#Your_response_matters.*
Every broken egg, a pair of eyes, and your response.
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A 5-year old loves to put eggs in the fridge. Once in a while, an egg breaks and she looks at you (her mommy) for a response.
A 6-year old is trying to set the dinner table, breaks a plate of your favorite dinner set, and then those two little eyes seek your sympathy.
A 7-year old is trying to help you get the grocery out of the car, something slips and there you see the honey and the glass pieces. The kid has already covered his cheeks with both his hands.
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Your response matters. My response matters. You see, all these things can be replaced, but our responses can never be. Every time you say, "#It's_OK,_carry on",
you boost the self esteem, helping them to grow as powerful individuals, less prone to depression, anxiety and self esteem issues. Every time you smack them, you instill a simple lesson "materialistic stuff is more worthy than their dignity".
Every broken egg, a pair of eyes, and your response.
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A 5-year old loves to put eggs in the fridge. Once in a while, an egg breaks and she looks at you (her mommy) for a response.
A 6-year old is trying to set the dinner table, breaks a plate of your favorite dinner set, and then those two little eyes seek your sympathy.
A 7-year old is trying to help you get the grocery out of the car, something slips and there you see the honey and the glass pieces. The kid has already covered his cheeks with both his hands.
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Your response matters. My response matters. You see, all these things can be replaced, but our responses can never be. Every time you say, "#It's_OK,_carry on",
you boost the self esteem, helping them to grow as powerful individuals, less prone to depression, anxiety and self esteem issues. Every time you smack them, you instill a simple lesson "materialistic stuff is more worthy than their dignity".
Sh. Ṣāliḥ al-Fawzān Hafiẓahullāh:
“No doubt children are a blessing BUT ONLY when they are upright, and their uprightness has a reason; WHICH IS CULTIVATION (Tarbiyah) BY THEIR FATHER...
For the father has a BIG ROLE in rectification or corruption of his children and he's RESPONSIBLE for them in front of Allāh!!”
● [http://www.alfawzan.af.org.sa/ar/node/15428]
“No doubt children are a blessing BUT ONLY when they are upright, and their uprightness has a reason; WHICH IS CULTIVATION (Tarbiyah) BY THEIR FATHER...
For the father has a BIG ROLE in rectification or corruption of his children and he's RESPONSIBLE for them in front of Allāh!!”
● [http://www.alfawzan.af.org.sa/ar/node/15428]
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Forwarded from Muslim Health Tips
🎯 *Did you know?*⁉️
*Chordae Tendineae or in simple words "Heart Strings" which are essential for heart's mitral function, can break as a result of a trauma!*
*When a "heart break" or trauma happens it means the mitral regurgitation as a result of collapse of chordae tendineae's function. Subsequently, it can create instant or delayed effects on the heart including tachycardia, bradycardia or in worst cases cardiac arrest.*
⚠️ *So next time think a hundred times before breaking someone's heart!*‼️
*Chordae Tendineae or in simple words "Heart Strings" which are essential for heart's mitral function, can break as a result of a trauma!*
*When a "heart break" or trauma happens it means the mitral regurgitation as a result of collapse of chordae tendineae's function. Subsequently, it can create instant or delayed effects on the heart including tachycardia, bradycardia or in worst cases cardiac arrest.*
⚠️ *So next time think a hundred times before breaking someone's heart!*‼️
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𝗥𝘂𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝗳 𝗮 𝗙𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗖𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗺 𝗦𝗮𝗹𝗮̄𝗵 (𝗽𝗿𝗮𝘆𝗲𝗿)
QUESTIONER:
"Verily, many fathers don't advise their sons to perform Ṣalāh. So, Is the father sinful?"
ANSWER:
Yes. The father who doesn't command his children to (perform) Ṣalāh is sinful, and likewise is their brother, paternal uncle, maternal uncle, mother; all of them are sinful if they neglect (this).
Enjoining the good and forbidding the evil is obligatory.
Therefore, It's mandatory upon them to enjoin good and forbid evil, and it's from the obligations of the believers.
He, Taʿāla [The Exalted] says:
“The believing men and women are Awliyā’ (supporters) of one another; they enjoin (on the people) Al-Ma‘rūf (i.e. Islāmic Monotheism and all that Islâm orders one to do), and forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islām has forbidden).” — Sūrah At-Tawbah, 71
And the Prophet ﷺ said, “Whoever sees Munkar among you, then let him change it with his hand, if he's unable to, then, with his tongue. If he's unable, then, with his heart.”
They're capable of speech, meaning, they're capable of condemning through speech. Therefore, the mother condemns, (likewise does) the father, elder brother, paternal uncle, maternal uncle, and others.
For indeed, this is from the ways of helping one another in righteousness and piety.
Allāh, Glorified be He, said, “Help you one another in Al-Birr and At-Taqwā (virtue, righteousness and piety).” — Sūrah Al-Māʾidah, 2
And He, Glorified be He, said, “By Al-‘Asr (the time). Verily, man is in loss, except those who believe (in Islāmic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth and recommend one another to patience.” — Sūrah Al-ʿAṣr, 1-3
It's a must to help one another in righteousness and piety.
There's no doubt that condemning the one who abandons the prayer is from the ways of helping one another in righteousness, piety and a daʿwah (calling) to Allāh, the Exalted.
[Shaykh Ibn Bāz (رحمه اللّٰه) | q/a translated vid, https://t(dot)me/SheikhIbnBaz]
QUESTIONER:
"Verily, many fathers don't advise their sons to perform Ṣalāh. So, Is the father sinful?"
ANSWER:
Yes. The father who doesn't command his children to (perform) Ṣalāh is sinful, and likewise is their brother, paternal uncle, maternal uncle, mother; all of them are sinful if they neglect (this).
Enjoining the good and forbidding the evil is obligatory.
Therefore, It's mandatory upon them to enjoin good and forbid evil, and it's from the obligations of the believers.
He, Taʿāla [The Exalted] says:
“The believing men and women are Awliyā’ (supporters) of one another; they enjoin (on the people) Al-Ma‘rūf (i.e. Islāmic Monotheism and all that Islâm orders one to do), and forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islām has forbidden).” — Sūrah At-Tawbah, 71
And the Prophet ﷺ said, “Whoever sees Munkar among you, then let him change it with his hand, if he's unable to, then, with his tongue. If he's unable, then, with his heart.”
They're capable of speech, meaning, they're capable of condemning through speech. Therefore, the mother condemns, (likewise does) the father, elder brother, paternal uncle, maternal uncle, and others.
For indeed, this is from the ways of helping one another in righteousness and piety.
Allāh, Glorified be He, said, “Help you one another in Al-Birr and At-Taqwā (virtue, righteousness and piety).” — Sūrah Al-Māʾidah, 2
And He, Glorified be He, said, “By Al-‘Asr (the time). Verily, man is in loss, except those who believe (in Islāmic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth and recommend one another to patience.” — Sūrah Al-ʿAṣr, 1-3
It's a must to help one another in righteousness and piety.
There's no doubt that condemning the one who abandons the prayer is from the ways of helping one another in righteousness, piety and a daʿwah (calling) to Allāh, the Exalted.
[Shaykh Ibn Bāz (رحمه اللّٰه) | q/a translated vid, https://t(dot)me/SheikhIbnBaz]
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Imam Ibn Al-Jawzi رحمه الله on parent's rights:
وقوله: (وَبِالوَلِدَينِ إِحساناً) هو: البر والإكرام
قال ابن عباس: (لا تنفض ثوبك أمامهما فيصيبها الغبار) .
'𝘈𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘒𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘮 𝘴𝘢𝘪𝘥: '𝘽𝙚 𝙜𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨.' [𝘘𝘶𝘳'𝘢𝘯 2:83].
𝘐𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘴 𝘸𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴.
𝘐𝘣𝘯 𝘈𝘣𝘣𝘢𝘢𝘴 رضي الله عنه 𝘴𝘢𝘪𝘥: '𝘿𝙤 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙣 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙘𝙡𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙣𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢, 𝙨𝙤 𝙞𝙩𝙨 𝙙𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙛𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢.'
['Birr al-Walidayn', p. 1].
وقوله: (وَبِالوَلِدَينِ إِحساناً) هو: البر والإكرام
قال ابن عباس: (لا تنفض ثوبك أمامهما فيصيبها الغبار) .
'𝘈𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘒𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘮 𝘴𝘢𝘪𝘥: '𝘽𝙚 𝙜𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨.' [𝘘𝘶𝘳'𝘢𝘯 2:83].
𝘐𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘴 𝘸𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴.
𝘐𝘣𝘯 𝘈𝘣𝘣𝘢𝘢𝘴 رضي الله عنه 𝘴𝘢𝘪𝘥: '𝘿𝙤 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙣 𝙨𝙝𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙘𝙡𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙨 𝙞𝙣 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙣𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢, 𝙨𝙤 𝙞𝙩𝙨 𝙙𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙛𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢.'
['Birr al-Walidayn', p. 1].
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The Braying Drunkard
Al-‘Awām b. Ḥawshab (148H) – Allāh have mercy on him – said:
I once came to an area in one part of which was a graveyard. After ‘aṣr, one of the graves split open and a man with the head of a donkey and the body of a human came up from it and brayed three times, after which the grave closed back up on him. I then saw an old woman weaving fleece or wool, and a woman said, “Do you see that old woman?” I said, “What about her?” She replied, “That is the mother of this [dead] man.” I asked, “What was his story?” She replied, “He used to drink wine, and whenever he would go out his mother would say, ‘O my son, fear Allāh; until when will you keep drinking wine?’ He would reply, ‘You bray like a donkey.'” The woman said, “He then died after ‘aṣr, so every day after ‘asr the grave opens up and he brays a few times, then the grave closes up on him again.”
Al-Hāfidh Abul-Qāsim Al-Aṣbahānī, Al-Targhīb wa Al-Tarhīb article 471.
Shaykh Nāṣir Al-Dīn Al-Albānī graded this narration ḥasan in his edition of Al-Mundhirī’s Al-Targhīb wa Al-Tarhīb. See Ṣaḥīḥ Al-Targhīb wa Al-Tarhīb ḥadīth 2517.
Al-Mundhirī quotes Al-Aṣbahānī as saying:
This [story] was narrated by Abul-‘Abbās Al-Aṣam in a dictation at Naysābūr, in the presence of great preservers [of traditions] and people of knowledge, and they did not reject it.
Al-‘Awām b. Ḥawshab (148H) – Allāh have mercy on him – said:
I once came to an area in one part of which was a graveyard. After ‘aṣr, one of the graves split open and a man with the head of a donkey and the body of a human came up from it and brayed three times, after which the grave closed back up on him. I then saw an old woman weaving fleece or wool, and a woman said, “Do you see that old woman?” I said, “What about her?” She replied, “That is the mother of this [dead] man.” I asked, “What was his story?” She replied, “He used to drink wine, and whenever he would go out his mother would say, ‘O my son, fear Allāh; until when will you keep drinking wine?’ He would reply, ‘You bray like a donkey.'” The woman said, “He then died after ‘aṣr, so every day after ‘asr the grave opens up and he brays a few times, then the grave closes up on him again.”
Al-Hāfidh Abul-Qāsim Al-Aṣbahānī, Al-Targhīb wa Al-Tarhīb article 471.
Shaykh Nāṣir Al-Dīn Al-Albānī graded this narration ḥasan in his edition of Al-Mundhirī’s Al-Targhīb wa Al-Tarhīb. See Ṣaḥīḥ Al-Targhīb wa Al-Tarhīb ḥadīth 2517.
Al-Mundhirī quotes Al-Aṣbahānī as saying:
This [story] was narrated by Abul-‘Abbās Al-Aṣam in a dictation at Naysābūr, in the presence of great preservers [of traditions] and people of knowledge, and they did not reject it.
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Kids should be shown extreme gentleness and softness - build them up with love and mercy. However softness does not mean, a mother should avoid educating her child on right and wrong. Many children have extremely bad habits, and parents avoid calling them out. The truth is, most parents have very little control over their kids, rather their kids have the most control over their parents. Allowing your children to control you is not a form of love. Many parents give in to their kids unhealthy and harmful demands, just to silence them from throwing tantrums. The habits you instill within your children when they are young will be habits they hold when they are older - do not make it difficult for their adulthood. Their tarbiya is your responsibility. Let it not be, that someone asks them "what did your mother teach you?"
Be upright, stand your ground - and show softness.
Be upright, stand your ground - and show softness.
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Parents Gain from Their Children's Good Deeds, with or without Their Children Intending That
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'Aishah (May Allaah be pleased with her) reported:The Prophet (ﷺ) said,
"The two raka'āt before the dawn (Fajr) prayer are better than this world and all it contains."
[Muslim]
Another narration goes: "The two rak'āt before the dawn (Fajr) prayer are dearer to me than the whole world."
*Note: This is done between the Adhaan and the obligatory Fajr prayer
#rawaatib #Fajr
"The two raka'āt before the dawn (Fajr) prayer are better than this world and all it contains."
[Muslim]
Another narration goes: "The two rak'āt before the dawn (Fajr) prayer are dearer to me than the whole world."
*Note: This is done between the Adhaan and the obligatory Fajr prayer
#rawaatib #Fajr
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HADEETH 4 OF THE 40 NAWAWIYAH
▪️Imam Ahmad recorded in his Musnad that Abdullah -- Ibn Mas`ud -- said:
"The Messenger of Allah ﷺ, the Truthful One, told us:
إِنَّ أَحَدَكُمْ لَيُجْمَعُ خَلْقُهُ فِي بَطْنِ أُمِّهِ أَرْبَعِينَ يَوْمًا نُطْفَةً ثُمَّ يَكُونُ عَلَقَةً مِثْلَ ذلِكَ ثُمَّ يَكُونُ مُضْغَةً مِثْلَ ذلِكَ ثُمَّ يُرْسَلُ إِلَيْهِ الْمَلَكُ فَيَنْفُخُ فِيهِ الرُّوحَ وَيُوْمَرُ بِأَرْبَعِ كَلِمَاتٍ رِزْقِهِ وَأَجَلِهِ وَعَمَلِهِ وَهَلْ هُوَ شَقِيٌّ أَوْ سَعِيدٌ فَوَ الَّذِي لَا إِلهَ غَيْرُهُ إِنَّ أَحَدَكُمْ لَيَعْمَلُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ الْجَنَّةِ حَتَّى مَا يَكُونُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَهَا إِلاَّ ذِرَاعٌ فَيَسْبِقُ عَلَيْهِ الْكِتَابُ فَيُخْتَمُ لَهُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ النَّارِ فَيَدْخُلُهَا وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيَعْمَلُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ النَّارِ حَتَّى مَا يَكُونُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَهَا إِلاَّ ذِرَاعٌ فَيَسْبِقُ عَلَيْهِ الْكِتَابُ فَيُخْتَمُ لَهُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ الْجَنَّةِ فَيَدْخُلُهَا
The creation of anyone of you is gathered for forty days in his mother's womb as a Nutfah (the mixture of the male and female discharge), then becomes an 'Alaqah (a piece of thick coagulated blood), for a similar period of time, then he becomes a Mudghah (little lump of flesh) for a similar length of time.
Then the angel is sent to him and he breathes the soul into it, and four things are decreed:
•his provision,
•his life-span,
•his deeds, and
•whether he will be wretched or blessed.
By the One besides Whom there is no other god, one of you may do the deeds of the people of Paradise until there is no more than a forearm's length between him and it, then the decree will overtake him and he will do the deeds of the people of Hell and thus enter Hell.
And a man may do the deeds of the people of Hell until there is no more than a forearm's length between him and it, then the decree will overtake him and he will do finally the deeds of the people of Paradise and thus enter Paradise.
This was recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.📙
▪️Imam Ahmad recorded in his Musnad that Abdullah -- Ibn Mas`ud -- said:
"The Messenger of Allah ﷺ, the Truthful One, told us:
إِنَّ أَحَدَكُمْ لَيُجْمَعُ خَلْقُهُ فِي بَطْنِ أُمِّهِ أَرْبَعِينَ يَوْمًا نُطْفَةً ثُمَّ يَكُونُ عَلَقَةً مِثْلَ ذلِكَ ثُمَّ يَكُونُ مُضْغَةً مِثْلَ ذلِكَ ثُمَّ يُرْسَلُ إِلَيْهِ الْمَلَكُ فَيَنْفُخُ فِيهِ الرُّوحَ وَيُوْمَرُ بِأَرْبَعِ كَلِمَاتٍ رِزْقِهِ وَأَجَلِهِ وَعَمَلِهِ وَهَلْ هُوَ شَقِيٌّ أَوْ سَعِيدٌ فَوَ الَّذِي لَا إِلهَ غَيْرُهُ إِنَّ أَحَدَكُمْ لَيَعْمَلُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ الْجَنَّةِ حَتَّى مَا يَكُونُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَهَا إِلاَّ ذِرَاعٌ فَيَسْبِقُ عَلَيْهِ الْكِتَابُ فَيُخْتَمُ لَهُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ النَّارِ فَيَدْخُلُهَا وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيَعْمَلُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ النَّارِ حَتَّى مَا يَكُونُ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَهَا إِلاَّ ذِرَاعٌ فَيَسْبِقُ عَلَيْهِ الْكِتَابُ فَيُخْتَمُ لَهُ بِعَمَلِ أَهْلِ الْجَنَّةِ فَيَدْخُلُهَا
The creation of anyone of you is gathered for forty days in his mother's womb as a Nutfah (the mixture of the male and female discharge), then becomes an 'Alaqah (a piece of thick coagulated blood), for a similar period of time, then he becomes a Mudghah (little lump of flesh) for a similar length of time.
Then the angel is sent to him and he breathes the soul into it, and four things are decreed:
•his provision,
•his life-span,
•his deeds, and
•whether he will be wretched or blessed.
By the One besides Whom there is no other god, one of you may do the deeds of the people of Paradise until there is no more than a forearm's length between him and it, then the decree will overtake him and he will do the deeds of the people of Hell and thus enter Hell.
And a man may do the deeds of the people of Hell until there is no more than a forearm's length between him and it, then the decree will overtake him and he will do finally the deeds of the people of Paradise and thus enter Paradise.
This was recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.📙
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The Parents of yesterday wanted their children to become a scholar,a warrior for islam, a righteous leader that would strive for the sake of Allah and his name won't be forgotten in the surface of the earth.
But the parents of today wanted their children to be famous (for worldly life),to build a mansion for them,a nice car,a best job.
May Allah make us a righteous parent for his sake in this world and hereafter.
*Bitter truth*😭
But the parents of today wanted their children to be famous (for worldly life),to build a mansion for them,a nice car,a best job.
May Allah make us a righteous parent for his sake in this world and hereafter.
*Bitter truth*😭
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Dont SCREAM at ur child, speak to them using gentle speech & kind words:
How often is it that when our children misbehave we tend to lash out, to shout, to SCREAM to speak in an abrupt and maybe even cold manner...? I came across this ayah in the Quran where Allah says:
“Go, both of you, to Pharaoh. Indeed, he has transgressed. And speak to him with GENTLE SPEECH he may be reminded or fear [Allah].”
Qur'an [Surah Taha: 20:44]
How terrible and arrogant was Firawn? How evil was his treatment of the Banu-Israel? How he turned his face in contempt towards Allah? He was the most insolent & arrogant person of his time.
Despite all this, Allah orders Musa (alaihis salaam) & Haroon (alaihis salam) to speak to him in a gentle and kind manner, just in case he might come around and believe.
There is an important lesson here on how you should treat difficult people & those headed in the wrong direction. Especially our own children when they do or say things that are contrary to what you've taught them.
Just like you don't appreciate people talking down to you, your approach needs to be one of love and concern regardless of the behaviour of your child. The manner in which you speak to a CHILD is often times more important and more impactful than what you say!
Its not WHAT you say, its HOW you say it...so STOP SCREAMING at ur child & speak kindly & gentle like a close friend.
How often is it that when our children misbehave we tend to lash out, to shout, to SCREAM to speak in an abrupt and maybe even cold manner...? I came across this ayah in the Quran where Allah says:
“Go, both of you, to Pharaoh. Indeed, he has transgressed. And speak to him with GENTLE SPEECH he may be reminded or fear [Allah].”
Qur'an [Surah Taha: 20:44]
How terrible and arrogant was Firawn? How evil was his treatment of the Banu-Israel? How he turned his face in contempt towards Allah? He was the most insolent & arrogant person of his time.
Despite all this, Allah orders Musa (alaihis salaam) & Haroon (alaihis salam) to speak to him in a gentle and kind manner, just in case he might come around and believe.
There is an important lesson here on how you should treat difficult people & those headed in the wrong direction. Especially our own children when they do or say things that are contrary to what you've taught them.
Just like you don't appreciate people talking down to you, your approach needs to be one of love and concern regardless of the behaviour of your child. The manner in which you speak to a CHILD is often times more important and more impactful than what you say!
Its not WHAT you say, its HOW you say it...so STOP SCREAMING at ur child & speak kindly & gentle like a close friend.
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