🔴Advice

Do not befriend someone who is disobedient to his parents⚠️

He has not been loyal to his father and mother, so how will he be loyal to you⚠️💥

Shaykh Muḥammad Ibn Ṣāliḥ al-‘Uthaymīn رحمه الله said:
""The best thing that the living can do for the dead is Du'ā."

● [‎فتاوى نور على الدرب رقم ٢١٦]

Kind treatment

Be Just Between Your Sons And Daughters

Anas bin Mālik (radhiyallāhu'anhu) reported: A man was with the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, when his son came. He kissed him and sat him down on his thigh. Then, his daughter came and she sat to his side. The Prophet said, “Why do you not treat them equally?”

Source: Sharḥ Maʻānī al-Āthār 3838

Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Albani

عَنْ أَنَسٍ قَالَ كَانَ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ رَجُلٌ فَجَاءَ ابْنٌ لَهُ فَقَبَّلَهُ وَأَجْلَسَهُ عَلَى فَخِذِهِ ثُمَّ جَاءَتْ بِنْتٌ لَهُ فَأَجْلَسَهَا إِلَى جَنْبِهِ قَالَ فَهَلا عَدَلْتَ بَيْنَهُمَا

3838 شرح معاني الآثار كتاب الهبة والصدقة باب الرجل ينحل بعض بنيه دون بعض

7/263 المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث إسناده حسن في السلسلة الصحيحة
It is recommended to treat children equally in gift-giving and in all kinds of kindness, even kisses, whether they are male or female, so that there will not be anything in the heart of the less-favoured one that will keep him from honouring the parents.” (Sharh As-Sunnah, 8/297)

It was narrated that Ibrahim An-Nakha`i (may Allah have mercy on him) said: “They regarded it as recommended for a man to treat his children equally even with regard to kissing.” (Musannaf Ibn Abu Shaybah, 11/221)

The Companions Acted Upon The Prophetic Guidance
Ibrāhīm an-Nakha'ī (d. 95/96 H) said:

"They (the companions) used to like to treat their children equally even in respect to the kiss."

Do Not Hate The Daughters.

قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : لا تكرهوا البنات فإنهن المؤنسات ، الغاليات.
The Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said: “DO NOT hate the daughters for indeed they are friendly and precious.”
● [سلسلة الأحاديث الصحيحة ٣٢٠٦]

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▪️الأم أو الزوجـــة ⁉️


▪️سُئل الشيخ صالح بن فوزان الفوزان حفظه الله تعالى ما نصه :

أمي تسكن بمفردها مستوحشة ، وأخشى عليها ، وتلح علي أن أنقلها إلى بيتي لتسكن معي وأرعاها وتأنس بي ، وزوجتي مصرة على الرفض لمشاركة أمي لها في البيت ،فهل أطيع زوجتي أو أمي ؟


▪️فأجاب حفظه الله قائلا :

إذا كانت هذه الزوجة لا تتلاءم مع والدتك فأسكنها وحدها وأسكن أمك معك ، أو فالتمس زوجة غيرها تساعدك على بر والدتك .

أما إنك تضيع والدتك وتذهب مع زوجتك وتطيع زوجتك ؛ هذا أمر لا يجوز ، هذا من العقوق .

📖 مجموعة رسائل دعوية ومنهجية(١٨٩/٢)

The mother or the wife?

Shaykh Saalih bin Fawzan Al-Fawzan (may Allah preserve him) was asked:

My mother lives alone lonely and I fear for her, so I want to bring her to my house to take care of her and keep her company. However, my wife refuses to share the house with my mother. Should I obey my wife or my mother?

He may Allaah have mercy upon him replied saying:

If your wife does not get along with your mother, then house them separately, or find another wife who will help you take care of your mother.

But if you abandon your mother and side with your wife, this is not permissible and is from disobedience to your parents.
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Majmoo'atu Ar-Rasaa-il Da'wiyyatu wa Manhajiyyatu (2/189)
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“WHEN PARENTS GET OLD... Let them grow old with the same love they raised you with. Let them talk and tell stories over and over again with the same patience and interest they listened to you as a child. Let them win, as they have often let you win. Let them enjoy their friends, conversations with their grandchildren... Let them enjoy living among the objects that have accompanied them for a long time, because they suffer when they feel that you are tearing pieces of their life . Let them make mistakes, as you have done so many times. LET THEM LIVE and try to make them happy on the last leg of their journey, the same way they shook your hand when you started yours." 😊

"Magnify your own worth by being able to ignore (and overlook)"

al-‘Iraqi (rahimahullah) said:

This is a rule my father (may Allah have mercy on him) would cultivate in me in my youth, whenever he saw my anger due to (distasteful) words others directed at me.

[al-Hafidh al-‘Iraqi (rahimahullah), Tarh al-Tathrib fi Sharh al-Taqrib, 8/111]

Fasting

Being evil to your parents brings punishment in the Akhirah so treat ur parents well

Remember this statement whenever ur going through a difficulty, feeling powerless, confused or defeated. Subhaan Allah this powerful statement really does give u ease & strength everytime u recite it with conviction & sincerity.

Teach ur kids this dhikr as well & remind them that that its Allah Subhaana wa ta'aala, the Almighty, who will solve their problem & make things easier for them no matter what the situation is.

Mothers with sons should remember they have a responsibility of raising great future Men.

As mothers things to say to your sons:
🔹You are strong
Let them know real strength is resilience and courage. It will make them mentally strong to face tough situations.
🔹You are brave
Tell them they are brave when they do things that made them afraid but they faced their fear.
🔹You are smart
When you let them know they are intelligent it helps them become problem solvers, not just those who react without thinking.
🔹You are kind
It reinforces gentle and kind behaviour to others and reminds them that there actions and words matter.
🔹You are handsome
They need to know that they are attractive
🔹You amaze me
The next time they do something amazing tell them you have surprised me and put you in a state of awe. It’s a great confident booster.
🔹I am always here for you
As boys grow older they start talking less but they need to know your love, affection, and listening ear is always there.
When they need you, they will be able to
come to you because you've proven your love is unconditional.
🔹I will always love you, no matter what
Boys are natural risk-takers so they will test different ideas and sometimes they will fail. But they need to know that no matter what they do wrong or where they fail, they can't lose your love.

Raise your boys with Love, Respect, Support and most importantly boost their Confidence.

📌As a parent, it's your responsibility to rearrange your life to benefit your children. Not the other way around.

Shaikh al-Fawzaan:
Don't be like the Westerners who prefer to have animals in their homes than their own parents.

Don't be the cause of sadness for ur parents they are the 2 doors of Jannah

Hating parents

“You may not always be a queen to your husband but you will always be a princess to your father.”

Sounds heart-warming. But we know that there are imperfect families whose parents fail to treat their children right.

So, instead of measuring our worth relevant to the people around us, the standard must be the only one ever-existing and never changing.

So, I say “You may never be a queen of your household or princess of your parents, but you, as a woman blessed with hidayah by Allah, consistent and firm upon His deen, are a wise trader who sacrifice this worldy life for the everlasting pleasure in Jannah.”

As Allah said,

۞ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ ٱشْتَرَىٰ مِنَ ٱلْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَنفُسَهُمْ وَأَمْوَٰلَهُم بِأَنَّ
لَهُمُ ٱلْجَنَّةَ
“Indeed, Allāh has purchased from the believers their lives and their properties [in exchange] for that they will have Paradise.” (Qur’an 9:111)

If your Parents treats you bad, you are not allowed to treat them in same way. Have patience with them.

Abu Usayd Malik ibn Rabi’ah As Sa’idi رضي الله عنه reported:

“We were once with Rasulullah (ﷺ) when a man from the Banu Salamah came and said: “O Messenger of Allah (ﷺ), Is there any way to be a dutiful child to my parents after their demise?”

*Nabi (ﷺ) replied, “Yes,*

1. Making du’a for them,
2. Seeking forgiveness for them,
3. Fulfilling their promises [bequests],
4. Maintain the ties of kinship that can only be maintained through them,
5. Honour their friends.”

(Sunan Abi Dawud 5142)

_Sayyiduna Anas رضي الله عنه reports that a man came to Rasulullah ﷺ and said:_

_“I wish to participate in Jihad, but I cannot afford it”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ enquired if any of his parents were alive,* _to which he said: “Yes! My mother is alive”_ *Rasulullah ﷺ said: “Show Allah how you serve her. If you do so (duly) you will be like a: Haji, a Mu’tamir (one doing ‘Umrah) and a Mujaahid (One striving in Allah’s way).”*

*_(Abu Ya’la, Hadith: 2760)_*

Dear Mothers🌸

Be a great role model for your daughters. A daughter, subconsciously takes in how you carry yourself and she usually becomes a reflection of you.

If you want her to be pious, hardworking, patient and kind you need to model these behaviours yourself. To become a better mother you have to become a better person. But to be a positive role model requires effort and self control. Strive to be the best version of yourself because this is what will give inspiration to her.

As your daughter observes you changing yourselves for the better they will learn that part of growing up is self improvement.

May Allah bless us with daughters who learn from us what benefits them and serves as Sadaqah Jariyah for us, Ameen.🩵