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Heal your heart with Qur'ān
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله:
“If you read (the Qur'ān) with contemplation, even if over a (single) ayah, it is a key to healing your heart. Even if repeated a hundred times and for the (whole) night. Reading an ayah with contemplation and understanding is better than reading to completion without tadabbur and understanding. It is more beneficial for the heart and ensures gain in faith, and in tasting sweetness of the Qur'ān.”
مفتاح دار السعادة (٥٥٣/١)
Ibn al-Qayyim رحمه الله:
“If you read (the Qur'ān) with contemplation, even if over a (single) ayah, it is a key to healing your heart. Even if repeated a hundred times and for the (whole) night. Reading an ayah with contemplation and understanding is better than reading to completion without tadabbur and understanding. It is more beneficial for the heart and ensures gain in faith, and in tasting sweetness of the Qur'ān.”
مفتاح دار السعادة (٥٥٣/١)
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The Best Thing You Can Give Your #Child
It is necessary that we know the responsibility of the fathers, and their first obligation towards their children is the good of their hereafter and (the good of) their worldly life, as Allāh the Mighty
and Majestic says:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ اللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ
O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.
[Al Qur'an, at-Tahrim: 6]
Therefore, from the foremost of the obligations towards children is to save them from the fire, and indeed, it is the best that the fathers can give to their children.
Ash-Shaykh 'Abdullah al-Bukhāri, Huqūq al-awlad (p.13)
It is necessary that we know the responsibility of the fathers, and their first obligation towards their children is the good of their hereafter and (the good of) their worldly life, as Allāh the Mighty
and Majestic says:
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ اللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ
O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.
[Al Qur'an, at-Tahrim: 6]
Therefore, from the foremost of the obligations towards children is to save them from the fire, and indeed, it is the best that the fathers can give to their children.
Ash-Shaykh 'Abdullah al-Bukhāri, Huqūq al-awlad (p.13)
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Making the parents cry is a MAJOR sin:
— Shaykh Abū Khadeejah:
And from them, as ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar (radiyallāhu ‘anhumā) stated: causing your parents to cry because of the way that you treat them.
That is a major sin.
If you make your parents sad and you have done something that is not related to the religion, then you should fear Allah. Of course, if you fast and your parents cry because of your fasting, then that is not your fault ― in the month of Ramadhān you’re fasting, or you’re praying Fajr and your parents are upset that you’re praying because they are not religious people.
This narration is not referring to that. This is referring to making your parents cry needlessly. For example, they ask you to do something and you don’t do it, or that you constantly bother them and you hurt their feelings. That is from the major sins.
That a tear should be shed from your mother or from your father because of your ill-treatment of them. Fear Allāh (subhānahu wa ta’ālā) with regard to this affair. It doesn’t matter how old you are. You could be a youth, or an elderly, or a middle-aged man and if your mother is in her eighties and you make her cry?
You should be ashamed of yourself that your mother or your father cry; you made them cry because of your bad treatment of them, or maybe because you didn’t say the words in a correct manner.
There are twenty, thirty, or a hundred ways of saying something but you chose the worst way of speaking to your mother or to your father. And you break their hearts; that is a major sin.
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— Shaykh Abū Khadeejah:
And from them, as ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar (radiyallāhu ‘anhumā) stated: causing your parents to cry because of the way that you treat them.
That is a major sin.
If you make your parents sad and you have done something that is not related to the religion, then you should fear Allah. Of course, if you fast and your parents cry because of your fasting, then that is not your fault ― in the month of Ramadhān you’re fasting, or you’re praying Fajr and your parents are upset that you’re praying because they are not religious people.
This narration is not referring to that. This is referring to making your parents cry needlessly. For example, they ask you to do something and you don’t do it, or that you constantly bother them and you hurt their feelings. That is from the major sins.
That a tear should be shed from your mother or from your father because of your ill-treatment of them. Fear Allāh (subhānahu wa ta’ālā) with regard to this affair. It doesn’t matter how old you are. You could be a youth, or an elderly, or a middle-aged man and if your mother is in her eighties and you make her cry?
You should be ashamed of yourself that your mother or your father cry; you made them cry because of your bad treatment of them, or maybe because you didn’t say the words in a correct manner.
There are twenty, thirty, or a hundred ways of saying something but you chose the worst way of speaking to your mother or to your father. And you break their hearts; that is a major sin.
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Rushing your child to memorize the whole Qur'an before the age of 5 years is not a condition for his entry to paradise, neither is it your automatic ticket to Jannah. Let your child learn and memorize at his own pace and within the limits of his own strength, don't over stress him just because you want him to become a Haafiz before your neighbour's children or because you want him to win a certain Quranic competition, or because you want him to be made a young imam leading people in Taraweeh.
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Children do not have the same level of comprehension and assimilation, some children are even gifted with Heekmah naturally, yours may be an average child or even a dull one upstairs. If it takes your child 20 years to learn and memorize it, then it's all fine. The end result is more important than the duration or speed. If a seven years old child has the whole Qur'an in his heart, but does not work with it and doesn't even know it's meanings, its of little or no benefit to him.
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Your goal should be to strive to make your child a 'conscious Muslim who practices the religion in the light of the Sunnah', the child should be a serious student of knowledge, Allah can then make him from the Ahlul Quran (people of the Quran) even if he hasn't memorized all of it. Don't push your child to quickly memorize it just so he could win lots of gifts from competitions or to make him popular on Youtube recitation videos, rather teach him to memorize it solely for the sake of Allah, the intention is more important than the deed.
may Allah rectify our affairs and count our children among the people of the Quran.
Abul Banaat
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Children do not have the same level of comprehension and assimilation, some children are even gifted with Heekmah naturally, yours may be an average child or even a dull one upstairs. If it takes your child 20 years to learn and memorize it, then it's all fine. The end result is more important than the duration or speed. If a seven years old child has the whole Qur'an in his heart, but does not work with it and doesn't even know it's meanings, its of little or no benefit to him.
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Your goal should be to strive to make your child a 'conscious Muslim who practices the religion in the light of the Sunnah', the child should be a serious student of knowledge, Allah can then make him from the Ahlul Quran (people of the Quran) even if he hasn't memorized all of it. Don't push your child to quickly memorize it just so he could win lots of gifts from competitions or to make him popular on Youtube recitation videos, rather teach him to memorize it solely for the sake of Allah, the intention is more important than the deed.
may Allah rectify our affairs and count our children among the people of the Quran.
Abul Banaat
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In other words don’t just raise a smart kid, raise a wise one! One who will work harder for the akhirah. Remember, there’s more to come after this dunya...
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#remindertomyself #islamichomeschooling #muslimchildrensbooks #tarbiyyah #muslimparenting #takeprideinauthenticity #homeschool #righteousnesstoparents
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In other words don’t just raise a smart kid, raise a wise one! One who will work harder for the akhirah. Remember, there’s more to come after this dunya...
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#remindertomyself #islamichomeschooling #muslimchildrensbooks #tarbiyyah #muslimparenting #takeprideinauthenticity #homeschool #righteousnesstoparents
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Teach your son's masculinity in character and actions.
Give them toys that will induce their masculine side, let them wrestle, join in with them. Take them out camping in the woods and teach them survival skills. Teach them to control their emotions and not be fairys who cry over things men don't cry over, it's very important in this estrogen packed society.
Teach them how to fight, let them learn how to defend themselves, take them to various martial arts.
Let them follow you around and not stay at home with the women, boys who grow up amongst women generally become feminine and over sensitive.
Teach them character, honour, gheerah, chivalry and how to be noble. Teach them how to defend the truth and not be people pleasers. Teach them to defend the weak. Teach them to not talk to much like women and only talk good.
Teach them how to think with their intellect and not be emotional driven. Let them know the weight of responsibility and make them feel like they're grown responsible individuals.
Teach them how to take care of the family, how to protect, defend, provide for and not be lazy.
But above all, let them see all of the above from you, boys will follow their fathers footsteps.
Give them toys that will induce their masculine side, let them wrestle, join in with them. Take them out camping in the woods and teach them survival skills. Teach them to control their emotions and not be fairys who cry over things men don't cry over, it's very important in this estrogen packed society.
Teach them how to fight, let them learn how to defend themselves, take them to various martial arts.
Let them follow you around and not stay at home with the women, boys who grow up amongst women generally become feminine and over sensitive.
Teach them character, honour, gheerah, chivalry and how to be noble. Teach them how to defend the truth and not be people pleasers. Teach them to defend the weak. Teach them to not talk to much like women and only talk good.
Teach them how to think with their intellect and not be emotional driven. Let them know the weight of responsibility and make them feel like they're grown responsible individuals.
Teach them how to take care of the family, how to protect, defend, provide for and not be lazy.
But above all, let them see all of the above from you, boys will follow their fathers footsteps.
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If you want Allah ﷻ to love you, you must connect to your parents. Squash the beef bz your mother carried you in her womb. That is the safest place for any baby.
You can never put her in such a safe place like this no matter how much you try.
When you were hungry, she fed you.
When you needed a bath she bathed you.
When you were sick, she nursed you to health.
When you cried she comforted you.
We will never be able to return what our parents gave to us, especially our mothers.
My mother رحيمها الله is no longer here and this life hasn’t been the same since 2001. Yet if your mother is still with you, reach out and just say I love you. We only get one mother!
My Allah preserve our mothers and guide them on the straight path Ameen 🤲🏽
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You can never put her in such a safe place like this no matter how much you try.
When you were hungry, she fed you.
When you needed a bath she bathed you.
When you were sick, she nursed you to health.
When you cried she comforted you.
We will never be able to return what our parents gave to us, especially our mothers.
My mother رحيمها الله is no longer here and this life hasn’t been the same since 2001. Yet if your mother is still with you, reach out and just say I love you. We only get one mother!
My Allah preserve our mothers and guide them on the straight path Ameen 🤲🏽
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Look at how the great Imaam of Sunnah used to do this!
How many times have you woken up for Fajr, rubbed your eyes and went in to your children's room seen them sleeping and decided to try and wake them up with little success and then thought to yourself let them sleep.🥀 Even though the child is over the age of 10. Look at how the great Imaam of Sunnah used to do this.
Concerning the Imaam, the Shaykh - 'Abdul-'Azeez ibn Baaz (rahima-hullaah), his son Ahmad narrates:
"The Shaykh used to call his children via the internal phone to wake them up for Salaat al-Fajr.
And when he called them, he would recite the (authentic and recommended) supplication:
((al-Hamdu Lillaahil-lathee Ahyaanaa ba'da maa Amaatanaa wa ilayhin-nushoor))
(All praise is for Allaah who gave us life having taken it from us and unto Him is the resurrection)
...since they were overcome by sleep, he would ask them to repeat this supplication until he felt sure they had woken up!"
al-Imaam Ibn Baaz - duroos wa mawaaqif wa 'ibar - Page 71
How many times have you woken up for Fajr, rubbed your eyes and went in to your children's room seen them sleeping and decided to try and wake them up with little success and then thought to yourself let them sleep.🥀 Even though the child is over the age of 10. Look at how the great Imaam of Sunnah used to do this.
Concerning the Imaam, the Shaykh - 'Abdul-'Azeez ibn Baaz (rahima-hullaah), his son Ahmad narrates:
"The Shaykh used to call his children via the internal phone to wake them up for Salaat al-Fajr.
And when he called them, he would recite the (authentic and recommended) supplication:
((al-Hamdu Lillaahil-lathee Ahyaanaa ba'da maa Amaatanaa wa ilayhin-nushoor))
(All praise is for Allaah who gave us life having taken it from us and unto Him is the resurrection)
...since they were overcome by sleep, he would ask them to repeat this supplication until he felt sure they had woken up!"
al-Imaam Ibn Baaz - duroos wa mawaaqif wa 'ibar - Page 71
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WHEN PARENTS GET OLD ...
Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow ... let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child ... let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win ... let them enjoy their friends just as they let you … let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them ... let them enjoy living among the objects that have accompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away ... let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarrass you by correcting you ...
LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!
Let them grow old with the same love that they let you grow ... let them speak and tell repeated stories with the same patience and interest that they heard yours as a child ... let them overcome, like so many times when they let you win ... let them enjoy their friends just as they let you … let them enjoy the talks with their grandchildren, because they see you in them ... let them enjoy living among the objects that have accompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you tear pieces of this life away ... let them be wrong, like so many times you have been wrong and they didn’t embarrass you by correcting you ...
LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy the last stretch of the path they have left to go; give them your hand, just like they gave you their hand when you started your path!
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A reminder to parents that your children will blame you on the Day of Judgement for not raising them fearing Allaah and for encouraging them to do sins. Death is inevitable. Change your ways before it's too late.
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THE WAY TO BE DUTIFUL TO THE PARENTS
Honouring the parents is by :
• Obeying them in what they command as long it does not involve something impermissible.
• Giving precedence to their command over supererogatory acts.
• Abstaining from what they forbid.
• Spending upon them.
• Taking care of their needs.
• Doing one’s utmost in caring for them.
• Dealing with them with the correct conduct and mannerism and showing them respect. The child should not raise his voice to them, stare at them or call them by their names. He should walk behind them and be patient if they do anything that he dislikes.
Book: The Rights of the Parents In Light of the Qur’ān and the Sunnah
By Shaykh Muhammad Ibn ‘Umar Bāzmūl
Translated by Abu Abdillah Hassan as-Somali
Sunnah Publishing
P. 33
Honouring the parents is by :
• Obeying them in what they command as long it does not involve something impermissible.
• Giving precedence to their command over supererogatory acts.
• Abstaining from what they forbid.
• Spending upon them.
• Taking care of their needs.
• Doing one’s utmost in caring for them.
• Dealing with them with the correct conduct and mannerism and showing them respect. The child should not raise his voice to them, stare at them or call them by their names. He should walk behind them and be patient if they do anything that he dislikes.
Book: The Rights of the Parents In Light of the Qur’ān and the Sunnah
By Shaykh Muhammad Ibn ‘Umar Bāzmūl
Translated by Abu Abdillah Hassan as-Somali
Sunnah Publishing
P. 33
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#Our_Children
One mistake some parents make is to believe that to love one's children is to do their work.
This usually happen due to excessive pity on them and feel that as a parent their duty is to do things for them.
For example
A child of six, doesn't know how to dress👗, tie his/her shoes👟, or Comb his hair. And when this is done constantly, it makes the child so dependent on you and it doesn't instill confidence in them, and makes them have this inferiority complex amongst his/her peers.
We as Muslim Parents should know that we are raising the people that will lead the Ummah in the Future. We don't raise our children to be "mummy's boy" or "spoilt brat".
Barakallahu feekum, so therefore lets not always do things for them but to show them how to do them. Give them personal skills of carrying out personal and household chores. A child who is not taught to do them when young, will be unwilling to do them when they are older.
May Allah preserve us and our children upon goodness.
Aamiyn.
Kind Regards.
AbuAmeenah
One mistake some parents make is to believe that to love one's children is to do their work.
This usually happen due to excessive pity on them and feel that as a parent their duty is to do things for them.
For example
A child of six, doesn't know how to dress👗, tie his/her shoes👟, or Comb his hair. And when this is done constantly, it makes the child so dependent on you and it doesn't instill confidence in them, and makes them have this inferiority complex amongst his/her peers.
We as Muslim Parents should know that we are raising the people that will lead the Ummah in the Future. We don't raise our children to be "mummy's boy" or "spoilt brat".
Barakallahu feekum, so therefore lets not always do things for them but to show them how to do them. Give them personal skills of carrying out personal and household chores. A child who is not taught to do them when young, will be unwilling to do them when they are older.
May Allah preserve us and our children upon goodness.
Aamiyn.
Kind Regards.
AbuAmeenah
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Forwarded from EvilEyes&BlackMagic
In the age of social media, where sharing our lives online has become the norm, it's easy to get caught up in the allure of likes, comments, and followers. But what happens when the spotlight turns into a curse? The recent divorce of popular YouTubers Khalid and Salema serves as a cautionary tale, shedding light on the dark side of oversharing.
Khalid and Salema were once beloved by their fans for their candid portrayal of their relationship on social media. From heartfelt declarations of love to sharing intimate moments, their followers felt like they were part of their journey. However, behind the facade of a picture-perfect life, cracks began to appear.
As news of their divorce broke, speculation ran rampant. Many attributed their downfall to the pressures of fame and the constant scrutiny that comes with it. But perhaps there's a deeper lesson to be learned here – the perils of the evil eye.
The truth is, the evil eye doesn't discriminate. It can affect anyone, regardless of their social status or popularity. And while Khalid and Salema's situation may be an extreme example, it serves as a sobering reminder of the consequences of living our lives in the spotlight.
So, what can we learn from this? Firstly, the importance of boundaries. While sharing moments of our lives can be enriching, it's crucial to strike a balance and preserve our privacy. Not everything needs to be shared with the world.
Secondly, mindfulness. Before hitting that 'post' button, consider the potential implications. Are we inviting unnecessary attention or envy? Are we inadvertently exposing ourselves to negative energy?
Lastly, humility. Instead of seeking validation through likes and comments, find fulfillment in genuine connections and personal growth. Remember that true happiness comes from within, not from external validation.
As we navigate the ever-changing landscape of social media, Let's cherish our blessings, protect our privacy, and stay grounded in humility. After all, in a world where oversharing is the norm, sometimes the best thing we can do is to stay lowkey.
#foodforthought2024
Khalid and Salema were once beloved by their fans for their candid portrayal of their relationship on social media. From heartfelt declarations of love to sharing intimate moments, their followers felt like they were part of their journey. However, behind the facade of a picture-perfect life, cracks began to appear.
As news of their divorce broke, speculation ran rampant. Many attributed their downfall to the pressures of fame and the constant scrutiny that comes with it. But perhaps there's a deeper lesson to be learned here – the perils of the evil eye.
The truth is, the evil eye doesn't discriminate. It can affect anyone, regardless of their social status or popularity. And while Khalid and Salema's situation may be an extreme example, it serves as a sobering reminder of the consequences of living our lives in the spotlight.
So, what can we learn from this? Firstly, the importance of boundaries. While sharing moments of our lives can be enriching, it's crucial to strike a balance and preserve our privacy. Not everything needs to be shared with the world.
Secondly, mindfulness. Before hitting that 'post' button, consider the potential implications. Are we inviting unnecessary attention or envy? Are we inadvertently exposing ourselves to negative energy?
Lastly, humility. Instead of seeking validation through likes and comments, find fulfillment in genuine connections and personal growth. Remember that true happiness comes from within, not from external validation.
As we navigate the ever-changing landscape of social media, Let's cherish our blessings, protect our privacy, and stay grounded in humility. After all, in a world where oversharing is the norm, sometimes the best thing we can do is to stay lowkey.
#foodforthought2024
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Forwarded from Authentic Duas
The Mother of The Believers - Umm al-Mu'minīn - 'Ā’ishah (raḍiAllāhu ‘anhā) said:
“O Messenger of Allāh! What if I knew which night Laylatul Qadr was, what should I say in it?...”
📜 The Du'ā + an explanation of the Name of Allāh 'Al-Afuww' by Imām Ibn Rajab (رحمه الله):
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https://www.linktr.ee/SalafiPosts
A Reminder Benefits the Believers.
“O Messenger of Allāh! What if I knew which night Laylatul Qadr was, what should I say in it?...”
📜 The Du'ā + an explanation of the Name of Allāh 'Al-Afuww' by Imām Ibn Rajab (رحمه الله):
x.com/markazsalafi/status/1773791016379666888
https://www.linktr.ee/SalafiPosts
A Reminder Benefits the Believers.
KINDLY READ THE HADITH CAREFULLY & I'LL BREAK YOUR HEART
that why no one should be a Merciful human beings in this world toward thier children except there parents!
Abū ʿAlī b. Muḥammad b. Aḥmad al-Ṭūmārī reported that Abū Bakr b. ʿAbd al-Khāliq al-Warrāq said:
I had a daughter who was tested with a disability and she was like this for around ten years.
أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّد بْن جَعْفَر بْن علان الشروطي، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَلِيّ عيسى بْن مُحَمَّد بْن أَحْمَد الطوماري، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو بَكْر بْن عَبْد الخالق الوراق، قَالَ: كَانَت لي بنت مبتلاة، وكَانَ لها نحو عشر سنين،
I once said, “I wished she just died” and then she (actually) died.
قَالَ: وكنت أتمنى موتها فماتت،
I then saw her in my sleep (ie: dream after she passed away),
as if she was standing in front of him and the Day of Judgement was taking place.
قَالَ: فأريتها فِي النوم وكأن القيامة
She stood up (as if) she was one of those children who would take the hand of her parent and lead them to al-Jannah (ie: Paradise).
قد قامت وكأن صبيانا يأخذون بأيدي آبائهم فِيدخلونهم الجنة،
So I said to my daughter, “Take my hand and lead me to al-Jannah.”
قَالَ: فقلت لبنتي: خذي بيدي ادخليني الجنة،
She said to me, “No, you wished for my death.”
قَالَ: فقالت لي: لا أنت كنت تتمنى موتي!
al-Khaṭīb al-Baġdādī, Tārīkh Baġdād 6/212
الخطيب البغدادي، تاريخ بغداد ٦/٢١٢
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that why no one should be a Merciful human beings in this world toward thier children except there parents!
Abū ʿAlī b. Muḥammad b. Aḥmad al-Ṭūmārī reported that Abū Bakr b. ʿAbd al-Khāliq al-Warrāq said:
I had a daughter who was tested with a disability and she was like this for around ten years.
أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّد بْن جَعْفَر بْن علان الشروطي، قَالَ: أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَلِيّ عيسى بْن مُحَمَّد بْن أَحْمَد الطوماري، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو بَكْر بْن عَبْد الخالق الوراق، قَالَ: كَانَت لي بنت مبتلاة، وكَانَ لها نحو عشر سنين،
I once said, “I wished she just died” and then she (actually) died.
قَالَ: وكنت أتمنى موتها فماتت،
I then saw her in my sleep (ie: dream after she passed away),
as if she was standing in front of him and the Day of Judgement was taking place.
قَالَ: فأريتها فِي النوم وكأن القيامة
She stood up (as if) she was one of those children who would take the hand of her parent and lead them to al-Jannah (ie: Paradise).
قد قامت وكأن صبيانا يأخذون بأيدي آبائهم فِيدخلونهم الجنة،
So I said to my daughter, “Take my hand and lead me to al-Jannah.”
قَالَ: فقلت لبنتي: خذي بيدي ادخليني الجنة،
She said to me, “No, you wished for my death.”
قَالَ: فقالت لي: لا أنت كنت تتمنى موتي!
al-Khaṭīb al-Baġdādī, Tārīkh Baġdād 6/212
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Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-'Uthaymeen رحمه الله mentioned:
"If you become angry with your children or with your family, train and accustom your tongue to supplicate goodness for them.
Some people (when they become angry with their children or family) say: May Allaah take you (may you die), may Allaah destroy you, may Allaah darken your face, may Allaah give you no success in this life and in the hereafter, may Allaah not return you, and all of this is prohibited.
Be patient, calm yourself and supplicate goodness for your family.'
[Liqā al-Baab al-Maftooh (187)]
"If you become angry with your children or with your family, train and accustom your tongue to supplicate goodness for them.
Some people (when they become angry with their children or family) say: May Allaah take you (may you die), may Allaah destroy you, may Allaah darken your face, may Allaah give you no success in this life and in the hereafter, may Allaah not return you, and all of this is prohibited.
Be patient, calm yourself and supplicate goodness for your family.'
[Liqā al-Baab al-Maftooh (187)]
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The reality is that the youth of today did not live their childhood peacefully; social media disrupted their lives and took them away from their families. By the time a three-year-old opened their eyes, they had exceeded the age of ten and beyond.
They live in a virtual world, detached from their actual realities, which, as a result has adversely affected them psychologically, physically, and in their way of thinking. What made matters worse was a busy father and a mother who does not care.
So, let us salvage what can be saved, for Allah will question us about what He entrusted us with.
(The Prophet said) “All of you are shepherds, and each of you is responsible for his flock.”
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #ulama #tarbiyah #culitvation #muslim #islam
They live in a virtual world, detached from their actual realities, which, as a result has adversely affected them psychologically, physically, and in their way of thinking. What made matters worse was a busy father and a mother who does not care.
So, let us salvage what can be saved, for Allah will question us about what He entrusted us with.
(The Prophet said) “All of you are shepherds, and each of you is responsible for his flock.”
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #ulama #tarbiyah #culitvation #muslim #islam
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Making the parents cry is a MAJOR sin:
— Shaykh Abū Khadeejah:
And from them, as ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar (radiyallāhu ‘anhumā) stated: causing your parents to cry because of the way that you treat them.
That is a major sin.
If you make your parents sad and you have done something that is not related to the religion, then you should fear Allah. Of course, if you fast and your parents cry because of your fasting, then that is not your fault ― in the month of Ramadhān you’re fasting, or you’re praying Fajr and your parents are upset that you’re praying because they are not religious people.
This narration is not referring to that. This is referring to making your parents cry needlessly. For example, they ask you to do something and you don’t do it, or that you constantly bother them and you hurt their feelings. That is from the major sins.
That a tear should be shed from your mother or from your father because of your ill-treatment of them. Fear Allāh (subhānahu wa ta’ālā) with regard to this affair. It doesn’t matter how old you are. You could be a youth, or an elderly, or a middle-aged man and if your mother is in her eighties and you make her cry?
You should be ashamed of yourself that your mother or your father cry; you made them cry because of your bad treatment of them, or maybe because you didn’t say the words in a correct manner.
There are twenty, thirty, or a hundred ways of saying something but you chose the worst way of speaking to your mother or to your father. And you break their hearts; that is a major sin.
— Shaykh Abū Khadeejah:
And from them, as ‘Abdullāh ibn ‘Umar (radiyallāhu ‘anhumā) stated: causing your parents to cry because of the way that you treat them.
That is a major sin.
If you make your parents sad and you have done something that is not related to the religion, then you should fear Allah. Of course, if you fast and your parents cry because of your fasting, then that is not your fault ― in the month of Ramadhān you’re fasting, or you’re praying Fajr and your parents are upset that you’re praying because they are not religious people.
This narration is not referring to that. This is referring to making your parents cry needlessly. For example, they ask you to do something and you don’t do it, or that you constantly bother them and you hurt their feelings. That is from the major sins.
That a tear should be shed from your mother or from your father because of your ill-treatment of them. Fear Allāh (subhānahu wa ta’ālā) with regard to this affair. It doesn’t matter how old you are. You could be a youth, or an elderly, or a middle-aged man and if your mother is in her eighties and you make her cry?
You should be ashamed of yourself that your mother or your father cry; you made them cry because of your bad treatment of them, or maybe because you didn’t say the words in a correct manner.
There are twenty, thirty, or a hundred ways of saying something but you chose the worst way of speaking to your mother or to your father. And you break their hearts; that is a major sin.
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💠 A message to the children and their parents;
1️⃣ TO THE CHILDREN:
If both your parents are alive, or any one of them, then don't wait for their passing away to make Duaa for them.
Rather, make Duaa for them while they are still alive. Pray to Allaah for their forgiveness, pray to Allaah for their long life and good health upon His obedience. Pray to Allaah to keep them steadfast upon His Deen. Pray to Allaah to remove their pain and suffering. Pray to Allaah to elevate their status in this world and the Hereafter. Pray that Allaah makes them from the inheritors of the Jannah and protects them from the Hellfire.
And better still is that you become righteous and help your parents in fulfilling their duties towards Allaah. Go with your father to the Masjid. Take your parents for Umrah. Give money to your parents so that they can give charity. Feed the poor on their behalf. Help them meet Allaah with more good deeds and less bad deeds. All these things can be done while they are still alive.
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2️⃣ TO THE PARENTS:
From the actions that benefit the dead after their death, the Prophet ﷺ did not say: "the child who supplicates for him."
He ﷺ actually said: ❝ The PIOUS child who supplicates for him.❞
That one word ❝Pious /Righteous❞ makes a world of a difference.
Don't raise your children with the sole purpose that they will be your support in your old age. Raise them to become the obedient slaves of Allaah. Those who are obedient to Allaah will be obedient to you in the real sense.
Don't plant a tree only for its shade. Rather, plant a tree to benefit from its shade and as well as from its fruits.
Remember, Allaah تعالى said to Nooh عليه السلام about Nooh's own disobedient son:
{He (Allaah) said: "O Nooh, indeed he is not of your family; indeed, he is [one whose] work was other than righteous, so ask Me not for that about which you have no knowledge.}
📚 [Surah Hood (11):46]
1️⃣ TO THE CHILDREN:
If both your parents are alive, or any one of them, then don't wait for their passing away to make Duaa for them.
Rather, make Duaa for them while they are still alive. Pray to Allaah for their forgiveness, pray to Allaah for their long life and good health upon His obedience. Pray to Allaah to keep them steadfast upon His Deen. Pray to Allaah to remove their pain and suffering. Pray to Allaah to elevate their status in this world and the Hereafter. Pray that Allaah makes them from the inheritors of the Jannah and protects them from the Hellfire.
And better still is that you become righteous and help your parents in fulfilling their duties towards Allaah. Go with your father to the Masjid. Take your parents for Umrah. Give money to your parents so that they can give charity. Feed the poor on their behalf. Help them meet Allaah with more good deeds and less bad deeds. All these things can be done while they are still alive.
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2️⃣ TO THE PARENTS:
From the actions that benefit the dead after their death, the Prophet ﷺ did not say: "the child who supplicates for him."
He ﷺ actually said: ❝ The PIOUS child who supplicates for him.❞
That one word ❝Pious /Righteous❞ makes a world of a difference.
Don't raise your children with the sole purpose that they will be your support in your old age. Raise them to become the obedient slaves of Allaah. Those who are obedient to Allaah will be obedient to you in the real sense.
Don't plant a tree only for its shade. Rather, plant a tree to benefit from its shade and as well as from its fruits.
Remember, Allaah تعالى said to Nooh عليه السلام about Nooh's own disobedient son:
{He (Allaah) said: "O Nooh, indeed he is not of your family; indeed, he is [one whose] work was other than righteous, so ask Me not for that about which you have no knowledge.}
📚 [Surah Hood (11):46]
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Adhere to your Specific Clothing
Advice the children that every gender should stick to wearing their specific clothing to be distinguished from the other sex, and to stay away from the clothing of the foreigners (i.e., disbelivers) and their fashions, like tight pants and other than that from harmful norms. It has come in an authentic narration,
"The Prophet (Salla-Allaahu alayhi wa sallam) cursed the men who imitate the women and the women who imitate the men, and cursed the effeminate men and the masculine women."
(Saheeh Bukhari)
And he (Salla-Allaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, "And whoever imitates a people, then he is from them."
(Abu Dawud)
Extracted from the book "How Do We Raise Our Children & What Is The Obligation of the Parents & The Children*
by Shaykh Muhammad Jameel Zeno
Advice the children that every gender should stick to wearing their specific clothing to be distinguished from the other sex, and to stay away from the clothing of the foreigners (i.e., disbelivers) and their fashions, like tight pants and other than that from harmful norms. It has come in an authentic narration,
"The Prophet (Salla-Allaahu alayhi wa sallam) cursed the men who imitate the women and the women who imitate the men, and cursed the effeminate men and the masculine women."
(Saheeh Bukhari)
And he (Salla-Allaahu alayhi wa sallam) said, "And whoever imitates a people, then he is from them."
(Abu Dawud)
Extracted from the book "How Do We Raise Our Children & What Is The Obligation of the Parents & The Children*
by Shaykh Muhammad Jameel Zeno
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