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AMAZING DUA FOR RIGHTEOUS SPOUSE & KIDS:
Do u want ur husband/wife to bring so much happiness to u that it makes u literally cry tears of joy?
Do u want ur children as well as ur future generations to be LEADERS of the Mutaqeen, those who have Taqwa?
When u see ur children praying or reciting Quran, or having exemplary manners does it not bring coolness to ur eyes? Bringing tears of joy?
Memorise this dua Allah mentions in Surah Al Furqaan verse 74:
رَبَّنَا هَبۡ لَنَا مِنۡ أَزۡوَٲجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّـٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعۡيُنٍ۬ وَٱجۡعَلۡنَا لِلۡمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
"And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our spouses & our offspring the coolness of our eyes & make us leaders for the Muttaqun.”
“The EYES becoming COOL” is an Arab idiom. The Arabs when travelling in the desert would wrap their faces to protect from sandstorms. However, they cannot afford to cover their eyes without losing their vision, so they had to keep their eyes exposed. When they finally found a refuge, interestingly they would say “My eyes have finally become cool.” So in literature, this expression equates to finding refuge from a storm.
This is what we are asking from this beautiful du’a. Ironically in many of our homes, the storm that we are seeking refuge from is not outside, but inside the home. Our homes are broken – the depression, sadness, yelling & insults between spouses, siblings, parents & children have made us run away from what is supposed to be our refuge from the outside storm. This is the crisis of the world today.
"Hab lana' means to ask a special favor from Allah to be granted an unexpected, beautiful gift especially for us. We ask Allah to grant from our spouses & not just our immediate children – but even our future lineage & generations to come – the coolness of our eyes. Allah SWT) teaches us to ask Him so perfectly and eloquently for our home to become a place of refuge – that when we come home to our spouse & children, our worries disappear.
To depict how powerful & beautiful this du’a is. Know that there is no stronger bond between a mother & her child. So imagine the state of desperation of Musa’s alaihi salaam’s mother when she put her baby in the water to save him from Fir’aun. Will he be ok? Will he drown? Will he get dehydrated? Will he be picked up by Fir’aun’s soldiers? She didn’t know! So can you imagine her emotion when she was finally reunited with Musa alaihis salam. Look how Allah describes that emotion.
"So We restored you to your mother, that she might COOL HER EYES & she should not grieve" {Surat Ta-Ha 20: Verse 40}
Allah is describing the most amazing joy & relief! The most indescribable feeling in the heart by the same expression: the coolness of the eyes! This is exactly what we ask from Allah from this powerful and beautiful du’a.
May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’aala make our spouses & children from among those who are the coolness of our eyes & that He makes us leader of the pious & righteous.
Do u want ur husband/wife to bring so much happiness to u that it makes u literally cry tears of joy?
Do u want ur children as well as ur future generations to be LEADERS of the Mutaqeen, those who have Taqwa?
When u see ur children praying or reciting Quran, or having exemplary manners does it not bring coolness to ur eyes? Bringing tears of joy?
Memorise this dua Allah mentions in Surah Al Furqaan verse 74:
رَبَّنَا هَبۡ لَنَا مِنۡ أَزۡوَٲجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّـٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعۡيُنٍ۬ وَٱجۡعَلۡنَا لِلۡمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا
"And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our spouses & our offspring the coolness of our eyes & make us leaders for the Muttaqun.”
“The EYES becoming COOL” is an Arab idiom. The Arabs when travelling in the desert would wrap their faces to protect from sandstorms. However, they cannot afford to cover their eyes without losing their vision, so they had to keep their eyes exposed. When they finally found a refuge, interestingly they would say “My eyes have finally become cool.” So in literature, this expression equates to finding refuge from a storm.
This is what we are asking from this beautiful du’a. Ironically in many of our homes, the storm that we are seeking refuge from is not outside, but inside the home. Our homes are broken – the depression, sadness, yelling & insults between spouses, siblings, parents & children have made us run away from what is supposed to be our refuge from the outside storm. This is the crisis of the world today.
"Hab lana' means to ask a special favor from Allah to be granted an unexpected, beautiful gift especially for us. We ask Allah to grant from our spouses & not just our immediate children – but even our future lineage & generations to come – the coolness of our eyes. Allah SWT) teaches us to ask Him so perfectly and eloquently for our home to become a place of refuge – that when we come home to our spouse & children, our worries disappear.
To depict how powerful & beautiful this du’a is. Know that there is no stronger bond between a mother & her child. So imagine the state of desperation of Musa’s alaihi salaam’s mother when she put her baby in the water to save him from Fir’aun. Will he be ok? Will he drown? Will he get dehydrated? Will he be picked up by Fir’aun’s soldiers? She didn’t know! So can you imagine her emotion when she was finally reunited with Musa alaihis salam. Look how Allah describes that emotion.
"So We restored you to your mother, that she might COOL HER EYES & she should not grieve" {Surat Ta-Ha 20: Verse 40}
Allah is describing the most amazing joy & relief! The most indescribable feeling in the heart by the same expression: the coolness of the eyes! This is exactly what we ask from Allah from this powerful and beautiful du’a.
May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’aala make our spouses & children from among those who are the coolness of our eyes & that He makes us leader of the pious & righteous.
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✍🏻 Serve Your Parents
Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said: “May he be disgraced, may he be disgraced, may he be disgraced!!”, he was asked: “Who, O Messenger of Allāh?”, he replied: “The one who finds his parents, or one of them, in old age and then he enters Hellfire (by not serving them)!!”
● [الأدب المفرد للبخاري ٢١]
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Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said: “May he be disgraced, may he be disgraced, may he be disgraced!!”, he was asked: “Who, O Messenger of Allāh?”, he replied: “The one who finds his parents, or one of them, in old age and then he enters Hellfire (by not serving them)!!”
● [الأدب المفرد للبخاري ٢١]
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
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As our children get set to return to school, we should seek Allah’s protection for them. The Prophet ﷺ would seek refuge in Allah for Ḥasan and Ḥusayn, saying:
أُعِيذُكُمَا بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّةِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْطَانٍ وَهَامَّةٍ وَمِنْ كُلِّ عَيْنٍ لاَمَّةٍ
“I seek refuge for both of you in the perfect words of Allah from every devil and poisonous creature, and from every harmful evil eye.” [Bukhārī (3371)]
Note:
1) For 2 children, you would say as mentioned above
2) For 1 boy, you would say: أُعِيذُكَ
3) For 1 girl, you would say: أُعِيذُكِ
4) For more than 2 children, you would say: أُعِيذُكُمْ
أُعِيذُكُمَا بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّةِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْطَانٍ وَهَامَّةٍ وَمِنْ كُلِّ عَيْنٍ لاَمَّةٍ
“I seek refuge for both of you in the perfect words of Allah from every devil and poisonous creature, and from every harmful evil eye.” [Bukhārī (3371)]
Note:
1) For 2 children, you would say as mentioned above
2) For 1 boy, you would say: أُعِيذُكَ
3) For 1 girl, you would say: أُعِيذُكِ
4) For more than 2 children, you would say: أُعِيذُكُمْ
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"MOTHER AND HER SON
❤️Conversation between a Mother and Her Son💕
Mother:
I fought with death when I was giving birth to you. I spent sleepless nights when you were sick and crying. I never ate without feeding you first. I bore so many pains to bring you to the stage that you are in today. How will you repay me my son?
Son:
When I grow up, I will find a good job and earn lots of money for you so you can enjoy the pleasures of this world.
Mother:
Your father is doing this already and I do not expect this from you too. By the time you are earning I will be old and will not be in need of any worldly luxuries.
Son:
I will find a pious lady and marry her so she can cook for you and take care of you.
Mother:
That is not her duty my son and neither should you marry for that reason. It is not compulsory on her to do any service to me, neither do I expect this from her. Your marriage should be for you, a companion and a comfort for you as you go through this journey of life.
Son:
Tell me mother how can I repay you then?
Mother:
(With tears in her eyes) Visit or call me often. A mother only requires this much from you while she is alive. Then when I die give me your shoulder and bury me. Whenever you perform prayers, supplicate for me. Give out in charity for me. Remember your every good deed will benefit me in the hereafter so be good and kind always. Fulfill the rights of Allah (Almighty God) SWT and all those around you. The sleepless nights and pains I took to bring you up was not a favour to you but was for my creator. He blessed me with you as a beautiful gift and as a means for me to attain His pleasure. Your every good deed becomes my repayment. Will you do it my son?
Son:
(Cannot speak and has tears in his eyes)
May we all be of those that are a coolness of our parents eyes and a means of their purification💕"
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❤️Conversation between a Mother and Her Son💕
Mother:
I fought with death when I was giving birth to you. I spent sleepless nights when you were sick and crying. I never ate without feeding you first. I bore so many pains to bring you to the stage that you are in today. How will you repay me my son?
Son:
When I grow up, I will find a good job and earn lots of money for you so you can enjoy the pleasures of this world.
Mother:
Your father is doing this already and I do not expect this from you too. By the time you are earning I will be old and will not be in need of any worldly luxuries.
Son:
I will find a pious lady and marry her so she can cook for you and take care of you.
Mother:
That is not her duty my son and neither should you marry for that reason. It is not compulsory on her to do any service to me, neither do I expect this from her. Your marriage should be for you, a companion and a comfort for you as you go through this journey of life.
Son:
Tell me mother how can I repay you then?
Mother:
(With tears in her eyes) Visit or call me often. A mother only requires this much from you while she is alive. Then when I die give me your shoulder and bury me. Whenever you perform prayers, supplicate for me. Give out in charity for me. Remember your every good deed will benefit me in the hereafter so be good and kind always. Fulfill the rights of Allah (Almighty God) SWT and all those around you. The sleepless nights and pains I took to bring you up was not a favour to you but was for my creator. He blessed me with you as a beautiful gift and as a means for me to attain His pleasure. Your every good deed becomes my repayment. Will you do it my son?
Son:
(Cannot speak and has tears in his eyes)
May we all be of those that are a coolness of our parents eyes and a means of their purification💕"
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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As our children get set to return to school, we should seek Allah’s protection for them. The Prophet ﷺ would seek refuge in Allah for Ḥasan and Ḥusayn, saying:
أُعِيذُكُمَا بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّةِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْطَانٍ وَهَامَّةٍ وَمِنْ كُلِّ عَيْنٍ لاَمَّةٍ
“I seek refuge for both of you in the perfect words of Allah from every devil and poisonous creature, and from every harmful evil eye.” [Bukhārī (3371)]
Note:
1) For 2 children, you would say as mentioned above
2) For 1 boy, you would say: أُعِيذُكَ
3) For 1 girl, you would say: أُعِيذُكِ
4) For more than 2 children, you would say: أُعِيذُكُمْ
أُعِيذُكُمَا بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّةِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْطَانٍ وَهَامَّةٍ وَمِنْ كُلِّ عَيْنٍ لاَمَّةٍ
“I seek refuge for both of you in the perfect words of Allah from every devil and poisonous creature, and from every harmful evil eye.” [Bukhārī (3371)]
Note:
1) For 2 children, you would say as mentioned above
2) For 1 boy, you would say: أُعِيذُكَ
3) For 1 girl, you would say: أُعِيذُكِ
4) For more than 2 children, you would say: أُعِيذُكُمْ
The obligations of the 'Shepherd'
The Prophet (May be upon him) said:
Beware. every one of you is a shepherd and every one is answerable with regard to his flock. The Caliph is a shepherd over the people and shall be questioned about his subjects (as to how he conducted their affairs). A man is a guardian over the members of his family and shal be questioned about them (as to how he looked after their physical and moral well-being). A woman is a guardian over the household of her husband and his children and shall be questioned about them (as to how she managed the household and brought up the children). A slave is a guardian over the property of his master and shall be questioned about it (as to how he safeguarded his trust). Beware, every one of you is a guardian and every one of you shall be questioned with regard to his trust. [Muslim 1829a]
One of the obligations that the husband/father (the "shepherd" of the household) is to ensure that all those under his guardianship (wives and children) have the opportunity and the means to acquire all the knowledge they need to worship Allah and live their lives as Allah has prescribed that we live our lives. If he has fulfilled that, then he has fulfilled his obligation and will not be asked about the sins of his wife and children. If he fails to fulfill this, then he himself will be asked about their sins and they are going astray based on HIS shortcomings in not fulfilling his obligations in this regard. [Jamal Zarabozo]
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The Prophet (May be upon him) said:
Beware. every one of you is a shepherd and every one is answerable with regard to his flock. The Caliph is a shepherd over the people and shall be questioned about his subjects (as to how he conducted their affairs). A man is a guardian over the members of his family and shal be questioned about them (as to how he looked after their physical and moral well-being). A woman is a guardian over the household of her husband and his children and shall be questioned about them (as to how she managed the household and brought up the children). A slave is a guardian over the property of his master and shall be questioned about it (as to how he safeguarded his trust). Beware, every one of you is a guardian and every one of you shall be questioned with regard to his trust. [Muslim 1829a]
One of the obligations that the husband/father (the "shepherd" of the household) is to ensure that all those under his guardianship (wives and children) have the opportunity and the means to acquire all the knowledge they need to worship Allah and live their lives as Allah has prescribed that we live our lives. If he has fulfilled that, then he has fulfilled his obligation and will not be asked about the sins of his wife and children. If he fails to fulfill this, then he himself will be asked about their sins and they are going astray based on HIS shortcomings in not fulfilling his obligations in this regard. [Jamal Zarabozo]
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
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from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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Psychologist count a lack of emotional connection support and love from a parent towards a child as trauma, they often say a lot of marital issues stem from underlying issues from childhood.
So if they feel their spouse isn’t showing them attention or somewhat reducing their emotional attachment or appreciation (etc), rather than being slightly upset and managing it, they will feel as if a mountain has collapsed on them, their behaviour will be something very abnormally over the top and extremely challenging or difficult to contain or resolve.
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So if they feel their spouse isn’t showing them attention or somewhat reducing their emotional attachment or appreciation (etc), rather than being slightly upset and managing it, they will feel as if a mountain has collapsed on them, their behaviour will be something very abnormally over the top and extremely challenging or difficult to contain or resolve.
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
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When Zuleiha made an attempt to seduce Yousuf (AS), Qur'an mentioned he would have done likewise if he didn't see a sign from his Lord.
This tells us that despite Yusuf (as) being pious, he would have also lost control of himself if there was no protection from Allāh.
It teaches a strong lesson that believers should accept themselves as weak and must be cautious when they engage themselves in interaction with the opposite gender.
You can develop temptations anytime and shouldn't celebrate yourself as a strong believer while roaming around the opposite gender because the only reason why your reputation is saved is that Allāh has protected your honour.
Be humble and accept we are weak and can't hold ourselves back from such illicit activities without the help of Allāh. Accept the reality that we can't control our emotions and how nature works, instead of living in a deceived paradise.
Whatever informal bond you have with a non mahram, it can never be pure of fondness. There will be a moment, second or minute where one side at least will feel something.
Save your reputation.
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This tells us that despite Yusuf (as) being pious, he would have also lost control of himself if there was no protection from Allāh.
It teaches a strong lesson that believers should accept themselves as weak and must be cautious when they engage themselves in interaction with the opposite gender.
You can develop temptations anytime and shouldn't celebrate yourself as a strong believer while roaming around the opposite gender because the only reason why your reputation is saved is that Allāh has protected your honour.
Be humble and accept we are weak and can't hold ourselves back from such illicit activities without the help of Allāh. Accept the reality that we can't control our emotions and how nature works, instead of living in a deceived paradise.
Whatever informal bond you have with a non mahram, it can never be pure of fondness. There will be a moment, second or minute where one side at least will feel something.
Save your reputation.
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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No matter how old we are, even if there are children who care and love us, the love of a parent is still different. May Allah grant our parents the highest level of paradise. Aameen❤️
Al-Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله said:
“Have dinner with your mother, be kind to her, sit with her so that her eyes find comfort by way of you.
All of this is more beloved to me than making a (recommended) Hajj.”
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Al-Hasan al-Basri رحمه الله said:
“Have dinner with your mother, be kind to her, sit with her so that her eyes find comfort by way of you.
All of this is more beloved to me than making a (recommended) Hajj.”
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"A woman should train her children properly, for her children represent the men and women of the future."
Shaykh Saalih ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah)
from The Uprightness of a Woman.
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The woman of Jannah
Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported:
A poor woman came to me carrying her two daughters. I gave her three date-fruits. She gave a date to each of them and then she took up one date-fruit and brought that to her mouth to eat, but her daughters asked her that also. She then divided between them the date-fruit that she intended to eat. This (kind) treatment of her impressed me and I mentioned that to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) who said, 'Verily, Allah has assured Jannah for her, because of (this act) of her," or said, "He (SWT) has rescued her from Hell- Fire". [Muslim].
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Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported:
A poor woman came to me carrying her two daughters. I gave her three date-fruits. She gave a date to each of them and then she took up one date-fruit and brought that to her mouth to eat, but her daughters asked her that also. She then divided between them the date-fruit that she intended to eat. This (kind) treatment of her impressed me and I mentioned that to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) who said, 'Verily, Allah has assured Jannah for her, because of (this act) of her," or said, "He (SWT) has rescued her from Hell- Fire". [Muslim].
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The Story of Umar (R) losing the custody of his son
In case of a dispute between the father and mother- the mother has most rights. Then grandmother from the maternal side.
Malik related to me that Yahya ibn Said said that he heard al- Qasim ibn Muhammad say, "A woman of the Ansar was married to Umar ibn al-Khattab. She bore Asim ibn Umar to him, and then he separated from her. Umar came to Quba and found his son Asim playing in the courtyard of the mosque. He took him by the arm and placed him before him on his mount. The grandmother of the child saw him and argued with Umar about the child so they went to Abu Bakr as-Siddiq. Umar said, 'My son.' The woman said, 'My son.' Abu Bakr said, 'Do not interfere between a child and its mother.' Umar did not repeat his words."
Yahya said that he heard Malik say, "This is what I would have done in that situation." [ Malik Muwatta Hadith 1463]
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In case of a dispute between the father and mother- the mother has most rights. Then grandmother from the maternal side.
Malik related to me that Yahya ibn Said said that he heard al- Qasim ibn Muhammad say, "A woman of the Ansar was married to Umar ibn al-Khattab. She bore Asim ibn Umar to him, and then he separated from her. Umar came to Quba and found his son Asim playing in the courtyard of the mosque. He took him by the arm and placed him before him on his mount. The grandmother of the child saw him and argued with Umar about the child so they went to Abu Bakr as-Siddiq. Umar said, 'My son.' The woman said, 'My son.' Abu Bakr said, 'Do not interfere between a child and its mother.' Umar did not repeat his words."
Yahya said that he heard Malik say, "This is what I would have done in that situation." [ Malik Muwatta Hadith 1463]
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