From the mistakes that occur in the upbringing of children is filling their hearts with hatred against their relatives such as their paternal or maternal uncles.
Do not bring your children into your disputes,
Do not make them a fuel for your conflicts.
Teach them that maintaining ties of kinship is one of the greatest acts of worship and that he who wishes that his provision be blessed and increased and his life be prolonged should maintain his ties of kinship.
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #islam
Do not bring your children into your disputes,
Do not make them a fuel for your conflicts.
Teach them that maintaining ties of kinship is one of the greatest acts of worship and that he who wishes that his provision be blessed and increased and his life be prolonged should maintain his ties of kinship.
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #islam
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*Child development* -
The personality of a child begins to take shape significantly from the age of three onwards. People overlook the critical ages between three and ten years old, but this is the stepping stones that lead to your child’s final destination as a person. Given it's critical to mould a child's character at this stage, it allows you to instill in them what is important and ground them in it (e.g., Tawheed). This period in a child's life is crucial for teaching him lessons that will build a robust personality and character. The child learns mostly through observation - it’s not what you say, rather it’s what you do! It's during this period you should impart essential life skills, manners, character building traits and knowledge such as Tawheed, Aqeeah, Quran etc. As the age of the child progresses the deeper and more detailed should the teaching and moulding be.
It's necessary to treat the child with kindness, compassion, and gentleness. Criticism, humiliation, physical punishment, being extremely strict or harsh, blaming, pointing continuous defects and so on can have detrimental lifelong consequences on the child, much of which is seen later on in life. One particular saying is to be kept in mind for this: “Being harsh towards a child is like using a thorny whip to shape a delicate clay sculpture. Instead of molding them with care and gentleness, the harshness leaves lasting marks and imperfections that alter the beauty of their essence.”
Avoiding any form of shouting, the most damaging thing to a child's personality, is paramount. Encouraging and acknowledging the child's opinions and emotions helps shape their personality, so they won't be easily influenced by others. It also helps them develop leadership qualities, which is required by our religion. Aid your child to develop a strong personality, Islam doesn’t farm sheep, it flourishes giants that carry the world on the tip of their finger! We are to encourage children and instil in them Child development - The personality of a child begins to take shape significantly from the age of three onwards. People overlook the critical ages between three and ten years old, but this is the stepping stones that lead to your child’s final destination as a person. Given it's critical to mould a child's character at this stage, it allows you to instill in them what is important and ground them in it (e.g., Tawheed). This period in a child's life is crucial for teaching him lessons that will build a robust personality and character. The child learns mostly through observation - it’s not what you say, rather it’s what you do! It's during this period you should impart essential life skills, manners, character building traits and knowledge such as Tawheed, Aqeeah, Quran etc. As the age of the child progresses the deeper and more detailed should the teaching and moulding be.
The personality of a child begins to take shape significantly from the age of three onwards. People overlook the critical ages between three and ten years old, but this is the stepping stones that lead to your child’s final destination as a person. Given it's critical to mould a child's character at this stage, it allows you to instill in them what is important and ground them in it (e.g., Tawheed). This period in a child's life is crucial for teaching him lessons that will build a robust personality and character. The child learns mostly through observation - it’s not what you say, rather it’s what you do! It's during this period you should impart essential life skills, manners, character building traits and knowledge such as Tawheed, Aqeeah, Quran etc. As the age of the child progresses the deeper and more detailed should the teaching and moulding be.
It's necessary to treat the child with kindness, compassion, and gentleness. Criticism, humiliation, physical punishment, being extremely strict or harsh, blaming, pointing continuous defects and so on can have detrimental lifelong consequences on the child, much of which is seen later on in life. One particular saying is to be kept in mind for this: “Being harsh towards a child is like using a thorny whip to shape a delicate clay sculpture. Instead of molding them with care and gentleness, the harshness leaves lasting marks and imperfections that alter the beauty of their essence.”
Avoiding any form of shouting, the most damaging thing to a child's personality, is paramount. Encouraging and acknowledging the child's opinions and emotions helps shape their personality, so they won't be easily influenced by others. It also helps them develop leadership qualities, which is required by our religion. Aid your child to develop a strong personality, Islam doesn’t farm sheep, it flourishes giants that carry the world on the tip of their finger! We are to encourage children and instil in them Child development - The personality of a child begins to take shape significantly from the age of three onwards. People overlook the critical ages between three and ten years old, but this is the stepping stones that lead to your child’s final destination as a person. Given it's critical to mould a child's character at this stage, it allows you to instill in them what is important and ground them in it (e.g., Tawheed). This period in a child's life is crucial for teaching him lessons that will build a robust personality and character. The child learns mostly through observation - it’s not what you say, rather it’s what you do! It's during this period you should impart essential life skills, manners, character building traits and knowledge such as Tawheed, Aqeeah, Quran etc. As the age of the child progresses the deeper and more detailed should the teaching and moulding be.
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From the mistakes that occur in the upbringing of children is filling their hearts with hatred against their relatives such as their paternal or maternal uncles.
Do not bring your children into your disputes,
Do not make them a fuel for your conflicts.
Teach them that maintaining ties of kinship is one of the greatest acts of worship and that he who wishes that his provision be blessed and increased and his life be prolonged should maintain his ties of kinship.
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #islam
Do not bring your children into your disputes,
Do not make them a fuel for your conflicts.
Teach them that maintaining ties of kinship is one of the greatest acts of worship and that he who wishes that his provision be blessed and increased and his life be prolonged should maintain his ties of kinship.
- Shaykh Dr Muhammad ibn Ghālib
#ibn_Ghalib #naseehah #advice #islam
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Forwarded from EvilEyes&BlackMagic
When you see someone with a blessing say Allahumma baarik to prevent giving them the evil eye teach this to your kids as well
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*How to Honour Your Parents After Their Passing?*
Honouring your parents after their death can be done in many ways, including:
1. Praying for them and seeking forgiveness on their behalf.
2. Fulfilling their wills.
3. Settling any debts they left behind.
4. Giving charity, or performing Hajj or Umrah on their behalf
5. Visiting their friends and family, as they used to do.
6. Fulfilling their wishes and completing any unfinished tasks they emphasised, even without a written will.
7. Maintaining relationships with relatives and friends that were connected through them.
8. Showing kindness and respect to their friends.
Authentic Quotes
Honouring your parents after their death can be done in many ways, including:
1. Praying for them and seeking forgiveness on their behalf.
2. Fulfilling their wills.
3. Settling any debts they left behind.
4. Giving charity, or performing Hajj or Umrah on their behalf
5. Visiting their friends and family, as they used to do.
6. Fulfilling their wishes and completing any unfinished tasks they emphasised, even without a written will.
7. Maintaining relationships with relatives and friends that were connected through them.
8. Showing kindness and respect to their friends.
Authentic Quotes
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If someone is disciplining their child & you're around, please keep your mouth closed & let them handle their child. Don't try to convince them to let the kid off the hook or try to convince him/her to listen. Let them do their job. Intervening only makes the kid not take the parent seriously and makes the kid think when we're around people she can get away with anything. Parents are the one raising the kid, paying for all the expenses, making sure kid has a roof over her head, clothes on his/her back, food in the stomach and everything to ensure they become an independent, smart, humble, productive and respectful human. WITH ALL RESPECT—> LET THE PARENT DO THE PARENTING & MIND YOUR BUSINESS!
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✒ Make Duʿā For Your Parents
Prophet Muḥammad (Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam) said:
إن الرجل لترفع درجته في الجنة فيقول : أنى لي هذا ؟ فيقال : باستغفار ولدك لك
“Indeed a man's status is raised in Jannah and he asks: ‘Where did I get this from?’, so it is said to him: ‘By your child seeking forgiveness (of Allāh) for you’.”
● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير برقم ١٦١٧ ، صححه الألباني]
Prophet Muḥammad (Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam) said:
إن الرجل لترفع درجته في الجنة فيقول : أنى لي هذا ؟ فيقال : باستغفار ولدك لك
“Indeed a man's status is raised in Jannah and he asks: ‘Where did I get this from?’, so it is said to him: ‘By your child seeking forgiveness (of Allāh) for you’.”
● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير برقم ١٦١٧ ، صححه الألباني]
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Teach your children self-defense !
Al-Hasan and Al-Hussain were wrestling in front of the Prophet (ﷺ) one day and he was chanting, “come on let’s go Hasan.” Then Fatimah asked the Prophet (ﷺ) why aren’t you cheering for Hussain. He replied, “Jibril is cheering for Hussain to win.”
[Ibn Abi Shaybah in Al-Musanaf (7/514) isnad graded as being Hasan by Shiekh Mashoor Hasan Salman]
كَانَ الْحَسَنُ وَالْحُسَيْنُ عَلَيْهِمَا السَّلَامُ يَصْطَرِعَانِ بَيْنَ يَدَيْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ: «هَيَّ حَسَنُ» ، فَقَالَتْ فَاطِمَةُ عَلَيْهَا السَّلَامُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، لِمَ تَقُولُ: «هَيَّ حَسَنُ» ؟ فَقَالَ: ” إِنَّ جِبْرِيلَ عَلَيْهِ السَّلَامُ يَقُولُ: هَيَّ حُسَيْنُ “
Al-Hasan and Al-Hussain were wrestling in front of the Prophet (ﷺ) one day and he was chanting, “come on let’s go Hasan.” Then Fatimah asked the Prophet (ﷺ) why aren’t you cheering for Hussain. He replied, “Jibril is cheering for Hussain to win.”
[Ibn Abi Shaybah in Al-Musanaf (7/514) isnad graded as being Hasan by Shiekh Mashoor Hasan Salman]
كَانَ الْحَسَنُ وَالْحُسَيْنُ عَلَيْهِمَا السَّلَامُ يَصْطَرِعَانِ بَيْنَ يَدَيْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَقُولُ: «هَيَّ حَسَنُ» ، فَقَالَتْ فَاطِمَةُ عَلَيْهَا السَّلَامُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، لِمَ تَقُولُ: «هَيَّ حَسَنُ» ؟ فَقَالَ: ” إِنَّ جِبْرِيلَ عَلَيْهِ السَّلَامُ يَقُولُ: هَيَّ حُسَيْنُ “
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stop disrespecting your adult children and expecting them to stay quiet because you’re their parent. If you’re disrespecting your child as an adult expect your child to respond AS AN ADULT. The parent card can’t be played when you want to play it. It can be a respectful conversation or it can be disrespectful, you pick. Respect is earned and mutual but y’all not ready for this conversation.
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DEAR PARENTS IN ISLAM !!
If You can take your children for Shopping, Then why can't you take them to nearby Masjid.?
If you can wake them Up for a long journey, Then why can't you wake them up for Fajar?
If you can buy them stories and comics, Why can't you buy them translated Quran and hadith books?
If you can send them to high class tuitions, then why can't you send them to nearby Madrasa?
If you have time to watch movies with them, then why don't you have a bit time to spend with them for Islamic lecturers?
Dear Parents, please let us all reconnect with the Deen.!
If You can take your children for Shopping, Then why can't you take them to nearby Masjid.?
If you can wake them Up for a long journey, Then why can't you wake them up for Fajar?
If you can buy them stories and comics, Why can't you buy them translated Quran and hadith books?
If you can send them to high class tuitions, then why can't you send them to nearby Madrasa?
If you have time to watch movies with them, then why don't you have a bit time to spend with them for Islamic lecturers?
Dear Parents, please let us all reconnect with the Deen.!
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IT IS SUNNAH TO GIVE THE CHILD A NICKNAME
Among the educational principles laid down by Islam concerning raising a child is to give him a nickname composed of Abu (father of) and another part. This yields some educational gains such as:
- Inculcating a sense of dignity and respect into the child's soul.
- Developing his social character and making him feel that he has grown up.
- Giving him amiable treatment and pleasing him through calling him by this lovely nickname.
For these benefits and considerations, the Prophet (ﷺ) used to nickname children and call them by these names. It is related in Sahihayn that Anas (may ALLĀH be pleased with him) said, "The Prophet (ﷺ) was the best of all people in morals. I had a brother called Abū Umayr, who I think, had been newly weaned. Whenever the child was brought to the Prophet (ﷺ), he used to say to him, "O Abu Umayr! what did An- Nughayr (i.e. nightingale or bird) do?"
{Child Education in Islam || Page 44}
Among the educational principles laid down by Islam concerning raising a child is to give him a nickname composed of Abu (father of) and another part. This yields some educational gains such as:
- Inculcating a sense of dignity and respect into the child's soul.
- Developing his social character and making him feel that he has grown up.
- Giving him amiable treatment and pleasing him through calling him by this lovely nickname.
For these benefits and considerations, the Prophet (ﷺ) used to nickname children and call them by these names. It is related in Sahihayn that Anas (may ALLĀH be pleased with him) said, "The Prophet (ﷺ) was the best of all people in morals. I had a brother called Abū Umayr, who I think, had been newly weaned. Whenever the child was brought to the Prophet (ﷺ), he used to say to him, "O Abu Umayr! what did An- Nughayr (i.e. nightingale or bird) do?"
{Child Education in Islam || Page 44}
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