5)
“The fact that a man has offspring does not raise his rank, unless if there are pious children amongst his offspring who are obedient to Allaah.”
(Al-Jawaab As-Saheeh 219/5)
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Serious Question👉Are you all spending enough time with your immediate families❓As a daughter/son that means your parents and your siblings. As a parent that means with your spouse and children.
If the answer is NO❗️Then ditch the friend, Do the dishes later, Homework can be put off. Put the phone away❗️
Spending time with one’s family and having fun together is a major factor in keeping the family united and close. It develops trust and love for each other and brings peace to the household. True Muslims find peace and enjoyment at home with their own families and do not need to escape from them to be entertained. It is this family unity that has been lost in the modern age, when each member of the family lives a separate life. Sadly, although the members of a family may live under one roof, they may not even meet to share a meal together. If we are to revive the unity of our families, we must revive the concept of family time.
If the answer is NO❗️Then ditch the friend, Do the dishes later, Homework can be put off. Put the phone away❗️
Spending time with one’s family and having fun together is a major factor in keeping the family united and close. It develops trust and love for each other and brings peace to the household. True Muslims find peace and enjoyment at home with their own families and do not need to escape from them to be entertained. It is this family unity that has been lost in the modern age, when each member of the family lives a separate life. Sadly, although the members of a family may live under one roof, they may not even meet to share a meal together. If we are to revive the unity of our families, we must revive the concept of family time.
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Forwarded from Muslim Marriage Tips
Allah destroyed your dreams and plans before they could destroy you.
▪️You lost a relationship, perhaps it was going to turn abusive.
▪️You didn't get a job, perhaps it was filled with a toxic work environment.
▪️You didn't get to travel to a place, perhaps a natural calamity was going to happen there.
▪️You couldn't immigrate to a western country, perhaps the pressure would have split your family and destroyed your married life.
That's the beauty of "thinking always good of Allah".
His no is His redirection and protection.
Let go.
Some dreams have to die for better more worthy dreams to materialize.
Stick to the 3S.
Sabr.
Salah.
Shukr.
🤲 Allah bless us with akhira vision, bless us with hamd in our every word, bless us with peace and contentment, help us focus on what we have and help us forget what was lost - Ameen.
▪️You lost a relationship, perhaps it was going to turn abusive.
▪️You didn't get a job, perhaps it was filled with a toxic work environment.
▪️You didn't get to travel to a place, perhaps a natural calamity was going to happen there.
▪️You couldn't immigrate to a western country, perhaps the pressure would have split your family and destroyed your married life.
That's the beauty of "thinking always good of Allah".
His no is His redirection and protection.
Let go.
Some dreams have to die for better more worthy dreams to materialize.
Stick to the 3S.
Sabr.
Salah.
Shukr.
🤲 Allah bless us with akhira vision, bless us with hamd in our every word, bless us with peace and contentment, help us focus on what we have and help us forget what was lost - Ameen.
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Abu Darda رضي الله عنه said a man came to the Prophet of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ and complained about the hardness of his heart.
The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:
“Would you like for your heart to become soft and for you to find what you are looking for?
Be compassionate to the orphan and pat his head, and feed him from what you eat. Then your heart will become soft, and you will find what you are looking for.”
Saheeh al-Jāmi' 80 | Shaykh al-Albāni رحمه الله | Saheeh
The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:
“Would you like for your heart to become soft and for you to find what you are looking for?
Be compassionate to the orphan and pat his head, and feed him from what you eat. Then your heart will become soft, and you will find what you are looking for.”
Saheeh al-Jāmi' 80 | Shaykh al-Albāni رحمه الله | Saheeh
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Golden advice for every son:-
Abû Hurayrah – Allâh be pleased with him – once saw two men.
He asked one of them, “How is this man related to you?”
The man replied, “He is my *father*•
Upon hearing this Abu Hurayrah advised him and said:
“Do not call him by his name…
Do not walk in front of him…
And, do not sit before he does.”
Al-Bukhârî, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad. Shaykh Al-Albânî graded its chain of transmission sahîh in Sahîh Al-Adab Al-MufradVol. 1 p19.
Abû Hurayrah – Allâh be pleased with him – once saw two men.
He asked one of them, “How is this man related to you?”
The man replied, “He is my *father*•
Upon hearing this Abu Hurayrah advised him and said:
“Do not call him by his name…
Do not walk in front of him…
And, do not sit before he does.”
Al-Bukhârî, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad. Shaykh Al-Albânî graded its chain of transmission sahîh in Sahîh Al-Adab Al-MufradVol. 1 p19.
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وَقَالَ اللَّيْثُ حَدَّثَنِي هِشَامٌ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ، قَالَتْ قَدِمَتْ أُمِّي وَهْىَ مُشْرِكَةٌ فِي عَهْدِ قُرَيْشٍ وَمُدَّتِهِمْ، إِذْ عَاهَدُوا النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَعَ أَبِيهَا، فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقُلْتُ إِنَّ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ وَهْىَ رَاغِبَةٌ {أَفَأَصِلُهَا} قَالَ " نَعَمْ صِلِي أُمَّكِ ".
Narrated Asma': "My mother who was a Mushrikah (pagan, etc.), came with her father during the period of peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favor)." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yes, be good to your mother."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5979
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5979
Narrated Asma': "My mother who was a Mushrikah (pagan, etc.), came with her father during the period of peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (ﷺ) saying, "My mother has arrived and she is hoping (for my favor)." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yes, be good to your mother."
Sahih al-Bukhari 5979
https://sunnah.com/bukhari:5979
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Your children learn very little from your words and a lot from your actions.
You want them to be honest? Be honest with them and before them. Lying is not for adults, it is bad for everybody.
You want them to be humble? Show them how!
You want them to read the Qur'an often? They will have to see you do it often, rather than a ramadan ritual.
You want them to be responsible men? Let them learn from how responsible you are to their mother.
You want ladies that will be the coolness of their husband's eyes? Let them see how much of a devoted wife you are to their father.
When it comes to parenting, it is hard to give what you don't have. You cant teach your child to develop a character you don't possess. Be a parent that can conveniently say " do as I do" rather than "do as I say" (only).
You want them to be honest? Be honest with them and before them. Lying is not for adults, it is bad for everybody.
You want them to be humble? Show them how!
You want them to read the Qur'an often? They will have to see you do it often, rather than a ramadan ritual.
You want them to be responsible men? Let them learn from how responsible you are to their mother.
You want ladies that will be the coolness of their husband's eyes? Let them see how much of a devoted wife you are to their father.
When it comes to parenting, it is hard to give what you don't have. You cant teach your child to develop a character you don't possess. Be a parent that can conveniently say " do as I do" rather than "do as I say" (only).
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