"Magnify your own worth by being able to ignore (and overlook)"
al-‘Iraqi (rahimahullah) said:
This is a rule my father (may Allah have mercy on him) would cultivate in me in my youth, whenever he saw my anger due to (distasteful) words others directed at me.
[al-Hafidh al-‘Iraqi (rahimahullah), Tarh al-Tathrib fi Sharh al-Taqrib, 8/111]
al-‘Iraqi (rahimahullah) said:
This is a rule my father (may Allah have mercy on him) would cultivate in me in my youth, whenever he saw my anger due to (distasteful) words others directed at me.
[al-Hafidh al-‘Iraqi (rahimahullah), Tarh al-Tathrib fi Sharh al-Taqrib, 8/111]
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Remember this statement whenever ur going through a difficulty, feeling powerless, confused or defeated. Subhaan Allah this powerful statement really does give u ease & strength everytime u recite it with conviction & sincerity.
Teach ur kids this dhikr as well & remind them that that its Allah Subhaana wa ta'aala, the Almighty, who will solve their problem & make things easier for them no matter what the situation is.
Teach ur kids this dhikr as well & remind them that that its Allah Subhaana wa ta'aala, the Almighty, who will solve their problem & make things easier for them no matter what the situation is.
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Mothers with sons should remember they have a responsibility of raising great future Men.
As mothers things to say to your sons:
🔹You are strong
Let them know real strength is resilience and courage. It will make them mentally strong to face tough situations.
🔹You are brave
Tell them they are brave when they do things that made them afraid but they faced their fear.
🔹You are smart
When you let them know they are intelligent it helps them become problem solvers, not just those who react without thinking.
🔹You are kind
It reinforces gentle and kind behaviour to others and reminds them that there actions and words matter.
🔹You are handsome
They need to know that they are attractive
🔹You amaze me
The next time they do something amazing tell them you have surprised me and put you in a state of awe. It’s a great confident booster.
🔹I am always here for you
As boys grow older they start talking less but they need to know your love, affection, and listening ear is always there.
When they need you, they will be able to
come to you because you've proven your love is unconditional.
🔹I will always love you, no matter what
Boys are natural risk-takers so they will test different ideas and sometimes they will fail. But they need to know that no matter what they do wrong or where they fail, they can't lose your love.
Raise your boys with Love, Respect, Support and most importantly boost their Confidence.
As mothers things to say to your sons:
🔹You are strong
Let them know real strength is resilience and courage. It will make them mentally strong to face tough situations.
🔹You are brave
Tell them they are brave when they do things that made them afraid but they faced their fear.
🔹You are smart
When you let them know they are intelligent it helps them become problem solvers, not just those who react without thinking.
🔹You are kind
It reinforces gentle and kind behaviour to others and reminds them that there actions and words matter.
🔹You are handsome
They need to know that they are attractive
🔹You amaze me
The next time they do something amazing tell them you have surprised me and put you in a state of awe. It’s a great confident booster.
🔹I am always here for you
As boys grow older they start talking less but they need to know your love, affection, and listening ear is always there.
When they need you, they will be able to
come to you because you've proven your love is unconditional.
🔹I will always love you, no matter what
Boys are natural risk-takers so they will test different ideas and sometimes they will fail. But they need to know that no matter what they do wrong or where they fail, they can't lose your love.
Raise your boys with Love, Respect, Support and most importantly boost their Confidence.
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📌As a parent, it's your responsibility to rearrange your life to benefit your children. Not the other way around.
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“You may not always be a queen to your husband but you will always be a princess to your father.”
Sounds heart-warming. But we know that there are imperfect families whose parents fail to treat their children right.
So, instead of measuring our worth relevant to the people around us, the standard must be the only one ever-existing and never changing.
So, I say “You may never be a queen of your household or princess of your parents, but you, as a woman blessed with hidayah by Allah, consistent and firm upon His deen, are a wise trader who sacrifice this worldy life for the everlasting pleasure in Jannah.”
As Allah said,
۞ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ ٱشْتَرَىٰ مِنَ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَنفُسَهُمْ وَأَمْوَٰلَهُم بِأَنَّ
لَهُمُ ٱلْجَنَّةَ
“Indeed, Allāh has purchased from the believers their lives and their properties [in exchange] for that they will have Paradise.” (Qur’an 9:111)
Sounds heart-warming. But we know that there are imperfect families whose parents fail to treat their children right.
So, instead of measuring our worth relevant to the people around us, the standard must be the only one ever-existing and never changing.
So, I say “You may never be a queen of your household or princess of your parents, but you, as a woman blessed with hidayah by Allah, consistent and firm upon His deen, are a wise trader who sacrifice this worldy life for the everlasting pleasure in Jannah.”
As Allah said,
۞ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ ٱشْتَرَىٰ مِنَ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَنفُسَهُمْ وَأَمْوَٰلَهُم بِأَنَّ
لَهُمُ ٱلْجَنَّةَ
“Indeed, Allāh has purchased from the believers their lives and their properties [in exchange] for that they will have Paradise.” (Qur’an 9:111)
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Abu Usayd Malik ibn Rabi’ah As Sa’idi رضي الله عنه reported:
“We were once with Rasulullah (ﷺ) when a man from the Banu Salamah came and said: “O Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), Is there any way to be a dutiful child to my parents after their demise?”
*Nabi (ﷺ) replied, “Yes,*
1. Making du’a for them,
2. Seeking forgiveness for them,
3. Fulfilling their promises [bequests],
4. Maintain the ties of kinship that can only be maintained through them,
5. Honour their friends.”
(Sunan Abi Dawud 5142)
“We were once with Rasulullah (ﷺ) when a man from the Banu Salamah came and said: “O Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), Is there any way to be a dutiful child to my parents after their demise?”
*Nabi (ﷺ) replied, “Yes,*
1. Making du’a for them,
2. Seeking forgiveness for them,
3. Fulfilling their promises [bequests],
4. Maintain the ties of kinship that can only be maintained through them,
5. Honour their friends.”
(Sunan Abi Dawud 5142)
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_Sayyiduna Anas رضي الله عنه reports that a man came to Rasulullah ﷺ and said:_
_“I wish to participate in Jihad, but I cannot afford it”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ enquired if any of his parents were alive,* _to which he said: “Yes! My mother is alive”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ said: “Show Allah how you serve her. If you do so (duly) you will be like a: Haji, a Mu’tamir (one doing ‘Umrah) and a Mujaahid (One striving in Allah’s way).”*
*_(Abu Ya’la, Hadith: 2760)_*
_“I wish to participate in Jihad, but I cannot afford it”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ enquired if any of his parents were alive,* _to which he said: “Yes! My mother is alive”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ said: “Show Allah how you serve her. If you do so (duly) you will be like a: Haji, a Mu’tamir (one doing ‘Umrah) and a Mujaahid (One striving in Allah’s way).”*
*_(Abu Ya’la, Hadith: 2760)_*
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Dear Mothers🌸
Be a great role model for your daughters. A daughter, subconsciously takes in how you carry yourself and she usually becomes a reflection of you.
If you want her to be pious, hardworking, patient and kind you need to model these behaviours yourself. To become a better mother you have to become a better person. But to be a positive role model requires effort and self control. Strive to be the best version of yourself because this is what will give inspiration to her.
As your daughter observes you changing yourselves for the better they will learn that part of growing up is self improvement.
May Allah bless us with daughters who learn from us what benefits them and serves as Sadaqah Jariyah for us, Ameen.🩵
Be a great role model for your daughters. A daughter, subconsciously takes in how you carry yourself and she usually becomes a reflection of you.
If you want her to be pious, hardworking, patient and kind you need to model these behaviours yourself. To become a better mother you have to become a better person. But to be a positive role model requires effort and self control. Strive to be the best version of yourself because this is what will give inspiration to her.
As your daughter observes you changing yourselves for the better they will learn that part of growing up is self improvement.
May Allah bless us with daughters who learn from us what benefits them and serves as Sadaqah Jariyah for us, Ameen.🩵
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Even if you are disagree with your parents, do it politely.They are the most worthy of our respect.
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From the mistakes that occur in the upbringing of children is filling their hearts with hatred against their relatives such as their paternal or maternal uncles.
Do not bring your children into your disputes,
Do not make them a fuel for your conflicts.
Teach them that maintaining ties of kinship is one of the greatest acts of worship and that he who wishes that his provision be blessed and increased and his life be prolonged should maintain his ties of kinship.
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #islam
Do not bring your children into your disputes,
Do not make them a fuel for your conflicts.
Teach them that maintaining ties of kinship is one of the greatest acts of worship and that he who wishes that his provision be blessed and increased and his life be prolonged should maintain his ties of kinship.
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #islam
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*Child development* -
The personality of a child begins to take shape significantly from the age of three onwards. People overlook the critical ages between three and ten years old, but this is the stepping stones that lead to your child’s final destination as a person. Given it's critical to mould a child's character at this stage, it allows you to instill in them what is important and ground them in it (e.g., Tawheed). This period in a child's life is crucial for teaching him lessons that will build a robust personality and character. The child learns mostly through observation - it’s not what you say, rather it’s what you do! It's during this period you should impart essential life skills, manners, character building traits and knowledge such as Tawheed, Aqeeah, Quran etc. As the age of the child progresses the deeper and more detailed should the teaching and moulding be.
It's necessary to treat the child with kindness, compassion, and gentleness. Criticism, humiliation, physical punishment, being extremely strict or harsh, blaming, pointing continuous defects and so on can have detrimental lifelong consequences on the child, much of which is seen later on in life. One particular saying is to be kept in mind for this: “Being harsh towards a child is like using a thorny whip to shape a delicate clay sculpture. Instead of molding them with care and gentleness, the harshness leaves lasting marks and imperfections that alter the beauty of their essence.”
Avoiding any form of shouting, the most damaging thing to a child's personality, is paramount. Encouraging and acknowledging the child's opinions and emotions helps shape their personality, so they won't be easily influenced by others. It also helps them develop leadership qualities, which is required by our religion. Aid your child to develop a strong personality, Islam doesn’t farm sheep, it flourishes giants that carry the world on the tip of their finger! We are to encourage children and instil in them Child development - The personality of a child begins to take shape significantly from the age of three onwards. People overlook the critical ages between three and ten years old, but this is the stepping stones that lead to your child’s final destination as a person. Given it's critical to mould a child's character at this stage, it allows you to instill in them what is important and ground them in it (e.g., Tawheed). This period in a child's life is crucial for teaching him lessons that will build a robust personality and character. The child learns mostly through observation - it’s not what you say, rather it’s what you do! It's during this period you should impart essential life skills, manners, character building traits and knowledge such as Tawheed, Aqeeah, Quran etc. As the age of the child progresses the deeper and more detailed should the teaching and moulding be.
The personality of a child begins to take shape significantly from the age of three onwards. People overlook the critical ages between three and ten years old, but this is the stepping stones that lead to your child’s final destination as a person. Given it's critical to mould a child's character at this stage, it allows you to instill in them what is important and ground them in it (e.g., Tawheed). This period in a child's life is crucial for teaching him lessons that will build a robust personality and character. The child learns mostly through observation - it’s not what you say, rather it’s what you do! It's during this period you should impart essential life skills, manners, character building traits and knowledge such as Tawheed, Aqeeah, Quran etc. As the age of the child progresses the deeper and more detailed should the teaching and moulding be.
It's necessary to treat the child with kindness, compassion, and gentleness. Criticism, humiliation, physical punishment, being extremely strict or harsh, blaming, pointing continuous defects and so on can have detrimental lifelong consequences on the child, much of which is seen later on in life. One particular saying is to be kept in mind for this: “Being harsh towards a child is like using a thorny whip to shape a delicate clay sculpture. Instead of molding them with care and gentleness, the harshness leaves lasting marks and imperfections that alter the beauty of their essence.”
Avoiding any form of shouting, the most damaging thing to a child's personality, is paramount. Encouraging and acknowledging the child's opinions and emotions helps shape their personality, so they won't be easily influenced by others. It also helps them develop leadership qualities, which is required by our religion. Aid your child to develop a strong personality, Islam doesn’t farm sheep, it flourishes giants that carry the world on the tip of their finger! We are to encourage children and instil in them Child development - The personality of a child begins to take shape significantly from the age of three onwards. People overlook the critical ages between three and ten years old, but this is the stepping stones that lead to your child’s final destination as a person. Given it's critical to mould a child's character at this stage, it allows you to instill in them what is important and ground them in it (e.g., Tawheed). This period in a child's life is crucial for teaching him lessons that will build a robust personality and character. The child learns mostly through observation - it’s not what you say, rather it’s what you do! It's during this period you should impart essential life skills, manners, character building traits and knowledge such as Tawheed, Aqeeah, Quran etc. As the age of the child progresses the deeper and more detailed should the teaching and moulding be.
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From the mistakes that occur in the upbringing of children is filling their hearts with hatred against their relatives such as their paternal or maternal uncles.
Do not bring your children into your disputes,
Do not make them a fuel for your conflicts.
Teach them that maintaining ties of kinship is one of the greatest acts of worship and that he who wishes that his provision be blessed and increased and his life be prolonged should maintain his ties of kinship.
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #islam
Do not bring your children into your disputes,
Do not make them a fuel for your conflicts.
Teach them that maintaining ties of kinship is one of the greatest acts of worship and that he who wishes that his provision be blessed and increased and his life be prolonged should maintain his ties of kinship.
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #islam
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