💠 Be patient with your children:
It is not proper for parents to supplicate against their children for being disobedient or not listening to them. The prohibition of this has been mentioned in some of the Aḥaadeeth. The parents should beware lest, due to their supplications against their own children, the children are placed in difficulty, and the consequences will fall upon the parents. Even if children are disobedient to their parents and irrespective of how hopeless a situation may seem, there is always hope for them to change. So, the parents should not quickly resort to supplicating against them.
The Prophet ﷺ forbade from supplicating against one’s children, one’s wealth, and one’s own self, lest that be made at a time when the supplications are answered. He ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth (and possessions) - lest you happen to do it at a time when Allaah is asked for something (i.e., the times when the supplications are accepted), and He grants your request.❞ [1]
The parents’ supplication for or against their children is answered as the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Three supplications are responded to, there being no doubt about them: the prayer of one who is wronged, the prayer of the traveler, and the supplication of a father for his child.❞ [2]
In another narration, the wording is: ❝and the supplication of a father against his son.❞ [3]
Broken-hearted parents only supplicate against their children when entirely driven to the wall. Naturally, a supplication arising from the bottom of one’s heart stands the best chance of being answered by Allaah. Instead, the parents should be patient and supplicate for their children instead of against them. They should supplicate to Allaah for their guidance and to set their affairs straight.
It is Allaah’s Mercy, Forbearance, and Kindness that He تعالى does not answer the erroneous supplications made by the people in haste or when angry, especially the supplications of the angry parents against their children, as Allaah تعالى said:
﴿وَيَدْعُ الْإِنسَانُ بِالشَّرِّ دُعَاءَهُ بِالْخَيْرِ ۖ وَكَانَ الْإِنسَانُ عَجُولًا﴾
{And man invokes (Allaah) for evil as he invokes (Allaah) for good and man is ever hasty} [4]
Meaning: When a person is angry with someone, he invokes (saying): “O Allaah! Curse him,” or something similar. Allaah is informing us that we should not be hasty; instead, we should be patient.
Allaah تعالى also said:
﴿وَلَوْ يُعَجِّلُ اللَّهُ لِلنَّاسِ الشَّرَّ اسْتِعْجَالَهُم بِالْخَيْرِ لَقُضِيَ إِلَيْهِمْ أَجَلُهُمْ ۖ فَنَذَرُ الَّذِينَ لَا يَرْجُونَ لِقَاءَنَا فِي طُغْيَانِهِمْ يَعْمَهُونَ﴾
{And were Allaah to hasten for mankind the evil (they invoke for themselves and their children, etc., while in a state of anger) as He hastens for them the good (they invoke), then they would have been ruined. So, We leave those who expect not their meeting with Us, in their trespasses, wandering blindly in distraction} [5]
Meaning: The evil the people invoke upon themselves when in rage or the punishment they ask to be brought down upon them. Had Allaah accepted their supplications for evil – the way He تعالى accepts their supplication for good – they would have been destroyed.
Mujaahid said: “It is the man saying to his son or wealth when he is angry: ‘O Allaah don't bless him (or it) and curse him (or it).’” [6]
Al-Ḥaafiẓh Ibn Katheer رحمه الله said: “Here Allaah tells us of His Forbearance and Kindness towards His slaves, for He تعالى does not respond to their supplications when they pray against themselves or their wealth, or their children during times of grief or anger. He تعالى knows that they do not truly intend evil for themselves, so He تعالى doesn’t respond to them out of kindness and mercy, like the way He does when they pray for themselves or their wealth or their children for goodness, blessing, and growth. Had He تعالى responded to all of their evil requests, it (their evil supplications) would have destroyed them. However, people should avoid praying for evil as much as possible.” [7]
It is not proper for parents to supplicate against their children for being disobedient or not listening to them. The prohibition of this has been mentioned in some of the Aḥaadeeth. The parents should beware lest, due to their supplications against their own children, the children are placed in difficulty, and the consequences will fall upon the parents. Even if children are disobedient to their parents and irrespective of how hopeless a situation may seem, there is always hope for them to change. So, the parents should not quickly resort to supplicating against them.
The Prophet ﷺ forbade from supplicating against one’s children, one’s wealth, and one’s own self, lest that be made at a time when the supplications are answered. He ﷺ said: ❝Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, do not pray against your wealth (and possessions) - lest you happen to do it at a time when Allaah is asked for something (i.e., the times when the supplications are accepted), and He grants your request.❞ [1]
The parents’ supplication for or against their children is answered as the Prophet ﷺ said: ❝Three supplications are responded to, there being no doubt about them: the prayer of one who is wronged, the prayer of the traveler, and the supplication of a father for his child.❞ [2]
In another narration, the wording is: ❝and the supplication of a father against his son.❞ [3]
Broken-hearted parents only supplicate against their children when entirely driven to the wall. Naturally, a supplication arising from the bottom of one’s heart stands the best chance of being answered by Allaah. Instead, the parents should be patient and supplicate for their children instead of against them. They should supplicate to Allaah for their guidance and to set their affairs straight.
It is Allaah’s Mercy, Forbearance, and Kindness that He تعالى does not answer the erroneous supplications made by the people in haste or when angry, especially the supplications of the angry parents against their children, as Allaah تعالى said:
﴿وَيَدْعُ الْإِنسَانُ بِالشَّرِّ دُعَاءَهُ بِالْخَيْرِ ۖ وَكَانَ الْإِنسَانُ عَجُولًا﴾
{And man invokes (Allaah) for evil as he invokes (Allaah) for good and man is ever hasty} [4]
Meaning: When a person is angry with someone, he invokes (saying): “O Allaah! Curse him,” or something similar. Allaah is informing us that we should not be hasty; instead, we should be patient.
Allaah تعالى also said:
﴿وَلَوْ يُعَجِّلُ اللَّهُ لِلنَّاسِ الشَّرَّ اسْتِعْجَالَهُم بِالْخَيْرِ لَقُضِيَ إِلَيْهِمْ أَجَلُهُمْ ۖ فَنَذَرُ الَّذِينَ لَا يَرْجُونَ لِقَاءَنَا فِي طُغْيَانِهِمْ يَعْمَهُونَ﴾
{And were Allaah to hasten for mankind the evil (they invoke for themselves and their children, etc., while in a state of anger) as He hastens for them the good (they invoke), then they would have been ruined. So, We leave those who expect not their meeting with Us, in their trespasses, wandering blindly in distraction} [5]
Meaning: The evil the people invoke upon themselves when in rage or the punishment they ask to be brought down upon them. Had Allaah accepted their supplications for evil – the way He تعالى accepts their supplication for good – they would have been destroyed.
Mujaahid said: “It is the man saying to his son or wealth when he is angry: ‘O Allaah don't bless him (or it) and curse him (or it).’” [6]
Al-Ḥaafiẓh Ibn Katheer رحمه الله said: “Here Allaah tells us of His Forbearance and Kindness towards His slaves, for He تعالى does not respond to their supplications when they pray against themselves or their wealth, or their children during times of grief or anger. He تعالى knows that they do not truly intend evil for themselves, so He تعالى doesn’t respond to them out of kindness and mercy, like the way He does when they pray for themselves or their wealth or their children for goodness, blessing, and growth. Had He تعالى responded to all of their evil requests, it (their evil supplications) would have destroyed them. However, people should avoid praying for evil as much as possible.” [7]
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If a child can do advanced math, speak 3 languages, or receive top grades, but can't manage their emotions, practice conflict resolution, or handle stress, none of that other stuff is really going to matter.
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Saw a brother today take a phone call from his mother. As soon as he saw her name on his mobile screen, he sat upright, cleared his throat, and answered the phone with a smile saying “السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته amar shunar mayzi” - which loosely translates to my dear/beloved mother.
The love with which he spoke to his mother was amazing. No wonder Allah has granted him so much goodness in this life.
(This brother is still enjoying the goodnesses of this world. Masha Allah!)
The love with which he spoke to his mother was amazing. No wonder Allah has granted him so much goodness in this life.
(This brother is still enjoying the goodnesses of this world. Masha Allah!)
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A child who doesn't feel loved by parents grows up to be a broken adult.
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Getting trained for handling failures is equally important.
There was a very brilliant boy, he always scored 100% in Science.
Got Selected for IIT Madras and scored excellent in IIT.
Went to the University of California for MBA.
Got a high paying job in America and settled there.
Married a Beautiful Tamil Girl.
Bought a 5 room big house and luxury cars.
He had everything that make him successful but a few years ago he committed suicide after shooting his wife and children.
WHAT WENT WRONG?
California Institute of Clinical Psychology Studied his case and found “what went wrong?”
The researcher met the boy's friends and family and found that he lost his job due to America’s economic crisis and he had to sit without a job for a long time. After even reducing his previous salary amount, he didn't get any job. Then his house installment broke and he and his family lost the home. they survived a few months with less money and then he and his wife together decided to commit suicide. He first shot his wife and children and then shot himself.
The case concluded that the man was Programmed for success but he was not trained for handling failures.
Now let's come to the actual question, What are the habits of highly successful people?
First of all, there are many people who will tell you about success habits but today I want to tell you that even if you have achieved everything, yet there is a chance to lose everything, nobody knows when the next economic crisis will hit the world. The best success habit according to me is getting trained for handling failures.
I also request every parent, please not only program your child to be successful but teach them how to handle failures and also teach them proper lessons about life. Learning high-level science and maths will help them to clear competitive exams but a knowledge about life will help them to face every problem. Teach them about how money works instead of teaching them to work for money. Help them in finding their passion because these degrees will not help them in the next economic crisis and we don’t know when the next crisis will hit the world.
"Success is a lousy teacher. Failure teaches you more."
Source: WhatsApp University
There was a very brilliant boy, he always scored 100% in Science.
Got Selected for IIT Madras and scored excellent in IIT.
Went to the University of California for MBA.
Got a high paying job in America and settled there.
Married a Beautiful Tamil Girl.
Bought a 5 room big house and luxury cars.
He had everything that make him successful but a few years ago he committed suicide after shooting his wife and children.
WHAT WENT WRONG?
California Institute of Clinical Psychology Studied his case and found “what went wrong?”
The researcher met the boy's friends and family and found that he lost his job due to America’s economic crisis and he had to sit without a job for a long time. After even reducing his previous salary amount, he didn't get any job. Then his house installment broke and he and his family lost the home. they survived a few months with less money and then he and his wife together decided to commit suicide. He first shot his wife and children and then shot himself.
The case concluded that the man was Programmed for success but he was not trained for handling failures.
Now let's come to the actual question, What are the habits of highly successful people?
First of all, there are many people who will tell you about success habits but today I want to tell you that even if you have achieved everything, yet there is a chance to lose everything, nobody knows when the next economic crisis will hit the world. The best success habit according to me is getting trained for handling failures.
I also request every parent, please not only program your child to be successful but teach them how to handle failures and also teach them proper lessons about life. Learning high-level science and maths will help them to clear competitive exams but a knowledge about life will help them to face every problem. Teach them about how money works instead of teaching them to work for money. Help them in finding their passion because these degrees will not help them in the next economic crisis and we don’t know when the next crisis will hit the world.
"Success is a lousy teacher. Failure teaches you more."
Source: WhatsApp University
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One Of The Parental Responsibilities
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen Rahimahullahu Ta’ala was asked:
‘We often see in women’s gatherings girls and young girls, around the age of seven years, wearing short or tight clothes, or strange haircuts, or haircuts for small girls that look like haircuts for boys. If we speak to the mothers and try to advise them, they argue that the children are still small. We hope that you can give us clear advice about children’s clothing and haircuts, may Allah bless you.’
The Shaykh answered: “It is well known that the individual is influenced by things in his childhood and will continue to be affected by them after he grows up. Hence Rasulullah salallahu’alaihi wa sallam enjoined us to instruct our children to pray when they are seven years old, and to s m a c k them (lightly) if they do not pray when they reach the age of ten, so that they will get used to it, as the child will follow that which he is used to.
If a young girl gets used to wearing short clothes that only come to the knee, and short sleeves that only come to the elbow or shoulder, she will lose all modesty and will want to wear these clothes after she grows up.
The same applies with regard to hair; a woman should have a hairstyle that is different from that of men; if she makes the hair like a man’s hair, she will be resembling men and Rasulullah salallahu’alaihi wa sallam c u r s e d women who resemble men.
It should be noted that the family is responsible for these children and their upbringing and education, as Rasulullah Salallahu’alaihi wa sallam said: “A man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for his flock.” So beware of being heedless; the father should be serious about the upbringing of his sons and daughters, and he should care for them, so that Allah will guide them and they will become a delight to him. End quote.”
Source; Al-Liqa’ al-Shahri, 66/10
Wallahu Ta’ala a’lam
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen Rahimahullahu Ta’ala was asked:
‘We often see in women’s gatherings girls and young girls, around the age of seven years, wearing short or tight clothes, or strange haircuts, or haircuts for small girls that look like haircuts for boys. If we speak to the mothers and try to advise them, they argue that the children are still small. We hope that you can give us clear advice about children’s clothing and haircuts, may Allah bless you.’
The Shaykh answered: “It is well known that the individual is influenced by things in his childhood and will continue to be affected by them after he grows up. Hence Rasulullah salallahu’alaihi wa sallam enjoined us to instruct our children to pray when they are seven years old, and to s m a c k them (lightly) if they do not pray when they reach the age of ten, so that they will get used to it, as the child will follow that which he is used to.
If a young girl gets used to wearing short clothes that only come to the knee, and short sleeves that only come to the elbow or shoulder, she will lose all modesty and will want to wear these clothes after she grows up.
The same applies with regard to hair; a woman should have a hairstyle that is different from that of men; if she makes the hair like a man’s hair, she will be resembling men and Rasulullah salallahu’alaihi wa sallam c u r s e d women who resemble men.
It should be noted that the family is responsible for these children and their upbringing and education, as Rasulullah Salallahu’alaihi wa sallam said: “A man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for his flock.” So beware of being heedless; the father should be serious about the upbringing of his sons and daughters, and he should care for them, so that Allah will guide them and they will become a delight to him. End quote.”
Source; Al-Liqa’ al-Shahri, 66/10
Wallahu Ta’ala a’lam
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Youth ‘mental health’ treatment should be approached with caution and skepticism. If a child's suffering is primarily a result of a broken or unhealthy environment, focusing on "treating their mental health" may shift attention away from the root cause. This could risk leading them to believe that the problem lies within themselves rather than their circumstances, potentially causing long-term harm and fostering dependency on treatment, turning them into lifelong patients.
Rather than addressing a child’s environment, psychiatry often aligns with the family projection process, where a problem rooted in the parents is transferred to the child. By diagnosing the child as mentally ill and providing medical treatment, psychiatry may obscure the fact that the child’s distress is a symptom of underlying family dysfunction. Thus, treating the child alone may mask the true source of the problem rather than resolving it.
Rather than addressing a child’s environment, psychiatry often aligns with the family projection process, where a problem rooted in the parents is transferred to the child. By diagnosing the child as mentally ill and providing medical treatment, psychiatry may obscure the fact that the child’s distress is a symptom of underlying family dysfunction. Thus, treating the child alone may mask the true source of the problem rather than resolving it.
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