ARE YOUR PARENTS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY?
A few days ago, someone tweeted on X that your parents are not your responsibility. The tweet generated so much debates and reactions among fellow users. Some users agreed with the tweet, and some opposed it. Those who opposed it argued from religious and moral perspectives.
Some of those who agreed with the tweet submitted that it was the choice of the parents to birth their children, hence it becomes their responsibility to raise them. However, the children are not required to reciprocate the gesture because they never asked for it in the first place.
As Muslims, our thoughts and actions must always be guided by the dictates of the Sharī'ah and not by those of our whims. Some of the comments I read from supposed Muslims on the matter is disappointing and heartbreaking to say the least. So, if we all agree that the dictates of the Sharī'ah are our ultimate guide, what does it say about this issue?
Firstly, Islam commands 5 things when it comes to parents. These are:
1. Obedience: Every child owes his/her parents total obedience in all matters except where such obedience constitutes a disobedience to Allāh and His Messenger.
Disobedience to one's parents is a MAJOR sin in Islam. The Prophet ﷺ said: "A disobedient child will NOT enter Jannah."
2. Respect: Showing respect to one's parents is a fundamental principle of the Sharī'ah, to the extent that it is forbidden to ignore, disregard, cheat, lie to, or raise one's voice at them (Qur'ān 17:23)
3. Dutifulness: The Sharī‘ah obligates every child to be dutiful to his/her parents and submit himself/herself to them completely. Serve your parents is the second of the sacred commandments (Qur'ān 4:36, 17:23). During the lifetime of the Prophet ﷺ, a young man enlisted in the army for an expedition. The Prophet asked him, "are your parents alive?" He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet ﷺ directed him to go back home and take care of them. That, for him, was the Jihād.
4. Compassion: Being compassionate and empathetic to one's parents especially in their old or weak age is an obligation on every child. In Qur'ān 17:24, Allāh says:
"and spread over them humbly the wings of thy tenderness, and say: "O my Sustainer! Bestow Thy grace upon them, even as they cherished and reared me when I was a child!"
5. Charity: The Sharī‘ah obligates every child to spend on his parents first before extending his hand of generosity to others. In Qur'ān 2:215, Allāh says:
The people ask, "What should we spend?" Tell them, "Whatever you spend, spend for your parents, your relatives, orphans, the needy and the wayfarer; and whatever good you do, Allah has knowledge of it."
This brings us back to the question of whether or not a child is responsible for taking care of his/her parents. The simple answer is a capital YES! Your parents are your responsibility as highlighted above.
However, the degree of responsibility varies according to the capacity of both the parent and the child. What this means is that where the parents are financially comfortable and can take care of their own needs, the child is not obligated to provide for them. He is not sinful for not spending on them.
My father was so comfortable that even when he died, what he left in his account I am yet to have it even with my pension balance combined. This was a man that was supporting me with ₦100,000 every year for my postgraduate programme frok Masters to PhD until he died. Whatever one does for such a parent is considered as a form of charity to attract their affection and prayers.
However, if one's parents are destitute or weak and cannot fend for themselves or do not have enough to sustain themselves, it becomes OBLIGATORY on the child to provide for them after providing for himself, his wife, and kids. This is a matter of consensus among the scholars of Islam. Ibn Al-Mundhir said:
أجمع أهل العلم على أن نفقة الوالدين الفقيرين الذين لا كسب لهما ولا مال واجبة في مال الولد.
A few days ago, someone tweeted on X that your parents are not your responsibility. The tweet generated so much debates and reactions among fellow users. Some users agreed with the tweet, and some opposed it. Those who opposed it argued from religious and moral perspectives.
Some of those who agreed with the tweet submitted that it was the choice of the parents to birth their children, hence it becomes their responsibility to raise them. However, the children are not required to reciprocate the gesture because they never asked for it in the first place.
As Muslims, our thoughts and actions must always be guided by the dictates of the Sharī'ah and not by those of our whims. Some of the comments I read from supposed Muslims on the matter is disappointing and heartbreaking to say the least. So, if we all agree that the dictates of the Sharī'ah are our ultimate guide, what does it say about this issue?
Firstly, Islam commands 5 things when it comes to parents. These are:
1. Obedience: Every child owes his/her parents total obedience in all matters except where such obedience constitutes a disobedience to Allāh and His Messenger.
Disobedience to one's parents is a MAJOR sin in Islam. The Prophet ﷺ said: "A disobedient child will NOT enter Jannah."
2. Respect: Showing respect to one's parents is a fundamental principle of the Sharī'ah, to the extent that it is forbidden to ignore, disregard, cheat, lie to, or raise one's voice at them (Qur'ān 17:23)
3. Dutifulness: The Sharī‘ah obligates every child to be dutiful to his/her parents and submit himself/herself to them completely. Serve your parents is the second of the sacred commandments (Qur'ān 4:36, 17:23). During the lifetime of the Prophet ﷺ, a young man enlisted in the army for an expedition. The Prophet asked him, "are your parents alive?" He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet ﷺ directed him to go back home and take care of them. That, for him, was the Jihād.
4. Compassion: Being compassionate and empathetic to one's parents especially in their old or weak age is an obligation on every child. In Qur'ān 17:24, Allāh says:
"and spread over them humbly the wings of thy tenderness, and say: "O my Sustainer! Bestow Thy grace upon them, even as they cherished and reared me when I was a child!"
5. Charity: The Sharī‘ah obligates every child to spend on his parents first before extending his hand of generosity to others. In Qur'ān 2:215, Allāh says:
The people ask, "What should we spend?" Tell them, "Whatever you spend, spend for your parents, your relatives, orphans, the needy and the wayfarer; and whatever good you do, Allah has knowledge of it."
This brings us back to the question of whether or not a child is responsible for taking care of his/her parents. The simple answer is a capital YES! Your parents are your responsibility as highlighted above.
However, the degree of responsibility varies according to the capacity of both the parent and the child. What this means is that where the parents are financially comfortable and can take care of their own needs, the child is not obligated to provide for them. He is not sinful for not spending on them.
My father was so comfortable that even when he died, what he left in his account I am yet to have it even with my pension balance combined. This was a man that was supporting me with ₦100,000 every year for my postgraduate programme frok Masters to PhD until he died. Whatever one does for such a parent is considered as a form of charity to attract their affection and prayers.
However, if one's parents are destitute or weak and cannot fend for themselves or do not have enough to sustain themselves, it becomes OBLIGATORY on the child to provide for them after providing for himself, his wife, and kids. This is a matter of consensus among the scholars of Islam. Ibn Al-Mundhir said:
أجمع أهل العلم على أن نفقة الوالدين الفقيرين الذين لا كسب لهما ولا مال واجبة في مال الولد.
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Therefore, before you jump on the trend to support the tweet, know what the Sharī‘ah stipulates. It doesn't matter whether your parents ask you or not. If you have enough to take care of yourself and family, add your parents to your responsibility list. They have sacrificed their active and productive years for you. It is time for them to enjoy the fruits of their labour.
May we not become weak and needy in our old age. Importantly, may we not give birth to ingrates that won't care about our wellbeing because he/she doesn't consider us his/her responsibility!
Parents are a live wire, nay transformer with constant electric supply. Don't go and hug it o!
Sanusi Lafiagi
May we not become weak and needy in our old age. Importantly, may we not give birth to ingrates that won't care about our wellbeing because he/she doesn't consider us his/her responsibility!
Parents are a live wire, nay transformer with constant electric supply. Don't go and hug it o!
Sanusi Lafiagi
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Parents, give your children some breathing room, especially as they mature and get older.
Our children are our children, but they are also their own people and slaves of Allah and each other's siblings and other people's friends. And inshaAllah, one day, our children will be other people's spouses and other people's parents.
These human beings we are currently raising have relationships outside of our relationship with them, though our relationship came first in their life.
We as parents must step back gradually and allow them the time, space, and flexibility to maintain those other relationships alongside ours.
This stepping back is sometimes hard for parents to do, because sometimes we can't imagine our babies as anything other than our babies.
The first time I watched my children compete in a sports tournament, I got misty-eyed. I saw my children in a different light. It was strange for me to see them as budding athletes, and not simply "the kids." It made me very happy alhamdulillah, yet something about the novelty was a bit unsettling to my mama heart.
As my children grow older and I observe them with their friends, it gives me a funny ache and a strange feeling sometimes to see their facial expressions and mannerisms as they address their peers. They are, in that moment, someone's friend, and not only "the kids."
Children growing up and changing is a bittersweet experience for parents. This is normal.
Our children do not "belong" to us.
Though we as mothers conceive them, carry them in our womb for nine months, birth them, breastfeed them, feed them, play with them, nurture them physically and emotionally and psychologically and mentally.
Though their fathers provide for them, protect them, teach them, train them, discipline them, love them, talk with them about everything.
Despite all this natural fusion between us as parents and our children, we need to gently and graciously allow our children to grow and differentiate from us to become whoever Allah has created them to be.
We need to allow our children to *individuate.* To become their own individuals, distinct from us.
This process can be hard for some parents, as it requires maturity and wisdom on the part of the parents.
Parents who cling too tightly, who suffocate their children by hovering and helicopter parenting, who allow their growing children no room to grow, stifle their children's natural development and cause harm.
Accept that, in some ways, your children are different from you and have their own personality. It doesn't have to be bad or scary. It can be fun and even exciting to discover who our children will grow up to be!
Although parents in Islam have important rights and a high station, our children do not belong to us as our property. All our souls belong to Allah.
Our children are our children, but they are also their own people and slaves of Allah and each other's siblings and other people's friends. And inshaAllah, one day, our children will be other people's spouses and other people's parents.
These human beings we are currently raising have relationships outside of our relationship with them, though our relationship came first in their life.
We as parents must step back gradually and allow them the time, space, and flexibility to maintain those other relationships alongside ours.
This stepping back is sometimes hard for parents to do, because sometimes we can't imagine our babies as anything other than our babies.
The first time I watched my children compete in a sports tournament, I got misty-eyed. I saw my children in a different light. It was strange for me to see them as budding athletes, and not simply "the kids." It made me very happy alhamdulillah, yet something about the novelty was a bit unsettling to my mama heart.
As my children grow older and I observe them with their friends, it gives me a funny ache and a strange feeling sometimes to see their facial expressions and mannerisms as they address their peers. They are, in that moment, someone's friend, and not only "the kids."
Children growing up and changing is a bittersweet experience for parents. This is normal.
Our children do not "belong" to us.
Though we as mothers conceive them, carry them in our womb for nine months, birth them, breastfeed them, feed them, play with them, nurture them physically and emotionally and psychologically and mentally.
Though their fathers provide for them, protect them, teach them, train them, discipline them, love them, talk with them about everything.
Despite all this natural fusion between us as parents and our children, we need to gently and graciously allow our children to grow and differentiate from us to become whoever Allah has created them to be.
We need to allow our children to *individuate.* To become their own individuals, distinct from us.
This process can be hard for some parents, as it requires maturity and wisdom on the part of the parents.
Parents who cling too tightly, who suffocate their children by hovering and helicopter parenting, who allow their growing children no room to grow, stifle their children's natural development and cause harm.
Accept that, in some ways, your children are different from you and have their own personality. It doesn't have to be bad or scary. It can be fun and even exciting to discover who our children will grow up to be!
Although parents in Islam have important rights and a high station, our children do not belong to us as our property. All our souls belong to Allah.
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4 months is 120 days.
(around 4 month or 120 days after conception).
So couples before your child get 4 months in the womb, you and your wife should always remember the child in your dua, whatever you wish the child should be, pray for him, pray hard before the child get the soul (breath in).
Pray hard before everything of the child life is decreed and written and keep praying till he sees this world.
Narrated `Abdullah bin Mus'ud:
Allah's Messenger, the true and truly inspired said, "(The matter of the Creation of) a human being is put together in the womb of the mother in forty days, and then he becomes a clot of thick blood for a similar period, and then a piece of flesh for a similar period. Then Allah sends an angel who is ordered to write four things. He is ordered to write down his (i.e. the new creature's) deeds, his livelihood, his (date of) death, and whether he will be blessed or wretched (in religion). Then the soul is breathed into him. So, a man amongst you may do (good deeds till there is only a cubit between him and Paradise and then what has been written for him decides his behavior and he starts doing (evil) deeds characteristic of the people of the (Hell) Fire. And similarly a man amongst you may do (evil) deeds till there is only a cubit between him and the (Hell) Fire, and then what has been written for him decides his behavior, and he starts doing deeds characteristic of the people of Paradise."
Sahih al-Bukhari 3208
May Allah grant us righteous children. Aameen
(around 4 month or 120 days after conception).
So couples before your child get 4 months in the womb, you and your wife should always remember the child in your dua, whatever you wish the child should be, pray for him, pray hard before the child get the soul (breath in).
Pray hard before everything of the child life is decreed and written and keep praying till he sees this world.
Narrated `Abdullah bin Mus'ud:
Allah's Messenger, the true and truly inspired said, "(The matter of the Creation of) a human being is put together in the womb of the mother in forty days, and then he becomes a clot of thick blood for a similar period, and then a piece of flesh for a similar period. Then Allah sends an angel who is ordered to write four things. He is ordered to write down his (i.e. the new creature's) deeds, his livelihood, his (date of) death, and whether he will be blessed or wretched (in religion). Then the soul is breathed into him. So, a man amongst you may do (good deeds till there is only a cubit between him and Paradise and then what has been written for him decides his behavior and he starts doing (evil) deeds characteristic of the people of the (Hell) Fire. And similarly a man amongst you may do (evil) deeds till there is only a cubit between him and the (Hell) Fire, and then what has been written for him decides his behavior, and he starts doing deeds characteristic of the people of Paradise."
Sahih al-Bukhari 3208
May Allah grant us righteous children. Aameen
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Abdullah ibn Mas’ūd used to pray at night and when he would see his small child sleeping then he would say, “this is for your bright future” and whilst crying he would recite: “And their father was a righteous man.” [18:82]
lbn Abbās said: “They were protected by the righteousness of their father.” Sa’eed lbnul Musayb said: “I pray, then when I remember my child, I increase in my prayers.”
[Tafseer Al-Baghawee Vol-5, pg. 196]
lbn Abbās said: “They were protected by the righteousness of their father.” Sa’eed lbnul Musayb said: “I pray, then when I remember my child, I increase in my prayers.”
[Tafseer Al-Baghawee Vol-5, pg. 196]
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The Arabic word for orphan is yatîm.
Its linguistic meaning is simply "something that is singular and alone." When the word is used in the context of a human being, it means "a minor who has lost his or her father."
Obviously, a woman does not reach the age of marriage except that the literal status of being an orphan – as defined above – ceases to apply to her. Nevertheless, in the verse of the Qur'ân and the two hadîth quoted here discussing marriage, the woman is referred to as an "orphan". This is a metaphorical use of the word, in consideration that the woman had literlally been an orphan when she was a minor. Both the literal and figurative meanings of the word apply in Islamic Law. We see both usages quite frequently in the sacred texts.
What does this mean for the responsibilities and rewards of taking care of an orphan's affairs?
We know that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, holding up his two fingers together: "The one who takes care of an orphan is with me in Paradise like this." [Sahîh al-Bukhârî (5546) and Sahîh Muslim (5296)]
The minor that the linguistic meaning of the word "orphan" refers to is certainly included in the meaning of the "orphan" for whose care we are promised this immense reward.
At the same time, we must also consider the orphan who has reached puberty and still does not possess the means or ability to manage his or her own affairs – as is the case with all adolescents and teenagers today. Such an "orphan" is still deserving of the same care that a pre-pubescent orphan is ennoscriptd to. This person is ennoscriptd to such care under the metaphorical usage of the word "orphan" which is recognized by Islamic Law. This person is likewise ennoscriptd to such care by virtue of the poverty of means and circumstances that he or she would face if that care was withdrawn.
Therefore, the individuals and organizations who care for orphans should care for both pre-pubescent orphans as well as those who are older. This care remains until the orphan reaches the age where he or she can act independently.
And Allah knows best.
May Allah bless with success and prosperity all of those who take care of orphans.
Its linguistic meaning is simply "something that is singular and alone." When the word is used in the context of a human being, it means "a minor who has lost his or her father."
Alî b. Abî Tâlib relates that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "There is no orphan beyond the time of puberty, and there is no observing a day of devotional silence (in Islam)." [Sunan Abî Dâwûd (2489) and authenticated by Al-Albânî]
This hadîth is evidence that the legal status of being an orphan ends when the child ceases to be legally a minor.
However, the term "orphan" can apply figuratively to an adult, by way or referring to a person with reference to what that person used to be.
We see this usage from Khadîjah's father, when he gave her to the Prophet (peace be upon him) in marriage. He said: "I give her in marriage to Abû Tâlib's orphan."
He referred to Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) as "Abû Tâlib's orphan" because his parents died when he was small and Abû Tâlib had been his guardian.
Allah, in His providence, decreed that the Prophet (peace be upon him) would be sheltered and cared for after losing his parents. Allah says: "Did we not find you an orphan and give you shelter." [Sûrah al-Duhâ: 6]
Another instance we find the word orphan used to refer to someone who has already attained the age of majority is where Allah says: "If you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphans, then marry (other) women of your choice…" [Sûrah al-Nisâ': 3]
We also have where Abû Hurayrah relates from the Prophet (peace be upon him): "Seek the orphan girl's direction from herself. If she remains silent, that is her consent. If she objects, then you have no right to marry her off contrary to her wishes." [Sunan Abî Dâwûd (1792) and Sunan al-Nasâ'î (3218)]
Then there is where Ibn Abbâs relates that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "The widow has more rights to decide her affairs, and the orphans consent is to be sought from her, and her silence is her consent." [Musnad Ahmad (2247)] Obviously, a woman does not reach the age of marriage except that the literal status of being an orphan – as defined above – ceases to apply to her. Nevertheless, in the verse of the Qur'ân and the two hadîth quoted here discussing marriage, the woman is referred to as an "orphan". This is a metaphorical use of the word, in consideration that the woman had literlally been an orphan when she was a minor. Both the literal and figurative meanings of the word apply in Islamic Law. We see both usages quite frequently in the sacred texts.
What does this mean for the responsibilities and rewards of taking care of an orphan's affairs?
We know that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, holding up his two fingers together: "The one who takes care of an orphan is with me in Paradise like this." [Sahîh al-Bukhârî (5546) and Sahîh Muslim (5296)]
The minor that the linguistic meaning of the word "orphan" refers to is certainly included in the meaning of the "orphan" for whose care we are promised this immense reward.
At the same time, we must also consider the orphan who has reached puberty and still does not possess the means or ability to manage his or her own affairs – as is the case with all adolescents and teenagers today. Such an "orphan" is still deserving of the same care that a pre-pubescent orphan is ennoscriptd to. This person is ennoscriptd to such care under the metaphorical usage of the word "orphan" which is recognized by Islamic Law. This person is likewise ennoscriptd to such care by virtue of the poverty of means and circumstances that he or she would face if that care was withdrawn.
Therefore, the individuals and organizations who care for orphans should care for both pre-pubescent orphans as well as those who are older. This care remains until the orphan reaches the age where he or she can act independently.
And Allah knows best.
May Allah bless with success and prosperity all of those who take care of orphans.
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Dangers of Social Media
Social media has become an integral part of our lives. Unfortunately, it has made us much more vulnerable to evil eye. We should be wary of posting pictures of ourselves, our possessions or our children on social media. Similarly, we should not wistfully gaze at the blessings of others and envy them for it. We should reflect on how using social media affects our health, relations, spirituality and our relationship with Allāh (subḥānahū wa taʿālā).
Social media has become an integral part of our lives. Unfortunately, it has made us much more vulnerable to evil eye. We should be wary of posting pictures of ourselves, our possessions or our children on social media. Similarly, we should not wistfully gaze at the blessings of others and envy them for it. We should reflect on how using social media affects our health, relations, spirituality and our relationship with Allāh (subḥānahū wa taʿālā).
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"A mother’s right is higher&greater than just having 1 day in the year to be honoured."
الشيخ ابن عثيمين رحمه الله.
📚مجموع الفتاوى( ٢/ ٣٠١ ، ٣٠٢).
الشيخ ابن عثيمين رحمه الله.
📚مجموع الفتاوى( ٢/ ٣٠١ ، ٣٠٢).
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Next level love for Mothers.
1. Be dutiful to your mother, it will be compensation of the sin.
2. When a Tabiyee answered his mother louder than her voice
3. Muhammad ibn Sireen (Tabiyee) and his respect for the mother.
4. The Best deed closer to Allah is dutifulness to the mother.
5. Abu Huraira and behavior with his mother.
6. What a way of expressing love.
7. Tik tok mamas vs the great mothers of Islam.
8. Charity on the behalf of mother who died.
9. Treat your mother's kindly.
10. Paradise is beneath her feet
1. Be dutiful to your mother, it will be compensation of the sin.
A man came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said: "O Messenger of Allah! I have been afflicted by a tremendous sin. Is there any repentance for me?" He said: "Do you have your mother?" The man said: "No." He said: "Do you have any maternal aunts?" The man said: "Yes." He said: "Then be dutiful to them."
Reference : Jami
A man said to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) , "My mother died, will it benefit her if I give in charity on her behalf?" The Prophet (ﷺ) replied in the affirmative. The man said, "I have a garden and I make you a witness that I give it in charity on her behalf."
Sahih al-Bukhari 2770
9. Treat your mother's kindly.
1. Be dutiful to your mother, it will be compensation of the sin.
2. When a Tabiyee answered his mother louder than her voice
3. Muhammad ibn Sireen (Tabiyee) and his respect for the mother.
4. The Best deed closer to Allah is dutifulness to the mother.
5. Abu Huraira and behavior with his mother.
6. What a way of expressing love.
7. Tik tok mamas vs the great mothers of Islam.
8. Charity on the behalf of mother who died.
9. Treat your mother's kindly.
10. Paradise is beneath her feet
1. Be dutiful to your mother, it will be compensation of the sin.
A man came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said: "O Messenger of Allah! I have been afflicted by a tremendous sin. Is there any repentance for me?" He said: "Do you have your mother?" The man said: "No." He said: "Do you have any maternal aunts?" The man said: "Yes." He said: "Then be dutiful to them."
Reference : Jami
at-Tirmidhi 1904
2. When he answered his mother louder than her voice
It is narrated from Abdullah bin Awn (Tabiyee).
أن أمه نادته فأجابها فعلا صوتُه صوتَها، فأعتق رقبتين .
His mother called him and he answered her in a louder voice than hers, so he freed two slaves."
[Siyar a'lam al-Nubala, v.6, p.366].
3. Muhammad ibn Sireen (Tabiyee) and his respect for the mother.
Hafsa bint Sireen said: I have never seen my brother (Muhammad ibn Sireen) raising his voice against our mother, He would talk with her very softly.
at-Tabqaat al Kubra 7/198, chain authenticated by Sh Zybair Ali Zai, Maqalaat vol 3
4. The Best deed closer to Allah is dutifulness to the mother.
Ibn Abbas said:
"I don't know of a deed closer to Allah, Exalted and Majestic, other than dutifulness to the mother."
Grade : Sahih (Al-Albani)
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 4
In-book reference : Book 1,
5. Abu Huraira and behavior with his mother.
When Abu Huraira entered his land, he shouted out in his loudest voice, "Peace be upon you, mother, and the mercy of Allah and His blessing!" She replied, "And peace be upon you and the mercy of Allah and His blessing." He said, "May Allah have mercy on you as you raised me when I was a child." She replied, "My son, may Allah repay you well and be pleased with you as you were dutiful towards me when I was old."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 14
6. What a way of expressing love. Feel that you do the same with your loved one and think the loved one is doing the same.
Imam Abu Abdullah Al-Mazari Al-Asuli (RA) (530 AH) narrates that when he set out for Yemen, his mother said to him,
"I give you the promise of Allah that every night when the moon is in the middle of the sky (i.e. 13th moon), you should see towards it and observe it. I will do the same thing due to my love for you. It is possible that our sights may meet on the moon and my yearning may be relieved."
Imam Al-Mazari (RA) said, "I fulfilled my mother's promise by doing the same thing." (Rawdat al-I'ilam li Ibn al-Azraq al-Gharnati: 880/2 Via Faizan Faisal.)
7. Tik tok mamas vs the great mothers of Islam.
Mother of Sufyan Thawri (d 161 h) said to him:
"Son! Seek knowledge, I will support you by sewing clothes. O my son, when you have written down ten Ahadeeth, look and see if you notice an improvement in the way you walk, in your level of patience, and in your degree of self-dignity. For if you do not see any such improvement, then know that your knowledge does not benefit you (rather there is) harm of that knowledge".
Tareekh Jurjan : 492 via Faizan Faisal .
8. Charity on the behalf of mother who died.
Narrated Ibn Abbas:A man said to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) , "My mother died, will it benefit her if I give in charity on her behalf?" The Prophet (ﷺ) replied in the affirmative. The man said, "I have a garden and I make you a witness that I give it in charity on her behalf."
Sahih al-Bukhari 2770
9. Treat your mother's kindly.
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Miqdam bin Ma'dikarib, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that:
حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عَمَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ عَيَّاشٍ، عَنْ بَحِيرِ بْنِ سَعْدٍ، عَنْ خَالِدِ بْنِ مَعْدَانَ، عَنِ الْمِقْدَامِ بْنِ مَعْدِيكَرِبَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ قَالَ " إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِأُمَّهَاتِكُمْ - ثَلاَثًا - إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِآبَائِكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالأَقْرَبِ فَالأَقْرَبِ " .
Allah's Messenger said: "Allah enjoins you to treat your mother's kindly"-three times- "Allah enjoins you to treat your fathers kindly, Allah enjoins you to treat the closest and the next closest kindly."
Sunan Ibn Majah 3661
10. Paradise is beneath her feet
It was narrated from Mu'awiyah bin Jahimah As-Sulami, that Jahimah came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said:
"O Messenger of Allah! I want to go out and fight (in Jihad) and I have come to ask your advice." He said: "Do you have a mother?" He said: "Yes." He said: "Then stay with her, for Paradise is beneath her feet."
Reference : Sunan an-Nasa'i 3104, Al-Tabaraani (1/225/2).
Grade: Sahih by Darussalam and al Albani, and by others such as Al-Haakim (4/151) and al-Dhahabi agreed with him, as did al-Mundhiri, 3/214.
The love of sahaba, tabiyeen and great scholars with their mothers was next level.
حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عَمَّارٍ، حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ عَيَّاشٍ، عَنْ بَحِيرِ بْنِ سَعْدٍ، عَنْ خَالِدِ بْنِ مَعْدَانَ، عَنِ الْمِقْدَامِ بْنِ مَعْدِيكَرِبَ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ قَالَ " إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِأُمَّهَاتِكُمْ - ثَلاَثًا - إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِآبَائِكُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُوصِيكُمْ بِالأَقْرَبِ فَالأَقْرَبِ " .
Allah's Messenger said: "Allah enjoins you to treat your mother's kindly"-three times- "Allah enjoins you to treat your fathers kindly, Allah enjoins you to treat the closest and the next closest kindly."
Sunan Ibn Majah 3661
10. Paradise is beneath her feet
It was narrated from Mu'awiyah bin Jahimah As-Sulami, that Jahimah came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said:
"O Messenger of Allah! I want to go out and fight (in Jihad) and I have come to ask your advice." He said: "Do you have a mother?" He said: "Yes." He said: "Then stay with her, for Paradise is beneath her feet."
Reference : Sunan an-Nasa'i 3104, Al-Tabaraani (1/225/2).
Grade: Sahih by Darussalam and al Albani, and by others such as Al-Haakim (4/151) and al-Dhahabi agreed with him, as did al-Mundhiri, 3/214.
The love of sahaba, tabiyeen and great scholars with their mothers was next level.
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“Life doesn’t come with a manual, it comes with a Mother.” – Unknown
“Mother. One person who does the work of twenty. For FREE.” – Unknown
“Mother. One person who does the work of twenty. For FREE.” – Unknown
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The Four Sons of Nūh (‘alayhis-salām)
Shaykh Sālih Āl Shaykh said:
Shem (Sām) the son of Nūh is the father of the Arabs, Romans (Byzantines), and Persians. For this reason all three of them are called Semitic people and their languages are known as Semitic languages. They lived in a portion of North African and most of Asia.
Ham (Hām) the son of Nūh is the father of Sudan, meaning the black race in Africa and other places.
Japheth (Yāfith) the son of Nūh is the father of the Turks, Slavic, and Chinese. The Turks are the Russians, not those who are from Turkey, even if they are called Turks because the origin of the Ottomans is Russia.
End of Shaykh’s words
ibn Kathīr said concerning the verse:
So it (the ship) sailed with them amidst the waves like mountains, and Nūh called out to his son, who had separated himself (apart), "O my son! Embark with us and be not with the disbelievers." (Sūrah Hūd 11:42)
His statement: “Nūh called out to his son” this was his fourth son. His name was Canān (Can'ān also said as Yām) and he was a disbeliever. His father called out to him to believe and board the ship with them, so he would not drown with the disbelievers.
Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
via #mtws - http://mtws.posthaven.com/the-four-sons-of-nuh-lyh-lslm
Shaykh Sālih Āl Shaykh said:
Shem (Sām) the son of Nūh is the father of the Arabs, Romans (Byzantines), and Persians. For this reason all three of them are called Semitic people and their languages are known as Semitic languages. They lived in a portion of North African and most of Asia.
Ham (Hām) the son of Nūh is the father of Sudan, meaning the black race in Africa and other places.
Japheth (Yāfith) the son of Nūh is the father of the Turks, Slavic, and Chinese. The Turks are the Russians, not those who are from Turkey, even if they are called Turks because the origin of the Ottomans is Russia.
End of Shaykh’s words
ibn Kathīr said concerning the verse:
So it (the ship) sailed with them amidst the waves like mountains, and Nūh called out to his son, who had separated himself (apart), "O my son! Embark with us and be not with the disbelievers." (Sūrah Hūd 11:42)
His statement: “Nūh called out to his son” this was his fourth son. His name was Canān (Can'ān also said as Yām) and he was a disbeliever. His father called out to him to believe and board the ship with them, so he would not drown with the disbelievers.
Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
via #mtws - http://mtws.posthaven.com/the-four-sons-of-nuh-lyh-lslm
Masjid Tawheed wa Sunnah
The four sons of Nuh عليه السلام
Download Sons_of_Nuh.pdf
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A poor man asked one of his friends: “𝗶𝗳 𝗜 𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗶𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘄, 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼?”
His friend replied: “𝗜’𝗱 𝘄𝗿𝗮𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝘀𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂.”
The poor man said: “𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘄, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝘆 𝗺𝗲 𝗻𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜’𝗺 𝗱𝗲𝗮𝗱.”
قال رجل لآخر : لو متّ أنا الآن ما كُنتَ تفعل؟
قال : كُنتُ أكفّنك وأدفنك
قال : فاكسني الساعة ما تُكفّنني به، وإذا متُّ فادفنّي عرياناً
This story has a deep meaning:
People die of hunger and the next day, the villagers organise a big meal for the attendees of the funeral!
Why didn’t they feed the man when he was alive?
Others neglect their parents for years and when they die, they put a flower on their grave.
What use is a flower to a dead person?
His friend replied: “𝗜’𝗱 𝘄𝗿𝗮𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝘀𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂.”
The poor man said: “𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘄, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝘆 𝗺𝗲 𝗻𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗜’𝗺 𝗱𝗲𝗮𝗱.”
قال رجل لآخر : لو متّ أنا الآن ما كُنتَ تفعل؟
قال : كُنتُ أكفّنك وأدفنك
قال : فاكسني الساعة ما تُكفّنني به، وإذا متُّ فادفنّي عرياناً
This story has a deep meaning:
People die of hunger and the next day, the villagers organise a big meal for the attendees of the funeral!
Why didn’t they feed the man when he was alive?
Others neglect their parents for years and when they die, they put a flower on their grave.
What use is a flower to a dead person?
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