"My parents beat me as a child and I am not traumatized," said the man whose ex-partner reported him for physical violence.

"When I was a child they left me crying alone until I fell asleep and it was so bad I did not go out," said the man who spends long hours in social networks, affecting his sleep.

"They punished me as a child and I'm fine," said the man who, every time he makes a mistake, says to himself words of contempt, as a form of self-punishment.

"As a child, they put a heavy hand on me and I suffer from a trauma called 'education'," said the woman who still does not understand why all of her partners end up being aggressive.

"When I became capricious as a child, my father locked me in a room alone to learn and today I appreciate it," said the woman who has suffered anxiety attacks and can not explain why she is so afraid of being locked in small spaces .

"My parents told me they were going to leave me alone or give me to a stranger when I did my tantrums and I do not have traumas," said the woman who has prayed for love and has forgiven repeated infidelities so as not to feel abandoned

"My parents controlled me with just the look and see how well I came out," said the woman who can not maintain eye contact with figures of 'authority' without feeling intimidated.

"As a child, I got even with the iron cable and today I am a good man, even professional," said the man his neighbors have accused the police for drunk hitting objects and yelling at his wife.

"My parents forced me to study a career that would make me money, and see how well off I am," said the man who dreams of Friday every day because he is desperate in his work doing something every day that is not what he always wanted.

"When I was little they forced me to sit down until all the food was finished and they even force fed me, not like those permissive parents" affirmed the woman who does not understand why she could not have a healthy relationship with food and in her adolescence came to develop an eating disorder.

"I thank my mom and my dad for every blow and every punishment, because, if not, who knows what would happen to me," said the man who has never been able to have a healthy relationship, and whose son constantly lies to him because he has fear.

And so we go through life, listening to people claiming to be good people without trauma, but paradoxically, in a society full of violence and wounded people.

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The Messenger of Allāh صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ said:

“A man’s status will be raised in Paradise and he will ask: 'Where did this come from, How did I deserve this?' It will be said (to him): 'By your son's prayers, who sought forgiveness for you.”

Saheeh al-Jāmi' 1617 | Shaykh al-Albāni رحمه الله | Saheeh

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ:

إنَّ الرجُلَ لَتُرْفَعُ درجتُهُ في الجنةِ فيقولُ : أنَّى لِي هذا؟ فيُقالُ: بِاستغفارِ ولَدِكَ لَكَ

صحيح الجامع ١٦١٧ | الشيخ الألباني رحمه الله | صحيح

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Title: "Stories of the Prophets" (Chapter Book)
This book tells basic summarized stories of some of the prophets in chapter book form. Great for ages 8 years old to adults, insha'Allah!
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Home remedy for bed wetting

Bed-wetting is involuntary urination while asleep.

Bed-wetting is most common in children below 7

Bed-wetting in children is because of not completely developed nighttime bladder control.

Home remedy for bed-wetting

-Corn Silk
-Sugar(Optional)

Dry corn silk and grind it to make a powder.

How to use

-Bring 1 cup water to boil
-Add half tsp corn silk powder
-Add sugar to taste
-Boil for 5 minutes

Have this tea once a day.

Corn silk is the silky hair of corn.

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Dear Parents who are constantly angry,
Please read this.

Unpopular opinion, but the unhinged/angry/on the edge parents who are always screaming at their children and are constantly angry are the ones who don't invest in me time and prioritize themselves. They are so depleted all their frustration comes out on their children.

Please as a parent set aside a time to rejuvenate, reset and rest.

This can mean not showing up for other people, taking a mental health leave from job, this can mean asking family to step up to babysit so you can sleep or read a book or get a massage or facial. Whatever helps you calm down and show up with love, patience and compassion for your children - DO IT!

"Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will kill me inside out."

Words hurt ALOT.
Words can traumatize.

How beautiful are the words of the Prophet ﷺ, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent."

The tone you use, your eye stares, you screaming constantly at them will traumatize your children. That's not discipline and that's not how they will listen to you.

You are raising future of this ummah. Make the right choices.

🤲 May Allah help, protect and guide Muslim Parents - Allahumma ameen.

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'Aqeeqah (Newborns)

Once a baby is born, it is highly recommended to slaughter a sheep (one for a girl and two for a boy) as a means of gratitude towards Allah for bestowing the tremendous bounty of having a child.

The Prophet (sallAllahu ʿalayhi wa ’aalihi wa sallam) said,

Every child is in pledge (mortgage) for his 'Aqeeqah.

[Sahih (Authentic), Ibn Maajah, at-Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood, Ahmad, ad-Daarimi, an-Nisaa'ee]

Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) mentioned that some scholars said this hadith means if the 'Aqeeqah is not done for a child, then the child will be prevented from interceding for his parents (on The Day of Resurrection)

[Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah), Zaad al-Ma'aad, 2/325]

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Mobile Phone Use 'Raises Children's Risk of Brain Cancer Fivefold'

(7 pages ex. cover)

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Educate and protect your daughters, and then put your trust in Allaah!
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Question: Is it permissible to adorn young boys with gold and silver if they are under 2 years of age?

Shaykh ʿAbd al-Azeez bin ʿAbdullah bin Baaz رحمه الله

It is absolutely NOT permissible for young boys to wear gold, even if they are younger than two years of age. Gold is permissible for females and is prohibited for males, whether it is rings, watches or other than that. It is not permissible to place gold on a young boy, just as it is not permissible for a grown man to wear it. Rather gold is for women only.

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If you're bad to your parents now, don't ask yourself in the future "why are my kids bad to me?"...

أمك ثم أمك ثم أمك!!!
Treat your mother well, no matter how she treats you. She sacrificed her life for you, raising you with care. Never treat her poorly.

The duty of the mother in raising kids is not easy...may Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى‎ bless the mothers who strive in nurturing & teaching their kids.

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Nurturing Eeman In Children.

A little boy asked his mother, "Why are you crying?"

"Because I need to" she said.

"I don't understand," he said.

His Mom just hugged him and said, "And you never will."

Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does mother seem to cry for no reason?"

"All women cry for no reason," his dad answered carelessly.

The little boy, still wondering why women cry, finally asked the old wise shaikh (scholar). "He surely knows the answer", he thought. "Ya Shaikh! Why do women cry so easily?"

The Shaikh answered: "When Allah made the woman she had to be made so special. He made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. He gave her an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that comes from her children. He gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going when everyone else gives up, and take care of her family through sickness and fatigue without complaining. He gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child hurts her very badly. He gave her strength to carry her husband through his faults and fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. He gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife, but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly. And lastly, He gave her a tear. This is hers and only hers exclusively to use whenever she needs it. She needs no reason, no explanation, its hers."

"You see my son, the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the beauty of her face, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides.”

The little boy got the answer and never asked the question again.

May Allah SWT bless all mothers and give them strength to be strong. Ameen

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Shaykh Ṣāliḥ al-Fawzān (حفظه الله) said:

❝When the woman is weak, the house is weak. When the house is weak, the children are weak. When the houses are weak, the society is weak.❞

[Muḥāḍarāt fī al-ʿAqīdah wa al-Daʿwah | Page 162]

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Shaykh Ṣāliḥ al-Fawzān (حفظه الله) said:

النساء حواضن الرجال وقواعد البيوت.
Women are the nurturers, fosterers, rearers, educators, and cultivators for the men [for that which they produce with them (i.e., the children)], and the foundation of the homes.

فإن فسدت الحواضن فسد المجتمع كله.
So if the women are corrupted, then the society in its entirety will be corrupted.

كما قال الشاعر:
As the poet said:

الأم مدرسة، إذا أعددتها أعددت شعبًا طيب الأعراق.
The mother is a school; if you have prepared her, then you have prepared generations of people possessing integrity and uprightness.

[التعليق القويم على كتاب اقتضاء الصراط المستقيم (٢٤٠/١)]

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Islaam taught us to be dutiful to our parents after the worship of Allaah, there are parents who are being harsh to their sons or daughters but still it taught us to be good to them make dua'a for them for their wellbeing, todays generation few children are being thankful and showing gratitude to their parents even their parents are being patience with their disobedience and neglectful to them, they are attached towards colleagues and friends let alone Haram relationships.

By the will of Allaah our parents are the reason for our existence in this world and upon us is to give their rights.