Getting One Parent Angry to Make the Other One Happy
Shaykh Ṣāliḥ ibn Fawzān al-Fawzān
Categorized under: The Rights of Parents
Question to Shaikh Ṣāliḥ Al-Fawzān, may Allāh protect him:
My father asked me to do something that would anger my mother; what’s the ruling on getting one parent angry in order to make the other one happy?
Answer:
This isn’t allowed:
فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
Let not be uttered by you to [your parents even the slightest expression of distaste like] “uff,” nor let any distasteful action ever come towards them from you, but rather be kind and gentle to them in speech [and action]. (Al-Isrāʾ, 23)
This is what Allāh, far above is He in His perfection, directed towards one’s parents, so it’s not allowed for you to anger—to anger both of them or to anger either of them. And if it were to ever be ordained that something happen from you that gets them angry, then you [must] ask them for forgiveness and be quick about that.
Al-Ijābāt Al-Mukhtaṣarah, Al-Ḥalqah 380.
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Shaykh Ṣāliḥ ibn Fawzān al-Fawzān
Categorized under: The Rights of Parents
Question to Shaikh Ṣāliḥ Al-Fawzān, may Allāh protect him:
My father asked me to do something that would anger my mother; what’s the ruling on getting one parent angry in order to make the other one happy?
Answer:
This isn’t allowed:
فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
Let not be uttered by you to [your parents even the slightest expression of distaste like] “uff,” nor let any distasteful action ever come towards them from you, but rather be kind and gentle to them in speech [and action]. (Al-Isrāʾ, 23)
This is what Allāh, far above is He in His perfection, directed towards one’s parents, so it’s not allowed for you to anger—to anger both of them or to anger either of them. And if it were to ever be ordained that something happen from you that gets them angry, then you [must] ask them for forgiveness and be quick about that.
Al-Ijābāt Al-Mukhtaṣarah, Al-Ḥalqah 380.
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Getting One Parent Angry to Make the Other One Happy - Al-Tasfiyah
Question to Shaikh Ṣāliḥ Al-Fawzān, may Allāh protect him: My father asked me to do something that would anger my mother; what’s the ruling on getting one parent angry in order to make the other one happy? Answer: This isn’t allowed: فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا…
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Ruqya,Qareen & kids.If kids cry, scream, misbehave, don't obey, stubborn,wanting their way for no reason then it's a Qareen issue
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Forwarded from EvilEyes&BlackMagic
What is a Qareen?
A Qareen is a shaytan jinn that is born from a female and a male shaytans at the same time we are born.
It stays with us from birth until we die.
It does not die with us.
It is main purpose is to convince us to become kufar.
Otherwise whisper to make us commit sin or do less good deeds.
It whispers, it is up to us to obey or not. We are fully accountable.
We have another Qareen but is an Angel. It tells us to do good.
But in this post I am referring to the shaytan Qareen.
In total each one of us has 13 Angels that stay with us at all times except in the toilet.
One Qareen Angel to tell us to do good.
One on the left to write our sins. Supervised by one on the right to write our good deeds.
And then 10 protecting Angels حفظة, as mentioned by ALLAH in the Quraan, to protect us at all times except when the decree and Qadr of ALLAH does not allow them as we are destined to be harmed.
One of them stays next to our lips while we sleep to not allow anyone to put poison inside our mouth while we sleep.
But remember this post is about the shaytan Qareen.
Jazakum ALLAH khayr.
ولا غالب إلا الله
No one can give victory by force except ALLAH.
I ask ALLAH ALMOUTAAL ALHAY ALQAYOOM to protect us and save us.
نسأل الله السلامة و العافية لنا جميعا. اللهم آمين يا الله يا حي يا قيوم
السحر إن الله سيبطله
اللهم بارك و تقبل و فجر و دمر العيون و العين و الحسد و السحر و السحرة و الجان و الشياطين من الإنس والجن و المرض و اللبس و المس و كل عدو وكل شر.
اللهم آمين يا الله الحي القيوم.
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I ask ALLAH ALMOUTAAL to guide us and the Ummah of Rasoul ALLAH sala ALLAH alyh wasalam to the Haq. ALLAH um Ameen ya ALLAH ALHAY ALQAYOUM
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(الراقي/ أبو عمر المصري)
Ashareef. Shaykh/ Mohamed Bin Ahmed
(Abu Omar Ruqya Almasry)
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A Qareen is a shaytan jinn that is born from a female and a male shaytans at the same time we are born.
It stays with us from birth until we die.
It does not die with us.
It is main purpose is to convince us to become kufar.
Otherwise whisper to make us commit sin or do less good deeds.
It whispers, it is up to us to obey or not. We are fully accountable.
We have another Qareen but is an Angel. It tells us to do good.
But in this post I am referring to the shaytan Qareen.
In total each one of us has 13 Angels that stay with us at all times except in the toilet.
One Qareen Angel to tell us to do good.
One on the left to write our sins. Supervised by one on the right to write our good deeds.
And then 10 protecting Angels حفظة, as mentioned by ALLAH in the Quraan, to protect us at all times except when the decree and Qadr of ALLAH does not allow them as we are destined to be harmed.
One of them stays next to our lips while we sleep to not allow anyone to put poison inside our mouth while we sleep.
But remember this post is about the shaytan Qareen.
Jazakum ALLAH khayr.
ولا غالب إلا الله
No one can give victory by force except ALLAH.
I ask ALLAH ALMOUTAAL ALHAY ALQAYOOM to protect us and save us.
نسأل الله السلامة و العافية لنا جميعا. اللهم آمين يا الله يا حي يا قيوم
السحر إن الله سيبطله
اللهم بارك و تقبل و فجر و دمر العيون و العين و الحسد و السحر و السحرة و الجان و الشياطين من الإنس والجن و المرض و اللبس و المس و كل عدو وكل شر.
اللهم آمين يا الله الحي القيوم.
Please share so others can benefit in shaa ALLAH.
Contact us before it is too late for:
Ruqya, Hijamah,
Tib Anabawy, counselling, marital issues, advice, disputes, weddings, Nikahs, funerals, Khulaas and Talaqs.
00447591667336 & Viber ONLY.
Facebook private messages to:
Ruqya Sahir Buster
(Abu Omar Ruqya Almasry)
I ask ALLAH ALMOUTAAL to guide us and the Ummah of Rasoul ALLAH sala ALLAH alyh wasalam to the Haq. ALLAH um Ameen ya ALLAH ALHAY ALQAYOUM
الشريف. الشيخ/ محمد بن أحمد
(الراقي/ أبو عمر المصري)
Ashareef. Shaykh/ Mohamed Bin Ahmed
(Abu Omar Ruqya Almasry)
ruqya.me
themedicineoftheprophet.me
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Relationship With Parents
(1) Never be disrespectful to parents. Do not say a harsh word to them.
(2) Even if parents are unjust, it is not lawful for children to ill-treat, disobey or displease them.
(3) Obey them in all lawful things. If they instruct you to do anything which is unlawful in the Shari’ah, then politely and with respect and apology decline. Never refuse rudely nor argue with Them.
(4) When parents abuse, scold or even beat their children, they should submit to such treatment with humility. Never should they utter a word of disrespect or complaint, nor should they display on their faces any indication of disgust or anger. Bear their treatment in silence and with patience. Make dua for them.
(5) Assist them in all lawful ways even if they happen to be non-Muslims.
(1) Never be disrespectful to parents. Do not say a harsh word to them.
(2) Even if parents are unjust, it is not lawful for children to ill-treat, disobey or displease them.
(3) Obey them in all lawful things. If they instruct you to do anything which is unlawful in the Shari’ah, then politely and with respect and apology decline. Never refuse rudely nor argue with Them.
(4) When parents abuse, scold or even beat their children, they should submit to such treatment with humility. Never should they utter a word of disrespect or complaint, nor should they display on their faces any indication of disgust or anger. Bear their treatment in silence and with patience. Make dua for them.
(5) Assist them in all lawful ways even if they happen to be non-Muslims.
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Mother:
I fought with death when I was giving you birth. I spent sleepless nights when you were sick and crying during late nights. I never took meals without feeding you. I bore so many pains to bring you to this stage that you are in today. How will you pay me back my son?
Son:
When I grow up, I will find a good job and get money for you so you can enjoy the pleasures of this world.
Mother:
Your father is doing this already and I do not expect this from you too.
Son:
I will find a pious lady and marry her so she can take care of you while I am away from home.
Mother:
It is not compulsory on her to do any service to me, neither do I expect this from her.
Son:
Tell me mother how can I repay you back?
Mother:
(With tears in her eyes) When I die give me your shoulder and bury me. Whenever you perform prayers, supplicate for me. Remember your good deeds will benefit me in the hereafter life. Will you do it my son?
Son:
He got tears in his eyes already.
What about you?
A mother is the Superior soul in One's life... A mother is one of the strongest doors of Paradise, if you wish you may pull it down, or if you wish you may protect it. May Allah bless our mother and give hidayah in our hearts to Obey her and love her to the core and protect her
Aameen ya rabul alameen
رَبَّنَا ھَبْ لَنَا مِنْ اَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ اَعْيُنٍ وَّاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِيْنَ اِمَامًا.
أمين..
..Women to Jannah..
I fought with death when I was giving you birth. I spent sleepless nights when you were sick and crying during late nights. I never took meals without feeding you. I bore so many pains to bring you to this stage that you are in today. How will you pay me back my son?
Son:
When I grow up, I will find a good job and get money for you so you can enjoy the pleasures of this world.
Mother:
Your father is doing this already and I do not expect this from you too.
Son:
I will find a pious lady and marry her so she can take care of you while I am away from home.
Mother:
It is not compulsory on her to do any service to me, neither do I expect this from her.
Son:
Tell me mother how can I repay you back?
Mother:
(With tears in her eyes) When I die give me your shoulder and bury me. Whenever you perform prayers, supplicate for me. Remember your good deeds will benefit me in the hereafter life. Will you do it my son?
Son:
He got tears in his eyes already.
What about you?
A mother is the Superior soul in One's life... A mother is one of the strongest doors of Paradise, if you wish you may pull it down, or if you wish you may protect it. May Allah bless our mother and give hidayah in our hearts to Obey her and love her to the core and protect her
Aameen ya rabul alameen
رَبَّنَا ھَبْ لَنَا مِنْ اَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ اَعْيُنٍ وَّاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِيْنَ اِمَامًا.
أمين..
..Women to Jannah..
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Parents should never insult their children due to any "failure". Children are sensitive to the words and actions of their parents, constant criticism and derogatory remarks lead to a negative self-image for children...
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A man who experienced childhood trauma may unintentionally direct those unresolved emotions and experiences towards his wife, unless he heals from that trauma...
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The 5th Standard student in Saudi Arabia was asked to write something about their mother in a paper. The student answered:
ماتت أمی ومات معھا شئ
"My mother died, and with her, (death) everything else died."💔
اللھم ارحم علی امھاتنا
ماتت أمی ومات معھا شئ
"My mother died, and with her, (death) everything else died."💔
اللھم ارحم علی امھاتنا
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I have grieved for sooo long for this 'ideal childhood' I held soo much anger nd resentment for my parents.
I could not let go of the pain and suffering they caused me .
Although I understand Allah gave me my parents but I could not accept my life nd how it was back then because I kept thinking I could have done better or changed or maybe it was my fault.
Yes our parents need to take accountability nd responsibility but do you really want to punish them or continue punishing yourself for whst could or could not be?
Coming to terms with your past nd remembering that Allah decreed everything is actually very comforting because it stops you from comparing nd romanticising .
You could get all the love in the world nd still be a menace in the world!
If Allah thought every home had to be born with ideal perfect parents then He would have given that.
Your trials and tribulations made you who are today.
This is why you value what you have today!
I could not let go of the pain and suffering they caused me .
Although I understand Allah gave me my parents but I could not accept my life nd how it was back then because I kept thinking I could have done better or changed or maybe it was my fault.
Yes our parents need to take accountability nd responsibility but do you really want to punish them or continue punishing yourself for whst could or could not be?
Coming to terms with your past nd remembering that Allah decreed everything is actually very comforting because it stops you from comparing nd romanticising .
You could get all the love in the world nd still be a menace in the world!
If Allah thought every home had to be born with ideal perfect parents then He would have given that.
Your trials and tribulations made you who are today.
This is why you value what you have today!
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A person came to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and asked, "Who among people is most deserving of my fine treatment?" He (ﷺ) said, "Your mother". He again asked, ''Who next?" "Your mother", the Prophet (ﷺ) replied again. He asked, "Who next?" He (the Prophet (ﷺ)) said again, "Your mother." He again asked, "Then who?" Thereupon he (ﷺ) said," Then your father."
In another narration: "O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my fine treatment?" He (ﷺ) said, "Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then your nearest, then nearest".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Riyad as-Salihin 316
Hadith 316
In another narration: "O Messenger of Allah! Who is most deserving of my fine treatment?" He (ﷺ) said, "Your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father, then your nearest, then nearest".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Riyad as-Salihin 316
Hadith 316
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Disciplining children is not about imposing punishment, but about imparting wisdom. It's not about asserting control, but about nurturing their growth. When we explain the reasoning behind our boundaries and consequences with kindness and compassion, we help them develop a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them.
By doing so, we create a supportive environment where they can learn from their mistakes, take ownership of their actions, and cultivate a sense of responsibility. This approach not only fosters a stronger bond between parent and child but also lays the foundation for a lifelong journey of self-discovery and moral guidance.
By disciplining with empathy and understanding, we empower our children to develop a strong sense of self, a clear moral compass, and the essential skills they need to navigate life's challenges with confidence and resilience. This perspective emphasizes the importance of explanatory discipline, which focuses on teaching, guiding, and nurturing children, rather than simply punishing them.
~ 𝓙𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓷𝓮𝔂 𝓸𝓯 𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮
By doing so, we create a supportive environment where they can learn from their mistakes, take ownership of their actions, and cultivate a sense of responsibility. This approach not only fosters a stronger bond between parent and child but also lays the foundation for a lifelong journey of self-discovery and moral guidance.
By disciplining with empathy and understanding, we empower our children to develop a strong sense of self, a clear moral compass, and the essential skills they need to navigate life's challenges with confidence and resilience. This perspective emphasizes the importance of explanatory discipline, which focuses on teaching, guiding, and nurturing children, rather than simply punishing them.
~ 𝓙𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓷𝓮𝔂 𝓸𝓯 𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮
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If you find yourself loving one of your children more than the others, try as much as possible to not let it be obvious. Treat them equally.
Parental favoritism has caused damaged to alot of kids. It brings enmity between children and sometimes leads to low self-esteem, especially to the unfavoured ones.
Parental favoritism has caused damaged to alot of kids. It brings enmity between children and sometimes leads to low self-esteem, especially to the unfavoured ones.
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READ THIS, IT'S BEAUTIFUL ❤🐝🦋
A mother's destiny is to wait for her children.
She waits for them even before they're born.
She waits for them after school.
She waits for them to come home after a night out.
She waits as they build their own lives.
She waits for them to return home after work, ready with a warm meal.
She waits with love, with worry, and sometimes with frustration that fades the moment she sees them and can hold them close.
Don't let your dear mother wait any longer. Call her, visit her, love her, hug the one who loves you like no one else ever will.
Don't make her wait—she's hoping for this from you.
Because though her body may age, a mother's heart never grows old. Love her while you can. No one will ever love you like your mother does.
Don't make your mother wait. Love her while you can. ❤🌻🦋
A mother's destiny is to wait for her children.
She waits for them even before they're born.
She waits for them after school.
She waits for them to come home after a night out.
She waits as they build their own lives.
She waits for them to return home after work, ready with a warm meal.
She waits with love, with worry, and sometimes with frustration that fades the moment she sees them and can hold them close.
Don't let your dear mother wait any longer. Call her, visit her, love her, hug the one who loves you like no one else ever will.
Don't make her wait—she's hoping for this from you.
Because though her body may age, a mother's heart never grows old. Love her while you can. No one will ever love you like your mother does.
Don't make your mother wait. Love her while you can. ❤🌻🦋
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