Misery loves company. Try not to get sucked into the vortex.

تلاش برای افزایش حس لذت و جست‌وجوی شادی به نتیجه عکس منجر می شود. اجتناب از مواجه‌شدن با امور دردناک نیز می‌تواند فرد را به افسردگی مستعد سازد.

به راحت نفسی، رنج پایدار مجوی / شب شراب نیارزد به بامداد خمار

The thing is most people (myself included) want to do everything all at once. But that’s a surefire recipe for feeling overwhelmed and frustrated at a lack of making real progress on any one thing.

The thing no one tells when you’ve got multiple irons in the fire is you’re probably going to get burned (out).

And as difficult as it is, one thing at a time is a far more useful approach to truly build momentum.

Sur l'océan couleur de fer
Pleurait un choeur immense
Et ces longs cris dont la démence
Semble percer l'enfer

Et puis la mort, et le silence
Montant comme un mur noir
Parfois au loin se laissait voir
Un feu qui se balance

Repair refers to the work needed for two people to regain each other’s trust, and restore themselves in other’s mind as someone who is essentially decent and sympathetic that can be a “good enough” interpreter of their need.

The true cost of an apology might be to own up to being more foolish, hot-tempered and so on, that’s why people may rather avoid to be sorry or believe that any apology might arouse the forbearance we crave.

To accept an apology requires to understand that good people can end up doing some pretty bad things (which needs emotional maturity). Not because they’re evil, but because they’re tired, sad, worried or weak.

Behind a rupture often lies a failed attempt by one person to teach something to another and they lose their temper or go into a sulk because of it.
Good teachers aren’t after miraculous outcomes. They know how resistant the human mind can be to new ideas; they don’t push a point too hard and they give their listener time and know about defensiveness.
They can in the end bear to accept that they will always be a bit misunderstood even by someone who loves them very much.

It’s easier to get offended with someone than to dare to imagine they might have something important to tell us. It isn’t easy to have to imagine that we are still beginners in a range of ideas. The good repairer is ultimately a good learner because they know how much they still have left to take on board and learn.

International Harry Potter Day was officially declared by David Cameron, the Prime Minister of Britain at the time, in 2012. It is designated to be on the 2nd of May, the day Harry Potter defeated Lord Voldemort during the Battle of Hogwarts.

“I often think that ‘Voilà’ is the end and the beginning of something,” she said. “It’s the end of twenty five years of a battle with myself to feel happy, to feel proud, to understand that I am capable of doing things. It’s the beginning because now I am ready to say hello, that’s me, and I don’t mind if you like me…because that’s just what I am. That’s everything I am…..This is all I have, this is all I got, here I am, and voilà.”

"The song is somewhere between a love letter and a will. I wrote it at a very difficult time in my life, when I was away from home and the people I love. The idea is: what would I want to say to these people if I were to die? It talks about feelings that everyone can relate to, and we would love to understand how different people understand the lyrics. We are happy that we were able to take some time to write a lot of new music. We chose to come out with this single because it shows a side of us that people haven't seen yet and we wanted to start our new journey from here."

روش صحیح نباید بابت رسیدن به نتیجه مطلوب قربانی بشه، حتی اگر نتیجه‌ به دلایل اخلاقی، احساسی و ... درست باشه. رسیدن به نتیجه درست از راه غلط آسیب‌ش رو در درازمدت خواهد زد.

Sometimes what you don't do is just as important as what you do.

"Where is the wisdom we have lost in knowledge?
Where is the knowledge we have lost in information?”
― T.S. Eliot

Time doesn’t disappear. It’s given away, one “yes” at a time. We make time for what we prioritize and the shape of priority starts with the gentle art of “no”.

Human beings rely on cooperation for practically everything we do as species. And since men are human and not some mythological predator, they need reciprocal relationships in order to flourish and reach their full potenital. Even though we almost never see it at the movies, men are more than capable of the shared vulnerability and mutual support at providing the foundation for healthy partnerships.
The alpha male myth is so dangerous, precisely because it tells me to reject their own sociobiology, to reject their natural needs for connection and community.

Ironically, the discussion of "male loneliness epidemic" that a lot of men talk about, that crisis is an indirect result of the culture they've perpetuated by enforcing this myth.